Engineering Emotions and Energy with Justin Wenck, Ph.D.
Are you ready to live a life with enough time, money, and energy? Have relationships and connections that delight you? Are you ready for the extraordinary life you know you’ve been missing? If so, then this is the place for you. I'm a best selling author, coach, consultant, and speaker who’s worked in technology for over two decades. I’m a leader in transforming people and organizations from operating in fear, obligation and guilt to running off joy, ease, and love. It’s time for Engineering Emotions and Energy!
Engineering Emotions and Energy with Justin Wenck, Ph.D.
Life Lessons from Tulum: Pursuing Fulfillment Beyond Success
Ever thought about how the world mirrors your existence?
This episode unpacks this profound concept as I share my unique journey in Tulum, Mexico. I've explored the sprawling underwater freshwater cave system of cenotes to encounter bats above, and hydrogen sulfide gas below, and came face to face during my dive with one of the most powerful feminine forces there is Barbie. I've also weathered unanticipated challenges, embodying the essence of the adage – the world is as you perceive it.
These experiences prove that your perception shapes your reality.
However, life in Tulum hasn't been all sunshine and rainbows. Amidst the manufactured luxury, there's a stark reality of frequent power outages and safety issues. These challenges, though daunting, serve as a compelling reminder that our response to life's unpredictability becomes the blueprint for our existence. Switching gears, we also delve into the quest for fulfillment and joy in life.
Drawing insights from my book, Engineered to Love Going Beyond Success to Fulfillment, I'm excited to share how you can shift your perspective and embrace a life brimming with joy, ease, and love. So, buckle up and get ready for an illuminating discussion.
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Welcome to the show. Today I'm talking about how you live your life is how your world shows up for you, and I'm coming again from Tulum, mexico, where I'm recording this, and it's been a really interesting experience in Tulum. So basically what? Today I'm going to be sharing some of the experience I've had while being in Tulum. They're kind of going with the theme of how you live your life is how your world shows up, because things have not been easy yet the way I've been dealing with it. Things have been going pretty well, pretty easy for me, whereas basically where I'm staying here in Tulum was that I got connected through a great coaching friend of mine to somebody who lives here in Tulum and I'm basically staying at the same place where she lives and she's been going through some of the similar things I've been going through and has not been having a great time and I'm still relatively having a great time. So we'll get into that.
Speaker 1:We'll get into what I've been up to, including cenote diving and the challenges of maybe not exactly knowing where you're going to be showing up when you get to a new part of the world and how that is and how it's different and challenges that can come up and how to roll with that so that you can have the world that you want to be living in, and that really has to do with how you live your life. Often we think, well, when the world is peaceful, when the world has things figured out, when the world's given me what I want, when things go my way, then I can be happy, I can be peaceful, I can be kind, all these things and it's complete bullshit. It's just not how it works. At least I've found it doesn't work that way. I've spent, you know, majority of my life expecting it to work that way. I eventually gave up and decided to completely flip it, and that's what I'm going to be offering to you is to completely flip how you look at your life and your world. So, but first let's talk about some fun stuff.
Speaker 1:So I'm here in Tulum, and Tulum has one of the largest networks of cenotes, which are these underwater freshwater sort of cave systems. There are all kind of like underground rivers, water reservoirs, and I've been to Tulum technically before about a year and a half no, not even at like nine months ago for a retreat, and it had a cenote in the property and it was just, you know, beautiful. It was small though, because I mean it's part of a part of a retreat center. I did get a chance to go visit one and swim. This time I was I don't know.
Speaker 1:I was called to do some scuba diving. So you probably heard me talk about scuba diving. If you're following my social media Justin Wink PhD, on Facebook, instagram, tiktok, linkedin and you've probably been seeing some of these pictures of me scuba diving, even some video possibly. So I was like you know, I think I'd like to do some scuba diving in a cenote See what that's all about. And cenote scuba diving is kind of serious. So it did require that I have my advanced open water certification, which I have, because it's technically.
