Chat GPT Can’t Help You With This (2401)

What happens when getting better information becomes another excuse for avoiding real change?

In today’s episode, Kevin and Alan break down why access to knowledge is no longer the advantage most people think it is. In a world full of AI tools, instant answers, and endless shortcuts, the real edge still comes down to self-awareness, discipline, and the ability to change your behavior when it counts. Drawing from their own habits, coaching experience, and patterns they’ve seen across years of helping people grow, they explain why execution still separates the serious from the distracted.

This conversation gets into rationalization, personal standards, emotional honesty, and the inner conflict required to build a better future. If you have been collecting insights but not seeing results, this episode will challenge the gap between what you know and what you actually do. Press play before another great plan dies as a well-worded excuse.

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Show notes:
(3:27) When AI becomes a crutch
(5:41) Why behavior change is powerful
(11:18) Human connection still drives change
(13:56) Self-awareness before self-improvement
(17:01) Goals expose rationalization patterns
(19:30) Holding conflict builds consistency
(27:07) Great plans still need execution
(29:28) Outro

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Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) I love ChatGBT. (0:02) I love all sorts of AI because it allows me to learn a ton. (0:06) You can just search something and you get a bunch of answers and it's just way easier to get answers than it's ever been in any time in human history.(0:13) But if you cannot implement the answers you get, you're not going to be successful and it's going to be a giant pain in the ass and unfortunately you're probably going to be more frustrated than anything. (0:23) So yes, ChatGBT and AI, it's great for information. (0:26) It is not good for implementation and we talk often about the importance of that.

Alan Lazaros

(0:33) Knowledge is power is a quote that has lasted hundreds of years, if not thousands. (0:39) Knowledge is not power unless you can change your own individual behavior on a day-to-day basis.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:48) Welcome to Next Level University. (0:51) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (0:52) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazarus.(0:55) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(1:02) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:09) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

(1:24) Self-improvement in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:31) Welcome to Next Level University. (1:37) Next Level Nation today for episode number 2,401, ChatGPT can't help you with this. (1:42) Alan and I had an argument one time.(1:44) He said, knowledge is power. (1:45) I said, dude, I cannot get on board with that. (1:48) I believe knowledge is potential.(1:51) And I believe that now more than ever. (1:54) Same. (1:56) Because now, look, you don't have to go to the library.(2:01) You don't have to listen to the book on Audible. (2:04) You don't have to listen to it on iBooks. (2:06) You don't have to watch it on YouTube.(2:07) Go to ChatGPT and say, give me a breakdown of atomic habits in 500 words or less, and it's going to tell you exactly what you need to know. (2:16) Now, you should still read the book, obviously. (2:17) Yes.(2:18) Right? (2:18) I'm not saying you shouldn't. (2:20) But what I am saying...(2:22) Yeah, yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(2:22) No, I'm not saying... (2:25) Yeah, yeah. (2:26) I know.(2:26) You got it. (2:27) You can't quick fix it.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:29) 100%. (2:29) 100%. (2:30) But just as an example, just as an example, you can get 50% of the...(2:36) Ah, it's not 50. (2:36) You can get 20% of the information pretty quickly. (2:39) Definitely not 50%.(2:39) You can get more information more quickly than ever before. (2:42) But so can I. (2:44) And so can Alan.(2:45) And so can't your neighbor. (2:46) And anybody with an internet connection that has strong enough internet and or Wi-Fi to use these ChatGPT, Claude, Anthropic, all these things. (2:57) Why did you want to do this episode?(2:59) Because... (3:00) Okay, good.

Alan Lazaros

(3:01) I thought I was always such a techie. (3:07) And I go on these podcasts, and I've talked to you about this before, and everyone's so pumped about AI.

Kevin Palmieri

(3:14) I was surprised to hear this from you yesterday. (3:16) This is the first time I heard you say this was yesterday. (3:19) That you said, for somebody who's so much of a techie, I'm like, not against it, but I'm not as pumped as everybody else is.

Alan Lazaros

(3:25) Not even close.

