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Let's Spend 100k with Heather Lahtinen

February 22, 2022 • Nicole Begley, Heather Lahtinen • Episode 130

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130 - This week we revisit a conversation from a recent episode, where Heather lost her mind over a $35,000 used Hermès purse. Spoiler alert: she's still bent out of shape about it!   

Regardless, we're circling back to the self-assigned task of spending an (unfortunately) imaginary $100,000 in an entirely frivolous way. You'd think this would be easy, but we both struggled! Find out what we decided—and how you can weigh in with your own selfish-by-design spend.        

What To Listen For: 

  • How Nicole's actual planned purchase got demoted to fantasyland 
  • Why people suffer from decision fatigue
  • The signifier that a spending decision is the right decision
  • How Heather lost her imaginary office to airbnb-ers…
  • …and why she's urgently setting up a GoFundMe page 

Check out the Circle thread to share your hypothetical shopping list! (Favorite answers so far? A hot air balloon on standby; a storm-chasing vacation; and alllll the cast-iron waffle irons.)

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Welcome back to the hair of the dog podcast.

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Heather's back this week.

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And this week we are talking about how her and I

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are going to spend a hundred thousand dollars.

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Now these are just hypothetical a hundred thousand dollars,

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but it's still a great exercise.

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Nonetheless, one that we promised we'd come back and share.

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After our episode,

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number 1,

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23, money trigger SOS,

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you know,

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the one,

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the one with the $35,000

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air mez purse.

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One I thought was Hermes.

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Anyway, stay tuned.

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Let's spend a hundred thousand dollars and I want to know

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how you are going to spend it to Welcome to the

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hair of the dog podcast.

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If you're a pet photographer,

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ready to make more money and start living a life by

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your design,

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you've come to the right place.

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And now your host,

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pet photographer,

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travel addict,

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chocolate martini connoisseur,

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Nicole Begley.

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Hey, everybody,

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Nicole here from hair of the dog.

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And I am with my special guest,

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Heather Lahtinen.

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And because we promise you a follow up and we are

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here. Hey,

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Heather, Hey,

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how are you?

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I am excellent.

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And I've given some time to think about how I'm going

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to spend a hundred thousand dollars.

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Now I've got to say,

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before we get into this,

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the episode that we're referring to is episode number 1 23.

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It was money trigger SOS,

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where I talked to you off the ledge from said $35,000

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used Aramis purse.

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That was not alleged.

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That was a cliff.

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I was re I'm.

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Still kind of shook up about that so much so that

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I told somebody about it this morning.

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So it's still clearly an issue,

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although it did help to talk it through,

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I just kit,

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you know,

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it comes down to this,

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Nicole. We don't like things we don't understand.

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Right. And I don't understand that.

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And I can't,

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I just can't wrap my brain around it.

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So, and it's too big of a leap,

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I think too,

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you start to push yourself outside your comfort zone,

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like to raise your money tolerance of like what's acceptable to

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have in your account.

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What's acceptable to earn from a photography session.

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You know,

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things like that.

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Like it starts off.

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You're like,

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oh my gosh,

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there's no way I can earn $500 in our session.

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And then it's like,

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there's no way I'll earn $5,000,

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but then you get to like seven 50 and then maybe

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1500 and then 2000 and then 3000 and then 4,000.

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And you're like,

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oh, whatever.

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I can't believe I ever worked for 500 bucks.

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Like my minimum is two grand now.

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So you're just on your ladder.

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You're $35,000.

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You're just currently at least I am currently at $35 at

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targets. Yes.

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TJ Maxx.

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And you know,

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I bought a Michael Kors purse,

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Michael Kors purse,

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excuse me at Marshall's maybe three years ago for like $59.

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whoa, this is too much money.

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I don't know what it was.

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It was around that price.

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Definitely less than a hundred.

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I'm still carrying that purse.

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It's filthy.

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And I don't,

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I just don't care.

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There are,

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you know,

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we, we alluded to this previously that there are some things

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that you're willing to spend money on and some things you're

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not, you know,

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and for you it's vacations.

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And the like,

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but purses are just not it for me.

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And so I don't know that I'll ever get to the

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$35,000 mark,

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but, but I do need to reconcile how I can,

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I don't know,

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maybe accept it and not feel like I want to hurl

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myself off a cliff.

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Yes. Yes.

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Well, and in that episode we talked about like,

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you and I both had a hard time coming up with

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ideas of what we would spend frivolously on ourselves because the

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things that we like to spend our money on really benefit

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the whole family.

