Acceptance Is The First Step (2364)

You cannot improve what you refuse to accept. In today’s episode, Kevin and Alan break down the uncomfortable starting point of real self-improvement. Everyone wants growth, confidence, and better results, but far fewer people are willing to face the honest truths that make those outcomes possible. This conversation explores why self-awareness and acceptance sit at the foundation of personal development, leadership, and long-term progress.

When the ego protects comfort over truth, growth stalls. When reality becomes clear, better decisions follow. Press play and see what happens when denial quietly leaves the room.

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Show notes:
(4:21) Accepting the truth about who you are
(6:23) The psychological immune system and ego defense
(9:21) Why self-awareness is the hardest step
(11:18) Painful events that force real change
(15:15) Facing hard truths accelerates growth
(18:57) Responsibility that comes with acceptance
(20:23) Ego protection versus real progress
(23:44) Outro

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Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) This journey has been absolutely brutal in many, many, many ways, and I think one of the things that I really had to do to get to where I am today is accept and let go of things that I thought I was supposed to be that I never really was supposed to be.

Alan Lazaros

(0:14) I think a lot of self-improvement starts with not liking something about yourself. (0:20) That's where it starts, but not where it should finish.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:23) Welcome to Next Level University. (0:26) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (0:27) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazarus.(0:31) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(0:37) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:44) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

(1:00) Self-improvement, in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:06) Welcome to Next Level University. (1:12) Next Level Nation today for episode number 2,364. (1:16) Acceptance is the first step.(1:20) I got a great question from somebody yesterday. (1:23) I have a local pizza shop within walking distance of the house. (1:30) So last night we worked a little bit late.(1:32) You still doing za? (1:32) Nope. (1:34) Not lately.(1:36) I haven't retired from the game fully, but I've been doing tuna salad and a turkey sub. (1:45) That's been my go-to cheat meal lately. (1:48) I don't know.(1:48) You've kind of fucked up pizza for me, I think. (1:50) I don't know if I can ever really have it again. (1:51) I've still been hammering Whole Foods pizzas, for sure.(1:53) Oh, okay.

Alan Lazaros

(1:54) Frozen pizzas, I'm in. (1:55) $9.50 per pizza, the whole thing.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:57) Whole pizza for $9.50. Calories or food? (1:59) Calories. (2:00) Calories.(2:01) I meant or dollars. (2:02) $9.50 for a whole thing? (2:04) Calories or food?(2:05) $9.50 food. (2:07) Points. (2:07) $9.50 calories for the whole thing?

Alan Lazaros

(2:09) Yeah. (2:11) Yes. (2:12) Yeah, man.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:13) Can hammer a whole pizza. (2:14) Totally fine. (2:15) I dig that.(2:16) I could have two of those. (2:17) Okay. (2:19) Question from somebody.(2:21) This person said, how did you slash how have you gotten to the place where you're okay with, and please, the way this question is worded, it's not disrespectful, it'll just sound like it. (2:32) How have you gotten comfortable with not being the one, not being the leader, not being the guy, quote unquote? (2:37) Someone at a pizza joint asked you that?(2:39) No. (2:40) No, this was somebody else. (2:42) Yeah, but what's pizza have to do with it?(2:44) I was walking to get my pizza. (2:46) Got it.

Alan Lazaros

(2:46) You got to tell those details, man.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:48) This is storytelling 101. (2:49) I interrupted myself, and then you interrupted me, and then I interrupted you, and it was just, we lost it. (2:55) We lost it.(2:57) Nice little walk though. (2:58) Nice. (2:59) A couple minutes down the street.(2:59) It's beautiful. (3:00) I love it. (3:01) Huge fan.(3:01) You got a WhatsApp message? (3:03) I got a WhatsApp. (3:04) No, I got a personal message.(3:06) A personal to my phone text message. (3:08) Nice. (3:09) Because my number's out there in the world, brother.(3:10) You know what I mean? (3:11) My number's out there in the world. (3:12) People text me.(3:13) It's terrible. (3:15) Okay. (3:15) It's terrible.(3:16) Not really.

Alan Lazaros

(3:17) That's your point?

