Don’t Take Advice From Miserable People… (2437)

In today’s episode of Next Level University, hosts Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros challenge the advice people accept without realizing the cost. Kevin shares a lesson from training with Bruce, an 80-year-old who still shows up with discipline, intensity, and a better attitude than many people half his age. Alan connects it to coaching, maturity, personal standards, and the reality that high-value people are harder to access.

This episode gets into mindset, self-awareness, ownership, and the quiet danger of letting miserable people influence your future. If you want better results, you need to be more selective about whose words you let shape your thinking. Some advice is wisdom. Some of it is just defeat standing up straight.

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Show notes:
(2:06) Gym story
(4:33) Why credible advice is harder to access
(8:05) Mindset, attitude, and the Stockdale paradox
(10:00) Negative advice creates negative patterns
(12:16) How to recognize bad advice
(17:09) Why some advice serves the giver
(21:12) Attitude determines access to growth
(23:09) Energy matters more than age
(25:59) Outro

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Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) This is my thesis. (0:02) If 60% of the people surrounding you at all times are miserable, then at least 60% of the advice you are being given and or are absorbing is terrible. (0:15) And why would you ever trust advice from somebody who is convincing you that the future is way more miserable than the current is?

Alan Lazaros

(0:24) When I was the most unfulfilled version of myself, I was also out of self-protection trying to portray that I was not unfulfilled, that I was not miserable. (0:42) If the most miserable people in the world are also putting on a show to try to pretend to be happy or fulfilled or have a meaningful life, you have to be careful of those things.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:55) Welcome to Next Level University. (0:58) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (1:00) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazaros.(1:03) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(1:09) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:16) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

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Kevin Palmieri

(1:44) Next Level Nation today for episode number 2437, Don't Take Advice from Miserable People. (1:50) Okay. (1:51) I had a great workout today with my boy Bruce.(1:53) Bruce is 80 years of age, and there was a very important lesson from me. (1:58) At one point, Bruce dropped a 50-pound dumbbell on his chest. (2:02) It wasn't the spotter's fault.(2:04) It was his fault. (2:06) Okay. (2:06) He wants to be spotted at the elbows.(2:08) Everybody knows if you have weak wrists, you do not get spotted at the elbows. (2:11) You get spotted at the wrists. (2:13) Doesn't want to.(2:14) He wants to be spotted at the elbows. (2:15) Okay. (2:15) Well, he dropped a 50-pound dumbbell on his chest today.(2:18) Whatever. (2:18) Wiped it off. (2:19) No big deal.(2:20) But it would be very easy. (2:22) I want you to imagine two people. (2:25) 80-year-old Bruce, who is in the gym six times a week, and just screaming, getting after it.(2:31) I'm not saying you have to be that extreme. (2:33) 80-year-old Bruce. (2:34) And then imagine 60-year-old somebody else who says, well, you know, as I got older, everything was way harder, so I just stopped working out, and I just fucking, I just called it in.(2:43) I'm not even going to bother. (2:45) Like, what am I going to go to the gym until I'm 80? (2:47) That's one example.(2:48) Imagine that. (2:49) Imagine somebody who was married, did not hold up their end of the bargain, got divorced and said, ah, love is a fallacy. (2:58) Love isn't real.(2:59) Love is bullshit. (3:00) Fuck love, man. (3:01) Stay single forever.(3:02) It's better. (3:03) Versus somebody who is like, you know, love and relationships and marriage is really difficult. (3:10) It's not easy.(3:10) It's challenging. (3:11) And it's the most rewarding thing ever. (3:13) Yeah, you're going to have to face a lot of the stuff in the mirror that you don't want to face.(3:16) You're going to have to take ownership for your piece and all the mistakes that are made, but it's the best, most fulfilling thing you could ever have. (3:22) Who are you going to listen to? (3:24) You're going to listen to the second person.(3:25) You're going to listen to Bruce in this equation. (3:27) But the problem is those people, like, I don't think there's that many of them out there.

Alan Lazaros

(3:34) Yeah. (3:35) And they're harder to get time with.