Kevin Palmieri

(3:26) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(3:27) Not even close. (3:29) I think one of the things that maybe is the reason for this, I can't tell if I'm more aware or naive or I'm sure it's both, but I think a lot of people are using AI because they're lazy. (3:49) And that's really bad.(3:51) There's an MIT study where people are getting dumber because AI is doing their thinking for them. (3:58) Is AI helping you think more or less? (4:02) Is AI helping you do more or less?(4:05) I'm all for automation. (4:07) I understand. (4:07) I was in industrial automation.(4:09) I worked for iRobot in my 20s, man. (4:13) I have a Roomba. (4:15) It vacuums.(4:16) I have a self-driving car. (4:17) I'm not a troglodyte. (4:19) Okay.(4:19) I love tech. (4:20) I always have. (4:21) But this AI thing, yo, do not let it run your goddamn life.(4:25) You have to run your life. (4:26) Your brain and your behavior is what's going to change your life. (4:29) AI can't lift the weights for you.(4:32) AI can't have a vulnerable conversation with your partner for you. (4:35) AI can't help you communicate more effectively. (4:37) As a matter of fact, I have some clients, I will keep anonymously, that have used AI to help them in dating and it actually has become a crutch.(4:47) For sure. (4:47) She wants to date you, brother, not AI. (4:52) And what's going to happen when you're in person and you're no longer Mr. Suave?(4:58) You're going to run to the bathroom. (4:59) Yeah. (5:01) You're going to run to the bathroom and ask chat.(5:03) The thing is, AI, like all things, is either a tool that's going to make you smarter and stronger and sharper and more capable and more aware or it's going to be a fucking crutch that destroys your future. (5:19) And we have a 23 person team, man. (5:22) I'm all for using AI to amplify the effectiveness of what we do and don't do.(5:27) What I'm not for is us getting worse and lazy because we want everything done for us. (5:35) So there are just certain things you should never automate, but this is the point of this episode. (5:41) I've started saying this.(5:42) I think it probably comes off pretentious to people, but I'm going to say it because I just want to be myself. (5:48) I want to become the best on planet earth at helping others change their behavior. (5:53) And I mean best.(5:54) And I think, I mean, I have 11 years of practicing that straight up. (5:58) I am getting very good at helping people change their fucking behavior, change their spending, change their earning, change their calorie tracking, change what they do and don't do habits, metrics, priorities, skills, identity. (6:10) I am very, very, very focused day in and day out, seven calls today at helping people change and reorient their behavior toward their goals and toward a bigger, better, brighter future.(6:21) That is my whole world. (6:23) It's not my whole world, but it's 99% of it. (6:25) It's my mission.(6:26) My point of this conversation, what I wanted to do with you is help everyone out there realize that AI is a great tool for learning, but if you can't change your behavior, the learning is useless. (6:42) If I can't stop spending money because I can't change my own spending habits, it doesn't matter what it teaches me about finance. (6:50) If I can't stop stuffing my fucking face with pizza, it doesn't matter if it can track my calories for me.(6:59) Changing your behavior, knowledge might not be power. (7:03) And I am giving you that. (7:04) I think I had a blind spot.(7:05) I was really good at changing my behavior. (7:07) So for me, knowledge was power. (7:08) Okay.(7:09) And knowledge actually helped me change my behavior more. (7:11) And there is some truth to that. (7:12) So knowledge and power are correlated.(7:14) And power, I mean, personal power, the ability to take the individual and help them build their own future, which makes all of our lives better if it's a win-win-win. (7:22) Okay. (7:22) Last piece.(7:23) If knowledge is not power, changing your behavior definitely is. (7:27) It's a superpower. (7:29) Changing your behavior is a superpower.(7:31) And I know so many people in Soda UKev that can just tell themselves a new story over and over and over again, but they cannot change their behavior no matter what they do to save their effing life, metaphorically. (7:44) And if you can't change your behavior, you cannot build a company. (7:50) You cannot build a family.(7:52) You cannot build a home. (7:54) You cannot. (7:55) There's so little you can do by design.(7:58) If you're a victim to your own behavior and you can't, if you can't, you're addicted to drugs or alcohol or pornography or whatever it is, shopping, you name it, keep going. (8:08) If you can't change your own behavior, you are beholden to your own impulses and you can't save money and you can't invest to the last episode. (8:18) You can't build your own magnificent dreams and goals.(8:23) You can't achieve your goals and dreams without changing your behavior. (8:25) You can't.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:27) I got a bone to pick with a lot of people. (8:29) I keep seeing these advertisements. (8:31) I'm going to say the names too.(8:32) I don't fucking care anymore. (8:33) I don't care. (8:35) If I see one more fucking ad for AI whatever with Tony Robbins and Dean, Dean Graziosi, I'm going to lose my fucking mind.

