How Being in a Tribe Helps You Believe in Yourself (2489)

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Growth gets louder in the right room. In today’s episode, Kevin and Alan dig into how the people around you can either strengthen your self-belief or quietly weaken it. They discuss self-efficacy, identity, and why it can be hard to step into a room before you feel fully ready.

Drawing from their experiences in high-performance communities, coaching clients, and building the Next Level community, Kevin and Alan explain what a healthy tribe looks like. It has clear standards, honest feedback, support, and accountability. They also talk about character, the importance of words matching actions, and why real growth becomes clearer over time.

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Show notes:
(2:37) Self-belief and self-efficacy explained
(6:20) How a healthy community builds confidence
(9:30) The risk of believing you are not ready
(12:14) Building the tribe you could not find
(14:26) Character, core values, and leading by example
(20:01) What should happen as you get closer to someone
(23:19) Outro

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Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) I did a video for social media with the cats today, and in this video I was talking about how you have to find the right amount of necessity. (0:07) There's some people that want to do something, they want to get into a group hypothetically, they want to get into a coaching program, whatever it is, and they convince themselves I'm not ready to be there yet. (0:17) It's like, well, the problem is you are ready to be there because being there will actually (0:23) help you be ready to be there at the next level, and it's this weird position where (0:28) you don't understand how much it matters to have people around you lifting you up, (0:32) and it helps you believe in yourself so much more, but in the beginning you have to believe (0:36) in yourself enough to get into the fucking group, which is this whole thing, my bad.

Alan Lazaros

(0:41) I have a client who I really appreciated this honesty, which we're going to do an episode about tomorrow, but she said, I'm not next level enough for that group, and I said, yeah, but what if being in that group would make you more next level?

Kevin Palmieri

(0:59) Welcome to Next Level University. (1:01) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (1:03) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazaros.(1:06) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven but no-BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(1:13) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:19) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

(1:35) Self-improvement, in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free. (1:42) Welcome to Next Level University.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:47) Next Level Nation, today for episode number 2489, How Being in a Tribe Helps You Believe in Yourself. (1:55) That is the struggle with this, is like... (1:58) Being in the right tribe.(1:59) Being in the right tribe. (2:00) Because the wrong tribe will make you not believe in yourself at all. (2:03) Yeah, you won't believe in yourself at all.(2:04) That is the challenge, is like, you have to find the sweet spot of, I called it the necessity sweet spot. (2:10) It has to be, there has to be a good amount of pressure, it has to be a constructive amount of pressure. (2:14) The problem is, you don't really know how much pressure it is until you test it.(2:18) And then, and I think if you're somebody who struggles with self-belief, we're going to talk about self-belief and self-efficacy, if you're somebody that struggles with that, you're obviously going to undershoot and say, well, I don't belong in this group, almost no matter what. (2:33) And I think that's just kind of the, that's the trap that we're talking about.

Alan Lazaros

(2:37) So I sent Kev this two days ago. (2:41) Self-efficacy is the fancy word for self-belief and there is no more important attribute for success than self-belief. (2:50) I know a couple episodes ago, I said something, I said, if I had to pick only one thing, it would be time management, how constructively you use your time.(2:59) That was in the context of that episode. (3:02) If I were to bet on someone's success, not just in, I like health, wealth, and love, health, wealth, and love, fitness, finance, family. (3:10) If I was to bet on someone's success in life, healthy, wealthy, and in love, I would look at self-belief first.(3:19) And the fancy word for self-belief is self-efficacy. (3:22) So let me pull this up. (3:23) I sent this screenshot to you.(3:25) You did self-efficacy, I'm yelling. (3:30) Self-efficacy is the belief that you can successfully perform the specific actions required to achieve a particular goal or complete a specific task. (3:39) In simpler terms, self-efficacy is your belief in your ability to succeed at a specific challenge.(3:44) So if you don't believe you can succeed, you're not going to try, which means you're not going to get any results, which means you're not going to believe in yourself. (3:56) And you need to talk about this more than me because when I was a kid, I just had this.

Kevin Palmieri

(4:03) So the thing that jumped off the page with the screenshot you sent me is the difference between... (4:07) So self-belief is an overarching belief in oneself. (4:10) Self-efficacy, from what I remember, was like a very specific arena.

