Your Focus IS Your Responsibility (But Getting Harder By The Day) (2511)

Book Alan’s Business Breakthrough Session. Your first 30-minute coaching call is FREE. Learn how to prioritize success and let your quality of life become the byproduct. - https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-breakthrough-session

Fitness is forever, it's a lifestyle. Join the Next Level Fitness Accountability Group. Reach out to Kevin or Alan on Instagram:
Kevin: https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/
Alan: https://www.instagram.com/alazaros88/

_______________________

What if your focus problem is not a discipline problem at all, but the result of living in a world designed to pull your attention in every direction? In today’s episode, Kevin and Alan discuss why staying focused has become harder and why responsibility still matters. They examine the pull of social media, streaming, spending, food, and other easy distractions that can quietly cost you time, energy, self-respect, and momentum.

Using lessons from their own lives and client work, they explore the value of a time audit, reducing triggers, and creating real accountability. This is an honest conversation about protecting your attention, strengthening your habits, and deciding what truly deserves your time.

Digital Asset:
The Top 10 Distractions Holding You Back - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1FDUSnbitxR4E2G4hlgkpm0T-BZxLVto6/view

_______________________

NLU is more than a podcast. From the Next Level Dreamliner to Group Coaching, we provide tools and communities to help you grow with more clarity, consistency, and accountability.

Visit our website and socials through the links below. 👇

Website: http://www.nextleveluniverse.com

Instagram:
Kevin: https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/
Alan: https://www.instagram.com/alazaros88/

Facebook:
Alan: https://www.facebook.com/alan.lazaros
Kevin: https://www.facebook.com/kevin.palmieri.90/

Email:
Kevin@nextleveluniverse.com
Alan@nextleveluniverse.com

LinkedIn:
Kevin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kevin-palmieri-5b7736160/
Alan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanlazarosllc/

_______________________

Show notes:
(1:50) Why focus is getting harder
(4:24) Stolen Focus and the attention economy
(7:17) Taking ownership of your focus
(10:17) Distractions and time audit
(16:02) Accountability without excuses
(19:24) Remove temptation before it wins
(22:04) Identify your biggest distraction
(23:27) Outro

🎙️ Hosted by Kevin Palmieri and Alan Lazaros

Next Level University is a top-ranked daily podcast for dream chasers and self-improvement lovers. With over 2,100 episodes, we help you level up in life, love, health, and wealth one day at a time. Subscribe for real, honest, no-fluff growth every single day.

Transcript

Kevin Palmieri

(0:00) I do believe that most of the things in your life are your responsibility. (0:06) If you want to make more money, you have to become responsible enough to do the work and learn the stuff. (0:11) You got to take back your focus, all of that stuff.(0:13) I completely agree. (0:14) And I think we can also have a conversation around how the odds and the cards are stacked against us in many of the things we're trying to get better at.

Alan Lazaros

(0:23) Responsibility is your ability to respond. (0:26) And I do believe you have to take 100% responsibility for your own future, your own life, your own family. (0:33) And the duality there is, to Kevin's point, there are things completely and utterly outside of your control.

Kevin Palmieri

(0:41) Welcome to Next Level University. (0:43) I'm your host, Kevin Palmieri. (0:45) And I'm your co-host, Alan Lazaros.(0:48) At NLU, we believe in a heart-driven, but no-BS approach to holistic self-improvement for dream chasers.

Alan Lazaros

(0:55) Our goal with every episode is to help you level up your life, love, health, and wealth.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:02) We bring you a new episode every single day on topics like confidence, self-belief, self-worth, self-awareness, relationships, boundaries, consistency, habits, and defining your own unique version of success.

Alan Lazaros

(1:17) Self-improvement in your pocket, every day, from anywhere, completely free. (1:24) Welcome to Next Level University.

Kevin Palmieri

(1:29) Next Level Nation, today for episode number 2,511. (1:34) That was a weird number that got me. (1:36) Your focus is your responsibility, but getting harder by the day.(1:41) This is what I was thinking. (1:42) It's going to be a weird story, weird analogy to start the podcast. (1:45) I might call out a lot of people.(1:46) If you feel called out by it, it's a good opportunity to make some adjustments. (1:50) In 1970, how many men do you think were addicted to porn? (1:58) Very few.(1:59) In 2026, how many men do you think are addicted to porn? (2:03) An alarming amount. (2:05) In 1970, you didn't have to be as responsible to avoid it, to say no to it, now because it wasn't out there as much.