Alan Lazaros

(8:42) I haven't even seen any.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:43) I just get bombarded. (8:45) I can't stand it. (8:46) I can't fucking stand it.(8:47) Everybody now is an AI coach. (8:49) Every fucking person. (8:52) I realize now more than ever, this has nothing to do with what we're talking about, but like I am seeing, this is just the way it works.(8:58) It's the sexy thing. (9:00) People just jump from something to the new sexy thing to the new Tom Bilyeu. (9:04) I lost all my respect for the man.(9:06) All of it. (9:07) All of it. (9:08) Now it's just politics.(9:09) I would never do that. (9:11) Same. (9:12) I would never do that.(9:12) I don't want to talk about that. (9:14) I'm going to make a course on how to use AI. (9:16) No, I don't want to do that at all.(9:19) I don't even have a course on this or podcasting. (9:22) I do, but I've never talked about it and it's not live anywhere. (9:26) Okay, let's go brass tacks here.(9:29) There's a reason we're frustrated because I'm frustrated too. (9:32) Like, because I'm telling you what happens is successful people carry over to some successful people have money. (9:44) When you have money, you get to triple down on learning something, even though you don't have to learn it.(9:50) You have the perception of the knowledge of something new. (9:52) Even if you don't, we knew we know somebody do it, please. (9:57) We know somebody who scammed everything, everything would teach thing.(10:05) He would literally have somebody make a presentation, steal all the information, the data, and then teach it as it was his own. (10:11) He became an AI consultant. (10:13) He didn't know anything about AI.(10:14) It had just come out and he is in his sixties or fifties. (10:19) He doesn't know anything about AI. (10:20) But he had the money to go right to the source.(10:22) And then that's it. (10:23) And then package it properly. (10:25) It's the old shell game switch.(10:27) Yeah. (10:28) You put the ball in the middle. (10:29) It's never in the middle.(10:30) You can't win that game. (10:31) It's not fair. (10:32) It's not a fair game.(10:33) It's, it just pisses me off. (10:34) The other one I see now, Oh my God. (10:37) Um, diary of the CEO, the dude is on every fucking ad.(10:43) Ah, this he's partnered with this company and this company and this coffee company and this AI company. (10:49) And he has lawsuits out the ass in Europe because he's advertising stuff in his podcasts and not telling people, dude, I can't stand this shit. (10:57) I know.(10:58) I fucking hate this industry. (11:00) I can't stand it. (11:01) Same fired up today.(11:04) I'm fired up. (11:05) It's too bad. (11:06) Allegedly.(11:07) Everything I said was allegedly allegedly.