Alan Lazaros

(4:15) Okay.

Kevin Palmieri

(4:16) Is that... (4:17) Say that again? (4:18) Wait, what?(4:18) Self-belief is overarching. (4:20) I believe in myself. (4:21) Self-efficacy is I believe in my ability in this unique arena.

Alan Lazaros

(4:25) So I would rather do this. (4:28) Sorry. (4:29) So self-belief and self-efficacy, let's consider them synonyms, but one of them is micro and one of them is macro.(4:36) Which one's macro? (4:37) Belief? (4:39) No, no, no.(4:39) They're both, both. (4:41) Yeah. (4:41) I communicated poorly.(4:43) We're doing great so far. (4:44) I have a ton of belief in myself right now and the ability to communicate this. (4:47) Okay.(4:47) Self-efficacy and self-belief are synonyms. (4:49) They're the exact same. (4:51) They're just a different label for the same thing in this context.(4:55) Okay. (4:55) And I really do believe that's true. (4:58) Self-efficacy, there's micro self-efficacy and then there's macro self-efficacy.(5:03) Micro self-efficacy is I believe in my ability to communicate this effectively on this podcast. (5:09) Macro self-efficacy is I believe in my ability to change the world. (5:13) Those are extreme.(5:14) Both of those are extreme. (5:15) One of them is extremely micro, which is the now in this small container. (5:19) The other one is I believe in myself like globally, or I don't know a better way to put that.

Kevin Palmieri

(5:24) Yeah, yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(5:24) And so self-belief is both micro and macro. (5:32) You believe in your ability in baseball, that's sort of micro. (5:36) You believe your ability in sports, that's a little more macro.(5:39) You believe in your ability in sports and career and changing the world, that's more and more and more macro. (5:46) Does macro and micro not land?

Kevin Palmieri

(5:48) No, it's not that. (5:48) It's the fact that in the screenshot you sent me, I was very much going off of the overarching self-belief and then the very specific arena, self-efficacy. (5:58) That's macro and micro.(6:00) But you're saying... (6:01) Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(6:02) Yeah, yeah, yeah. (6:03) You're saying it's the same thing. (6:05) Yeah, both have both.(6:07) And I think it's better for you and I to consider self-belief and self-efficacy the exact same way.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:13) Okay, so they are. (6:13) They are. (6:14) Why?(6:14) Okay, how being in the right tribe helps you believe in yourself more. (6:18) How? (6:19) Why?

Alan Lazaros

(6:20) Well, people in the right tribe will believe in you. (6:24) They'll see your potential for sure, at least a little bit.

Kevin Palmieri

(6:28) Well, they'll celebrate you.

Alan Lazaros

(6:29) Yeah, yeah. (6:29) They won't... (6:31) They might lovingly challenge you.(6:35) And the way that I see it is if they do really see your potential and they aren't insecure about it, I think they will want to see you succeed. (6:50) I think they'll want to see you succeed. (6:52) I think the right tribe will always want to see you succeed.(6:55) And I think that they'll pour into that.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:00) Isn't it interesting how the right tribe is usually the people who have not found the right tribe yet? (7:07) And when they finally like get into a tribe that they wish they had, they don't... (7:12) There is something about the community aspect of a positive tribe where nobody wants to fuck up the positivity.

Alan Lazaros

(7:17) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(7:18) There's something... (7:19) Like the Next Level Fitness Accountability Group, it's the most positive. (7:24) There's no shit.(7:25) There's no negativity. (7:26) There's none. (7:27) It's never happened once and it will never happen.

