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In this episode, Kevin and Alan break down why self-belief is essential for success, and why hope, luck, and borrowed confidence are not enough. They explain the difference between self-belief, self-worth, confidence, and self-assuredness, along with why belief needs humility if it is going to stay grounded.

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Show notes:
(3:02) Self-assuredness and personal agency
(6:32) Unlocking the next level of growth
(10:28) Why belief needs humility
(12:40) The state, prove, self-assign framework
(16:36) Assigning results accurately
(20:08) How action builds real belief
(23:52) Outro

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Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) If Alan could bottle something up, something super valuable, something super helpful, something that could change your entire life and then sell it to you. (0:10) I'm sure he'd give you a good price because he's a good businessman like that. (0:14) That is the thing that we're going to be talking about today.(0:16) If you could bottle it up and sell it, it would probably be the most valuable thing on this planet.

Alan Lazaros

(0:22) The most valuable thing you can build and you can develop, but it's not going to be easy. (0:29) It's going to have to be intentional and it's a formula that you have to run consistently over time.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:34) Welcome to Next Level University. (0:37) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (0:39) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazaros.(0:42) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

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Kevin Palmieri

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Alan Lazaros

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Kevin Palmieri

(1:17) Welcome to Next Level University. (1:23) Next Level Nation today for episode number 2478. (1:27) Self-belief is a superpower.(1:28) Now, before you turn this off, because you're like, guys, you're talking about self-belief again. (1:32) Yes, we are. (1:33) This is our podcast.(1:34) We do whatever we want. (1:35) And thank you for being here. (1:36) We do appreciate that very much.(1:38) Even that, even that like little joke in the beginning, like I, I still very much am afraid of what people think, less than ever, less than ever. (1:49) But I am starting to see through the process of doing this and through opportunities and through conversations and through results, how much self-belief is a superpower. (2:00) I was on, I was on a call with a client today.(2:03) I've been coaching this client for many years. (2:05) I'm a huge fan of this person. (2:06) And they said, yeah, if only I could find someone and just pay somebody to do this for me.(2:11) And I said, well, what are you hypothetically, you know, what would you pay that person hypothetically? (2:16) And they said, well, I've already done the research. (2:17) This is the amounts it's between this amount and this amount.(2:20) I said, I can do that. (2:21) I'll do it for you. (2:22) What are your thoughts on me just doing it?(2:25) And they're like, yeah, send me a, send me a proposal and we'll see what we can do. (2:28) I was like, all right, cool. (2:29) I wouldn't have done that.(2:31) I would not have done that five years ago.

Alan Lazaros

(2:32) What would you have done?

Kevin Palmieri

(2:33) Nothing. (2:34) I'm like, yeah, I hope you find that. (2:35) I'll probably, I can help you.(2:36) I'll help you find somebody. (2:38) It's not going to be me. (2:39) Somebody else though, somebody else way better at that than me for sure.

Alan Lazaros

(2:43) It's, it's so hard to like. (2:47) What's the difference now? (2:48) Like what's the best way to describe someone who doesn't have self-belief versus they do?(2:52) Like what's what's you say? (2:54) Like you're going through life and you don't have self-belief describe that. (2:59) And then you're going through life and you do have self-belief describe that.