Alan Lazaros

(11:10) Yeah. (11:11) Let's look. (11:12) Okay.(11:12) The point of this company, the point of this episode, I don't even want to get in the mud with all that. (11:18) What I do want to do is talk about what we care about, which is human connection, belonging and community. (11:24) We are tribal.(11:25) We care about human beings. (11:28) I know how to change behavior and an AI doesn't do it. (11:33) It can help inform you of something.(11:35) We look up stats on the last episode. (11:37) Great. (11:37) That's a great use of AI.(11:39) Wonderful. (11:39) Awesome. (11:40) Quick stats.(11:41) Look at the study. (11:42) Awesome. (11:43) So if you are not writing your own emails, if you're not writing your own messages, if you're not sending your own audios, if you're not on video, learning how to speak and articulate, you're not learning how to think better.(11:56) When I was writing the next level blog way back when I was writing on LinkedIn, when I wrote in school and in college, and you learn how to think better, you learn how to articulate your thoughts. (12:08) You learn how to communicate more effectively. (12:11) And the thing that I think is underneath all this is if you don't use it, you lose it.(12:19) That's what's underneath all this. (12:21) I was all for, remember Gen X making fun of us millennials of like, oh, we used to have to open a map and it's like, yo, go past the blah, blah, blah. (12:30) It's like, yo, I shut off right away.(12:32) I need the address. (12:33) Like, just let me get there. (12:34) This is different.(12:37) There's some truth to what they were saying, but this is another level. (12:40) This is like, this is doing thinking for you. (12:43) This is doing critical thinking and deductive reasoning for you.(12:46) And most importantly, to the point of this episode, bring it back. (12:51) AI cannot help you change your behavior because human beings are social creatures. (12:57) Human connection and belonging is why we do 99% of what we do.(13:02) Why do you think everyone does the same things on most holidays? (13:08) That's how things spread. (13:10) Why do you listen to this podcast?(13:12) You probably have a friend who listened to it and you noticed it or something like that. (13:16) We are human beings who crave human connection, belonging, love, these things that cannot be automated. (13:24) And at the end of the day, if nothing else comes of this episode, what I would say to you is, how good are you at changing your behavior?(13:34) Knowledge is not power, but changing your own behavior consistently in the direction of your goals and dreams is power.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:43) I feel like you feel empowered when you feel in control and the best way to feel in control is to change behavior. (13:51) Step one, simple step one for behavior change.

Alan Lazaros

(13:56) Well, self-awareness. (14:03) I was on with someone earlier and I was delicate with this, but I said, can I just understand if you believe you are good with money? (14:15) She laughed.(14:16) She's like, Alan, not at all. (14:18) That's why I'm here. (14:19) I was like, good.(14:20) We're on the same page. (14:21) Awesome. (14:21) Because in my head, you're not good with money.(14:23) I don't want to just go right and attack the ego. (14:27) I want to try to help her self-assess. (14:30) People who are very dishonest with themselves are nearly impossible to coach.(14:33) It's brutal to coach delusional people. (14:35) This person isn't that at all. (14:38) The next one is self-acceptance.(14:39) Do you accept that you're pretty bad with money? (14:43) She's like, absolutely. (14:44) Again, that's why I'm here.(14:45) I'm like, okay, we're good. (14:46) Awesome. (14:46) Let's move on.(14:47) So it's self-awareness, self-acceptance, then self-improvement. (14:51) You cannot change your behavior until you are aware of and accept that the behavior needs to be changed. (14:58) This is where shame is such a challenge because if you're ashamed of your bad spending habits, to get out of the shame, you'll tell yourself a story that you're great with money.(15:11) And then when someone tries to illuminate for you that you're bad with money, you'll get defensive. (15:17) And that's out of self-preservation of the shame that you're in. (15:21) So how well do you handle shame is how you change your behavior.(15:24) Most people have shame around something. (15:27) Everyone has shame around something. (15:30) There is no human being who wakes up in the morning.(15:33) I drank all my water today. (15:34) I spent the optimal amount of money. (15:36) I ate exactly what I wanted to eat.(15:39) Again, that's why it's so comical to be coached by AI. (15:43) No one wants to be coached by someone who's a cyborg. (15:46) You want to talk to another human being who can empathize and sit in the shame with you and say, hey, I've been there and I transformed my fucking life and I know you can do it too because I believe in you.(15:58) ChatGPT believes in everybody. (16:00) Too much. (16:02) It's the most overly affirming nonsense I've ever seen in my entire life.(16:05) But anyways, my point is you have to identify what behavior is not constructive, self-awareness, and then you have to accept that you blow at that. (16:18) And maybe blow is too hardcore. (16:19) You aren't very good at it.(16:21) Maybe you start there. (16:21) I'm not very good at this. (16:23) And the acceptance of if I don't change my future, my goal is impossible.(16:29) That's a big one. (16:31) And that's why I believe in goals so much because I said this on a call earlier. (16:37) I said, if you don't change this, you're not going to be able to retire ever.(16:44) Mathematically, you guys are going to be working into your 60s and 70s and 80s. (16:47) This is not good. (16:48) You have to change this.(16:50) I mean, you don't have to do anything, but if you don't, you are going to dig yourself a hole.