Kevin Palmieri

(3:37) They're harder to get time with. (3:38) And you have to have like a certain positive attitude to get advice from those people.

Alan Lazaros

(3:45) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(3:45) It's this weird thing. (3:46) And to actually get around them and stay around them. (3:49) Yeah.(3:49) If you get bad advice, if you get negative advice, if you get toxic advice and you start believing in it, the people who would give you good advice don't want to fucking spend time around you anymore. (3:58) A hundred percent. (3:59) That.(4:00) I'm lucky I get to work out with Bruce. (4:01) Everybody loves Bruce. (4:02) Bruce works out with me.(4:03) I don't. (4:04) I think it's because I'm just like happy. (4:07) You know, I'm not the guy who's going to be like, Bruce, you shouldn't be doing this.(4:10) You're old. (4:11) I do whatever. (4:12) You could do whatever you want, man.(4:13) I don't care. (4:13) It's up to you. (4:14) Right.(4:14) You're it's you. (4:16) It's up to you. (4:16) Not me.(4:17) I'm not going to tell you, well, Bruce, you should really lift lighter, man. (4:21) You're getting old. (4:23) Do whatever you want.(4:24) Nice. (4:25) Bruce. (4:31) I'm trying to figure out where to start on this.

Alan Lazaros

(4:33) I know that's probably not where you thought I was going to go, but no, it's not. (4:36) It's not that I do. (4:37) I do think I think this is really important.(4:43) The, when you need advice the most, you by definition are getting it from people that are the least credible to give it. (5:00) So for example, you and I, we, I talked recently about us going to high school, totally free to do the career day podcasting. (5:13) And you and I now are more credible and more likely to give more accurate, constructive advice than before, but we're less likely to do that now because we're less available.(5:27) It's almost like the people that you want to spend time with. (5:31) I know this wasn't your point. (5:32) This is my point, the people that it would benefit your life to spend time with are the hardest to spend time with.(5:38) It's very difficult to spend time with really productive people. (5:43) Like I'm going to use Emilia as an example. (5:46) Cause she's one of the most productive people I've ever met.(5:51) If not the most productive person I've ever met me at 26, I always make this joke. (5:56) So she's 31. (5:57) I'm 37.(6:00) Okay. (6:00) She was 26 when I met her 25 about to be 26. (6:04) And I was 29.(6:06) I turned 30 the month after we met. (6:10) And I always joke me at her age would never have been able to be with her at her age, if that makes sense. (6:18) Cause she was much more mature than I was at that age.(6:22) So when we met at 30 and she's 26 and I'm basically 30, so I'll just say 30 when I'm 30 and she's 25 about to be 26, she's six years younger than me. (6:35) So the math is not adding up right now. (6:37) She just turned 25.(6:39) I'm sorry. (6:40) Cause I remember when I first met her, we were with her family and they were talking about, uh, her 25th. (6:46) And that was like the last time she ever got like drunk, drunk.(6:49) And it was a hilarious story, but also she quit drinking not long after that, which is good because I had quit drinking at that point too. (6:55) Anyways, my point of this is she's 25. (6:57) I just turned 30.(6:58) Awesome. (6:59) Five years, five and a half, whatever it is. (7:03) I was not mature.(7:04) She at 25 was way more mature than me at 25, but me at 30 was as mature or more mature than her at 25. (7:12) That's why we work. (7:13) What's my point of this to bring this to the listener.(7:16) Me at 25 could never spend time with her now at 31. (7:20) I think about this stuff all the time. (7:22) Like I would never get time with her.(7:24) I would, if I hired her and you can hire her by the way, smartest decision ever, ever, but she's not going to be friends with me, nor should she. (7:35) Every relationship is predicated on values and goals. (7:40) I was on with a client earlier.(7:42) He's a multimillionaire. (7:44) I'm in his life because I help him achieve his goals. (7:51) It's very difficult to get around people of very high value.(7:56) That's what I want this conversation to be. (7:58) I know that's not your point. (7:59) If you have a bad attitude, there's not a chance in hell you're going to get around high value people.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:05) It's the same though. (8:06) That's the same principle to me is the people that you want to be absorbing things from can't be the people that also believe life is out to get them. (8:22) Even if the circumstances are exactly the same.(8:25) I think mindset is way overused. (8:28) Everybody's like, well, it's mindset, mindset. (8:30) Yes, a hundred percent, but nobody ever really talks about what the mindset is.(8:34) It's like, well, think positive. (8:35) It's like, yeah, that's something. (8:38) Because I think mindset is attitude, philosophy, beliefs.(8:43) I think it's, I'm listening to from good to great again. (8:47) Nice. (8:50) It's such a good book.(8:51) One of the best. (8:52) I think it's the, we've talked about this before, the Stockdale paradox. (8:55) You have to be extremely honest with yourself about what the reality of the situation is, but you also have to hold onto the faith that the situation will change based on your influence.(9:06) I think that a lot of people are extremely honest about the reality of the situation and extremely down about the reality of the situation. (9:18) Bruce is 80. (9:20) Bruce's knees are shot.(9:21) He can't, he doesn't do legs. (9:22) He can't do legs. (9:23) His knees are shot and he works around it.(9:25) He said it today. (9:26) He's like, I can still work around it. (9:28) Like my knees are, that.

