Conversations from the Heart
A weekly, soul-nourishing podcast offering psychologically grounded, heart-centered reflections on human relationships, inner healing, and compassion-based communication.
Focused on live mini-coaching moments to help callers shift from reactive, domination-based communication to collaborative, heart-centered connection. Listen for new scripts for stuck situations, new ways of responding to old relationship dynamics and guidance on how to approach these situations with empathy, self-awareness, and effective communication strategies. Here, we emphasize understanding both one's own needs and the needs of others, creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations, and finding ways to express ourselves authentically while respecting others' boundaries.
Conversations from the Heart
#63 - Setting Terms of Engagement
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The locus of control in a boundary lies with us, and concerns what we are willing and unwilling to do.
One of the data points we can use when negotiating our boundaries is how others engage with us.
In this podcast episode, we discuss our responsibility for setting up terms for engagement that are centered around our values, and we discuss:
- 1:11 How do I reinforce a boundary with out losing my temper?
- 5:37 The locus of control in boundary setting
- 5:55 Setting terms of engagement in our relationships
- 15:14 I apologized to my friend, but now she thinks we're friends again
- 20:43 Conversation role play with a friend
- 34:23 Is it even worth having these types of conversations? They're so hard!
- 40:05 I'm worried verbal empathy can make things worse
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