Alan Lazaros

(7:31) I think it has come close, but we're on it. (7:35) Well, that's the thing. (7:38) But that's what a tribe is.(7:40) I think there's leaders that make sure the core values are honored. (7:50) Yeah. (7:52) Which helps you believe in yourself.(7:54) Exactly. (7:54) It provides the safe space to make mistakes, to grow, to be vulnerable, and to be great too. (8:04) You know?(8:05) It's like there's no... (8:06) The only thing off limits is being full of shit and being disrespectful, basically. (8:13) And I never said this out loud before because I don't know if I really realized how much of a thing this is.(8:18) But if you took bullies away, all bullies out of the world, how fucking awesome would that be? (8:28) That would be like... (8:30) I think everybody would be more successful.(8:34) For sure. (8:37) Like significantly more successful. (8:40) And that doesn't mean no one challenges you.(8:43) I think that's important to understand because I've walked the line of being a bully at times as a coach. (8:51) Where it's like, no but I'm going to say this because I believe in you and because someone has to. (8:58) And I usually say this.(8:59) I usually say, I don't even want to tell you this. (9:02) I really, really would prefer not to. (9:05) But I believe in you and I know it will help you.(9:09) I believe it will help you. (9:11) And I either be a coward and don't tell you or I actually try to help you level up. (9:16) And so, the right tribe is more important than anything other than self-belief.(9:26) But it also feeds your self-belief.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:30) I don't know if I've ever broken it down to that, like how much... (9:34) It makes sense when you say being around the right people helps you believe in yourself more. (9:39) That makes sense.(9:39) That's very simple. (9:40) Being around the wrong people is going to be extremely detrimental to your self-belief and your personal development and your success for sure. (9:46) Especially your self-worth as well.(9:48) Especially your self-worth. (9:49) And that's another piece of it too. (9:51) There's something about being in a group of people who have always wanted to be lifted because they are the best people at lifting you.(10:01) That is the thing. (10:05) There's something about that. (10:06) But to your point, it has to cross a chasm where you go from, I don't feel like I belong or I don't feel like I'm ready to how will I ever know if I am.(10:18) If you're not in the tribe, how do you know what it's like to be in the tribe? (10:22) You don't. (10:23) You have no idea.(10:24) And I'm as guilty of that as anybody. (10:25) I don't think I'm ready for this. (10:28) I've always felt that.(10:30) I don't think I'm ready for this. (10:31) I don't think I'm ready for that. (10:32) And it's usually just...(10:35) Sometimes you just gotta leap. (10:37) You can always leave. (10:38) You don't have to stay in the tribe.(10:38) You can always leave.

Alan Lazaros

(10:41) Again, easier said than done. (10:43) No, but that has to be the priority is you have to take the risk. (10:47) Like you didn't want to go to Brennan Burchard.(10:51) And I luckily was persistent. (10:54) And then you did. (10:55) And it was like, holy shit.(10:57) And that was just another level of support that you'd never felt or experienced before where it was like cool to be into personal development. (11:08) High Performance Forum is what it was called. (11:10) I didn't like Influencer as much.(11:11) I thought High Performance Forum was awesome. (11:13) High Performance Academy. (11:14) Ah, that.(11:15) Yes, sir. (11:15) Sorry. (11:16) I know you like accuracy.(11:17) Yeah. (11:17) High Performance Academy. (11:18) But I liked that way better than Influencer.(11:21) Same.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:22) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(11:23) Same. (11:24) As a matter of fact, like noticeable difference. (11:27) Looking back.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:30) Again, that is the power of a tribe. (11:32) Exactly. (11:33) What is the difference between...(11:34) And again, if you're an Influencer out there, I'm not talking shit, but what's the difference between High Performance Academy and the Influencer Summit or whatever it was. (11:42) I don't remember what the name of it was. (11:43) Those are very different things.(11:44) It was garbage, huh? (11:46) Influencer sucked. (11:47) I wasn't a big fan of it.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:48) Yeah. (11:48) Influencer sucked.

Alan Lazaros

(11:49) I don't aspire to be an Influencer either. (11:51) I don't... (11:51) I had a big breakthrough.(11:52) I ran out of the event and created our business model, which we're still kind of using today. (11:57) Obviously, it's changed a lot. (11:58) But yeah, that event sucked, man.

Kevin Palmieri

(12:00) What's the best tribe outside of NLU you've ever been in? (12:04) Because I assume it's going to be something within NLU, but...