Alan Lazaros

(9:30) What's his attitude, zero to 10? (9:32) Constructive is 10. (9:34) Destructive is zero.(9:35) I only know of him in the gym, 10.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:39) But you said he's building a deck. (9:41) He's doing stuff. (9:42) Yeah, but I don't know what he's like outside of the gym.(9:44) Like, yes, but I don't know what his attitude's like during that. (9:47) Probably, probably pretty good. (9:49) In the gym, it's a 10.

Alan Lazaros

(9:51) We don't talk about attitude that much, but I think if you have a bad attitude, like a destructive attitude, it's very hard to work with people like that.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:00) Yeah, and that's the thing is like, if you're negative, positive people don't want to be around you. (10:07) Negative people love being around you. (10:09) The advice you get from negative people is negative.(10:11) It is. (10:12) It's just this self-perpetuating issue that, and the reason I really wanted to do this episode, like the big one, is back when I first got into productivity and self-improvement and philosophy, whatever, whatever it was in the beginning, there was a couple people that I worked with that really stood out because it was like, oh, I can actually talk to them about the stuff that I value. (10:36) But almost everybody else, their advice for me was just garbage.

Alan Lazaros

(10:40) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:40) Even the older people I worked with, it was like, Kev, like this is, this is, you can't let go of a good job to go do something else or whatever. (10:49) It just, all the advice was very short-sighted and very destructive, destructive and victim. (10:58) And I know a lot of you out there, whether you're watching or listening, are probably working at a job that you don't have control over the people.(11:07) I realized, Tara and I were talking, one of the reasons I love being an entrepreneur is I get to choose who I work with.

Alan Lazaros

(11:14) I know, it's the best.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:14) I didn't realize how much that impacted me. (11:16) Comes at a massive price. (11:17) It does come at a, yeah, yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(11:19) Which is insane amounts of responsibility. (11:21) Well, and you don't get paid for the vast majority of what you're doing in the beginning. (11:25) But yeah, that's, we have, we share that.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:28) Do you remember? (11:29) I can fire clients anytime I want. (11:30) With that, but remember going to the office and it was like, oh.(11:33) Oh yeah. (11:34) Oh, here we go. (11:35) Here we go with Steve again.(11:37) I get to hear about his whatever. (11:38) It's like, I don't, that shit rubs off on you. (11:41) I don't care how determined you are.(11:44) That shit will rub off on you if you let it. (11:46) And eventually I think it gets to the point where you, in order to fit in, you have to start at least receiving that advice. (11:57) I'm not saying you take it, run with it, but like you break rapport.(12:00) If somebody sits you down and says, Hey man, you know, life's only downhill from here. (12:05) You say, no, Steve, life's downhill from, for you. (12:08) For me.(12:09) It's not like you could do that, but you might get into a fistfight on the, on the You also might get fired. (12:14) Well, that's, yeah. (12:14) Steve's your boss.(12:15) You're definitely gonna get fired.