Kevin Palmieri

(3:02) I think the simplest, I would change self-belief for self-assuredness. (3:07) And I had a conversation with somebody the other day about this. (3:09) They said, I, they said, when I see certain people, I just see self-assuredness, which I think just means like being fucking grounded in the fact that you're, if you don't know how to figure it out, you'll figure it.(3:22) It's an air of abundance. (3:25) Like I'll figure it out that it's almost like, it's not the delusion that you'll figure it out, but it is like, you're so set in the belief that you'll figure it out. (3:39) That it doesn't matter that you have no idea what you're doing yet.(3:41) It's like, somebody else figured it out. (3:42) So I can figure it out that I think self-assuredness back in the day, I would, I would question everything about myself. (3:52) Yeah.(3:53) I would question everything about myself. (3:54) I was unsure of everything I was doing. (3:56) I was unsure of every conversation I was having.(3:59) I was unsure of what the other person was thinking. (4:02) I was unsure of everything. (4:03) And it was almost like, even if I do get this opportunity, I'm going to fuck it up and it's not going to work.(4:15) But like, I'll, I'll just, I'm going to do my best to keep it, to keep the ball up for as long as I can. (4:20) It's different. (4:20) You don't, you don't have, you don't feel like you have options.(4:23) You don't feel like you have control. (4:24) You don't feel like you can impact the situation. (4:26) You don't feel like you can influence the situation.(4:28) It just feels like whatever's going to happen is going to happen regardless of the effort you put in. (4:34) Now it's just different. (4:35) It just feels like there are more options.(4:38) It just feels like there's more opportunity. (4:41) It feels like there's more potential and it really does. (4:45) It feels like a freaking cheat code.(4:47) Now, again, one I'm riding high because things have been really good. (4:50) Like life is coming for me, of course, always. (4:52) And I'm going to get cracked in the head with something here shortly.(4:54) It's not going to take long. (4:55) I already did for the fuck of it. (4:57) Last week was terrible, but I forgot about it already, brother.(5:01) Just did three days ago. (5:02) Forgot about it. (5:03) Yeah.(5:03) I'm on, I'm on to something else. (5:04) Back on baby. (5:05) But that's new too.

Alan Lazaros

(5:07) Yeah. (5:07) Well, you get up, you get up quicker and stronger.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:11) It's just a, it's a whole thing. (5:13) It's a, I don't know. (5:14) I, it's hard to explain.(5:15) It's just like the thing I, this is the best example that I'll kick it to you. (5:19) Cause this will be me talking for 15 minutes. (5:21) If I don't, you ever play a video game, two things happen.(5:25) One, you get to the end of the map. (5:27) You can't go any further. (5:28) It's the end of the map.(5:29) Like there's a world beyond this. (5:31) You just can't get there. (5:32) Okay.(5:32) That's one piece. (5:34) Second piece is if you've ever played a video game or a computer game, whatever you play that like glitches and somehow you like get under the map, it's like nothing there. (5:41) It's like, just, it's completely just like a, a land of nothingness for the halo fans up on the top of blood Gulch.

Alan Lazaros

(5:47) You take one of those ghosts and you shoot it up and you go to the top of the map of blood Gulch.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:53) Oh, up on the top. (5:54) That's what a gross word that is. (5:55) Blood Gulch.

Alan Lazaros

(5:56) I don't know if I've ever heard map dude. (5:58) One of the goats, which one was that? (6:00) Every Halo fan on planet Halo one.(6:03) Yeah. (6:03) Halo one. (6:05) Yeah.(6:05) It's the one with the warthog. (6:06) You remember blood Gulch though.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:07) I don't know, but I remember driving the warthog. (6:10) I was like, this is the greatest. (6:12) I know.(6:13) Were you the gunner or the driver? (6:14) Vehicle driver, world-class driver. (6:16) Nice.(6:17) Any, I used to play Gran Turismo with my buddies for some reason. (6:21) Nobody could beat me. (6:22) I'm the best at the driving game.(6:23) I have no idea why I'm blind. (6:25) I can't really see what I'm doing, but like certain things just make sense. (6:28) You know, Gran Turismo is legit, man.(6:30) I think it's that that's the best analogy. (6:32) Not the second one. (6:33) The first one you, you drive towards the invisible wall in a video game and you just can't go any further.(6:38) You haven't unlocked that level yet. (6:39) I think that's self-belief and the problem is you almost, you can't unlock, you don't unlock the full level. (6:46) You unlock like to the next checkpoint.(6:49) Yeah. (6:50) Great metaphor forever.