Kevin Palmieri

(16:58) I was thinking of this yesterday. (17:00) It was yesterday, today. (17:01) I don't know.(17:01) Today is the longest day ever of all time. (17:04) I wanted to order food. (17:06) You're probably so sick of hearing this, whether you watch or listen to this, because this is like me every week, but I wanted to order food.(17:13) And I was like, if I wasn't dieting and trying to save money, I would have no reason not to order food. (17:22) If I wasn't dieting, trying to save money and trying to be way better about expenses for Taryn and I, I would be getting food every night. (17:29) We talk about goals in conflict, goals in alignment.

Alan Lazaros

(17:33) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:34) Goals in alignment.

Alan Lazaros

(17:35) When you can cross- Goals in alignment make bad choices in conflict.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:40) Yeah. (17:40) You would have to rationalize so hard.

Alan Lazaros

(17:44) You make it harder to rationalize.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:47) I tried tonight. (17:48) I was like, well, you know, I mean, I'm not going to golf this weekend, right? (17:53) Next Level Lives this weekend.(17:54) I'm not going to golf, so that's good. (17:56) Literally, this was my thought process. (17:58) I'm not going to golf.(17:59) That's good. (18:00) I didn't stay in the hotel this weekend. (18:03) So, you know, that's a hundred bucks that I didn't spend.(18:05) Do you catch yourself doing this? (18:07) Oh, of course.

Alan Lazaros

(18:08) This rationalization is the dumbest shit.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:10) In real time. (18:11) We're going to, we'll be using the company card for food this week, this weekend. (18:15) Like Amy's coming, Alan's coming up.(18:16) That's company expense. (18:17) So that's, don't even have to worry about that. (18:19) That's stealing your money, dude.(18:20) I know, but again, dude, it's all rational. (18:22) That's so, yeah, I know. (18:24) It's not rational.

Alan Lazaros

(18:24) It's all rationalization. (18:25) That's coming out of your pay.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:29) Well, half of it. (18:31) Yeah, yeah, exactly. (18:32) So technically, it's only half.

Alan Lazaros

(18:34) And it's not even half because after expenses.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:35) Yeah, yeah. (18:35) But like, yes, yes. (18:37) But all I'm saying is you don't have, I've talked about this and then we'll get out of here.(18:43) I've talked about this a long time ago. (18:45) Tara and I went to Vermont. (18:47) Her family has a cabin on Lake Champlain.(18:50) It's beautiful. (18:51) And this was the first year they got wifi because I was like, babe, it's, it's really hard for me to work up there. (18:58) Like I'm trying to, I mean, this is in the middle of nowhere.(19:00) This is bad.

Alan Lazaros

(19:01) I have one of my exes had a place in Maine that I could not work at. (19:08) And it was rough. (19:10) She wanted me there for two.(19:11) I was, that actually ended our relationship because I was like, I can't go two weeks.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:17) Yeah. (19:17) It wasn't that bad. (19:18) It wasn't that bad for me.(19:19) But so they ended up getting wifi and one night, I don't know, for some reason, I like to stay up late. (19:26) I like to watch the, the stars over the lake. (19:30) It's beautiful.(19:30) It's the best. (19:31) It's like my, it literally is my favorite place in the world. (19:33) And I found this video and it was about how, if you want to be more consistent and you want to be more committed, you have to hold the conflict in your brain for a longer period of time.(19:44) And all that means is when you say you want to do something and you get that very, very small thing that says, no, you shouldn't, you got to hang on to the small thing that says, no, you shouldn't. (19:54) And just let that thing build, let it build, let it build. (19:57) I am really good at that now.(19:59) Wait, I'm way better than I've ever been at that. (20:02) I want to share this.