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So it's,

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it's a lot easier for us to be like,

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oh yeah,

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no, I value travel.

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And I'm making this wonderful memories for my kids and we're

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all together.

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And it's great.

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And it's not just benefiting me and same thing with you

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with like goals of paying off the house and the things

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that you want to spend money on.

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It's benefiting everyone.

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It's like security of the family,

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but we needed an assignment to spend a hundred thousand dollars

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frivolously on ourselves.

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Doesn't benefit any buddy else,

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anybody else That impossible task.

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And At the same time,

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it's like twist my arm like a hundred thousand hypothetical dollars

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on myself.

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Right. I mean,

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I've been thinking about it for several weeks and I'm still

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struggling. So I can't wait to hear yours.

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What did you come up with?

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Okay. All right.

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Well, it started off with like decorating my house and like

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hiring a decorator.

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Cause I feel like that's not extravagance,

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not the right word,

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but it's just not something I'm ready to invest money in

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for me personally at this time,

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which the funny thing that happened because of that.

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And then I have another one actually.

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So decorating my house is where I started.

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And then I started like actually looking up some pincher sports

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and things.

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And I'm basically going to get started,

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like doing a whole little bedroom remodel mostly because I don't

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know, it's like a hodgepodge of stuff and we have furniture.

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It's like heavy wood furniture,

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like darker wood furniture.

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And I don't dislike it.

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Like it's a pretty sleigh bed,

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but it's just,

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if I were picking out bedroom furniture now it's not what

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I would choose.

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And I was looking at it.

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I'm like,

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well, I can update this without having to buy new furniture.

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So I always felt before,

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it's like,

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oh, I'm going to buy us.

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Like whatever I have furniture,

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it's fine.

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No one even sees it likes my bedroom.

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I spend like every night for eight plus hours in there,

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I fold laundry.

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What seems like every afternoon because my family seems to wear

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a lot of clothes.

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But anyway,

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so I started looking on Pinterest,

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we're going to do like a board and Batten on the

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back wall with just like tall,

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vertical wood stripes and painted like a really dark blue and

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then repaid the rest of the house.

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Maybe we put some draperies up and I'm going to kick

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off. I have like this fake tree in the corner that

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just collects dust.

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So that's gone.

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I'm going to put a nice chair there so I can

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sit and read comfy when I want to hide from my

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children. Right.

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So yeah.

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Yeah. That's what I'm going to do for that.

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So I'm like,

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oh, well then this is actually pretty easy.

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And actually doesn't cost much money at all because we know

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woodworking guy that can do that.

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And just a little coat of paint and some,

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a chair and some draperies done.

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So then I started thinking,

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okay, what would it really be?

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And what it would really be at this point in time,

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it would be a truck and a trailer.

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But wait,

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Nicole, I thought you were buying a truck.

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So Heather,

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I did the math,

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I did the math and I just can't do it.

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You know?

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Cause I started thinking,

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I'm like,

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all right,

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if I have a trailer,

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I've got personal property tax because North Carolina is one of

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those you tip states that gives you a nice personal property

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taxes on your vehicles,

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which is lovely.

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I, I like to say that all the states are going

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to get their taxes one way or the other,

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whether it's high property taxes or you know,

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whatever high income tax or high of in California.

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in North Carolina we have personal property taxes on our vehicles.

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So I'd have to pay that.

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There'd be like four new tires to buy and maintain.

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There'd be yearly inspections,

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like all these extra expenses.

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you know,

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it started out of well,

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if I get a tr like my next car,

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I wanted like a suburban or a Tahoe,

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like a SUV on a truck chassis.

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But now I'm looking at that versus like an Explorer.

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So still a full-size SUV,

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but not like the overnight on a,

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on a car chassis,

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one, not the big truck,

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one like $20,000.

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Less than that big one.

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And I'm like,

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I mean,

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I like the big one.

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I don't like it $20,000

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more, you know,

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like I don't,

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I don't need it.

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It would be nice,

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but I don't need it.

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So long story shirt short for how often we would go

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to shows like six times a year is like a good

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year. And like it's $6,000

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basically to pay to trailer two horses to each show.

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So $6,000

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a year,

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I worked out the difference from getting like the Explorer sized

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car to like the F two 50 plus the trailer.

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I mean,

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we're talking a good $45,000

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lot, including the yearly extra upkeep and expenses.

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And I'm like,

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that would take let nine years to,

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to go through and pay off.

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So anyway,

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long story short right now I'm going normal car.

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My frivolous spend would be a truck and trailer,

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but who knows maybe in a couple of years,

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maybe I'll upgrade.