Alan Lazaros

(6:51) Yeah. (6:52) I've said this before. (6:54) That's one of the reasons we have the school system set up the way we do.(6:57) And I say, we, I obviously went through the U S school system, but I've, it's, it's not that different in other places, uh, based on the people I've coached all over the world. (7:07) So it's like preschool, kindergarten, elementary school, middle school, high school, college, corporate. (7:13) I don't hear anyone else saying those things.(7:17) Nobody else talks about it. (7:18) It's like, you know, that's set up for a reason. (7:21) You don't just like imagine going from kindergarten to fucking college.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:26) Um, I'm pretty sure there are, there is our school is where it's like K through 12 somehow, like in one school.

Alan Lazaros

(7:32) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:33) What the fuck? (7:34) But that's crazy.

Alan Lazaros

(7:36) My point is, is the, it's your video game metaphor. (7:39) Each of these are a little bit of a bigger world.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:41) Yeah. (7:42) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(7:42) Yeah. (7:42) So when I say 8.3 billion people on earth, 195 countries, uh, 6.6 billion people on the internet, I'm rounding up. (7:51) It's not actually six yet, but when your world is really small, when you have low self-belief, your world is really small.(7:58) Your circle of concern is very small, very small. (8:03) When you have more belief, the world gets a little bigger and you, and you have to go explore it. (8:10) And then you go explore it.(8:12) You face challenges, you grow, and then you get a little more self-belief and then it gets even bigger. (8:16) Dude, at one point we didn't know how to drive. (8:19) At one point we didn't know how to podcast.(8:20) At one point we didn't know how to make love. (8:23) At one point we didn't know how to kiss. (8:24) Dude, you remember that?(8:26) I remember the first time I ever made out with a chick, we were watching snow dogs. (8:29) How old are you? (8:31) Why are you doing this to me?

Kevin Palmieri

(8:33) I want to compare. (8:34) Eighth grade. (8:35) Eighth grade.(8:36) Eighth grade. (8:38) Man, I, it's no wonder. (8:40) It's, it's a miracle that I'm, I'm pretty sure, dude, I'm telling you, man, my childhood was fucked.(8:49) I must've been. (8:50) Her name was Stephanie. (8:51) How old?

Alan Lazaros

(8:52) From Northbridge.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:52) Okay. (8:53) I was going to say, do I know this person? (8:54) How old are you when you're, how old are you when you're in eighth grade?

Alan Lazaros

(8:59) Thirteen years old, maybe 12, 12, 13. (9:02) I was older for my grade. (9:04) So yeah, so I was there.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:07) I, I was making out with my neighbor when I was like eight years old. (9:11) Brother, I can't. (9:12) Brother, brother, I swear to God, I don't.

Alan Lazaros

(9:19) Hey, I'm not, not believing you.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:20) I thought it was normal.

Alan Lazaros

(9:22) Man, that was normal. (9:25) So yeah, back to self-belief. (9:26) Go ahead.(9:27) Self-belief. (9:28) I looked up direct synonyms. (9:30) Confidence, self-confidence, self-assurance.(9:32) It's on there. (9:34) Conviction, faith in yourself, self-trust, inner confidence, personal confidence, assurance, certainty in yourself, self-efficacy, belief in your ability to accomplish specific tasks, self-esteem, overall sense of self-worth, self-worth, positive self-concept, self-confidence, perceived competence, personal agency. (9:52) Nice.(9:53) Competence, confidence, capability, resourcefulness, resilience, courage, resolve, determination, inner strength, empowerment. (9:59) At the end of the day, like what is, what does all this come down to? (10:03) Uh, if Kevin and I could give you one thing through this podcast, it would be self-belief.(10:12) That's the one thing you and I have always agreed on. (10:15) It is the most important trait for success.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:20) I think it's the most important, uh, most, yeah, most important trait in anything. (10:26) Agreed. (10:27) Most important.

