Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
This podcast is a series of conversations.
What started as a series of intimate conversations between Ruth and David that ranged from personal to professional experiences around violence, relationships, abuse, and system and professional responses which harm, not help, has now become a global conversation about systems and culture change. In many episodes, David and Ruth are joined by a global leader in different areas like child safety, men and masculinity, and, of course, partnering with survivors. Each episode is a deep dive into complex topics like how systems fail domestic abuse survivors and their children, societal views of masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world together as professionals, as parents, and as partners. During these podcasts, David and Ruth challenge the notions which keep all of us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures, and as families into safety, nurturance, and healing.
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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
Season 1 Episode 8: Male Parental Development and How Fathers’ Parenting Choices Matter
In this episode, Ruth and David start their Sunday morning with a discussion of male parental development, a concept that David coined to help professionals work more effectively with men and families. In many ways, societies fail in how we prepare boys to be parents. While girls' education and preparation for parenting may start with her first doll, our first discussion with boys about parenting usually comes much later and often is focused on how to avoid unwanted pregnancy.
How does our failure to address boys and men as a vital part of nurturing children harm men and families? How does this cultural blindness to the impact of men's behaviors—both positive and negative—affect the safety and nurturance of children?
The conversation covers numerous topics including research on the "mothering center" in the brain, the need for equal assessment of parenting across same-sex and heterosexual relationships, and the relevance of better work with fathers for women and children. David speaks directly to men around how to reflect on their preparation to be a father and provides tips for professionals about how to engage males better around fatherhood. Ruth speaks to how stereotypes around men as violent are harmful to men, women, and children.
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