Alan Lazaros

(2:13) Brother, I think that I want to tell this story because it's so indicative of what has happened.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:19) Please.

Alan Lazaros

(2:21) I told you this. (2:22) Kiki and I are riding our bike home from McDonald's. (2:24) Found a porno on the side of the road.(2:26) Porn mag in the woods.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:27) Yeah, same.

Alan Lazaros

(2:28) Of course. (2:28) Okay, okay.

Kevin Palmieri

(2:29) For some reason, that's why they were just always in the woods.

Alan Lazaros

(2:32) First time I'd ever seen the naked female form except for Titanic. (2:39) We hid it in a stump in the backyard of my house. (2:45) The neighbor's dog found said magazine, ripped it up, and put it all over the goddamn lawn, and we got in so much trouble.(2:54) We got in a lot of trouble. (2:57) But now... (2:59) I know, it's funny, right?(3:01) At the end of the day, brother, that's what we had to go through to see the naked female form. (3:08) I have a great story. (3:10) Okay.(3:10) You've heard the story. (3:11) It's going to be a weird story time, right?

Kevin Palmieri

(3:13) Yeah, real quick, but again... (3:16) The point will land. (3:17) The point will land.(3:17) It speaks to this. (3:19) 15-year-old baseball tournament, okay? (3:21) My buddy and I, my buddy's 14 at the time, I'm 15.(3:24) We come in second place. (3:27) His dad comes in with a six-pack of bud-heavy tall boys, 15 years old, and the newest Girls Gone Wild DVD. (3:39) What do you think?(3:40) I grew up in very interesting times. (3:43) And then my buddy snapped the disc trying to get it out, and then we fist fought almost. (3:48) I think I have to beat you now.(3:50) The only reason I wanted to use that example is because now you have to be more responsible than ever. (3:56) You have to be more committed than ever. (3:59) You have to go above and beyond.(4:01) If you go on Instagram or you go on TikTok, you're going to see something that's like, I don't know, come click over here, and then who knows what's going to happen. (4:10) It's just harder than it's ever been. (4:12) That does not mean that we should cop out and say, well, it's harder than it's ever been, so I can't stop.(4:18) I'm not saying that. (4:19) I'm just saying we have to be more responsible. (4:22) You know how easy it is to spend money?(4:24) Dude, I talked about that recently. (4:26) You remember eBay?

Alan Lazaros

(4:28) Yeah, man.

Kevin Palmieri

(4:29) You remember when we first got access to eBay? (4:31) You know how much of a pain in the ass it was to buy something? (4:33) You had to wait three weeks to get paid?

