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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Stearns Mandel

Ruth Stearns Mandel & David Mandel

These podcasts are a reflection of Ruth & David’s on-going conversations which are both intimate and professional and touch on complex topics like how systems fail victims and children, how victims experience those systems, and how children are impacted by those failures. Their discussions delve into how society views masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world as professionals, as parents and as partners. During these podcasts, David & Ruth challenge the notions which keep all us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures and as families into safety, nurturance and healing.Note: Some of the topics discussed in the episodes are deeply personal and sensitive, which may be difficult for some people. We occasionally use mature language. We often use gender pronouns like “he” when discussing perpetrators and “she” for victims. While both and men and women can be abusive and controlling, and domestic abuse happens in straight and same-sex relationships, the most common situation, when it comes to coercive control, is a male perpetrator and a female victim. Men's abuse toward women is more closely associated with physical injury, fear and control. Similarly, very different expectations of men and women as parents and the focus of Safe & Together on children in the context of domestic abuse makes it impossible to make generic references to gender when it comes to parenting. The Model, through its behavioral focus on patterns of behavior, is useful in identifying and responding to abuse in all situations including same-sex couples and women's use of violence. We think our listeners are sophisticated enough to understand these distinctions.

Recent Episodes

Season 2 Episode 23: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: When Workers Are Survivors ThemselvesNovember 26, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 22: Minisode on Worker Safety & Well Being: The Connection Between Worker Safety and Victim Blaming November 26, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 21: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: When workers are targeted by the perpetrator November 07, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 20: Minisode Series on Worker Safety & Well-Being: Intro to the series October 31, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 19: Using the concepts of collaborative co-parenting to hold perpetrators more accountable in family courtOctober 30, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 18: Multiple Pathways To Harm: An assessment approach that better mirrors the lived experience of survivorsOctober 13, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 17: Intervening with Domestic Violence Perpetrators: "We can't leave anything on the table"September 18, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 16: "We have to remember who we are advocating for": An interview with Aboriginal domestic violence leader Ashlee DonohueSeptember 03, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 15: She is Not Your Rehab: A global invitation to men to end abuse of women & children through radical self responsibility & healing August 24, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 14: How to perpetrator proof custody & access processesAugust 16, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 13: An Interview with Courageous Fire: Reparations & the Unique Experience of Black Domestic Violence Survivors July 12, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 12: How coercive control harms child safety & wellbeing: An interview with researcher Dr. Emma KatzJune 29, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 11: "We need a revolution:" Integration of trauma healing and behavior change for people who choose violence June 04, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 10: Trauma-informed is not the same as domestic violence-informed: A conversation about the intersection of domestic violence perpetration, mental health & addictionMay 17, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 9: Finally! A realistic feature film about coercive control: An interview with Chyna Robinson and Tracy RectorApril 26, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 8: "I spiraled down to a dark place:" An interview with a young survivor of officer involved domestic violence and his Mum March 23, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 7: 'Radical Resistance to the Status Quo': A Look Behind the Scottish Coercive Control Law with Dr. Marsha Scott March 11, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 6: The Male Victim February 27, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 5: How professionals & systems can avoid being manipulated by perpetrators February 16, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 4: Making Good Decisions: How Professionals use the Safe & Together Model Critical Components to help adult and child survivorsFebruary 07, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2 Episode 3: "Cultural Tsunami": How the Safe & Together Institute Seeks to Transform Systems January 31, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2, Episode 2: Coercive Control Laws: A discussion with investigative reporter and author Jess Hill January 18, 2021 Episode artwork Season 2, Episode 1: 6 Steps to Partnering with SurvivorsJanuary 16, 2021 Episode artwork Episode 33: Our 1st Season Wrap Up: Looking back on PWAS 2020December 20, 2020 Episode artwork Episode 32: Domestic Violence Advocacy in a Time of Police Reform: An interview with author Leigh Goodmark, and the staff of a survivor agency who stood up for racial equity and got defunded for itDecember 18, 2020 Episode artwork