Kevin Palmieri

(3:17) This person's awesome. (3:18) Be playful. (3:19) No, it's good.(3:20) They asked, how did I get to the point where I am okay understanding that I'm not the guy? (3:26) That was a big thing for me for a long time. (3:28) I started the Hyperconscious podcast.(3:31) I was the host of the Hyperconscious. (3:33) I needed that shit in the beginning to think that I was any level of valuable. (3:38) I sent a message over, and I said, number one, you have to understand that you bring a certain unique value to any relationship you're in, but if you're always comparing to the value the other person brings, you're never going to see your own.(3:51) That's one. (3:52) Then two, I accepted that I wasn't supposed to be Alan. (3:57) I accepted that I was never going to be as extraordinary.(4:00) That doesn't mean I can't chase it forever, but I accepted that my natural tendencies, who I am by nature is different than Alan. (4:10) I should maximize that, but I can't spend my whole life trying to be Alan. (4:14) I did that, and that wasn't good for either of us.(4:16) Just like you tried to have your own unique version of me, and that's not the way to do it. (4:21) I think the answer to kick it off to today's episode is you have to accept the truth. (4:28) You've witnessed this a lot recently, whether you've been watching or listening.(4:31) Alan has been hitting me with some hard quote-unquote feedback, but that's not hard for me. (4:35) We've talked so honestly behind the scenes, and I think that's one of the reasons I try to be as honest with myself as possible and accept what is truth, because at least then you can do something about it. (4:48) I don't want to live under delusion.(4:49) I really don't. (4:50) I don't want to live under delusion, because I've done that before, and it was terrible.

Alan Lazaros

(4:53) Yeah, because then it all comes crashing down at once, right? (4:57) Not good. (4:59) I didn't realize that I've been hitting you with a lot of hard truths lately.(5:02) What do you mean?

Kevin Palmieri

(5:03) You said I've held you back. (5:06) That was one. (5:08) I got them listed, written down.(5:10) No, that was one, and then last episode you hit me with a couple. (5:13) You definitely were worse than I thought you were with that. (5:17) Oh.(5:18) I'm not saying that about you. (5:20) You were saying that about me. (5:20) No, I know, I know, I know.(5:22) But again, whether you're watching worse than I thought, but still better than you thought. (5:26) Yeah, that doesn't matter.

Alan Lazaros

(5:27) Nobody cares about what I think.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:28) Wait, wait, wait. (5:29) Me thinking you're better than you thought? (5:32) I only care what other people think about me, not what I think about me.(5:35) Then you should go back to high school. (5:36) Don't worry about what I think about me.