Speaker 1:You're doing cavern diving, not cave diving, and you might be going. Well, justin, what's the difference? I now know, so I can tell you. Cavern diving is defined as you're within 200 feet of being able to pop up to fresh air, and 200 feet, that's what is. What is that? That's like 60, 60 meters, 70 meters for those of you listening worldwide, which is approximately 100 feet, 70 meters. It is Pretty far. It's pretty far. It's not super close, especially when I got to experience a firsthand where I'm there and I look up and it's just cave wall and I'm like, if I am within 200 feet of fresh air, I actually don't know which direction that is. So I'm going to trust my equipment, trust the guide I'm with. So, you know, knowing that, knowing your equipment, being able to be calm, comfortable, is all part of having the advanced open water certification and it is so worth it because just the experience was phenomenal. So the right for two things.
Speaker 1:The one one was really cool was, I know, barbenheimer. You know the Barbie movie open Heimer's been a really big thing. I haven't had a chance to see open Heimer, but I did get a chance to see Barbie While I was doing my scuba diving. There's a one of the little paths because one of the things they do is they create these lines where they literally tie a yellow line that is like sort of a safe path where you're not going to disturb because there's stalactites, stalagmites and maybe little dangerous areas. So they have these lines and one of the lines is called the Barbie line and the reason is there should be a picture of this, probably somewhere in my social media. They have a Barbie doll on that, the midpoint of the line, and apparently it's been there for years and years and years. This isn't something special just for the Barbie movie, although they did dress it up, especially if they put in a nice dress to rock the red carpet underwater. So I did get to see Barbie, although not the movie. So that was fun.
Speaker 1:What was my favorite part was the dive into the deepest cenote I got to go down into, which is called the El Pit, which, if you're not familiar with Spanish, el means the pit is pit, so El Pit is the pit, and the pit goes at least over 100 feet deep, which is over 33 meters, and the deepest that we're allowed to go is the. I think they said the 90 foot mark, but we went to 99 feet. And what's really cool is you get to go through these various layers. So the first layer, which is about 30 feet, is this halo Klein layer, which is where the saltwater and the freshwater layers start to meet and combine, and it creates this very blurry effect where it's like is my goggles, do I have the wrong? Did I put somebody's wrong prescription goggles on? And it's just really trippy because you're just like I can't see, things are blurry. And so that's the first layer where it's like, okay, this is like entering another world. And then the next layer is at about the 90 foot point. It's this hydrogen sulfide layer which sounds scary, that it's just the and remember scuba diving, so have my own air supply, so I don't have to worry about breathing this in, because I'm breathing the air that I brought on the tank with me. And what's really cool is this hydrogen sulfide gas which is being released by bacteria which are composing, composing, they're consuming. Oh, it's almost like in the spirit of that, I just caught a whiff of something. It smells like hydrogen. Yeah, yeah, there's a.
Speaker 1:I'm in an interesting location which I'm about to get, which I'll get into after this note a story. So the Pirate of Sulphide. It looks like fog, it's, it's like a foggy layer, and what makes it even more fascinating is that the Mayans Considered to note a sort of the gateway to the underworld. And so, with this fog and seeing there's, like you know, decomposing materials, and it just has this stillness, this quiet, this dead, like it really does feel like the gateway to the underworld. And To see the formations of the slag ties, the slag mites, and just thinking about the history, geologically and culturally, of of these places where, as at one point, for these rock formations, that meant that these were not filled in with water at one point. So these were, you know, empty caves and then at some point they became filled in. And Also in El Pit there was some, some like Mayan pottery that was there. My guide said she's not a hundred percent sure if that's authentic or maybe it could have been placed there, but she knows that there definitely are locations where there is authentic. And so there's a little bit of, because I believe it is well known that there were Mayans that you know were phenomenal with Diving into the cenotes with great breath control that could, you know, go very deep and very long.