Alan Lazaros

(10:28) And the reason why is if you think you can't, you won't. (10:30) I also think it can be extremely destructive. (10:33) Yeah, agreed.(10:34) Which is why I said the second one needs to be humility. (10:36) Yes. (10:37) It was a big breakthrough for me when I realized that if you have level 10 self-belief in one direction, you have to have level 10 humility in the other direction.(10:44) Otherwise it will be reckless. (10:46) And I think Emilia and I, we've talked about our childhoods and we were both very reckless. (10:51) Like when you have a lot of confidence when you're young, you do very reckless things.(10:56) Sounds like you were fairly reckless too. (10:57) I don't know if you had the self-belief or not.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:59) Brother, I'm telling you right now, it wasn't my idea. (11:03) I'm telling you right now, that wasn't my idea.

Alan Lazaros

(11:06) All good.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:07) I wasn't some young Casanova. (11:09) Yeah. (11:10) That was not my idea.(11:11) Yeah, no.

Alan Lazaros

(11:13) Bringing this back to the core of this, self-belief, you can build it. (11:16) Self-efficacy, you can build it. (11:18) Emilia and I, Kevin and I, and Emilia and I, because self-efficacy and she's the one who taught us that self-belief and self-worth are two different things.(11:25) Big L for us at the time. (11:27) Six years ago, coming up on seven years ago, she's like, you know, self-belief and self-worth are different, right? (11:31) And I was like, no, no, same, same, same, same, same, not even close to the same.(11:37) Actually they're, they are close. (11:39) One of them's inner, one of them's outer. (11:40) They're close.(11:41) They're close. (11:41) Now here's the thing I want to warn everybody. (11:44) I know we got to go.(11:45) If someone has inflated self-worth, it will appear from the outside in as self-belief. (11:50) We have eight minutes just before. (11:52) Oh, yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:53) It's already messaged. (11:54) I already, I already took care of it. (11:55) Nice job.

Alan Lazaros

(11:56) Way to lead, man. (11:58) I hate, it's funny. (12:00) I hate when people are waiting on me and I know what you're thinking.(12:03) It's like, well, then why don't you be on time? (12:07) I'm glad that they're not waiting. (12:08) Thank you for messaging them.(12:09) At least letting them know, got to communicate. (12:10) Okay. (12:11) So if someone has inflated self-worth, they think they are the bee's knees, it will appear like self-belief from the outside in.(12:23) That's point one. (12:25) Point number two is there are some people who believe in themselves a lot, but you wouldn't know it because they have low self-worth and they dial way down around other people. (12:36) But behind the scenes, they're, they're definitely a beast.(12:40) And so what you want to do, just focusing on self-belief here is build it. (12:45) And so there's state-proof self-assigned that we teach in group coaching. (12:49) State-proof self-assigned state.(12:51) It has to be premeditated. (12:53) Kevin and I were in a law class together in high school, sophomore year. (12:57) We were 15 years old.(12:58) Apparently he was making out with people in long before that. (13:02) I'm joking. (13:03) You were on the jury.(13:05) You want to do this right now? (13:07) You convicted my client of first degree murder. (13:11) First degree.(13:12) First of all, they were driving drunk. (13:15) No, they weren't. (13:16) Oh no, no.(13:17) They did drugs. (13:18) They even worse. (13:20) She, she did drugs while pregnant and the baby was killed and you convicted her of first degree murder.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:26) Now, first of all, what a good lawyer would do that you probably didn't. (13:31) First of all, don't show up in a fucking suit. (13:33) Like what are we doing?(13:34) You know, you don't have to. (13:35) You don't have to show up in the show suits. (13:38) I do now, but at the time you had to know, you don't, that's not how your audience and nobody explained the difference between first, second and third degree murder.(13:46) That's a huge L I'm pretty sure we did.