Alan Lazaros

(20:04) This is good. (20:07) You've had people in the past say he's a little intense. (20:11) You?(20:12) Yeah, me. (20:12) Yeah. (20:13) That's why.(20:17) Why? (20:17) Always conflict. (20:19) Oh, I'm not of what could be.(20:21) I have 47 seconds left on this episode. (20:24) I am always wrestling with something always. (20:28) And I'm not saying that you have to do it to the same extent I do, but you gotta do it a little.(20:34) The dorsolateral prefrontal cortex part of your brain is the part you're talking about. (20:39) It's called willpower, baby.

Kevin Palmieri

(20:42) It doesn't feel like willpower. (20:44) It feels like it is. (20:45) It feels like you're walking a tightrope and at any second go right off the edge of that thing.

Alan Lazaros

(20:50) You could, isn't it? (20:52) For the person who struggles with alcohol, it's the beer in the fridge. (20:57) For the person who struggles with marijuana, you can't put the bananas in the room when you're monkey brain.(21:05) You've got to be careful. (21:07) This office is boring on purpose. (21:09) The environmental design is very, don't buy this.(21:12) I love honey. (21:13) Huge fan. (21:15) Honey, protein shake, big bowl of cereal.(21:18) First thing in the morning before the gym, great pump. (21:20) Love it. (21:21) Don't buy honey.(21:22) I told Amelia we're in a cut. (21:24) Don't buy honey. (21:25) No honey.(21:26) It's a million times easier not to have honey when it's not in the cabinet.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:31) I never get it.

Alan Lazaros

(21:32) I don't get it.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:32) I don't get honey.

Alan Lazaros

(21:33) Your wife, Taryn. (21:34) What? (21:35) I don't get it.(21:36) Why honey? (21:38) I don't know. (21:38) Just because it's sugar?(21:39) It's just straight dopamine and it's good for pumps. (21:42) And by the way, man, when you are trying to force feed so that you get to 210. (21:46) Peanut butter, baby.(21:47) I mean, come on. (21:48) That's too many fat. (21:49) Honey's all carbs, baby.(21:50) Pass. (21:51) No, come on. (21:51) Peanut butter, baby.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:52) Peanut butter's all fat, brother.

Alan Lazaros

(21:54) Yeah, it slides right down though.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:56) Bloop. (21:56) Right down though. (21:57) We're not having this conversation.

Alan Lazaros

(21:58) Tell them to hatch, baby. (21:59) Do you remember when your wife, Taryn, gave me a huge box of goodies? (22:02) Big bag.(22:03) Big bag of stuff she wanted to get out of the house because she wanted the diet. (22:07) Oh yeah, yeah. (22:08) You took it all.(22:08) I took it all.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:09) Yeah, yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(22:09) The best. (22:12) My goals. (22:13) Needed more food.(22:14) Her goals needed less food. (22:16) Yeah, yeah. (22:17) Perfect.(22:17) Match made in heaven. (22:18) It's perfect. (22:18) Got it all.(22:19) I don't like pretzels, but everything else was great. (22:21) The point is goals help you change your behavior, but goals make you feel like shit about yourself when you don't. (22:30) You can't be successful in life and change your behavior and feel good about yourself all the time.(22:36) You can't. (22:38) Brother, I was doing pull-ups and I was trying to PR today. (22:43) I started with five and I was like, okay, I'll go for seven.(22:46) Okay, I'm gonna go for nine. (22:48) Okay, I'm gonna go for 12. (22:49) Dude, it's the worst.(22:51) It's so embarrassing. (22:53) I'm just struggling. (22:55) I look like a fucking loser.(22:57) It's awful. (22:58) But I said to myself, that's what's up. (23:02) That's what's up.(23:03) Everyone else is struggling. (23:06) It's like, what the fuck is your problem? (23:08) Do more than me, for sure.(23:10) Brother, that's called humble pie. (23:16) You want to maximize the amount of calories you burn? (23:20) Do as many pull-ups as you can do.(23:23) You got to challenge yourself and put yourself in that conflict. (23:27) I'm so glad you mentioned that conflict thing. (23:30) People always ask, why are you so intense all the time?(23:33) Why are you always so strict? (23:35) Why are you always so disciplined? (23:39) Because people who are mamby-pamby.(23:43) I knew you didn't think I was going to say that. (23:44) Mamby-pamby. (23:45) Picture someone you know, real quick.(23:47) Quick experiment, we'll get out of here. (23:49) Picture someone you know, who is always present. (23:53) They're always in a good mood.(23:57) They're always chilling. (23:59) They're living the dream. (24:00) They love life.