Alan Lazaros

(12:16) I know some listeners, some clients of mine that are listening are resonating. (12:20) So how do you identify bad advice? (12:25) Because going back to the main point that I was kind of circling around, It's really, really, really hard to get around high value people.(12:41) Like seriously, it's really hard. (12:44) And I don't mean high value in just status and horseshit. (12:47) I mean, actually well-rounded, high value human beings that actually have standards.(12:53) The more I have standards for who I spend time with, the harder it is to spend time with anybody. (12:59) It's so interesting. (13:02) And like I said, me at 25 could not spend time with Emilia at 31 unless I hired her.(13:06) And I would. (13:09) 25, I wouldn't have. (13:10) 26, I would have.(13:11) Because I had my existential crisis at 26. (13:14) But anyways, my point is, if that's the thing, okay, how do you, you're not going to start out in life at 15 and be like, Oh, I have the best mentors ever. (13:25) My guidance counselor, I honestly think gave me destructive advice.(13:30) Genuinely. (13:33) And I now realize he's a high school guidance counselor. (13:35) I'm not trying to be mean here, but here's the truth.(13:38) He didn't know what's best for my future. (13:40) I knew more than he did.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:42) And that's for fuck sure. (13:43) Is he happy about that? (13:45) Like that's the difference.(13:46) If he's happy about his job, awesome. (13:48) If not, that's a completely different conversation. (13:51) And here's the other thing.

Alan Lazaros

(13:52) Is he even good at his job? (13:53) That's another piece, right? (13:55) And there's standards, right?(13:57) So you can't take level 10 advice from a level two person. (14:01) Can't. (14:02) And sometimes a level 10 person gives bad advice.(14:06) And I've been there and I've been there because I was giving you advice based on my misunderstanding of what you want out of life versus what I want out of life. (14:15) And I, I've worked on that tremendously. (14:16) So I'm not as concerned about that anymore, but I had no idea.(14:19) People who don't believe in themselves have a way harder time than people who do before. (14:24) Like, I just really, that wasn't on my radar. (14:26) So to bring this to the most valuable use of our time and the listener's time, right now, I think is how do you recognize bad advice and side tangent attitude?(14:40) If you have a constructive attitude, like life blows and I know that, and it's going to have challenges and it's going to be hard, but we can find a way to get it done. (14:50) That attitude of the, the, the can do attitude versus the woe is me. (14:57) I just, I just need that to be a part of the conversation too.(15:01) Cause I think that's so much rarer than I ever imagined. (15:06) And you've always had that for sure. (15:08) I mean, you didn't come with many skills, but you definitely had a positive attitude the whole time for sure.(15:13) For sure.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:14) Well, I, I like this. (15:16) I didn't always, dude, I didn't have a positive attitude as an employee. (15:19) I was a fucking asshole.(15:22) Not to like, I, yeah, no, I was not happy. (15:26) I was miserable. (15:27) Very miserable.(15:28) Why do you say you were an asshole? (15:30) I don't, I wasn't an asshole, but. (15:31) Yeah, exactly.(15:32) That's not accurate, but I see what you're saying.

Alan Lazaros

(15:35) You were definitely upset and unhappy behind the scenes. (15:37) Yeah, I had a negative attitude for sure. (15:38) Yeah.(15:39) Fixed mindset, negative attitude. (15:40) Well, here's the thing. (15:41) And at some point I want to do an episode on this too.(15:43) Inversion, what, what would we, if we, if we had to sit a listener down and coach them, you and I both on the things you have to do to guarantee being a failure, one of them has got to be, have a bad attitude. (16:00) Surround yourself with the worst people possible. (16:02) Right?(16:03) Like these are, I love that inversion idea. (16:06) Charlie Munger talks about that all the time. (16:08) R.I.P. And the inversion, you don't understand something until you invert it. (16:12) It's like, we talk about how to be successful all the time. (16:14) Let's talk about how to be a massive failure. (16:16) Yeah, but isn't that like easy, you know?