Alan Lazaros

(4:34) It was nearly impossible. (4:35) 50 bucks to do. (4:36) It's not even worth it.(4:37) It's so different. (4:38) The resistance was not even worth it. (4:39) It's so different now.(4:40) Dude, I think that, and this is what I hope lands, the reason we're doing this episode is because of the book by Johan Hari. (4:51) I told Kev, I want to do important things. (4:53) It doesn't have to, I don't have to like it.(4:55) I don't even like this topic. (4:56) I kind of like the focus part we're going to get to. (4:58) I don't like it so far.(5:00) I need to know it's important. (5:02) I told Emilia the same thing with the Conscious Couples podcast. (5:04) I said, I'll talk about this if I believe it's important.(5:07) I want to get back to what I, 11 years ago, I decided what you'll never learn in school, but desperately need to know. (5:13) I think you desperately need to know this. (5:15) You need to understand this.(5:16) You need to get this. (5:17) And the book Johan Hari wrote, published in 2022, is called Stolen Focus. (5:24) Why you can't pay attention and how to think deeply again.(5:28) And your wife, Taryn, recommend Johan Hari way back. (5:32) So I recognize the name. (5:35) And this book's excellent.(5:37) It's excellent. (5:38) So far, I haven't read the whole thing. (5:39) I'm only on chapter two.(5:40) Okay. (5:41) But so far I can tell, read a lot of books. (5:43) This is, this is good shit.(5:45) This is good shit. (5:46) And the topic is the most important topic, maybe ever of all time, because he goes through the systemic issue of the amount of information we're all drowning in compared to the past. (5:59) Remember back in the day when you'd go to the drive-in and there'd be two movies and I remember I saw Signs.(6:06) You ever see Signs with Mel Gibson? (6:10) We were next to the woods as kids watching that movie. (6:14) It was freaky, man.(6:16) But the point is, is you couldn't watch TV on your phone. (6:20) There was no Netflix. (6:22) You had to like make a night of it to go see a film.(6:26) Blockbuster, you used to have to go rent the movie. (6:30) It might not be there. (6:31) And even if it is there, it's certainly not rewinded in VHS.(6:35) And it's a whole, you have to make a night of it just to get your dopamine. (6:39) Now it's click, click, click. (6:41) It's called three-click satisfaction.(6:42) Steve Jobs invented it. (6:44) I did a UI interface. (6:46) It's like UX, UI database back in computer engineering.(6:49) And I did a whole thesis research on three-click satisfaction. (6:55) So every user interface, every app has what's called three-click satisfaction. (7:00) If you can't open the app and get what you want within three clicks, you will not succeed at an app.(7:06) That's basically the new standard. (7:08) And Steve Jobs started that with iPhone and the Apple renaissance, if that's what you want to call it. (7:13) Okay, back to the point of this.(7:17) In the opening of this episode, we talked about how you have to take responsibility for your own focus. (7:24) No one else can detox your brain. (7:28) No one else can keep the nonsense off your phone.(7:31) Emilia and I call this digital monogamy. (7:34) We have decided in advance to be digitally monogamous. (7:39) No pornography, none of that.(7:41) You and I created an episode probably three or four weeks ago with a digital asset of all the top 10 distractions. (7:49) You remember that? (7:50) Yes.(7:51) I'm going to try to pull that up. (7:53) These things are destroying your life. (7:56) Health, wealth, and love, these are the antithesis of health, wealth, and love.(7:59) Let me pull it up.

Kevin Palmieri

(8:00) While you find that, not only can nobody else keep your focus for you, people are inherently actively trying to take more of it. (8:12) Yes. (8:12) So it's not even that people aren't going to help you with this.(8:15) They actually need more of it. (8:16) Yeah, it is getting worse. (8:18) Yeah.(8:18) And it's going to get worse probably forever. (8:22) Yep. (8:22) I don't anticipate somebody waking up one day and be like, you know what?(8:25) We have enough of the focus. (8:27) We're good.

Alan Lazaros

(8:30) Dude, we're starting to sound like old men here, and I know that. (8:32) I actually think it's fine and kind of funny. (8:37) In the opening of this book, he's our age.(8:40) He's a little older than us, a little older. (8:42) I think he's like 42, something like that. (8:44) Okay.(8:45) Don't quote me on that. (8:47) But he went and tried to buy a phone. (8:49) So he went to Providencetown for three months with no internet and no smartphone.(8:55) And he had to buy a phone that they only sell to old people that are basically troglodytes. (9:03) And I think they sell it to the Amish, but they sell it where it can access the internet. (9:09) But it can, if you fall down, it'll recognize it and like call 911.(9:14) Is it the cricket phone? (9:14) Yeah, maybe. (9:15) Something like that.(9:16) Something like that. (9:17) And he basically has to force, in order to write this book, he did three months without any internet. (9:28) And all he basically did was get a phone that we used to have.(9:35) Like that's the phone we had. (9:37) You know, my first cell phone was a flip phone and there was no internet on it. (9:40) I had internet on mine.(9:42) Oh, okay.

Kevin Palmieri

(9:42) I had a phone without internet. (9:44) You couldn't do anything. (9:45) You remember Snake?(9:47) Play Snake? (9:47) Yeah, yeah, yeah. (9:48) But you had internet, but it was like nothing for anybody who didn't live around this time.(9:53) Like this is going to sound batshit crazy. (9:55) It wasn't formatted for the phone. (9:57) So it was just like a, it was like a laptop on your phone and nothing fit right.(10:01) And it didn't scroll.

Alan Lazaros

(10:02) That was the worst.

Kevin Palmieri

(10:02) You couldn't click on anything. (10:03) It was terrible.