Speaker 1:Yet there's also hey, maybe at one point, when these weren't filled in, you know where there are people using these caves, doing things, and so to me I just find this all fascinating, all of these things, and it's just still gorgeous. So if you've ever been like thinking of doing cenotes, scuba diving or just scuba diving in general, I would, I would recommend it. It's almost a very good forced meditation, because you're required to stay calm, monitor your breath, because if you, if not, you're gonna go through all of your air and you have less time to dive. So that brings me to where I'm staying, which is gonna lead into the point of this episode. So now I'm gonna be talking about what it's been like in the location where I'm staying, in Tulum.
Speaker 1:I'm at this place, I'm gonna say that's this Ophelia Tulum hotel and yeah, I was connected with somebody's like yeah, this is where I'm living. It's great. They've got co-working spaces, phenomenal pool, great internet. It's like gorgeous, it's beautiful, I love it. Ah, and I'm just getting refreshing because I Believe, thanks to all the noise cancellation that gets done with how I record this and my great editing team, you probably weren't hearing any noise, but there was an air compressor just going like crazy, like mad, and it just clicked off. So it feels so good to have that a little bit more peace, a little bit more quiet and it's it's hot here once again. And so I really got the marketing spiel you know from the website, from the booking place, from my you know, new, new friend.
Speaker 1:Yet when I, when I get here, it's a completely different experience. For one thing, when driving up, you know, leave the paved road and go into dirt road and it's like this is looking like kind of like ramshackle type light type housing, where it's just like slapped together you know rough concrete, using any sort of materials. I'm just like what? I thought I'm going to a luxury, luxury condo hotel area, what's what's this? And then, yep, roll up there it is. So it's basically this manufactured luxury site in the middle of you know probably what's been you know for for decades, just where people who have been able to get land Grattered piece of land, built some stuff on it, been living, doing their life. And I'm like, whoa it's? And the guy checks me in and it's like, yeah, you're probably not gonna want to. You know, walk around at night, during the day, you're fine. And oh, yeah, by the way, there's power outages and the power was actually out right when I checked in. It went on five minutes later and Then a couple days later, there's another power outage and my friends like, yeah, this is it. She kind of a. Okay, I think I'm back, I'm going to keep going and hope that I have a loss of internet, which means the recording stopped. But it came back and it says this recording.
Speaker 1:This could be an interesting episode. We'll see how it turns out. So, yeah, it's in an area where I'm like, oh, I haven't been in an area like this and told not to walk at night, and it takes at least 10 to 15 minutes to walk to anywhere for coffee, food, groceries, that type of thing, power outages, and it's like this is just not exactly what I was expecting. Yeah, I'm like what's the benefit? How do I want to live my life? So now it's time to talk about how do I want to live my life. Okay, I just lost it again. So we're back. So we'll see how this edits together. If it does together, I might have to just rerecord this whole episode at a time, which would be fine. So yeah.
Speaker 1:So actually my power is out right now. I found out last night it was supposed to be out for a few hours. Then this morning it goes out half hour before I was told, and then find out it's actually supposed to be out the entire day. And my friend, her power was out all of yesterday and it's also still out today and she's furious, understandably so, because she's got work to do where she needs the internet and then probably has food and things like that and a refrigerator, and so very frustrated, very annoyed, and she's been having issues and she's been living here, I'm new, I don't know, and she's went and had to go get another place already, just as she worked and she's looking to move out ASAP and totally understandable. And with a lot of this I've been.
Speaker 1:Yeah, how do I want to be? Do I want to be like, afraid that this is going to harm me, that walking around? Do I want to be afraid that I'm going to get hurt? Do I want to get frustrated? Do I want to be an anger annoyance with having to walk around long distances? Or do I want to be in a state of peace, a state of joy, a state of ease? And I try to choose that more and more often and as I do that what becomes available to me shifts.
Speaker 1:So it's sort of like, well, maybe there is something close by to be able to eat, and it turns out. Just not even a half a block away there's a little restaurant. It looks like it's in a shack and it's one of those. I walk up and I'm like, is this place even open? And I go, hola, stas abierto, which I think is this open. And then this beautiful grandma abuelita looking. One goes, oh, yes, yes, google Maps, and I pull it up and then she's start showing me okay, I have carne asada, I've got quesadilla, I got tacos, and just delicious food, just the sweetest service and low price. And it's like okay, so this is like an experience I would not have had if I was not here.
