Are You Smarter than a Sea Turtle? The Path to Self-Sufficiency

Are you equipped with the grit and resilience of a sea turtle?

Get ready to challenge your beliefs as we journey through an exploration of parental relationships and their impact on our lives. This episode focuses on the perspective sea turtles give us on independence and the significance of finding alternative sources of support, be it friends, coaches, or therapists. We question the expectations we hold for our parents and how altering these expectations can lead to more fulfilling lives.

But the exploration doesn't stop there. We underline the profound power of giving and how it fosters a positive cycle of fulfillment. Moreover, we discuss the art of being proactive with our resources to maximize our potential. Remember, you're smarter than a sea turtle, so let's utilize that intelligence to live our best lives. Don't forget to subscribe and share this enriching episode with your circle!

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Speaker 1: 0:03

Welcome to the show. Today. I have a question for you Are you smarter than a sea turtle? Now, the answer to that, I hope this is easy. That's what I intended to stump you or make you think, or whatever. I'm hoping you're like sea turtles are fucking awesome. They're beautiful, magnificent creatures. They're phenomenal. Yes, I'm smarter, more capable than a sea turtle. You're like okay, great, when is this going? It's going to go to a place that will allow you to have an entirely new perspective on how you have viewed your relationships, especially the relationships with your parents, whether they're around, not around, because, let's face it, the impact that our parents had on us, whether we even got to know them or not and last our entire lifetime. That's the topic for today.

Speaker 1: 1:01

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Speaker 1: 2:40

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Speaker 1: 3:32

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Speaker 1: 4:08

It was inspired by my friend, Carrie Lynn, friend of the show, just did a podcast with it came out a couple of weeks ago and she was having well, maybe anyway we were having a discussion about parents and things like that, because she knows about my parents, the challenges that I've had with them. You know my mother's past, you know my father and I we barely talk and and so she just kind of asked my perspective on, you know, family and things like that and and just kind of saying, like isn't it a bummer when you know that your, your, your family, and they never, just you know, went to therapy or did, did whatever that they didn't fix themselves so that they could have a better relationship with you, how come aren't you ever frustrated that it was like always you doing doing the work or not having the relationship, but do you feel like you were always the one missing out? And that's when this like well, why do we have this assumption that our parents are supposed to, you know, not just you know give us the genetic material and enough to be birthed in this world, but supposed to fucking give us everything that we desire from them for our entire goddamn lives? I mean, I, I get it, I wanted that too, and parts of me still would like that. Yet when we look to nature, we see that that's not always the case, right, that you know. Yes, there are some, some species, that there is that no nurturing, loving, whatever. For you know, I can't even think of any right now. Yet I do know of one amazing case, which is basically the parents are like we create, we created the genetic material and give you enough food, peace out, bitch, you're on your fucking own.

Speaker 1: 6:01

And that is the majestic, beautiful sea turtle. That's right, Sea turtles, mama sea turtle, daddy sea turtle. They're out there swimming around. Somehow they find each other, they fall in love. They do what it takes to create sea turtle eggs that are going to turn into sea turtles. I believe they then go their separate ways. I only did the most minimal amount of research for this. I do have experience seeing a sea turtle lay eggs in Costa Rica. This was now a couple of years ago.

Speaker 1: 6:29

Got up at like 3 30 in the morning and shuttled out to a remote beach where sea turtles come up onto the shore, they dig their little things and they lay their eggs. You know tens I don't know if it's even over a hundred a shit ton of eggs just to the sand. They kind of cover them up and then they take back to the sea. They're just like it's like an in and out mission, like a covert operation, special forces type of a thing going in, going to deliver the payload and get the fuck out before dawn so that the enemy can't, can't do anything. And there are enemies, because there's one, there's other sea turtles. They don't give a shit, they're just like oh, this, this looks like an easy place to dig my little whatever and I'll just dig over, smash the eggs that are already here. And there's also other birds. There's birds with those mean beaks just pecking, pecking at the egg. So you're like, oh, that's some good, yummy sea turtles egg, yum, yum in there.