Alan Lazaros

(10:04) It was a terrible experience. (10:06) So these are the 10 things that will destroy your life. (10:08) I'm just going to call it that.(10:09) And this is actually a list that Kevin and I created. (10:13) Mostly me. (10:14) But Kevin and I co-created.(10:16) And this is not from the book. (10:17) Okay. (10:17) The top 10 distractions holding you back.(10:19) The top 10 next level distractions that will destroy your life. (10:22) All right, here we go. (10:22) Number one, video games.(10:23) Number two, gambling. (10:25) Number three, pornography. (10:26) Number four, shopping.(10:27) Number five, social media. (10:29) Number six, TV. (10:30) Number seven, nicotine.(10:32) Number eight, THC. (10:33) Number nine, alcohol. (10:34) Number 10, food.(10:35) These are the addictions. (10:37) These are the addictions. (10:38) Now, he talks about obesity.(10:41) He said, yes, there is some truth to obesity being an individual problem. (10:49) We all need to learn how to eat less and exercise more, of course. (10:52) However, if you look at the 1970s or 1980s, there were almost no obese people.(10:59) So it obviously isn't just individual problems. (11:02) This is obviously a systemic issue. (11:04) And he uses that as a metaphor for what is happening to our attention.(11:09) He said people are distracted every three minutes on average, and we're multitasking constantly. (11:16) I spend the majority of my days trying really hard to protect my focus. (11:22) And where did I want to go with this next?(11:27) Oh, I want to read something quickly. (11:29) This is obviously a topic I'm super passionate about. (11:31) So did you, by any chance, hear the thing I posted about Rafaela, my client?(11:37) I didn't hear the full thing. (11:39) Did you read it?

Kevin Palmieri

(11:42) I don't know.

Alan Lazaros

(11:43) I don't know. (11:44) I appreciate it.

Kevin Palmieri

(11:44) I read some of it, but I didn't listen to the whole thing. (11:48) That I'm certain of.

Alan Lazaros

(11:49) Regardless of, this is one of the most important posts I've ever done, in my opinion. (11:52) I'll go quick with it. (11:53) My one-on-one client, Rafaela, she basically audioed me saying, thank you so much for me doing a time audit.(12:00) I have way more time than I thought. (12:02) It's awesome. (12:03) So that was an audio.(12:04) You can go to my social media and Instagram and or Facebook and you can hear her words of it. (12:10) And she gave me permission to share it. (12:12) My one-on-one client, Rafaela, gave me permission to share this private exchange between us in WhatsApp and on the podcast, apparently.(12:18) At Next Level University, at Never Quit Kid, and I have done time audits for years. (12:23) How many times have you told yourself, I just don't have the time? (12:25) My 41 peak performance clients know not to say those words to me because I'll call BS.(12:32) We all have the same amount of time. (12:34) Like me, you have 168 hours per week and you get to choose, keyword, where you invest it. (12:39) If you sleep an average of eight hours per night, that's 112 waking hours left.(12:43) And if you work a full-time job, 40 hours per week, that still leaves 72 hours left. (12:48) That's an average of more than 10 hours free per day. (12:52) Granted, more on the weekends than the weekdays.(12:54) I get it. (12:54) Okay. (12:55) What are you doing with those extra hours?(12:58) The best current... (12:59) This is the key. (12:59) This right here is going to blow everyone's mind.(13:02) The best current estimate for average time per day on Netflix is approximately one hour and 33 minutes. (13:09) The best current estimate for the average time per day on social media is two hours and 21 minutes. (13:14) Everyone can check my math on this.(13:16) Rounded up, that's a combined 234 minutes per day, which is almost four hours. (13:22) And that's the average. (13:24) That is not the top.(13:25) That's the average. (13:26) That's the middle. (13:28) Accumulated over one year.(13:30) Anyone can go check the math on this. (13:31) Don't use AI. (13:32) Do it manually because AI is alarmingly bad at math.(13:35) It's been blowing my mind. (13:37) Accumulated over one year. (13:38) That is 178 eight-hour shifts.(13:45) That's 178 eight-hour shifts. (13:48) Now, this is the key. (13:50) So, I highly recommend everyone does a time audit like my client, Raffaella.(13:54) And until you do, do not tell me you don't have the time or the money. (13:59) What could you accomplish with 178 more eight-hour shifts per year? (14:04) Your goals and dreams are possible, but not unless you dial in where you invest your time.(14:09) At the Next Level University podcast, one of our goals is to help you do that. (14:13) We're on the mic every morning to help you improve where you invest your time, effort, and money. (14:17) Link in bio.(14:19) Kevin and mostly me hope to see you there. (14:21) I'm joking. (14:22) I made the last part up.(14:23) But the truth is, dude, that's the math. (14:26) I crunched the numbers. (14:28) 178 eight-hour shifts.(14:29) I took your idea about the eight-hour shifts. (14:32) I think it lands better.