Kevin Palmieri

(24:01) I don't know any of those. (24:02) I don't know.

Alan Lazaros

(24:02) Not anymore. (24:03) Think of someone in the past. (24:04) They're always relaxed.

Kevin Palmieri

(24:06) They're always relaxed. (24:07) I don't know if I've ever known somebody like all of those things. (24:11) Genuinely.(24:12) I do. (24:13) Definitely.

Alan Lazaros

(24:14) Do I? (24:16) They actually brag about like how relaxed they are. (24:19) Like, yeah, I know how to relax.(24:21) Yeah, no, I don't.

Kevin Palmieri

(24:22) Dude, I don't.

Alan Lazaros

(24:23) All right. (24:24) Anyways, picture that person. (24:25) Everyone out there watching or listening.(24:26) Picture that person. (24:28) How much do you think they're going to achieve their goals? (24:32) People who are intense.(24:33) There's someone you and I both coach who's very intense. (24:37) Yes, he's very successful. (24:39) Yes, yes, yes.(24:40) Maybe we do an episode at some point. (24:43) It is impossible. (24:45) And he also had a very challenging childhood.(24:47) I'll keep it anonymous, but bad. (24:49) Not good. (24:50) He, his intensity and his warrior is, it's there.(24:53) I can feel it all over him. (24:54) I have it too. (24:56) It's, it's like the, it's that warrior of like, I don't care how you feel.(25:02) It doesn't matter how you feel. (25:04) Get it done, son. (25:06) He has it.(25:07) And we go back and forth. (25:09) He definitely has it. (25:09) I'm glad he has it because I, I need some people with that.(25:12) But the truth of the matter is if you don't have that, you're going to have a really hard time changing your behavior, regardless of AI. (25:20) And those people that are relaxed all the time, they're never in that conflict you're talking about. (25:25) They just, they just buy the food.(25:27) Or they buy the thing on Amazon. (25:29) Or they get the food. (25:30) Or they get takeout.(25:31) Like there's no conflict. (25:33) So of course they're relaxed and chilling. (25:34) Now I'm not saying to always be intense.(25:36) But if you don't have intensity, and you don't have dedication and commitment and persistence and grit, you are in so much trouble when it comes to changing your behavior. (25:45) You cannot change your behavior and be mamby pamby.

Kevin Palmieri

(25:49) I literally am in conflict, right? (25:51) It's 10, 1003. (25:52) Okay.(25:53) I've been up since four o'clock. (25:54) I've, I've been working since four, four o'clock AM. (25:57) I want to get up at six and go to the gym.(26:01) I, but there's that piece of me that's like, you shouldn't, but like, I'm gonna. (26:06) I'm gonna, I don't want to. (26:08) I don't have time.(26:10) I don't have time to not do it. (26:13) You're going to be here at noon. (26:14) I got shit to do.(26:15) I have to get up early. (26:16) Hour and 15 to your place. (26:18) Hour and 15.(26:20) Cool. (26:21) See you at noon, man. (26:22) Next level live.

Alan Lazaros

(26:23) Shout out to everyone who's coming. (26:25) We've got 31 bodies in the room. (26:26) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(26:26) So they already came. (26:27) They actually came. (26:28) It was 31 today's, today's Monday.(26:30) We hope you enjoyed it. (26:31) The last one, the last next level live.

