Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
Partnered with a Survivor is a professional-focused podcast created and produced by Ruth Reymundo and hosted by the Safe & Together Institute. What began as intimate conversations between Ruth and David Mandel—founder of the Institute and creator of the Safe & Together Model—about violence, relationships, abuse, and the systems that respond to them has grown into a global conversation about systems and culture change.
Hosted by Ruth and co-hosted by David, the podcast features in-depth, professionally grounded discussions about how institutions respond to domestic abuse, gender-based violence, and child maltreatment. Many episodes also feature global leaders working across fields such as child safety, men and masculinity, perpetrator accountability, fatherhood, and partnering with survivors.
Together, these conversations examine how systems often fail adult and child survivors, how societal narratives about masculinity and violence shape professional practice, and how intersectional realities—including cultural and religious beliefs, racialised identities, LGBTQ+ experiences, immigration status, disability, and other structural vulnerabilities—shape responses to abuse and violence.
The podcast offers an insider lens into how professionals navigate systems not only as practitioners, but also as parents and partners. Through candid dialogue and critical reflection, Ruth and David challenge the assumptions and structures that limit meaningful accountability, safety, and healing. The goal is collective movement across systems, cultures, and families toward greater safety, nurturance, and sustained change.
Disclaimer: Episodes contain sensitive topics and occasional mature language that may be difficult for some listeners. The views and opinions expressed by podcast guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the Safe & Together Institute or its staff.
Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
Season 4 Episode 11: Human Resources Policy & Domestic Violence: Creating a Domestic Violence–Informed Organization
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Consider this…
- Domestic violence represents 27% of violent events in the workplace
- 22% of victims required 31 or more days away from work to recover
- 22% of victims missed 3–5 days of work
- 56% of victims arrived late at least 5x/month
- 65% of companies do not have domestic violence policy
These statistics only represent a fraction of the picture of how domestic violence perpetrators impact their partner’s employment but also how they impact employers and the overall workplace environment. In addition to the impact on the survivor’s employment (poor performance, lateness, absenteeism, loss of income, loss of career advancement), employers face worker attrition, performance-related losses, and even liability.
In this episode, David and Ruth discuss a range of issues associated with domestic violence perpetrator behavior and the workplace, including:
- The importance of consistent domestic abuse–informed culture (inside and out), especially if your organization’s work touches on families
- The different ways perpetrators harm a partner’s employment
- Different strategies organizations can engage in to make their human resource policy more domestic abuse–informed
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