Speaker 1:And then just getting to that experience, walking around, seeing people living in a different way that I'm usually not used to, and realizing these are just people living that life in a different way, just doing their thing, and I can be doing my thing and I don't have to be afraid that something bad is going to be happening just because the roads are made of dirt and they don't have. Things are up to US code. And when it comes to the power outages, there's a little bit of like okay, is this going to affect my work? I don't have to allow it. I can be confident that I'll find a way to get done what's needed to get done and then be open to well, maybe I can find different ways to do things like oh, maybe this is a good time to do my Qigong or this is a good time to record my podcast, and recognizing that, oh, maybe this makes me go out of my room and be in the common area where I've been able to interact with people and meet some people I otherwise wouldn't have.
Speaker 1:Just the internet was great. And you know, there's some things where it's like it's really hot and I'm sweating, so I'd probably what look? Look like I'm just coming out of a sauna or steam room or something like that. Yeah, no-transcript, I'm feeling calm, I'm feeling at peace, I'm feeling at ease and I'm able to see that in the world I'm not buying into, the world's not working out for me that then I don't get to be feeling the way I want to feel. I'm flipping it on its head. Where I'm starting with, how do I want to feel? What kind of experience do I want to create? And then it's amazing that these things show up that allow me to get done what's important to me, because, again, the previous episode was about vision and commitment.
Speaker 1:So I'm committed to doing this podcast, because I want to get messages like these to those of you that listen and watch the snippets or the videos. So I'm committed to that. I'm going to find a way, and so that's why, yeah, this was not the planned time I was going to record this, but, again, I don't have internet in my room. I've got internet out in this common area, which is where I would have recorded it anyway. So I'm doing it. I'm doing it happen and enjoying it and I'm looking forward to like, okay, let me go find some other places to eat to try the food, or there's a couple places I've been that have been great. May I return back and try something else? And so just really getting to enjoy the experience.
Speaker 1:It's different than if I would have just gone with what I thought was the way it should be. You know how I think the world should show up for me to be able to enjoy things. But when I start with, how do I want to feel, how do I want to live my life, what's the state that I want to be in? And then I start to see all these opportunities showing up. So my question to you is how's your world showing up to you currently? Like what are you noticing? Like is the world? Is it a bunch of fear? Is a lot of things not doing what they supposed to, which is what I'd say is obligation, or is there things that are not right, things that are wrong, shameful, full of guilt? So again, is your world filled with fog, your obligation, guilt, and if it is, I'd go.
Speaker 1:You know, look internally like how are you living your life? You're probably living it based off of motivated by fear, obligation and guilt, and that's why it's showing up in your world. How can you flip that around and start loving yourself, finding ways to go through life with ease and then finding the joy in this very moment, right now and again? It might take a little bit longer than it's comfortable. For that you have to start showing up in your external world, but it's going to be. It might be subtle, it might be small, but if you're paying attention it'll start showing up, and the more you're consistent with that, the bigger and the longer it's going to sustain out in the world, regardless of what might be supposedly really going on really going on, yeah, so regardless of what's really going on. What's really going on is how you feel about it, because really kind of what matters is the experiences, the emotions, the feelings.
Speaker 1:And with that I'm going to wrap this episode up before I lose my connection and my ability to record again, which I think is just another demonstration of I could be getting frustrated, I could be getting annoyed, yet when it goes out and I have to take a pause in the recording. I just use that as a time to relax and enjoy and be ready for when it's time, and so if you're looking for ways of how you can, so I'd highly recommend my book Engineered to Love Going Beyond Success to Fulfillment, now available on audiobook. On Audible and other places you can get audiobooks for ways to live a life of joy, ease and love instead of living a life of fear, obligation and guilt and allowing your world to show up that way, because how you live your life is how your world shows up for you. So make sure to check me out on Justin Wink, phd on all the social media places. Reach me up podcast at JustinWinkcom if you want to email me some questions. So with that, thank you so much and good day.