Kevin Palmieri

(16:23) No, nothing. (16:25) What do you mean? (16:28) I don't know.(16:28) If you said, Hey, write a book on how to be a massive failure. (16:31) It'd be like, I can have that to you tomorrow.

Alan Lazaros

(16:34) But I think it's powerful to, it breaks brains in the best way.

Kevin Palmieri

(16:38) Okay.

Alan Lazaros

(16:38) It unlocks something. (16:40) I'm just, I'm just wondering. (16:41) Because you realize like, oh shit, I'm doing some of those.(16:44) That's fair. (16:44) If you want to be a failure, you cannot be consistent. (16:46) I love that.(16:48) Because if you're consistent at good, positive habits, you like might end up successful. (16:53) So you really need to be inconsistent. (16:55) And the truth is the majority of people are inconsistent, which is hard for me.(16:58) But back to the point, because I know we only got five minutes here. (17:04) Attitude. (17:04) Yeah.(17:04) What was the other one? (17:06) Oh, how do you spot bad advice?

Kevin Palmieri

(17:09) I think there's two ways. (17:13) One, there's three ways. (17:15) One, a lot of people get significance from giving advice.(17:21) You have to recognize when somebody is just giving you advice to feel good about themselves. (17:25) How do you know? (17:26) I don't, I don't, I don't know yet.(17:29) Let me think on it.

Alan Lazaros

(17:30) A lot of the advice I give is to my detriment. (17:33) A lot of the advice you give? (17:34) Give, yeah.(17:35) That's what I meant. (17:36) No, I think that's what you said. (17:37) I just didn't hear it.(17:37) You know, it's not what I said. (17:38) I don't think, I'm not sure. (17:41) But like, I remember with clients, I've said this, like, no, I would rather not say this.(17:47) I don't want to say this. (17:49) That. (17:50) I care enough to actually tell you.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:52) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(17:52) By the way, everyone is thinking it. (17:55) Well, you just have the courage to say it. (17:56) Yeah.(17:57) But I would be better off not saying it for sure. (17:59) With clients, it's different because they hire you for that. (18:01) But like team members and friends.(18:03) Are you kidding me? (18:04) Friends. (18:06) Yeah.(18:06) It's like, I don't want to tell you you're lazy. (18:08) You are, you are screwed if I don't. (18:11) Because you, if you think you're hardworking and you're actually lazy, you are screwed.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:15) Well, they might still be screwed.

Alan Lazaros

(18:17) I mean, yeah, but at least the chances are. (18:19) You're not going to change something you don't.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:22) No.

Alan Lazaros

(18:23) See blind spots, right?

Kevin Palmieri

(18:24) I think the best answer I have is you have to look at the trend line of the advice given. (18:32) And if it's always trending negative, you have to assume they just have a negative bias. (18:37) That.(18:38) Give me an example. (18:42) You know, the people that just are always negative. (18:46) I don't know if I have a specific example because I don't fucking really spend time around people who give me negative advice because I don't listen to anybody.(18:53) What a huge W that's been.

Alan Lazaros

(18:55) One of the best things you and I have ever done is just get away from all.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:59) It's lonely though.

Alan Lazaros

(19:00) Oh, it's wicked. (19:01) Yeah, for sure. (19:02) I mean, we can do an episode on that too, but we have really, really eliminated a lot of terrible advice.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:11) I sailed away from someone recently.

Alan Lazaros

(19:12) I'll keep it anonymous. (19:13) But recently I decided like to let someone go and I feel a huge weight lifted off. (19:19) I'll be better.(19:20) And this person won't. (19:21) And that's unfortunate and probably comes off arrogant. (19:24) But I just can't keep with the bullshit.(19:27) It's just it's always something, you know, it's not a one off. (19:31) There's a pattern here. (19:32) That's just not going to fucking change that.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:34) I think you have to look at the pattern.