Alan Lazaros

(5:38) You let me figure that out. (5:39) You let me figure that out. (5:42) This whole thing started out with acceptance, and I have this pyramid of the self that I wrote an article on on LinkedIn a while back.(5:50) I think it's how to build yourself from the ground up. (5:55) Yes, on my LinkedIn if anyone's curious. (5:57) Boom.(5:57) We'll link it in the show notes. (5:59) I'll put it, production team, I'll put it in the show notes. (6:01) All right, so the pyramid of the self starts with self-awareness, then self-acceptance.(6:10) So self-awareness is number one, which is hard because we have a psychological immune system that protects us from painful truth. (6:23) You've seen Inception, right? (6:25) I need to watch it again.(6:26) A long time ago. (6:27) Years and years. (6:28) That movie will blow your mind the second time.(6:30) Now that you know what you know about the psychological immune system, it's going to be, it's really something, man. (6:35) Seriously, it's like unbelievable. (6:36) But anyways, so in that movie, if you've never seen Inception, they go into someone's subconscious and unconscious mind and they try to plant an idea.(6:46) It's called Inception. (6:49) Christopher Nolan, strong work. (6:50) No, but that's essentially what you're trying to do in coaching in a way.(6:57) I was just on with a new client. (6:58) Shout out to you, Raffaella. (6:59) What's happening?(7:01) I said, this is how my coaching works. (7:03) This is what I'm doing. (7:04) Inputs, outputs, blah, blah, blah.(7:06) I drew it all out. (7:07) I said, have you ever seen Inception? (7:09) She said, yes.(7:11) And I said, okay, that's essentially what I'm doing, but I'm doing it with your consent. (7:15) She said, perfect. (7:16) Awesome.(7:17) I said, I'm going to try to reprogram you for success. (7:20) She said, awesome. (7:21) Okay.(7:22) And I'm going to do that by helping you think accurately about yourself, others in the world. (7:25) Cool. (7:25) Where's acceptance in this?(7:26) I'm getting there. (7:28) Now her psychological immune system, aka her ego, is going to come up. (7:33) I used to never do this.(7:34) And when it happened, when you tell people in advance that something's going to happen and then it happens, it's, it's less concerning. (7:42) It's like, see, okay. (7:43) We knew we were going to ego bonk.(7:44) Let's just take a minute. (7:46) So I said, I'm going to trigger you at times. (7:49) And your psychological immune system is going to want to say, fuck you to me.(7:54) It's going to, no matter what it always will. (7:57) Now I want you to, when that happens, cause it's going to happen. (8:00) I want you to sit with it and let's talk it out.(8:03) The psychological immune system protects you from facing the truth. (8:09) So what's an example of this that I think is good. (8:12) Okay.(8:12) This is one that everyone can relate to. (8:14) When you're getting a little fat, your psychological immune system tries to convince you you're not getting fat. (8:22) You and I protect each other from that by you saying, brother getting a little fat, but you know, I want to hear that, right?(8:33) Cause I don't want to delude myself into thinking I'm something I'm not because then you step on stage and get laughed off the stage metaphorically. (8:39) Okay. (8:40) So all that being said, self-awareness is step one, but that's the hardest step.(8:45) It's easy to say, Hey, uh, did you know that my town we grew up in has only 14,000 people in it? (8:52) Okay. (8:53) There's no, Oh my ego.(8:55) Oh no. (8:56) I thought that I grew up in a big town. (8:57) Like, but if I say, Hey Kev, you're getting a little fat.(9:01) That's an attack. (9:02) Okay. (9:03) I don't think you are.(9:04) I'm just, this is hypothetical. (9:05) Okay. (9:06) But I did at one point and I came at you slightly, but your ego comes up to defend against protecting itself from itself and from other people.(9:17) Okay. (9:18) Now that being said, self-awareness is the hardest part. (9:21) So, so you can't self accept if you're not self-aware.(9:25) So it took me a long time to realize, uh, certain truths about myself that were statistically abnormal. (9:35) I had to get a lot of evidence. (9:38) So coaching 29 people.(9:39) Now I have a lot of evidence that I'm weird in the past. (9:44) If someone called me weird, I would be like, what do you mean? (9:46) I'm normal as shit.(9:48) I didn't say that, but I wouldn't know what they meant. (9:50) And I wouldn't trust them either. (9:52) It's like, what do you mean?(9:53) I'm weird. (9:53) Like you're fucking weird. (9:54) I'm joking.(9:55) Obviously. (9:55) All right. (9:56) So my point of this is you basically, your mind is set up to avoid pain that it thinks is going to be detrimental to your progress.(10:06) This is from an evolutionary perspective. (10:08) All right. (10:09) So self-acceptance, if you are getting fat, it's going to be very hard for you to notice until you post that photo on Facebook and realize, Holy crap.(10:18) Or you take a photo with the iPhone with the wrong light. (10:21) And it's just like, Oh my God, you're wearing white. (10:24) The next level foundation.(10:25) Every time those shirts, dark blue, baby. (10:28) Yeah. (10:28) Brutal shirts.(10:29) But at the end of the day, wouldn't you rather see that you're getting overweight and then do something about it. (10:38) But your ego protects you from that. (10:40) So everyone right now think of someone who you can't give them a lick of truth about themselves.(10:45) They just can't face any hard truth about themselves. (10:49) They're basically in so much unconscious and subconscious pain that they have a huge ego protecting them from the truth. (10:57) And unfortunately that's why usually death of a loved one, death of a pet car accident, big traumas, suicidal ideation, you and your mid twenties, those, those ego deaths are necessary for you to face all of what is accept it and then rebuild from a new foundation.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:15) It's so hard to do to your point. (11:18) Like, I don't know. (11:19) It's hard.(11:20) You just don't wake up one day and say, you know what? (11:22) I'm really going to become super self aware. (11:24) And then I'm really going to practice self acceptance and I'm going to really get my shit together.(11:29) The, the training montage is always after something always after they have not devastating something. (11:37) Yeah. (11:37) Right.(11:37) After they lose the game or whatever, they don't just say they get left by the girl or yeah. (11:41) Or the guy, the movie never starts that way. (11:44) Never starts that way.(11:45) So that makes it super hard. (11:46) But I think this is the other thing too. (11:51) What have you had to accept about yourself that you didn't want to?(11:56) I went to, um, I went to the golf simulator with Matt recently and it's just like, it's just a stud. (12:06) The dude is just a stud. (12:08) Yeah, for sure.(12:09) And it's like, I'm never going to be, I've been to the bar with Matt.

Alan Lazaros

(12:12) It's not a good experience.