Alan Lazaros

(12:14) Evolve. (12:16) Yeah, Movie Club is super legit. (12:19) And so is Out of the Mud.(12:21) We're doing a sleep challenge. (12:23) They're doing a sleep challenge. (12:24) I'm in it.(12:26) It's fucking awesome. (12:28) Everybody's sending their sleep scores in there every day. (12:31) It's just awesome.(12:32) Yeah, it's really good. (12:33) And I think that's what's making me think a lot about this too, is like, is that really what everybody wants? (12:40) They just want...(12:41) Because I was born into a tribe that is not at all aligned with who I am. (12:53) Not even a little bit. (12:54) I mean, I don't share any of the core values that I grew up in.(12:58) I don't think any. (13:00) Aim high and you'll have choices. (13:01) That's the only one I can think of that was like, fuck yeah.(13:06) I don't know about you, but that's it. (13:08) I think that's it.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:09) No, not much. (13:11) Be generous is one for sure. (13:13) But it's also, it's like, be generous at the detriment of yourself.

Alan Lazaros

(13:19) Okay. (13:19) I'm in. (13:20) Yeah.(13:21) And I think we created NLU, at least I did probably, because I just wanted a tribe of people that were goal achievers who wanted to make the world a better place.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:35) I feel that.

Alan Lazaros

(13:35) If you can't find it, you create it.

Kevin Palmieri

(13:37) I feel that deeply. (13:38) Before this was a thing, and this was either, this might've even been before the podcast. (13:43) I was like coaching people on Snapchat.(13:46) I have no fucking clue how this happened. (13:48) I have no idea. (13:49) I was not at all credible.(13:51) I had no, it wasn't like, cause I had studied things. (13:53) It was just, there were certain things that made sense to me that I could try to explain to other people and see what happens. (13:59) And when I started doing that, it was like, these people actually value what I'm saying.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:04) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:05) And nobody else fucking cares at all. (14:07) Nobody else cares at all what I have to say. (14:10) But I feel like what I have to say matters a lot for the grant, for the overall improvement of the people I'm saying it to.(14:18) For the people. (14:18) A man of the people, for the people, by the people, of the people, with the people, from the people, through the people. (14:24) You know?(14:24) A hundred percent.

Alan Lazaros

(14:26) If there was a community, we could build a community of people like that. (14:29) Dude, I've got one for you and I, and this is one that pissed me off so much growing up and I think it did, it does. (14:36) Yeah.(14:36) Of course it does for you. (14:37) Whether or not you want to say that is up to you. (14:38) Sure.(14:39) Not leading by example. (14:40) That always fucking bothered me. (14:43) That doesn't bother me as much as it bothers you.(14:45) I don't know. (14:46) It bothers me so much. (14:47) You don't like when people are, um, full of shit though.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:53) For me, it's like, it's way more the character thing.

Alan Lazaros

(14:57) Yeah. (14:57) But go deeper. (15:01) Like, um, you say character as if there's like this, this virtuous character that everyone has in their head.(15:08) You know?

Kevin Palmieri

(15:09) I don't, yeah, I, well, I, for me, I see that. (15:12) I see someone's character. (15:14) When I meet someone, I see it.(15:15) It's like, I know exactly. (15:16) I can fucking tell immediately who you are.

Alan Lazaros

(15:19) Nice.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:20) Go. (15:21) How? (15:24) Jesus.(15:26) If you hear the way somebody talks for long enough, you hear how they talk and how it completely invalidates what they say. (15:38) If you just let somebody talk, again, I watch weird shit at night for R and R. (15:42) I've been watching a lot of police interrogations cause I'm learning about the psychology of presence and the psychology of conversation and hierarchy and all this thing.(15:52) One of the reasons they ask you open-ended questions and they just sit there and let you talk is because you will literally just hang yourself with your own stupidity. (16:00) Like, well, tell me, uh, when's the last time you saw Alan? (16:05) Well, you know, Alan and I, we, yeah, it's weird.(16:08) We went to like a preschool and middle school and like high school and we were business partners for a long time. (16:14) And it's like, you know, I really admire these things about him, but you know, he, you know, this would, it was kind of pissed me off at times. (16:18) And then there was like, oh, and then you go into a 15 minute story and it's like, so when's the last time you saw him?(16:23) You're guilty. (16:24) You're guilty. (16:24) You're most, you're most likely guilty because you would've just said, I did a recording with him yesterday.(16:29) We finished, I think at nine. (16:31) That's it. (16:31) That's all you have to say.(16:33) So when you're around somebody for long enough and you hear them talk and you hear them talk, one of the best ways that I've ever seen, this is one of the best ways. (16:41) You have a two way conversation, me and you, I get, you tell me what your core values are. (16:47) You tell me what you value as a person.(16:49) You tell me what your boundaries are. (16:51) Bring somebody else in who doesn't share any of those and see how much you change. (16:55) That is a fucking dead tell.(16:57) I've seen it. (17:00) I know, but that doesn't land. (17:03) That, you said, how do you know?(17:05) That's how I know. (17:05) I don't know. (17:06) I don't know how other people would know.