Alan Lazaros

(13:49) That was my opening argument. (13:51) Now I don't know if it was first degree murder is premeditated. (13:54) It means you planned it.(13:55) Okay. (13:56) Yes. (13:56) Now I'm not talking about murder right now.(13:59) What I'm talking about is you have to have premeditated goals, AKA state what you're going to do before you do it in order to build belief. (14:09) So if you stumble upon success, it's very hard to build belief.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:15) Can I say something real quick? (14:16) Of course. (14:17) I said this in group coaching.(14:18) I am hesitant to say it here. (14:20) If you want to villainize me, do it. (14:21) I'm not saying it from a negative thing, a law of attraction.(14:25) It's not gonna help you build self-belief.

Alan Lazaros

(14:28) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:28) Praying to whoever it is you pray to, I don't care. (14:30) That's not what this is about. (14:31) That's not going to help you build self-belief.(14:33) Agreed. (14:34) If somebody else does it for you, it's not going to build self-belief.

Alan Lazaros

(14:38) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:38) That's always self-belief. (14:40) That's always been my big gripe with, especially the law of attraction, but law of attraction, religion, it might build belief, but it's not going to build self-belief. (14:49) Yeah, but it's not.(14:51) Yeah. (14:51) Yeah. (14:52) It's not going to, it's not going to affect the way that you do the thing next time.(14:56) It's going to affect the way that you call on the law of attraction or whatever it is you believe in. (14:59) Because I love it. (15:00) Because if you assign something happening, oh man, this is fucking, this is not, this is a rabbit hole.(15:07) I don't let go and let God, like again, you do you. (15:12) I don't know about all that. (15:14) That's not the jam for me.

Alan Lazaros

(15:16) It's so funny when you do this, I love it.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:17) That's not the jam for me. (15:18) Anytime I've let go, it has gone horribly wrong. (15:22) Yeah.(15:22) You know, like Jesus take the wheel is a song, not a strategy. (15:27) That's a lyric in a song, not a strategy. (15:28) You got to be very careful with this shit.(15:30) And the law of attraction is a whole nother thing where it's like, well, you know, I just thought about it and cool. (15:37) I don't care if you're the best in the world of the law of attraction. (15:40) Amazing.(15:40) You don't believe in yourself. (15:41) You believe in the law of attraction.

Alan Lazaros

(15:43) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:43) You don't believe in you.

Alan Lazaros

(15:45) And okay. (15:46) Okay. (15:47) We're going to, I know we keep talking about Michael Phelps.(15:49) You can't law of attraction your way to a gold medal. (15:53) That's, I just need to use this as an example. (15:55) No one ever got to an Olympic gold medal without self-belief self.(16:04) Like, you know what I mean? (16:06) Whereas, you know, if some, okay. (16:08) It would be very easy for Kev just got Kev's about to get another $2,000 per month client.(16:13) Awesome. (16:13) I'm excited. (16:14) Fuck.(16:14) Yeah. (16:14) Go us. (16:15) Okay.(16:15) Great work. (16:16) Now you can assign that accurately, or you can assign it inaccurately. (16:21) I'm going to give you the inaccurate assignment.(16:24) It's because the universe or whatever you believe in wants you to be successful because you've been thinking really positive thoughts. (16:31) That's not accurate. (16:32) It's not true.(16:33) No. (16:34) Can you give the accurate story?

Kevin Palmieri

(16:36) You've been coaching someone for four years. (16:38) I've coached this person for four years and every other person they've worked with has essentially done them wrong. (16:44) And I'm like one of the only people she trusts at this point.