Kevin Palmieri

(12:13) You know, it's hard to win. (12:14) It's hard to win that it's, you're not going to win. (12:17) It's I'm not going to win.(12:18) Right. (12:18) Like you have a shot at least. (12:20) Yeah.(12:20) That like, dude, I want to be six two and have a full beard. (12:25) Of course I do. (12:27) But that's, I think that's the thing that a lot of people get stuck on.(12:30) They're like, no, I don't, I don't even fucking want that. (12:32) No, that's dumb. (12:34) Oh really?(12:35) You don't want to be, you don't want to be a fucking stud. (12:37) I do. (12:38) Yeah, I do.(12:39) I want to be a stud. (12:39) I want to be 60. (12:40) I want to look like Thor.(12:42) Who does that? (12:42) For sure. (12:42) Jesus.(12:43) Who doesn't want to look like Thor for sure. (12:45) Or Superman or whatever. (12:47) So that I think, I don't know.(12:50) I feel like I got dealt a shit hand when it comes to being five foot five. (12:54) I do. (12:55) Statistically you did.(12:57) I kind of did.

Alan Lazaros

(12:57) Yeah, you got dealt a shit hand with that for sure.

Kevin Palmieri

(12:59) And what percentage of men are five foot five or lower?

Alan Lazaros

(13:02) I believe the average height is five eight. (13:04) So you got to say less than. (13:06) I got a new P code.(13:07) It was, it's not expensive. (13:09) I think it was like $97. (13:10) And when I got it, I'm two 10 now.(13:13) And I put it on and I couldn't move. (13:16) And he was like, uh, did you check where it was manufactured? (13:19) And I was like, no, you think I had time to check where it was manufactured?(13:22) So, and again, I don't want this to come off wrong. (13:25) She said, Alan, when thing, when, when clothes are popular in Asia, they're going to be smaller. (13:32) Like Asian men, statistically speaking are smaller.(13:35) And I was like, that makes perfect sense. (13:37) Now I know I just made myself sound like an idiot right there by not thinking of that. (13:41) The truth is I just saw it.(13:42) I wanted to get, I need a new coat. (13:43) It was quick. (13:44) Boom.(13:44) So I am going to donate it to you. (13:47) I don't mean this to be belittling at all. (13:49) I'm not kidding.(13:50) Yeah. (13:50) I have a coat for you in my, in my basement. (13:52) I'm going to give it to you next time we see each other, which will be at next level.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:54) Next level.

Alan Lazaros

(13:55) No, next level live. (13:56) Next level. (13:57) I don't own a coat.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:58) It's a P code. (13:59) It's nice. (14:00) It wasn't that expensive, but it's nice moving on up.(14:02) So yeah, I've had to let, I mean that I've had to let that go. (14:06) One of the, like the hardest thing in the beginning is when you and I go somewhere, it's like, you're always going to get the attention. (14:13) Negative and positive.(14:15) Yeah. (14:15) But you could capture a room, but nobody's going to remember me. (14:18) They're not gonna remember me like they, if I can get in and I can make people laugh and I can make people feel good, they can remember me, but you're not going to remember me.(14:24) If I walk by, I had to let go of that. (14:27) And I think the hard part is there's so many people that try to save you from that. (14:30) Like, no, Kev, that's not true.(14:31) It is statistically true. (14:34) I'm not saying that I'm, I'm married to a gorgeous wife. (14:39) Awesome.(14:39) It all worked out. (14:41) I'm not saying that things are terrible. (14:42) I'm not saying that, but like there are some things I'm not going to dunk a basketball.(14:46) I'm not that.

Alan Lazaros

(14:50) Do you think that the people that try to save you from that truth, those truths are also denying their truths?

Kevin Palmieri

(14:56) Probably to a degree slash they don't understand how comfortable for lack of better phrasing I've gotten with it. (15:05) No, I didn't. (15:06) I'm not, I'm not comfortable by choice, but you, you have to, right?(15:10) If, if you really want the truth, you have to get to a place where eventually why that matters.

Alan Lazaros

(15:15) This is so good. (15:16) Cause dude, one of the, I've thought about this a lot. (15:18) I'm always thinking like, how did he do this?(15:21) Like study. (15:22) I'm not studying, thinking, contemplating. (15:24) Cause well, let me just be very, when we were in high school, you know, I graduated near the top of my class, like blah, blah, blah.(15:34) I wouldn't have bet on Kevin Palmieri and I'm not trying to be mean saying that you weren't like, I thought you were very athletic. (15:40) I thought you were jacked, but I never saw you as like destined for success. (15:45) Now there's a couple of people in our class that I definitely did.(15:48) Right. (15:49) I can name some names. (15:50) You would recognize them.(15:50) Yeah. (15:51) They're destined for success for sure. (15:52) Okay.(15:53) You weren't on the list with love. (15:55) Okay. (15:55) And I know people like, well, Alan, what a dick.(15:58) Why is that mean? (15:59) Why can't I just say a lick of truth? (16:01) Like, well, because were you on the list?