Kevin Palmieri

(14:33) I do. (14:33) I agree. (14:34) It's in my mind.(14:35) Those are work days.

Alan Lazaros

(14:36) Exactly. (14:37) What could you do with 178 eight-hour shifts? (14:40) You could make so much more money.(14:42) So, don't tell me you don't have the time. (14:43) Don't tell me you don't have the money. (14:45) The truth is, you watch Netflix and you spend time on social media and you do other things.(14:51) One of the most dialed-in clients I have, her and I found, I know you're listening, 40 extra hours a week. (14:58) She is the most hard-working client I have and we found 40 hours. (15:03) She's like, what the hell?(15:05) What am I even doing? (15:07) Brushing your teeth, showering, commuting, fucking off. (15:12) All of us are wasting so much time.(15:15) Dude, I think I waste a ton of time, which is ironically and paradoxically why I don't as much as I used to. (15:22) Dude, I look back at my old self. (15:24) It's like, dude, dude, what a waste of time.(15:29) Now, at the end of the day, everybody, just don't complain about not having time until you do a time on it. (15:36) That's all I'm saying.

Kevin Palmieri

(15:37) I've decided, this is very new for me. (15:39) I've decided that I'm going to get a home gym at the next place. (15:43) It won't be here, but I don't want to really drive to the gym every day.(15:47) Same. (15:47) I listen to books, which is good, right? (15:49) So, it's not, but how much easier would it be if I could just take my pre-workout, do mobility and then go down to the basement?(15:55) The best. (15:56) That's going to be the gym. (15:58) That's going to be the gym.

Alan Lazaros

(15:59) Same, brother.

Kevin Palmieri

(16:01) That's going to be the gym. (16:02) Okay, my point that I really want to get to land is the reason it's so important to admit this to yourself that your focus, your finances, your fitness, your relationships, all that stuff is your responsibility is because it's not going to get any easier. (16:21) And you can either say, well, you know, the fast food companies.(16:25) I know, I know. (16:27) I like fast food. (16:28) Love it.(16:28) Huge fan. (16:29) Well, you know, all these, these models on Instagram. (16:32) I know.(16:33) Yeah. (16:33) No, I see them too. (16:34) They pop up in my feed.(16:36) Same, right? (16:37) Well, you know, shit's more expensive. (16:39) Fuck it.(16:39) I know. (16:41) I know. (16:42) Yeah.(16:42) I see groceries going up and I see my electric bill going. (16:45) I understand. (16:47) And I don't think any of that's going to change.(16:49) I think it's going to get worse. (16:50) I think it's going to get worse for a while. (16:53) I'm okay.(16:54) You want to bitch about it? (16:55) Fine. (16:55) Bitch about it.(16:55) Alan and I sometimes get on the mic. (16:57) It's like, dude, I just need a fucking bitch. (16:58) I need to, I just need to whine about something for a minute.(17:00) Like, please let me vent. (17:01) And then it's like, okay, well, what can we do about it? (17:04) Nice.(17:04) That's why I think this is so important. (17:06) And I also, I do appreciate the fact that we're saying, look, sometimes the odds, the odds are stacked against you. (17:13) In this they are.(17:15) But that doesn't mean that's the white, you throw up the white flag and say, well, this is an unwinnable game. (17:19) No, somebody is going to win the game. (17:21) Makes it more important, not less.(17:22) Right. (17:23) Somebody is going to win the, it's going to be harder for sure. (17:25) But honestly, it's going to seem harder, but it's harder the other way.(17:29) If you just go with the flow of all the distractions, it feels good in the moment and then you regret it. (17:33) And then it just becomes a cycle. (17:34) And then you feel, you feel like crap about yourself and you lose self-respect.(17:38) And then it gets harder to climb out of the hole. (17:39) And it's just this whole, this whole cycle. (17:42) So I think the, the fact of admitting, yeah, it is really freaking hard.(17:47) And the odds are stacked against us and the cards are stacked against us. (17:50) And I can improve and increase my responsibility. (17:53) And I can try to get a little bit better every single day.(17:56) And when that person pops up, I can not look at their profile. (18:00) And when that fucking gambling ad pops up, I can realize that's stupid. (18:03) And I'm going to lose all my fucking money doing that.(18:06) And when you get a free 500, well, yeah, you do get a free 500. (18:10) If you were so dialed in that you could just spend that $500 and then cash out, I'd say have at it. (18:17) But if you are that dialed in, you're not doing it.(18:19) I know. (18:19) But that's the, that's the paradox, right? (18:20) Yeah.(18:21) That was such a, and again, I know it. (18:23) Well, I know it seems simple to you. (18:25) I don't know if it is to everybody.(18:26) I don't know. (18:27) The only reason they can give free $500 is because they make at least 501 back. (18:32) Yeah, that's exactly it.

