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#401 | The Biggest Ways Relationships are Ruined

Emilia Smith & Bianca Thomas

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Why do we crave extraordinary love but settle for chaos? In this raw and revealing episode, we share personal truths about toxic relationships and unpack the real reason most couples struggle. Together, we explore why love isn’t enough, how nervous system regulation changes everything, and what it takes to build a healthy connection. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that looks fine on the outside but feels wrong inside, this conversation is your lifeline.

Here’s the episode related to today’s discussion and why we highly recommend listening to it as well:
#369 | How Your Attachment is Preventing You From Love - https://apple.co/3GWn5Sk
#372 | How To Repair A Relationship Rupture - https://apple.co/4im9u4O

Out of the Mud (OOTM): "The Skills for Being a Great Partner" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/-tSEztgpRHaPogd-Z2Xbbg#/registration

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Show notes:
(2:04) Bianca’s pattern of toxic love
(4:31) What actually makes a relationship work
(10:08) The martyr mindset and identity loss
(13:30) Self-soothing: The missing relationship skill
(19:38) Why do we stay in unsafe love
(23:58) Safety creates space for truth
(27:28) Love isn’t enough, leaving still hurts
(30:38) Emotional safety is the real game-changer
(36:15) Outro

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