We are winding down this year and starting to plan the next. But before you do, check out this episode. In this one, I spill the beans on my chat with Lori from The Secrets of Supermom, where we dig deep into the secrets of planning your absolute best year.
I open up about 2022, a rollercoaster of a year where my marriage faced some serious challenges. But here's the twist – it became a turning point, setting the stage for my commitment to making 2023 the year of an extraordinary marriage.
I also share the power of singular focus as I recount how making my marriage the primary goal led to incredible transformations in various aspects of my life. I break down practical steps, including dedicating learning time, strategic planning, and using trackers in my planner.
Join me for a dose of inspiration, practical tips, and a whole lot of positive vibes. Here's to making 2024 your year of pure awesomeness! Don't miss this episode – tune in now!
Get the show notes at www. realhappymom.com/219
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We are winding down this year and starting to plan the next. But before you do, check out this episode. In this one, I spill the beans on my chat with Lori from The Secrets of Supermom, where we dig deep into the secrets of planning your absolute best year.
I open up about 2022, a rollercoaster of a year where my marriage faced some serious challenges. But here's the twist – it became a turning point, setting the stage for my commitment to making 2023 the year of an extraordinary marriage.
I also share the power of singular focus as I recount how making my marriage the primary goal led to incredible transformations in various aspects of my life. I break down practical steps, including dedicating learning time, strategic planning, and using trackers in my planner.
Join me for a dose of inspiration, practical tips, and a whole lot of positive vibes. Here's to making 2024 your year of pure awesomeness! Don't miss this episode – tune in now!
Get the show notes at www. realhappymom.com/219
NEXT STEPS
Grab Your Freebies: https://www.realhappymom.com
Check Out the Course: https://courses.realhappymom.com
I recently had a conversation with Laurie Hooper lacking on the secrets of supermom, where we dived into what are some of the best practices for planning your best year ever. And in that episode, we talked about a lot of really good things. And we got into something that I wanted to share here with you today. Hey there, my name is Tony. And I'm the podcast host of the real happy mom Podcast, the podcast for busy working moms who need help with time management, and achieving their big goals without pulling their hair out. And fun fact about me, I lived in Nebraska for five years. In this episode, we are going to be talking about a simple way to plan for your best year ever, in some ways that I have found helpful in accomplishing goals without feeling overwhelmed, and how to actually set goals that excite you and you can actually reach. But before we jump into this episode, I wanted to share with you a great resource that it's only available for five days only. If you are listening to this podcast episode after it has gone live, you are in luck because the competent mom bundle is on sale right now. The Confident mom bundle is a collection of resources and tips that is created by moms for moms, that is going to help you with all things related to motherhood. And the best part is that the price is just $47. So if you are a new mom or a seasoned pro, and you are looking for some resources to help you be a confident mom, definitely check out the link in the show notes for the confident mom bundle. 2022 was a very challenging for many reasons. But it was extra challenging because at that time, my marriage had been at its absolute worst. Long story short, I got to a point where I just didn't even want to be married anymore. And I didn't even like my husband, which it really feels really sad to say that. But honestly, that's how I felt during that time. And we actually went through a situation that really shook us a lot. And that was the wake up call for me that let me know that even though we had been through a really rough time, I really did love him. And I really did want to be married to him. And so I looked at myself and I was like, I can't continue to live like this, we can't continue to be like this. So I knew that I needed to do whatever it took to get our marriage to go from rock bottom to the top of the mountain. That was when I spent time reflecting on 2022. Really looking back and seeing what all happened, and how we even got there. That's when I decided I'm gonna make 2023 the year that my marriage is the best it's ever been. Honestly, I wanted it to be the best marriage ever was honestly the goal. And I'm telling you this story, because I think a lot of times we hear people talking about goal setting, especially goal setting for the new year. And of course, the SMART goals come up, which is great. Don't get me wrong, I use SMART goals all the time. I really think that it's important when you're looking at planning for your year to start with the end in mind. So really think about what is it that you actually want to accomplish? What is it that you want to feel? What is it that you want to do? What is it that you want to see and experience? Like, really think about? What do you want the end of the year to look like? What do you want to feel like at the end of the year. And I think it's so important to really start there when it comes to goal setting and goal planning. Because then you get to the real root of things as far as what you truly desire. And what is really going to make your life better. Because yeah, running a marathon or writing a book, or doing all of these other great things. Yeah, that can light you up and bring you joy. But is that what you really want? Or is that something cool that you heard someone else was doing that you're like, Oh, let me try that too. Not to say that that isn't wrong, but that is not going to be something that you will stick with for a long time. So the first step that I find for me that is helpful with planning for the new year is like I said, starting with the end in mind, and this goes back to Franklin Covey. This is a very, very popular quote that came from him start with the end in mind, he says is for planning your day and planning your week. I'm saying start like this for planning your year. So once you do through that you can start to identify where are the things that are really important to you, and what your focus will be. And so this is the next step is, once you've done that, really think about the one thing that is going to help you with getting to that end goal. Yes, getting fit and losing weight, and improving mental health. Those are all really popular goals and New Year's resolutions, not to knock all that. But I'm just saying what is going to help you get to that end goal to that end feeling to that end result, that experience that you are looking to achieve by the end of the year. So, like I said, I knew going into or finishing out 2022 and corn into 2023. I knew that my marriage was Rocky. And I wanted to fix that. So I told myself, this is the year I am going to make it the best marriage ever. And so