Alan Lazaros

(26:33) Next level live 2026, baby. (26:35) We're going out with a big bang. (26:36) We are going out with a big bang.

Kevin Palmieri

(26:37) All right.

Alan Lazaros

(26:38) What do you want to say to wrap this up? (26:39) Cause you, you were the one who said knowledge is not power.

Kevin Palmieri

(26:42) So wrap. (26:42) Thank you for keeping us on the rails. (26:43) Cause I got, I got fired up.(26:44) I'm so sick of it. (26:45) I don't, I'm just fucking sick of seeing it. (26:52) Um, ask.(26:53) I don't know. (26:53) I think chat GPT is really good for why and how, but outside of that, like you still have to use the old school ways of like accountability and peak performance partners, next level fitness accountability group that works. (27:07) It fucking works.(27:08) There's people in there that have great streaks. (27:10) You don't get that from chat GPT. (27:12) Chat GPT doesn't care about you.(27:14) It doesn't care. (27:15) It doesn't, it doesn't care. (27:17) So yeah, that ask why I learned a lot about the why, why is this happening?(27:23) Why do I do this? (27:24) How, when I was getting ready to move, I lived in chat GPT to figure out the best way. (27:31) When I bought a car, I lived in chat GPT.(27:33) Give me the, give me everything. (27:35) How many cars are available? (27:36) What is the lowest they can go and make, give me all the stuff.(27:40) I still had to go to the dealership and do it though. (27:42) Right. (27:42) I still had to move up, move the stuff.(27:44) And so it can help you create a much better plan, but a great plan with no execution is just as bad as a terrible plan with no execution.

Alan Lazaros

(27:54) It just, as a matter of fact, a terrible plan with execution is better than a great plan without for sure.

Kevin Palmieri

(28:00) Yeah, for sure. (28:01) It's going to look better on paper, but you know, that's, that's papers where a lot of good ideas go to die. (28:08) Unfortunately.

Alan Lazaros

(28:08) Chat GPT can't lift the weights. (28:10) Chat GPT can't have that tough conversation. (28:14) Chat GPT can't communicate for you.(28:16) Chat GPT can't lead people. (28:19) It can't lead people. (28:20) People lead people.(28:22) I'm shocked we're even having this conversation, but I also understand it. (28:25) I, I thought I was going to be the tech guy, but it turns out I'm, I'm on the other end of this. (28:30) I think the tried and true fundamentals, man, are more important than ever.(28:34) They're actually more important than ever.

Kevin Palmieri

(28:36) I agree.

Alan Lazaros

(28:36) Because if you can't change your behavior, changing your behavior is the cheat code now. (28:41) That's the one thing. (28:42) It's, it's not knowledge that's power.(28:43) It's self-management. (28:44) It's self-awareness. (28:46) It's self-transformation, self-discipline, self-trust, self-love.(28:52) Discipline is power. (28:53) Yeah. (28:53) I mean, you, you can put AI photos and make yourself look better than you are.(28:57) It's never going to change inside. (29:00) And if you want to be a fulfilled human being with a big, bright future, you're going to have to self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-improvement, self-respect, self-trust, self-discipline, self-responsibility, self-love. (29:13) Did I say that already?(29:14) Self is, it's, it's you versus you. (29:18) Chat GPT can give you some answers, but it's you versus you.

Kevin Palmieri

(29:21) And it always will be. (29:22) I'm going to, I'm about to you versus you myself into bed. (29:25) I'm, I got to go.(29:26) I got to take off. (29:27) I'm going to take off. (29:28) As always, we love you.(29:30) We appreciate you. (29:30) Grateful, super grateful for each and every one of you. (29:32) If you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we'll be here every single day to help you get there.(29:38) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential. (29:40) Next level nation. (29:42) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University.(29:46) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(29:49) We mean it when we say family. (29:51) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (29:54) Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.

Kevin Palmieri

(29:58) Thank you again. (29:59) And we will talk to you tomorrow.