Alan Lazaros

(19:35) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:36) Now, if it's the first time this person's ever giving you advice, you have to take that with a grain of salt. (19:40) Anyway, a grain of sand where the fucking saying is because. (19:44) Ask yourself why they're giving you the advice.(19:47) For sure. (19:48) Like why they just woke up one day like, I'm going to bless you. (19:51) I'm going to bless you with some life changing information.(19:53) You know, I'm feeling really good today. (19:54) I'm feeling I'm feeling like I'm feeling charitable. (19:58) I and I would look at the results.(20:01) I cannot stand, you know. (20:05) Don't give me fitness advice. (20:07) Don't give me fitness advice.

Alan Lazaros

(20:09) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(20:09) If this don't give me fitness advice unless you're in better shape than I am. (20:15) How about that?

Alan Lazaros

(20:16) Now, again, that probably people in better shape than you aren't aren't giving you fitness advice. (20:20) They're not giving me this advice.

Kevin Palmieri

(20:21) You have to hire and pay them for. (20:22) They're getting paid. (20:23) They're getting paid to give other people fitness advice again.(20:26) Are there are there unique examples where that's not the case?

Alan Lazaros

(20:29) Yeah, sure.

Kevin Palmieri

(20:29) There's there are plenty of people that are not as. (20:34) What's the word I'm looking for? (20:37) Classically wealthier, right?(20:39) So there's that fair, fair that I don't know. (20:42) I don't I would we would have to do an entire episode on how to decipher good advice from that. (20:46) I would love that.(20:47) That's going to be you do that. (20:48) Then we'll do that for tomorrow's. (20:49) It's good stuff.(20:51) What's your takeaway?

Alan Lazaros

(20:55) I I'm going to do a master class on mindset. (21:00) And I agree with you that it's it's a combination of things and it's overused. (21:06) And it's going to be something along the lines of we're coming up with titles now, but.(21:12) The mindset necessary, the mindset required in advance to achieve your goals. (21:18) Attitude is a part of that. (21:20) And if you're around and I think that this is something that everyone should think about the people in your life, if they have a negative attitude because they're sneaky.(21:28) It's a sneaky. (21:29) It's hard. (21:29) It's not easy to say, oh, you have a bad fucking attitude.(21:32) It's not that's not easy. (21:33) You have to like study them and go, wow, they kind of make excuses at every fucking turn. (21:39) That's one.(21:40) That's one indicator. (21:41) Like what? (21:41) What constitutes a bad attitude?(21:44) Constantly making excuses, never taking ownership. (21:47) They never take ownership ever. (21:50) They can't go anywhere within a huge distance of their own inadequacies.(21:55) They're so insecure. (21:57) They feel like everything is someone else's fault. (22:00) Like these are just I had an ex who had a really bad attitude and it drove me nuts, but I didn't understand that that's what it was.(22:07) So that's my takeaway is a negative mindset, growth mindset, fixed mindset. (22:13) Yes, but attitude is a big part of that. (22:15) And I don't think we talk about it as much.(22:17) I heard I had Michael Byrd on the business growth university podcast back when that was a thing. (22:21) And he said, your attitude determines your altitude. (22:25) And I like that saying because I do think it's a bigger part of the equation than people realize.(22:32) Because one of the things that you did very well nine years ago is you just made sure you weren't a pain in my ass. (22:37) I'm still trying. (22:39) You're an ad.(22:40) You're not like a subtract. (22:42) You don't subtract from my life. (22:44) If you want to be around high value, magnificent people, you can't make their life worse.(22:51) Right.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:51) Well, everybody's looking to get something. (22:55) Everybody is looking to get something. (22:56) It's just a matter of what sometimes getting is just like a new perspective.(23:00) I love hungry people that just want to learn. (23:03) Like I know it doesn't seem like I'm getting anything. (23:05) I am.(23:05) That's awesome. (23:06) I love that. (23:06) That was me in the beginning.(23:07) Yeah, that was me in the beginning. (23:09) This is my takeaway. (23:09) I would rather work out with an 80-year-old man like Bruce than a 20-year-old negative person who is way better at exercise.(23:19) I used to have a buddy. (23:20) He used to come to the gym with me all the time. (23:22) The second we got in there, he'd say, hey, how long until we're done?(23:25) I can't do this. (23:26) What are we doing? (23:27) We came here to work out.(23:30) Bruce has never once said, hey, how much longer? (23:32) Never. (23:32) And if he does, it's because he wants to go longer, not shorter.(23:35) Nice. (23:36) 80. (23:36) Still cranking.(23:38) I love it. (23:39) Still cranking. (23:39) I know.(23:40) I knew you would. (23:41) Just getting started, baby. (23:42) Just getting started.

