Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
This podcast is a series of conversations.
What started as a series of intimate conversations between Ruth and David that ranged from personal to professional experiences around violence, relationships, abuse, and system and professional responses which harm, not help, has now become a global conversation about systems and culture change. In many episodes, David and Ruth are joined by a global leader in different areas like child safety, men and masculinity, and, of course, partnering with survivors. Each episode is a deep dive into complex topics like how systems fail domestic abuse survivors and their children, societal views of masculinity and violence, and how intersectionalities such as cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, and unique vulnerabilities impact how we respond to abuse and violence. These far-ranging discussions offer an insider look into how we navigate the world together as professionals, as parents, and as partners. During these podcasts, David and Ruth challenge the notions which keep all of us from moving forward collectively as systems, as cultures, and as families into safety, nurturance, and healing.
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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo Mandel
Season 3 Episode 9: Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives: An Interview with Author and Academic Dr. Emma Katz
In this episode, David and Ruth chat with author and academic Dr. Emma Katz about her new book Coercive Control in Children’s and Mothers’ Lives. Dr. Katz shares the story behind the development of this groundbreaking book, where she shares her learnings from interviews with 15 groups of mothers and their children.
During this far-ranging conversation, David, Ruth and Dr. Katz discuss:
- How she was inspired to write the book by identifying how the literature was ignoring the experience of children in homes impacted by coercive control
- The “magic” question that unlocked the stories of adult and child survivors
- How children and their mothers are impacted by perpetrators’ coercive control
- How an emphasis on physical violence can blind professionals to key aspects of the experience of children
- The similarities between the experiences of adult and child survivors
- How children’s agency is minimized and adult survivors are blamed through the use of the term “parentification”
- How mental health approaches are deficient in their identification of protective efforts
- How the use of the term “historic abuse” rarely useful
- How adult and child survivors heal from coercive control
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