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If we decide that we still want to do it because

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guess what?

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This decision isn't permanent.

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Right. That's okay.

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Very good point then just because you make the decision.

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So w people suffer a lot from decision fatigue because they

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act like they are pouring concrete on their feet.

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You're not is so ask yourself is the decision reversible.

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And for most decisions like almost 99% of decisions are in

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fact reversible,

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because if you did invest in a car and it didn't

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work out,

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you could trade it in.

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You could get a truck.

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If you invested in a truck and you were like,

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whoa, this is too much.

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You could trade it in.

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You know,

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there's always a way that you can reverse the decision,

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but okay,

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you were,

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you were doing this math,

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his calculation on the $6,000

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a year to,

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for somebody else to take the horses to the shows verse

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use. But that,

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but that's not a fair calculation because it's not,

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that's not the only reason.

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I mean,

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you, you want a truck because you like a truck.

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Now, maybe the trailer,

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maybe the trailer,

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that's like a direct comparison,

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but the truck,

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like you've always wanted that big truck.

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Well, it's not necessarily pickup truck.

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I love the,

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I love like the Suburbans and the Tahoes,

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but they're almost as much as the pickup truck and the

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pickup truck is safer and more powerful,

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better suited for pulling two big horses in that trailer.

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I was actually at why I'm camera last week.

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And one of my photographer,

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friends pulled up in her oh,

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it was a view.

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And I said,

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my friend,

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Nicole would be so jealous right now.

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I was like,

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I don't even,

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I said,

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I watched her pull this thing into a parking space.

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I said,

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I got to tell you that was an impressive parking job,

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massive vehicle.

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And she said,

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yeah, I love this truck.

323
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It was very,

324
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very fancy.

325
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It was a nice truck,

326
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but yeah,

327
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the price tag reflects that.

328
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Right. So,

329
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yeah, so,

330
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well, and how I knew that I needed to deeper,

331
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Heather is I've had this resistance around this.

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You have a while that I've been like saying for six

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months, I'm an order and I'm an order I'm going to

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do it.

335
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Actually. It's been like,

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almost, it's been like since the start of COVID ish.

337
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So I got the horse.

338
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So almost two years that it's been like,

339
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I track and go in a truck and I just couldn't,

340
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I just couldn't take the next step.

341
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And I was like,

342
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is this a money thing?

343
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Because it's significantly more expensive than I've ever paid for cars

344
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in the past.

345
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Is this,

346
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or is there like,

347
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is there something else?

348
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Like, what's my resistance here.

349
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And then when I did the math and then I made

350
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this decision,

351
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it feels lighter and aligned.

352
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And I'm like,

353
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yes, we went out and looked at cars on Monday.

354
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So like,

355
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yeah. So it's just like,

356
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I now know it's the right decision at this time,

357
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just based on my feelings.

358
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Because again,

359
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our feelings are a barometer of,

360
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you know,

361
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where we are.

362
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You're wise to question those feelings because feelings can also lead

363
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us astray.

364
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They can tell us the truth,

365
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but they can lead us astray.

366
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And you're not because I've known you a long time.

367
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You are not the type of person that makes decisions based

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on your feelings.

369
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You have a feeling,

370
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you explore it,

371
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but then you also look at logic.

372
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So you're not a,

373
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a rash decision maker.

374
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You know,

375
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you thought this through and you looked at all sides and

376
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you just couldn't make it make sense.

377
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Since I'm usually a really quick decision maker,

378
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it's like,

379
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oh, all done.

380
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I made that decision.

381
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And like,

382
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every time we've shopped for a house,

383
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we've looked for one weekend and we're like,

384
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okay, that one's done.

385
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I know what I like.

386
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And I know what I want.

387
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And when I see it,

388
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I get it.

389
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But The F-150 just Not the right time.

390
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So that would be your frivolous time.

391
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Although one could argue that that's not entirely frivolous because you

392
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would be using it for function.

393
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Yeah. But I can still,

394
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I I'm still doing the same function.

395
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It's not changing the function that I'm doing.

396
00:12:26,110 --> 00:12:27,340
Yeah. Okay.

397
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Fair enough.

398
00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:29,290
Yeah. Okay.

399
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Okay. Great.

400
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So as of yesterday,

401
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I mean,

402
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we had this on the schedule for about a week.

403
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And as of yesterday I still did not have anything.

404
00:12:39,490 --> 00:12:40,600
And I kept thinking about,

405
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I was talking to a mutual friend of ours and she's

406
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like, oh my gosh,

407
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it's so easy.