Alan Lazaros

(17:08) For me, the way I know is your words, your words and your actions when no one's around don't match, which is leading by example. (17:23) That's why I started there. (17:25) Is that not what leading by example means to you?

Kevin Palmieri

(17:28) Leading by example to me is you do what you tell other people to do in a way like don't preach to me if you're not doing it. (17:36) Yeah, agreed. (17:37) That doesn't piss you off?(17:41) No, because you'll be like, why isn't this fucking world class speaker more fit? (17:46) Because they never said they were going to be. (17:49) Yeah.

Alan Lazaros

(17:49) Well, at least you preach consistency and reaching their potential.

Kevin Palmieri

(17:54) Yeah. (17:55) Yeah. (17:55) I don't know.(17:56) For some reason, potential and physique is not connected. (17:58) I don't know. (17:59) I didn't make the rules up on that.

Alan Lazaros

(18:00) Yeah, yeah. (18:01) Fair. (18:01) But that's not what I mean.(18:02) When I say lead by example, I mean their words and their actions. (18:06) The words they say publicly don't match their actions when no one's around.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:11) I think. (18:12) Okay, that's fair.

Alan Lazaros

(18:12) Yeah, that's fair. (18:13) To me, that's character though. (18:14) Yeah, I know.(18:15) We're just calling it a different thing, but I think it's the same thing.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:18) It's not behavior to me. (18:20) It's fucking character. (18:21) I'm going to do a social media video at some point.(18:23) I'm just nervous to do it on why we got rid of a $150 million mentor. (18:29) I'm going to do it. (18:30) I'm just not ready yet because I'm fucking nervous.(18:33) That. (18:34) Character. (18:35) That was the thing for me.(18:37) Yeah, I know you say you're fit and you don't exercise at all. (18:39) You exercise like five minutes a day. (18:41) Whatever.(18:41) I can fucking see past that. (18:42) Okay. (18:43) That doesn't.(18:44) But you're not a good. (18:45) I don't think you're a good person.

Alan Lazaros

(18:46) That to me. (18:47) But what defines a good person? (18:49) I'm not making it wrong.(18:50) I want to know. (18:51) Because I'm with you. (18:52) But a lot of people don't think I'm a good person.(18:54) It's like, wait a minute. (18:57) What the fuck? (18:59) And again, it's fine.(18:59) I just think we have to define it. (19:02) I'm finally accepting that. (19:03) Like, I don't know if I care anymore.(19:05) Of course I do, but less than ever. (19:07) It's like, I need to know that I'm in alignment with who I aspire to be. (19:12) And there's no way I can get other people.(19:14) Trying to get other people to think I'm a good person is not going to work. (19:18) Because they're going to think I'm full of it. (19:19) Like the interrogator with the police, like you said.(19:22) It's like, well, why are you justifying it if you're so certain?

Kevin Palmieri

(19:26) Because it's an order thing. (19:27) Some people are like, alright, this is who I am behind the scenes. (19:31) I've got to fucking find a way to hide that when I'm in public.(19:34) I don't think you're like that. (19:35) I think if anything, it's like, I want to be more of who I am behind the scenes in public. (19:41) I'm just afraid to because I'm intense.(19:43) Yeah, but I don't think other people can tell that. (19:45) No, I don't think they can either. (19:46) They think it's the other one.(19:47) I think it's a losing game. (19:49) But the point is, if somebody was to hang around with you and get close to you and get behind the scenes with you, it wouldn't break the relationship. (19:55) Yeah, I don't think so.(19:57) I mean, with us and other people, it almost always has.

Alan Lazaros

(20:01) Is it this simple? (20:03) I know we're off self-efficacy, but still, this is about the tribe. (20:06) Is it this simple?(20:07) The closer you get to someone, the more you should admire them?