Alan Lazaros

(16:49) And we happen to have a product, a service, not a product, a service that she needs and wants that we are willing to do better for just as much money or if not less. (17:00) That's the real reason. (17:02) It's not the universe.(17:04) So at the end of the day, I'm not saying, trust me, I believe in something greater than myself. (17:08) Do not villainize us for this. (17:10) I do.(17:11) Okay. (17:11) I am spiritually connected. (17:13) I am someone who believes in the universe and I believe in doing my fucking part.(17:21) Okay. (17:21) And this is about self-belief, not global beliefs. (17:24) Global beliefs are, I believe that I can succeed in the current global economy.(17:32) That's a global belief. (17:33) A self-belief is I believe in my ability to figure out how to succeed in Massachusetts in 2026. (17:41) Okay.(17:41) That's more of a grounded belief. (17:43) So if you want to build self-belief, it's state, prove, self-assign, state what you're going to do in advance of doing it premeditated. (17:50) Go do it.(17:51) Prove to yourself that you can do it. (17:53) It has to be an output, not an input. (17:54) That part we should explain in a second.(17:56) And then you have self-assign it once you do. (17:58) So Kev decided in advance to get a new client. (18:02) Once she had told you about that opportunity, then you said the words that you knew would get the trust and whatever, make the sale.(18:11) And now you're going to go do the work and get the money. (18:14) And you're going to self-assign it once you do, hopefully of like, Hey, I did that. (18:18) Now, hopefully you don't self-assign all of it since it's obviously a team effort with 25 team members.(18:25) 98%. (18:25) 98% Kev. (18:27) That's also how you become delusional.(18:29) But the truth is, is like, it's very hard to accurately assign. (18:34) Like, if you grow up in a bad environment and you're abused, are you worthless? (18:41) No, no, that's a bad fucking assignment.(18:45) That's not accurate. (18:47) If you were born into a wonderful circumstance with where your parents are wealthy, are you better than other people? (18:53) Also, no, you didn't do anything.(18:55) You haven't done anything yet. (18:57) Right? (18:58) Yeah.(18:58) But that also, so accuracy, we, it gets, you just need accuracy and you need to self-assign in advance. (19:06) That's, that's all I want to say. (19:08) Inputs, outputs.(19:08) Inputs and outputs. (19:09) Yeah. (19:10) I kind of want your take on this.(19:14) Cause and effect. (19:17) Okay. (19:18) The effect is what people want.(19:22) So the effect is money into our business bank account. (19:26) The cause is your hard work over the last four years in tandem with the team.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:31) I like the mother root thing you said the other day. (19:33) That doesn't have to be the mother root, but like it's the, this is the leaf. (19:36) This is the leaf you see at the end of the tree.(19:38) What's the root that brought this leaf here? (19:39) That. (19:40) Perfect.

Alan Lazaros

(19:40) And how far back can you take it? (19:43) Dude, that's the best. (19:44) You can take it back to a conversation you and I had nine years ago.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:47) Right? (19:48) So, I think that's one of the best ways to build self-belief because you can look back and say like, Oh yeah, we said we were going to, this was like the goal. (19:56) Like we said, we're going to do this, but there's something about, I had a conversation with somebody recently or you're, if you're listening much love, appreciate you.(20:02) You're the best where we were, we were having a heated, not heated, but like a nice little debate. (20:08) Love it. (20:08) And we were talking about business and they're like, I've learned a lot about business recently.(20:12) And I was like, respectfully, respectfully, there's something about doing it that builds the, you have the theory. (20:19) Yeah. (20:19) You have, you have some experience too, but, but I definitely have more experience in that.(20:24) I understand how much belief I've built by saying I was going to do this and then doing it and then be like, well, I could, if I can do that, can I do this? (20:30) And then doing that and getting to the place where you're doing that more often when you get to the place where it's like, Oh, I remember why I didn't even think I could do this. (20:37) Now I don't even think about it before I do it.

