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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel (Stearns)

Ruth Reymundo Mandel (Stearns) & David Mandel

These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s on-going conversations which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions which keep all us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing.Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both and men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation, when it comes to coercive control, is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men's abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse makes it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations including same-sex couples and women's use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions.
Episodes
Season 3 Episode 12 Weaponize & Fabricate: How Domestic Violence Perpetrators’ Behaviors Intersect with Survivors’ Mental Health and Substance Misuse Issues November 20, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to The Perpetrator: An essential tool for interrupting victim blaming November 11, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 10: “Slow Motion Murder:” Widening the understanding of the link between domestic violence and child deaths October 13, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 9: Coercive Control in Children's and Mother's Lives: An interview with author and academic Dr. Emma KatzSeptember 22, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 8: Understanding Reproductive Coercion: An Interview with Dr. Heather McCauley August 18, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 7: Understanding and Validating Survivors' Acts of ResistanceJune 04, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 6: 7 Myths about the Safe & Together ModelJune 03, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Special Minisode: Interview with Celine Donovan, a New Zealand Safe & Together Model Certified TrainerMay 27, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 5 Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: Managing Your Own Fears About the Safety of the Family May 15, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 4: Reproductive Coercion May 10, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 3: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Have Their Own Histories of Abuse February 06, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 2: Perpetrators' Weaponization of Mental Health and Addiction Against Survivors January 16, 2022 Episode artwork Season 3 Episode 1: "This is a collective male problem:" An interview with international journalist Grant WyethJanuary 09, 2022 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 24: From Police Inspector to “Moral Rebel”: An interview with Graham Goulden December 23, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 23: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Are Survivors ThemselvesNovember 26, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 22: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: The Connection Between Worker Safety and Victim Blaming November 26, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 21: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: When workers are targeted by the perpetrator November 07, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 20: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: Intro to the series October 31, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 19: Using the concepts of collaborative co-parenting to hold perpetrators more accountable in family courtOctober 30, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 18: Multiple Pathways To Harm: An assessment approach that better mirrors the lived experience of survivorsOctober 13, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 17: Intervening with Domestic Violence Perpetrators: "We can't leave anything on the table"September 18, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 16: "We have to remember who we are advocating for": An interview with Aboriginal domestic violence leader Ashlee DonohueSeptember 03, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 15: She is Not Your Rehab: A global invitation to men to end abuse of women & children through radical self responsibility & healing August 24, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 14: How to perpetrator proof custody & access processesAugust 16, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 13: An Interview with Courageous Fire: Reparations & the Unique Experience of Black Domestic Violence Survivors July 12, 2021 Episode artwork