Alan Lazaros

(23:42) You know it. (23:43) I wish more people. (23:45) Yeah.(23:45) That's awesome.

Kevin Palmieri

(23:47) Bruce. (23:48) Shout out to Bruce. (23:49) Bruce doesn't know how to listen to podcasts, but if he did, he'd listen to me.(23:52) You should teach him. (23:54) I'll try. (23:54) I don't know if the man has a cell phone.(23:56) All right. (23:57) Alan talks a lot about coaching in this episode. (23:59) If you're looking for a coach, maybe it is Emilia.(24:02) Reach out to Emilia. (24:02) Alan can hook you up with her information for sure. (24:04) If it's not Emilia, reach out to Alan.(24:06) And if you are looking for two coaches, they do relationship talk. (24:09) So you can get both ends of the spectrum and bada bing, bada boom. (24:12) You'll be in a better place for it.(24:13) And if what we talked about with the fitness perspective, 80 year old Bruce, he would, Bruce would also be in the next level of fitness accountability group. (24:20) If he knew how to operate WhatsApp, I am certain the man doesn't know how to operate WhatsApp, but he would be in the next level of fitness accountability group because he is somebody who wants accountability. (24:29) He wants to be consistent.(24:30) He wants to be around positive people who will lift him up. (24:33) That is exactly what you will get in the next level fitness accountability group. (24:36) You can reach out to Alan and or myself and we will let you in.(24:38) We'd love to have you.

Alan Lazaros

(24:40) Last thing I want to share here is positive attitude doesn't just mean that you're a pushover and you're always positive. (24:45) Sometimes it means you challenge people, but you do it fairly constructively with intention and with a desire to help them not just feel significant about yourself. (24:59) And I think that maybe we'll do an episode on positive attitude and what that means.(25:05) Because I think a lot of people, I know a lot of people that are seen positive on the surface, but they're actually very negative behind the scenes and or when they give advice and stuff. (25:13) So it's, it's kind of sneaky. (25:14) And I think we should, we should do that.

Kevin Palmieri

(25:16) Now that you've done that, I've probably, I'm going to forget the outro because I have a flow and you've broken my flow. (25:23) You also keep hammering the mic.

Alan Lazaros

(25:24) I love it. (25:25) You're like, it's much bigger than the other one. (25:27) Yeah.(25:28) So you just keep punching that thing.

Kevin Palmieri

(25:29) This is the old one.

Alan Lazaros

(25:32) This is the new one. (25:33) Nice. (25:33) Much bigger.

Kevin Palmieri

(25:34) All right. (25:35) Here we go.

Alan Lazaros

(25:35) I would like to donate that to the Adventures podcast. (25:39) At least if you're okay with it. (25:41) A hundred percent.(25:42) I already gave you a million mine. (25:43) I'm happy to. (25:44) Yeah.(25:44) Happy to. (25:45) Really? (25:45) Of course.(25:46) I probably shouldn't ask you that live, huh?

Kevin Palmieri

(25:47) I know because I think I've asked you before. (25:49) I think we talked. (25:50) I'm happy to.(25:51) Cool, man. (25:52) Yeah. (25:52) And plus the business bought it.(25:53) So it would be very asshole of asshole issue of me to be like, no man, that's mine now. (25:57) Even though the business paid for it. (25:59) All right.(26:00) As always, we love you. (26:01) We appreciate you. (26:02) Grateful for each and every one of you.(26:03) And if you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we will be here every single day to help you get there. (26:09) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential. (26:12) Next level nation.(26:14) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (26:18) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(26:20) We mean it when we say family. (26:22) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (26:25) Everything you need to get a hold of us is in the show notes.

Kevin Palmieri

(26:29) Thank you again, and we will talk to you tomorrow.