Speaker 1: 7:27

So they, you know, they got to get in, get out before something happens to them and hopefully get the eggs covered enough so that they're protected enough so that they can then be born. And when they're born, these little baby sea turtles, they are completely on their own. They got to get out of that egg. No help, there's no mama there going. You can do it, you can do it in doctors and all this stuff like that we humans get. So they're on their own and then they've got their 100 plus, because it's not just their eggs and their little hole, but it's the whole beach starts popping out and they got a flop. You know a little little teeny flipper, flapper, pans, feet, whatever they got to try to make to the beach. Where then? This is where the birds are, here again. They're here waiting, going like, oh my gosh, let me see what I can get. And then I'm sure in the ocean there's probably other things wanting to have a little turtle soup and all that stuff. And so it's.

Speaker 1: 8:19

It's a very harsh, harsh welcome to the world with no, no parental supervision, no parental guidance, just pure instinct, Just, whatever these sea turtles have is what they get. And so, from that, when we look at what we as humans get, what we as humans get, it's way, way better, way, way, way easier. And I'm not saying that it's not not okay. Whatever might have happened to you, you wanted more. There's nothing wrong with wanting more than what you got, it's totally okay. Just, I assume you're an adult listening to this, I'm an adult giving this, and even if you're not an adult, but you're, these are adult things and either you're able to comprehend this or you're just loving the sound in my voice and maybe you're even falling asleep to this, and hopefully, if you're driving you're not falling asleep, but if you're somewhere where you can't fall asleep and this helps you, like good I've heard, I've got a nice soothing voice and I'm grateful for that and grateful for you listening. Whatever the reason, whatever you get out of this, what's important is that you see, yeah, boy, I completely.

Speaker 1: 9:30

I was on a train and I don't know where the train went. It's almost. This is almost like watching one of these Westerns. I just recently watched a Western called Jonah Hex. It was actually based on a DC comic and it takes place in like 1870 something. So there's cowboys and they're on to that and for whatever reason, they're like we got to have a train robbery because every, every Western needs to have a train robbery and they, they, they decoupled the front train from the back train and then blew the black back train up and I there's a little bit I feel like the back of my train just got completely blown up, like in this Jonah Hex movie, which I I don't recommend, unless you just like ridiculousness. It was a ridiculous, ridiculous movie, but sometimes we need a little ridiculousness.

Speaker 1: 10:20

So what's important is when we compare our lives to that of the sea turtle and we want more, and it's okay to want them more. But when we don't get more. But we are adults and we're capable, we're capable of going, getting more, way more capable than the sea turtle. So are you smarter than a sea turtle? If you said no, I'm just going to say then you're not getting any of this anyway, Because you, if you're a human that can listen to this and understand this, you're, you can totally get this. You're totally smarter than sea. Otherwise, you're just being an asshole. You're being an asshole If you're like, no, I'm not smarter than a sea turtle.

Speaker 1: 10:56

The brilliance of a sea turtle. They're beautiful, they're amazing, they're spectacular, Very talented. Love the sea turtle side, One of my favorite things to see when scuba diving. You are so much smarter than a sea turtle, so much more capable, so much more powerful of what you can do, what you can bring in, what you can learn, what you can accomplish. That If you just have now, as an adult, the same expectations of your parents as that sea turtle does, how much easier is your life going to be, especially compared to a sea turtle.

Speaker 1: 11:33

You don't have to worry about birds pecking your eyes out I mean as a kid, when there was the movie the birds, I think, came on, that got into my head and I was like, oh, I better be on the lookout for birds wanting to peck my eyes out. I'm honest, it's not a big fear. We also don't have to worry so much about getting eaten by a shark or whatever. There's a lot of things that we don't have to worry about that the sea turtles do. We're so much more capable to bring in the people that can give us the guidance, can give us the support. That doesn't have to be our parents. It can be our friends, it can be coaches, it can be therapists, it can be the appropriate coworkers. You can have a family of choice, you can have people playing these roles and it doesn't have to be your parents.