Alan Lazaros

(18:34) They've just run. (18:35) It's not even a lead loss, lead gain.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:36) Yeah. (18:37) Like a buffet.

Alan Lazaros

(18:38) Yeah.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:38) Like a buffet. (18:39) Why are buffets? (18:40) Because most people can't eat $18 worth of fried rice and crab rangoon.(18:44) I definitely can't. (18:45) And bad pizza.

Alan Lazaros

(18:46) No buffet has ever made money on the kids. (18:49) But that's the thing, right? (18:49) Yeah.(18:50) If everyone was like us, they would go out of business.

Kevin Palmieri

(18:52) They would go out of business.

Alan Lazaros

(18:53) Yeah. (18:53) But that's exactly it. (18:55) All you can eat sushi.(18:55) You ever had that down in near Boston?

Kevin Palmieri

(18:57) I don't like sushi. (18:58) Oh, okay.

Alan Lazaros

(18:59) It was, they didn't, me and bodybuilder friends, Matt was there. (19:03) They did not make money. (19:05) Not a chance.(19:06) I don't get sushi.

Kevin Palmieri

(19:09) I like the- Between the three of us, we were 600 pounds. (19:13) I like the not real sushi. (19:16) Like sweet potato tempura.(19:17) That's just like fried sweet potato on rice wrapped in seaweed. (19:21) Like it's not even really sushi. (19:23) Last piece, get out of here.

Alan Lazaros

(19:24) Wrap us up. (19:25) I want to share this because, well, it might be a credit for me. (19:29) I don't really care.(19:29) I want to, I'm striving, not arriving. (19:31) I don't want to talk from a mountain top. (19:33) I kid you not, yesterday or the day before, I forget which, I walk into Amelia's office.(19:38) I think I told the story. (19:40) And I say, you are a procurement specialist. (19:44) No more mochi, no more protein Doritos.(19:48) Now, I consider myself someone with high willpower who works on willpower. (19:53) The dorsolateral prefrontal cortex is the willpower muscle, neuroscience, functional, chemical, structural changes to the brain. (19:59) I'm working on it every day.(20:00) You don't use it, you lose it, baby. (20:01) I'm using it every day. (20:02) I'm running a mile right after this.(20:03) Don't care. (20:04) I don't want to waste willpower on not eating Doritos. (20:07) You know how easy it is to not eat Doritos when they're not fucking here?

Kevin Palmieri

(20:10) Very.