408
00:12:43,810 --> 00:12:45,610
I would get all the plastic surgery.

409
00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:47,740
She's like anything I didn't like about myself,

410
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I would just go have it fixed.

411
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I thought that was funny.

412
00:12:49,900 --> 00:12:50,350
I'm a,

413
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I'm a,

414
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I have some fear around surgery,

415
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so that's not for me,

416
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but I just struggle.

417
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Struggle, struggle in.

418
00:12:57,110 --> 00:12:59,440
Then I was talking to you about,

419
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you know,

420
00:12:59,710 --> 00:13:02,950
we do a lot of recording of podcast podcasts.

421
00:13:03,010 --> 00:13:04,840
Screencasts we teach Lightroom and Photoshop.

422
00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:08,170
We teach online and noise is an issue in my home.

423
00:13:08,230 --> 00:13:09,970
I'm always complaining about it.

424
00:13:10,210 --> 00:13:11,200
So I had said,

425
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I want to build like a tiny home on our property

426
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where I could have my office in a soundproof room.

427
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And I would be the only person with a key.

428
00:13:18,910 --> 00:13:20,860
So I would lock the doors and nobody could get in.

429
00:13:20,890 --> 00:13:21,820
Okay. But that,

430
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so I thought I thought of that,

431
00:13:23,410 --> 00:13:23,860
but then it was like,

432
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no, that's for work.

433
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And that would be like,

434
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that would have a function.

435
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And that would have a purpose.

436
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It's kind of like the truck,

437
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like you,

438
00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:33,220
you have this we're recording right now.

439
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You make it work.

440
00:13:34,450 --> 00:13:36,820
Right. It's not that much of a hardship,

441
00:13:37,150 --> 00:13:37,360
you know,

442
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just occasionally inconvenient.

443
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Correct. So I could argue that,

444
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but I thought,

445
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I wasn't sure if you would allow it.

446
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So I wanted to take it one step further and decided

447
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that this tiny home office situation needs to be in the

448
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trees. So I would call the tree house master if you've

449
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ever watched that show on TV.

450
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It's so interesting.

451
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And I would build this tiny home on our property,

452
00:14:01,270 --> 00:14:02,410
but up in the trees,

453
00:14:02,590 --> 00:14:04,150
but I would have it fully functional,

454
00:14:04,150 --> 00:14:04,360
you know,

455
00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:05,140
like water,

456
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electric, heat,

457
00:14:06,130 --> 00:14:08,170
Everything, Airbnb it a hundred percent.

458
00:14:08,350 --> 00:14:09,580
Now this is an Investment,

459
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a hundred percent.

460
00:14:11,810 --> 00:14:12,970
You can't stop me from doing that.

461
00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:15,100
Okay. It would be,

462
00:14:15,190 --> 00:14:15,490
it would,

463
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I would have it so that there was like,

464
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it was a full house,

465
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like tiny,

466
00:14:20,020 --> 00:14:21,220
right. But a full house,

467
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meaning people could stay,

468
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we could have guests in from out of town,

469
00:14:24,670 --> 00:14:27,580
but I would also have my office in it so that

470
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I could,

471
00:14:28,780 --> 00:14:30,190
Well, this is going to be a problem.

472
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You're going to need your office somewhere else.

473
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Because if you build that in Airbnb,

474
00:14:33,670 --> 00:14:36,160
it that's going to be on all like the best of

475
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the tri-state area,

476
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romantic Airbnbs.

477
00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:40,180
It's going to be booked all the time.

478
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So you should just do that as an investment.

479
00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:43,810
Okay. Okay.

480
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But listen,

481
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if that happened,

482
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then in the investment was doing well,

483
00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:49,900
then I would have the money to build another tiny house.

484
00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:54,530
I was planning on using this as an office,

485
00:14:54,530 --> 00:14:57,530
but I can never get in because it's always rented.

486
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So that's another one you're going to have a tiny house

487
00:15:00,980 --> 00:15:05,060
compound with just like this whole little camping.

488
00:15:05,090 --> 00:15:08,750
Like Actually when we built the homestead,

489
00:15:08,780 --> 00:15:12,200
part of my dream was just starting with the house.

490
00:15:12,350 --> 00:15:14,870
And then it was the chicken coop that we have a

491
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second detached garage in the chicken coop.

492
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And in my mind it was going to be a chapel.

493
00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:22,610
I was going to build like a tiny chapel,

494
00:15:22,610 --> 00:15:23,660
like so cute.