Kevin Palmieri

(16:03) Do you think you were on the list? (16:04) If they didn't accept it yet, then the same thing. (16:07) If they didn't accept it in themselves, maybe they're trying to save me from it.(16:10) And again, I, that's the truth I want. (16:12) I want the truth.

Alan Lazaros

(16:13) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(16:13) Okay. (16:13) Well, well, okay.

Alan Lazaros

(16:16) What I was thinking about recently was how did you do this? (16:18) And one of the ways is truth. (16:20) You really don't avoid uncomfortable truths.(16:24) It's been really refreshing. (16:26) No, no, but I coached a lot of people, whatever. (16:30) It's very, your ability to face hard truths is higher than most for certain.(16:34) I'm certain a hundred percent certain, not the highest I've ever seen, but statistically top 1% for sure. (16:41) Like people don't like to think they're fat. (16:46) You know what I mean?(16:47) Dude, if you were fat, when you got fat, you immediately were like, yeah, I'm fucking fat. (16:51) But I it's because I know I can do something about it. (16:53) No, it isn't.(16:55) You still would own it. (16:56) And what if you know, you can do something about it because you admit it.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:00) That's connected. (17:01) What I would say though, this is like the unsung hero for me is I've always been jacked. (17:08) And like, I know how trivial and like, that's a running joke we have, but you have to understand that gave me like so much comfort for lack of better phrasing.(17:19) Like I almost was always in the best shape in almost every room I was in all the time until I started bodybuilding. (17:29) And I was like, Oh my God, these people are superhumans. (17:32) I am, I am nothing compared to these people.(17:34) This is absolutely, it's a different world.

Alan Lazaros

(17:36) This is absolutely terrible for anyone out there watching or listening. (17:39) What I hope lands in this episode in particular is the value of facing that you get something back. (17:47) You get something when you face a hard truth.(17:50) Yes. (17:51) Yeah. (17:51) What you get back is the ability to respond, the responsibility, the, so if you admit you're short now you get to go, okay, that's true.(18:00) Women statistically don't want short men. (18:02) Totally true. (18:03) Anyone who denies that is just wrong.(18:04) Okay. (18:05) Ask, I've interviewed, ask, it is what it is. (18:08) Okay.(18:09) Now you have something you can do about it. (18:12) See, if you don't admit that truth, you're not going to increase and put time and effort into the other areas that are more important that are also important to women. (18:21) Right?(18:22) Obviously short is negotiable for Taryn. (18:25) That's great. (18:26) But you had to work on other parts of your character to make sure you were a value.(18:30) And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. (18:32) I, I, I, like I said, I was a loser prepubescent sister was popular in high school. (18:37) I got pity dances.(18:37) I know what it's like to have no value to the opposite sex sex. (18:42) Seriously. (18:43) I went from backstreet boy to complete little boy while everyone else became a grown ass man.(18:47) Okay. (18:48) I'm 37. (18:48) I still barely have facial hair.(18:50) The point that I'm making though, is when you face hard truths, you now you can build from a place. (18:57) You can make effective choices. (18:59) You can accept it and work on it.(19:01) Why would you, and this is what I would say, why would someone work on something they didn't first accept as true?

Kevin Palmieri

(19:08) You know what I think really matters? (19:10) It closes the loop. (19:12) It like closes the loop on it.(19:14) It's like there, we all have these like things that to your point, you're just not allowed to talk about. (19:21) It's okay.

Alan Lazaros

(19:22) I don't know.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:22) So taboo, this person like that, they got a drinking problem. (19:25) Don't fucking say anything. (19:26) Right.(19:26) It's going to make it weird. (19:28) That's because they haven't admitted it yet. (19:30) But if they admitted it, that might, that conversation might be able to be out on the table.

Alan Lazaros

(19:35) But what happens is everyone tiptoes around that elephant in the room and then they never face it. (19:40) But it's because they're never forced to face it. (19:42) But whose job is it to get them to face it?(19:44) I know. (19:44) Whose responsibility is it?

