Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel

Season 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to The Perpetrator: An essential tool for interrupting victim blaming

November 11, 2022 Season 3 Episode 11
Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
Season 3 Episode 11: Pivoting to The Perpetrator: An essential tool for interrupting victim blaming
Show Notes

Conversations about domestic violence often start from a victim blaming perspective: “Why doesn’t she leave?” or “Why does she keep choosing him over children?”  or “I can’t trust her to understand the impact on children. She has a trauma history.”  These victim blaming statements interfere with partnering with survivors  and holding perpetrators accountable as parents. They also prevent accurate assessments and increase worker frustration with survivors. 

In this episode of Partnered With a Survivor, Ruth & David discuss the Safe & Together Model practice of 'Pivoting to the Perpetrator'  which offers specific steps to interrupt victim blaming, and to shift the focus on to where it belongs– the perpetrator’s behaviors. The practice helps professionals 

  • better assess whether interventions with perpetrators are helping or hindering survivor safety
  • Better recontextualize how survivor “denial” or “non-compliance” is shaped by the perpetrator’s behaviors and the failures of systems’ interventions
  • Be successful with their most challenging cases through better collaborations with survivors and more effective interventions with perpetrators 

In this episode, Ruth and David lay out what Pivoting is, why it is important & how to do the three part practice in your work. They discuss the application of  Pivoting and how it is an essential skill for domestic violence-informed practice. 

Other Related Episodes 

Season 3 Episode 7: Understanding And Validating Survivors’ Acts Of Resistance


Season 2 Episode 22: Minisode On Worker Safety & Well-Being: The Connection Between Worker Safety And Victim-Blaming


Season 2, Episode 1: 6 Steps To Partnering With Survivors


Episode 2: Victim Blaming