Alan Lazaros

(20:39) At one point you didn't believe you could get $1,000 a month client. (20:45) No, that was life-changing. (20:46) Yeah, exactly.(20:47) Life-changing. (20:47) And at one point you didn't believe that was even doable. (20:50) And now you do that regularly, right?(20:54) It's pretty cool. (20:55) And that's what's possible with now there's also massive pain and failure for the last seven years, right? (21:01) But, or nine years technically.(21:03) But like you can build it. (21:05) That's that if nothing else lands, you need to build it. (21:09) Actually, if you want to be successful, you need to build self-belief and you have to do it intentionally.(21:15) I was doing this when I was a kid without knowing, I was doing it. (21:18) I decided to get good at halo. (21:20) And then I did, I decided to get good at Starcraft.(21:22) And then I did, I decided to get straight A's. (21:24) And then I did, I decided to go to WPI. (21:25) And then I did like, I was always everything I ever did, not everything, but most things I ever did were premeditated.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:36) Most of the things I did were not. (21:38) And that's why I didn't build belief, even though I was good at stuff, even though I was jacked or good at baseball, whatever, right? (21:44) I didn't build, I didn't build beliefs.(21:46) I didn't say I was going to get good at those things and do them. (21:49) Getting lucky is not a good strategy. (21:52) No, it's not.(21:54) Two things. (21:55) Cool. (21:55) Last thing we'll get out of here.(21:56) You go, you go talk to somebody who has $10,000 in their bank account, but knows a ton about money or somebody who just won the lottery. (22:05) Who do you think knows more about money and believes in their ability to make money more? (22:09) The person with $10,000 doesn't matter about how much they have.(22:12) It matters about how it got there in the first place. (22:13) And, and the influence that they, they played in order to get that result. (22:18) Great metaphor.(22:19) I am on with the metaphors. (22:21) I stepped off the gas for a bit with the metaphors because of the blood gulch got me, the blood gulch got me. (22:28) Now I'm back, baby.(22:29) Don't hit on blood gulch, man. (22:31) Best map in the game. (22:33) Was it the one red versus blue?(22:35) The best. (22:36) Was it like big open field? (22:39) Ah, yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(22:39) And it was very orange.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:40) Very orange. (22:41) That's not the one I remember.

Alan Lazaros

(22:43) I'll have to look it up after this. (22:44) Okay. (22:45) All right.(22:45) The blood gulch for the Halo fans. (22:47) Everyone who's a Halo fan will know. (22:48) You're not a true Halo fan if you don't know the blood gulch.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:50) Evidently I'm not. (22:51) Grand Theft Auto 6 is coming out. (22:55) I ain't got nothing for you.(22:56) People have been waiting a long time for this. (22:58) Okay. (22:58) It's going to be the biggest video game of all time.(23:00) I don't doubt that. (23:00) Cost a billion dollars to make or something crazy. (23:03) What?(23:03) Yeah, yeah. (23:04) It's, dude, some next level, next level stuff. (23:07) I'm not going to play it because I don't have the right system and I'm not going to buy it, but like, it's pretty cool to think about, you know?(23:13) All right. (23:13) If you want to build self-belief, one of the best ways is to have a coach holding you accountable saying, hey, state this, prove to yourself that you can do it and then make sure you fucking accurately self-assign it. (23:20) Alan can help you with that.(23:21) And I think one of the best ways to build self-belief is to do it through fitness. (23:25) If you say you're going to do something, you say you're going to wake up and go exercise, you say you're going to do the 10 pound in 10 week challenge. (23:30) Honestly, you want to know what builds self-belief, doing the behavior, even if you don't get the reward.(23:36) Genuinely, if you say you're going to do the 10 pound in 10 week challenge and you don't actually do the 10 pounds in the 10 weeks, but you do exercise and you track your weight, you're going to build belief. (23:44) Maybe not as much as if you accomplished the goal, but way more than you would if you didn't do it in the first place. (23:49) Nice.(23:49) 10 pounds in 10 weeks. (23:50) Next level fitness accountability group, reach out to Alan and or myself. (23:53) As always, we love you.(23:53) Appreciate you. (23:54) Grateful for each and every one of you. (23:55) If you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we'll be here every single day to help you get there.(24:00) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential. (24:04) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (24:08) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(24:10) We mean it when we say family. (24:12) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (24:16) Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.

Kevin Palmieri

(24:19) Thank you again, and we will talk to you tomorrow.