Today's episode "It's ok, not to be ok” was inspired by Hashtag No Filter's Julie Lauren's recent podcast "If you're going through hell, keep going." We have all experienced low points or even rock bottom. What I've learned while navigating challenging times is "the only way out is through". But what do you do when the emotional piece takes over, and you can't pull yourself up off the floor? In this week's episode, Julie will share her strategies around false narratives, how to avoid tail spinning, and the importance of gaining perspective. Julie will also share dating advice and helpful tips she's learned during these difficult months.
Julie Lauren is an author, podcaster, writer, and digital strategist. After graduating college in 2008 with a degree in fashion and retail merchandising, Julie immediately jumped into the fashion industry. From 'Intermix' to 'Oscar de la Renta' and then to Petra Nemcova's lifestyle brand. In 2011 she started a lifestyle blog, called initially 'from prosecco to plaid,' and began freelance writing. In 2015 Julie published her first book "Oops!" an insider's guide to dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s. In 2018 she started the podcast "Hashtag No Filter," full of real, raw, funny conversations.
Today we are going to talk about overcoming setbacks, starting over, and everything in between. Kerry Brett and Julie Lauren cover a lot of ground, topics include:
How to navigate false narratives.
How to stop yourself from tail spinning out of control with negative thoughts.
The importance of taking ownership and accountability.
How to pause instead of being reactive.
The power and strength that comes from being non-reactive.
How to choose to turn the page and move away from feeling down.
The power of being consistent in online dating.
How to avoid people who are just looking for the next best thing.
How to be selective and hold your value.
How to stop dreaming and start getting serious.
How to avoid the dopamine hit when someone matches you.
How to be less emotional and more professional while dating online.
How to run these dating apps like a business so the lows won't destroy your day or how you feel about yourself.
When the emotional side takes over, remember this isn't you and do what you can to have the perspective you once had.
Hold onto your friends tightly, call a friend to put you in your place, and remind you of your worth.
Take your hands off the steering wheel, let go of controlling everyone outcome and let life happen the way it's supposed to happen.
Never get too high on the highs or too low on the lows, and never go off a dating app because a relationship didn't work out. Just keep going!
To find out more about Julie Lauren, go to www.julielauren.com, or follow Instagram @byjulielauren. Listen to her podcast Hashtag No Filter on all platforms you find podcasts or purchase her book "Oops!", an insider's guide to dating, sex, and relationships in your 20s on Amazon.