495
00:15:23,660 --> 00:15:25,100
You like photographers could use it.

496
00:15:25,130 --> 00:15:28,550
We have areas on the property where photographers come and shoot.

497
00:15:28,580 --> 00:15:30,020
So I rent out the property.

498
00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:32,180
So I wanted to have a chapel that I was like,

499
00:15:32,210 --> 00:15:35,150
oh, I could have like an all glass studio.

500
00:15:35,510 --> 00:15:36,020
And there was like,

501
00:15:36,110 --> 00:15:36,890
I need a cabin.

502
00:15:37,670 --> 00:15:38,540
And then I,

503
00:15:38,570 --> 00:15:39,800
now I need a Treehouse.

504
00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:41,210
So I did have this,

505
00:15:41,540 --> 00:15:45,290
I have had this vision of like this community.

506
00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:48,710
Now I have not run this by the permitting folks in

507
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our township at all.

508
00:15:50,450 --> 00:15:52,100
So I don't know what that looks like,

509
00:15:52,310 --> 00:15:54,830
but I do like to dream big.

510
00:15:54,830 --> 00:15:59,030
So if I had a hundred thousand dollars to kickstart this,

511
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and if you won't allow me the tiny house or the

512
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Treehouse that I would do a chapel,

513
00:16:05,390 --> 00:16:06,410
which is totally frivolous,

514
00:16:06,410 --> 00:16:07,940
like who needs a chop on their property,

515
00:16:08,150 --> 00:16:10,130
but I just want big chapel windows,

516
00:16:10,130 --> 00:16:11,060
stained glass,

517
00:16:11,060 --> 00:16:13,370
like with a steeple.

518
00:16:13,490 --> 00:16:13,940
And I,

519
00:16:13,940 --> 00:16:16,580
I can actually picture it with like all of this decor

520
00:16:16,580 --> 00:16:18,260
outside. We could host events,

521
00:16:18,470 --> 00:16:19,040
but then again,

522
00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:19,970
photographers could use it.

523
00:16:20,270 --> 00:16:21,020
It'd be cute.

524
00:16:21,020 --> 00:16:23,480
Little chicken decorations outside.

525
00:16:24,350 --> 00:16:25,940
Yeah. A hundred percent the chicken chapel.

526
00:16:25,970 --> 00:16:26,480
I don't know.

527
00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:27,290
But it would,

528
00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:28,700
it would definitely be cute.

529
00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:29,180
So I,

530
00:16:29,180 --> 00:16:30,410
yeah, I need those funds.

531
00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:30,980
So let's,

532
00:16:30,980 --> 00:16:33,830
can we somehow shift this from hypothetical to,

533
00:16:34,010 --> 00:16:34,940
I need investors,

534
00:16:36,650 --> 00:16:41,570
Right. My go fund me page is I love it.

535
00:16:41,630 --> 00:16:42,140
I love it.

536
00:16:42,140 --> 00:16:42,650
All right.

537
00:16:43,170 --> 00:16:43,790
That was it.

538
00:16:43,850 --> 00:16:44,300
That was,

539
00:16:44,300 --> 00:16:48,170
we promised we would follow up with you guys with what

540
00:16:48,170 --> 00:16:49,400
we would spend our money on.

541
00:16:49,700 --> 00:16:52,310
And I would love to hear from you.

542
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Somebody actually has sent me a DM this morning that she

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would spend her a hundred thousand dollars frivolous money on more

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tattoos. Yeah.

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I, you know what I'm thinking,

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I'm actually going to post this on my personal Facebook page.

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I'm going to ask people what they would spend the money

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on. They can't say a car or house or investments or

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paying off debt.

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And I bet you get a ton of responses and it

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will be just interesting.

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So maybe people can find me on Facebook and comment there,

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or just read through the comments.

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Cause I bet it's about to get really interesting.

555
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Aha. I think also one,

556
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we release this the day we released this,

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my team,

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please take a note because I'll totally forget.

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But anyway,

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we should post in the circle community.

561
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Yes. That I want your answers.

562
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I want your a hundred K answers.

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Boom. Actually,

564
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I'm going to go post in the circle community right now.

565
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Great idea.

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Because people have already listened to our one about this and

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then we'll link it up in the show notes.

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If you guys want to jump on that thread and let

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us know what your hundred K splurge is,

570
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I would be so curious.

571
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Yes, no,

572
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I love this kind of stuff.

573
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So fun.

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All right.

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Thanks Heather,

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for checking in with us and we'll see you on another

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podcast soon.

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