Speaker 1: 12:18

When you let go of that expectation that your parents, you as an adult I'm not talking about kids, this is not a kids show I have this mark to explicit so that I can say all the naughty words that George Cronin said you can't say, because think of the children shit, piss, cunt, fuck, cock suck, mother, fuck, kitts. I can say those things on this because this is an adult program and those words are just words. It's really the intention behind them. The intention is for you to have a whole new perspective on how you've lived your life and how you could live it moving forward. Be like a sea turtle in having the expectation that your parents aren't there to be your only sole support. They might provide no more support If they do by some chance.

Speaker 1: 13:03

Be so grateful, Be so happy, Yet be like the human that knows there's so much more you can do than the sea turtle. You have so many more resources. You can swim in the ocean, you can fly in the air, you can walk on the land and you can ask for help. That ability to ask for help is one of the most amazing things we humans have. We often think that, oh, that means that I failed, that I'm broken, that there's something not good about me. I should have gotten it from these parents, this mom, this dad or whatever the situation is. However you're raised, Yet it's really the most beautiful sign that you have an awareness of where you are and that you're like I am not going to stay here, I'm not going to continue living this way.

Speaker 1: 13:49

I see that someone else has figured it out and you're willing to give that gift of saying help me out, Show me the way. What's the easier path? What are the options? I'm sure you're a very capable, brilliant. Again, you're smarter than a sea turtle. I bet you've helped some people in your day.

Speaker 1: 14:06

Some people probably asked you for help. Could be small, could be big, whatever it is. How did you feel? I bet you felt so fucking good. You felt useful. You felt amazingly. Oh yeah, so glad that I was able to help out. This is great. I wish them the best and wish them happiness, joy, and I hope their life is easier than me. At least that's a message.

Speaker 1: 14:29

If not, then you really probably shouldn't be listening to me. I'm probably not the person for you. If you're like, no, everyone should just do it on their own and I was on food stamps and welfare and nobody helped me. Like screw everybody else. If that's your attitude like I really don't, you shouldn't be listening. I don't want to work with you, Just go somewhere else. Like that attitude makes no sense. There's more than enough in the world and when we're giving, it really just shows us how much we have and then we get that much more in return, not necessarily from that particular individual, but it comes back especially in how good we feel about ourselves. And so when you ask somebody for help, you're giving that gift of allowing them to feel amazing, useful and of service. So are you smarter than a sea turtle? Absolutely, Absolutely.

Speaker 1: 15:18

You just didn't know it, you just didn't see it that way that you don't need your parents to do anything for you anymore. And you might be like but Justin, I have these circumstances with finances, or I have this, or I have that, and you may. I'm not saying that any of that isn't true. Yet there's always options, there's always ways, there's always other things to do, there's always other people that can help out. It's just by having limited perspective that you limit your choices and you limit the ability to make new decisions. Yet when you open your perspective out and you see that, oh, there's other people, there's other options, there's other ways, Then you see that you don't need what you thought you need. In fact, you have the resources within you to bring about whatever it is you need, Because there really is so much possibility in the world and it really has just been a slight miseducation that there really is not enough, that there isn't the help and that you got to fight hard.

Speaker 1: 16:21

You got to scrap claw to get your piece of the pie. It's an ever-expanding pie. There's plenty of pie and it's delicious and sea turtle might get sick from that kind of pie. But you're not a sea turtle, You're smarter. You know how to adjust it and you know how to work with it. You know how to enjoy it and then be ready for even more pie. So with that, I thank you and if you've been watching the video doing this in front of, I've got a little sarong that's got a sea scene on it and it's been really fun. It's not real, I'm not really under the ocean, but I just felt inspired by talking about sea turtles to bring out my sea-themed sarong and bring a little sea vibe. So, with that, do encourage you to like, subscribe, share this with people and podcast at JustinWinkcom if you got any questions, or slide into my direct messages on the social media. Justinwink PhD. With that, I do, thank you so much for being a listener and thank you and good day.