Kevin Palmieri

(19:46) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(19:46) Right. (19:46) That's, I don't like to tiptoe around. (19:48) Cause if you really care about someone, you try to say, Hey, like when I was drinking too much and too often, I had a couple people who were like, Hey man, are you okay?(19:58) Like, is everything good? (19:59) And of course I was like, I'm fine. (20:02) Totally fine.(20:03) Of course I wasn't ready. (20:05) Right. (20:06) There's a readiness thing here, but there's something to be said for facing hard truths about life and yourself in advance that makes you more equipped for success.(20:21) That hundred percent. (20:23) If you and I are getting out of shape, we need to notice it and rectify it or accept it. (20:30) And I don't think that, I think that that's what the ego does.(20:34) It's this weird double-edged sword where the ego protects you from hard truth, but it also stops you from facing what could actually transform your goddamn life. (20:42) That's why the car accident changed my life is because all hard truth at once was traumatic, but it also helped me create the foundation to rebuild my life from because I, all the identity, all the, I'm this, I'm that was all gone. (20:59) It was like a fresh start in a way of like, okay, I really have messed up my life.(21:05) I'm not proud of who I've become as a man and I need to change that. (21:09) And unfortunately, sometimes it takes that kind of feedback to, to, to change things. (21:17) And I think that, uh, I don't know if you can manufacture that in a podcast, but I do know that no one's going to raise their hand and say, I don't have a growth mindset.(21:26) Who here is healthy, wealthy, and in love who here is like, not going to raise their hand to that. (21:31) Who here is on point who here is dialed in. (21:33) I was on with a call earlier.(21:35) I said, where are you sucking? (21:37) She's like everywhere. (21:38) I said, no, no, specifically.(21:40) And first of all, definitely not. (21:41) That's the irony. (21:42) She's probably awesome.(21:43) And she's like, I suck everywhere. (21:45) And then someone who's actually sucking is like, I'm the fucking man. (21:50) No, you're not.(21:51) Have you seen a mirror? (21:53) What are we doing here? (21:55) I want to see people win.(21:56) I know I sound like a dick. (21:58) You got to face the hard truth because it's going to help you. (22:00) Not because I want to be toxic.(22:02) Not because I want to be mean, but because it's going to help you. (22:04) I thanked you for calling me out because I, you were right. (22:08) I was a little delusional.(22:09) You got to pop the balloon while it's small.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:11) Otherwise it's going to devastate you. (22:13) Well, that, I think the hard part is the bigger, the balloon, the more pain it takes to be willing to pop it. (22:21) Unfortunately, I think we should do a part two on this.(22:23) A therapist, a coach, whatever. (22:24) You need something. (22:25) You need something.(22:26) I think we should do a part two on this because I think I'd like to dive deep into what the journey of this has been because I don't know. (22:33) There's got to be lessons in there that I don't know yet for sure. (22:36) And I'm always trying to figure out how to accept more.(22:43) Same. (22:44) Always, always, always. (22:45) We'll do a part two.(22:46) Let's do a part two on this. (22:47) All right. (22:47) Next level fitness accountability group.(22:49) If you're trying to get jacked, whatever jack means to you. (22:52) You want to be consistent for the first time, maybe when it comes to fitness, a new routine, whatever, diet, exercise, whatever it is, we are there to support you. (22:59) It's an amazing group of super supportive people.(23:01) Everybody in there is freaking awesome. (23:03) So reach out to Alan or myself if you are interested.

Alan Lazaros

(23:06) The first step to self-improvement is actually self-awareness and self-acceptance. (23:14) If you're really great, you have to accept that. (23:17) And maybe people don't like you and it's hard to get along with people or belong, or maybe you don't believe in yourself and you have to accept that too.(23:24) So if you want a coach who's going to be very honest with you and upfront with you to help you not to hurt you, my coaching is available. (23:35) It's more affordable than you think. (23:36) I love it, particularly with the right people.(23:39) But if you have a huge ego, I'm not interested at all. (23:41) Don't even consider it.

Kevin Palmieri

(23:44) As always, we love you. (23:45) We appreciate you. (23:46) Grateful for each and every one of you.(23:48) And if you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we will be here every single day to help you get there. (23:54) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential.

Alan Lazaros

(23:57) Next elimination.

Kevin Palmieri

(23:58) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (24:03) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(24:05) We mean it when we say family. (24:07) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (24:11) Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.

Kevin Palmieri

(24:14) Thank you again, and we will talk to you tomorrow.