Kevin Palmieri

(20:11) I think the closer you get to someone, the less distance between who they are and who they say they are should be revealed. (20:18) I don't know if that means you admire them or not.

Alan Lazaros

(20:21) You know what I mean? (20:23) Well, one of the things that I like to use Emilia as an example, she is, unfortunately, one of the only people. (20:32) There are some others that are close, but like, in all of my dating career, from the first date all the way through the second date, third date, being with her, living with her, she's gotten better.(20:48) Like, so much better. (20:51) Because on the surface, she looks amazing. (20:53) That's great.(20:53) And I remember when I first saw her doing real estate and on Instagram, I was like, whoa. (20:59) But it got better. (21:01) Usually, that is not the case in my dating career.(21:03) Normally, it's like, oh my god. (21:06) You're actually really lazy.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:07) She's the same as you. (21:09) She's been looking for the tribe. (21:11) The tribe is very small.(21:12) It's you two. (21:13) That's the tribe right now, right? (21:14) But like, that's what she's wanted her whole life.(21:16) Just like you. (21:16) That's what you've wanted your whole life.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:18) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:19) So like, you can actually be yourself.

Alan Lazaros

(21:21) But most people are the best they'll ever be on the first date. (21:24) Yeah. (21:24) And then it gets worse from there.(21:26) That is not even remotely the case with Emilia. (21:28) But I have someone I dated in the past where it's like, the closer I got, the more I was like, wow. (21:34) You're like, not that great.(21:36) You know? (21:37) And that was so fucking sad. (21:41) And it's like, okay, wow.(21:42) You drink more than I thought. (21:45) You smoke more than I thought. (21:46) You're lazier than I thought.(21:47) You know what I mean? (21:48) Like, to me, I just... (21:49) I think I've been that.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:51) I've been that in relationships.

Alan Lazaros

(21:52) You have?

Kevin Palmieri

(21:52) For sure. (21:53) Yeah, man. (21:54) For sure.(21:55) For sure. (21:56) Turn that around, though. (21:58) Anybody can pretend to be somebody else for 60 days.(22:03) Anybody can. (22:03) Dude, you get a new job. (22:05) You're there early every day.(22:07) You're bringing people coffee. (22:08) Three months later, you're fucking calling out because you're hungover. (22:11) You know?(22:12) I'm telling you, everybody can pretend to be somebody they're not for a few months. (22:16) We both agree on this. (22:18) You should get better over time, not worse.(22:20) Yes. (22:21) And you should get better the closer you get. (22:23) Last thing, and then we gotta hop because we gotta do another episode.(22:27) Evan Carmichael. (22:27) So, one of my clients signed up for something that he does. (22:32) His wife reached out.(22:34) Nina. (22:35) Shout out to Nina. (22:35) Nina's the best.(22:37) Reached out and said, Hey, I saw that you connected us with one of your clients. (22:41) I have a list of things that I think would be helpful for them. (22:44) Do you think they'd be interested?(22:46) Unprompted. (22:47) Took her time to do it. (22:48) Like, still over-delivering.(22:50) Love it. (22:51) The Carmichael team is still fucking the top of the top when it comes to this. (22:55) Like, behind the scenes, they're better.(22:58) They are. (22:58) They're better behind the scenes than you think. (23:00) Which is a big deal because they're pretty good in front of the scenes too.(23:03) It is a very big deal. (23:04) Right? (23:04) So, that's a very big deal.(23:06) Alright. (23:07) Tribe. (23:07) Next level fitness accountability group.(23:09) Tribe. (23:09) Coaching with Alan. (23:10) Tribe.(23:11) All the stuff we have. (23:13) Whether it's book club, whether it's the master class. (23:15) There's a bunch of stuff.(23:15) If you're looking for a tribe, we will be there consistently. (23:18) That is one promise we can make you. (23:20) As always, we love you, appreciate you, grateful for each and every one of you.(23:22) If you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we'll be here every single day to help you get there.

Alan Lazaros

(23:28) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential.

Kevin Palmieri

(23:31) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (23:35) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(23:38) We mean it when we say family. (23:40) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (23:43) Everything you need to get a hold of us is in the show notes.(23:47) Thank you again, and we will talk to you tomorrow.