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E220: Wasted Energy- Breaking Free from the 'Why Me?' Mindset in Recovery

March 18, 2025 • Matt J, Steve C • Episode 220

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Join Steve and Matt as they dive deep into how self-pity and victim mentality can become energy drains in recovery. Steve vulnerably shares his current struggles at home and how he's navigating difficult emotions without turning to alcohol. The hosts explore how shifting from "Why is this happening to me?" to "What's my next step?" can transform recovery journeys. Learn practical strategies for managing expectations, connecting with your higher power, and finding community support when life feels overwhelming. Whether you're newly sober or an old-timer, this honest conversation offers valuable insights on conserving emotional energy and staying the course when life gets tough.

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