Alan Lazaros

(20:11) So instead of, hey, don't look at that girl's profile, unfollow her. (20:15) For sure. (20:15) I unfollow every chick with cleavage, every single one.(20:19) I just do. (20:21) It's not, I'm not interested. (20:22) It's 11 a.m. I'm not interested. (20:24) You do you, if that's what you want to do, whatever. (20:26) I don't care. (20:27) I'm not interested.(20:27) Protect, take back your mind. (20:30) Take it back. (20:31) The world has taken it from you.(20:34) Take it back. (20:36) NLU is good for you. (20:38) Nothing.(20:39) 99% of what you see on social media is terrible for you. (20:43) That's why we have a private fitness accountability group. (20:45) Because it's good for you.(20:48) We've taken the positive thing about virtual community and gotten out of the nonsense. (20:54) And if anyone was posting cleavage in there, we would can them. (20:57) So at the end of the day, just take back your mind.(21:01) Do not trust yourself to be able to resist. (21:04) Because there's too much temptation all the time. (21:06) And it's destroying your willpower.(21:08) It's overwhelming you. (21:10) It's causing all kinds of issues. (21:11) And definitely read the book.(21:13) And shout out to Johan Hari for writing this book. (21:16) Because it's super important. (21:17) And it's very well written so far.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:20) Right on. (21:21) I like this. (21:22) This is a good episode.(21:22) I like this. (21:23) And look, I know we started with porn. (21:25) We got to where we were going to get to.(21:27) And I still think that is the best example of all time. (21:29) I do. (21:30) It is.

Alan Lazaros

(21:30) It's a good example. (21:31) That's a really good example. (21:32) I think, I see it constantly.(21:34) I've had many male clients, anonymously, who have that on their tracker. (21:39) No porn. (21:40) It's on their tracker.(21:41) Understandable. (21:42) They have a streak of days without porn.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:45) Understandable.

Alan Lazaros

(21:45) And at the end of the day, everybody's got one of those ten. (21:49) Everybody's got one of them. (21:50) For me, it's food.(21:51) For sure. (21:52) For sure. (21:53) I love food.(21:54) I fucking hate dieting. (21:55) It's the worst.

Kevin Palmieri

(21:57) Yeah, it's not awesome.

Alan Lazaros

(21:59) Yeah. (21:59) Caffeine and food. (22:00) And that doesn't mean I'm terrible.(22:02) But everybody's got one. (22:04) I'm going to put that digital asset. (22:05) I'll send it to the team right after this.(22:06) Let's put that digital asset in the show notes. (22:09) If nothing else, if you don't do a time audit, do this. (22:12) Look at this.(22:13) Everybody has one of these ten. (22:16) And it is holding you back. (22:17) Don't kid yourself.(22:18) My big one was alcohol back in the day. (22:20) And now it's food.

Kevin Palmieri

(22:22) Is the digital asset, is it like a branded one? (22:24) Yep. (22:25) If we have time, team, can we throw it up on the screen when we talk about it?(22:29) Throw it up on the screen, right in between Alan and I, if you can fit it there. (22:32) Perfect. (22:33) Up here somewhere, if you can, if you can do that.(22:35) Boom. (22:36) Boom. (22:36) All right.(22:37) If you're looking for somebody to help you with this stuff, accountability, somebody you can trust, reach out to Alan. (22:41) As you just said, he has many clients that are literally tracking the number of days they're not looking at porn. (22:46) That's good.(22:47) It's good to have that level of accountability. (22:48) It's even more important to have trust in somebody that you're sharing that with. (22:51) Very clearly, people have that with Alan.(22:53) And one of the things we talked about, and we're just going to keep talking about it because we love fitness, is the Next Level Fitness Accountability Group. (22:59) It's harder than ever, maybe, for you to go to the gym because you're busy or whatever, whatever it is, we can help you through accountability. (23:05) I am more accountable as one of the leaders of the Next Level Fitness Accountability Group.(23:10) I am more accountable at the gym because of the people in the group. (23:13) Same. (23:13) And I have no fear or shame in sharing that.(23:16) That's why we created the group. (23:18) For us as much as anybody else, right? (23:21) That's why we do the 10 out of 10 week challenge.(23:23) Not going to do it any other way. (23:24) That's the reason we do it. (23:26) So we'd love to have you there.(23:27) All right. (23:27) As always, we love you. (23:29) We appreciate you.(23:29) Grateful for each and every one of you. (23:31) If you are as committed as you say you are to getting to the next level, make sure you tune in tomorrow because we will be here every single freaking day to help you get there. (23:37) Keep leveling up to reach your full potential.(23:40) Thanks for joining us for another episode of Next Level University. (23:44) We love connecting with the Next Level family.

Alan Lazaros

(23:46) We mean it when we say family. (23:48) If you ever need anything, please reach out to us directly. (23:52) Everything you need to get ahold of us is in the show notes.(23:55) Thank you again, and we will talk to you tomorrow.