that was my sole focus for the entire year. I did not have five other goals. Yes, there were other small things that I worked on, you know, throughout the year, don't get me wrong. But my overall focus was on this one thing. And the reason why I think it's important to focus on one thing is because it's so easy to divide your time and attention on so many other things and do them just okay, or give it a mediocre effort. But when you focus on one thing, you can give it your full effort, your full energy. And you will see that you will make really big strides and really substantial progress when you're focused on one thing versus five things. So when I say I made this my sole focus, what this look like, just to illustrate for you is whenever I had that learning time, I like to call it my learning time. That's when I spend time in the car listening to podcasts and audiobooks. I made sure those podcasts and audiobooks were about marriage, and things that could help with marriage or relationships. So for instance, I was on a kick for a while to quite a few audiobooks, Jay Shetty, his book came out called the eight rules of love. And I like deep dived into that too, that was like a book that I listened to several times. Just because it was really good to break down, you know how to not only love others, but love yourself too, as well. And then I made sure that I was listening to podcast episodes that were talking about relationships in marriage, when I was doing my devotionals, I made sure that I was doing a devotional about marriage. And if you're interested inside of the YouVersion Bible app, there are several different plans. And I completed a couple of different plans that were helpful with my marriage. So I'm gonna share those with you. So one of the ones that were helpful, not necessarily like marriage specific, but um, this plan is called praying to forgive that one was a really good one. I also did seven prayers to pray for your husband. And another good one was solid, building, the marriage of your dreams, all of those devotionals were really helpful and definitely wants to look into if you have the YouVersion Bible app, which is free, by the way, if you're looking for a devotional to jump into. But like I said, everything that I was doing was revolving around how can I make my marriage the best ever. So like I said, learning time focused on marriage and relationships. Then I made sure when I was planning out my weeks that I was planning out time, to date nights, or really significant amounts of time to spend with my husband so that we were having time to build our relationship and make our relationship stronger. I also put in a tracker in my planner, where I was tracking, I had a couple of things I was tracking. When I was tracking the books that I was reading, I wanted to make sure that was either listening to a book or listening to a podcast that was going to help me with my marriage every single day. And then I started tracking, asking my husband questions and learning something new about him. Because one thing that I have learned is that in marriage, we grow and evolve over time. And the person you married 1015 2030 years ago is not the same person that they are today. People change and people evolve and grow, which is a beautiful thing. So you definitely want to take time to learn those things. have changed. So I was spending a lot of time asking him questions really open ended questions like Excellent. And like, you know, what were some of the fun things that you did when you're a kid? Or what is the one thing you can't live without? What are some things that you would do if money wasn't an issue, like just asking open ended questions, just seeing where his mind and heart was, and just learning more about him. So like I said, every single thing that I was doing was focused around this big goal of making my marriage the best ever. And the beauty is, with me focusing on this one go in focusing on one thing, this allowed a ripple effect in my entire life, where not only was my relationship with him good. But of course, we started to parent better because we're working as the Tag Team Champions over here. We were parenting Well, we were having better time with our kids and better family time. He was supporting me at work. So I was doing better at work. He was supporting me with real happy mom. So real happy mom was starting to take off. So not only was my marriage good, and like I said, I was focused on my marriage, but it caused a ripple effect to have so much positive effect in every area of my life, that it's one of those things that you're like, Yeah, Toni-Ann. I understand, like you want to focus on like, one thing. But if you're focused on one thing, then you're neglecting everything else. No, not necessarily. I'm not saying like, that's like what you just totally obsess about. But I'm just saying, that is your one goal. That is what you're giving your effort, your time and energy to. And I promise you, you will see a great return on that, and see a ripple effect of that in your life too, as well. So if you are sitting down getting ready to plan for the new year, I know you might be thinking, hey, 2018 is a little bit early. Yes, we're a little ways out from New Year's Day, however, I do want you to start thinking about and reflecting on the year, so that you can be ready once January one pops up. So if you want to see how I go about doing my year in goal setting, I have a Trello board that I think is really, really good. Just to help with not only going through the steps of reflecting and visualizing and brainstorming in setting that goal. I also have a tracker in here too, to help you with tracking some of the smaller goals that may be getting you to that big goals that you have for the end of the year. This particular board is inside of my year in Trello, tastic powerpac, which I think is phenomenal because it has some very meaty boards I call them meaning that it just has a lot of things inside of the board that are going to help you move forward with planning the holidays, planning out the new year, and then also getting your journal kind of ready. If you don't have one, you'll have one ready to go using Trello. So if you're looking for something that will help you with goal setting, as well as finishing out the year strong, you want to get this Charlo tastic power pack. And I will have a link in the show notes for you to get it for a very, very special price. So typically, this power pack is about $47 For a limited time, you'll be able to snatch it for$7. So go ahead and Gil to real happy mom.com/ 219 to get the show notes so that you can see the things that were mentioned here in this episode, as well as the link to get the power pack so that you can have access to the goal setting board so you can set your goals to have your best year ever. So that's all that I wanted to share with you in this episode today. I hope that you have a great rest of your week. And make sure that you check out the confident mom bundle if you are listening to this episode at the time that it comes out, because this is a really great resource that I know will help you out so much. So that's all I got for this week. Stay tuned for next week for another full episode. Take care and we'll talk to you