Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour
I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do.
Thank you.
Kim
Episodes
197 episodes
The Psychology of Control. Family Dynamics Shape A Child’s Personality
A child can look “fine” and still be living in a constant state of emotional calculation. I explore what happens when kids grow up in controlling family systems where tension, silence, manipulation, denial, or divided loyalties become the backg...
The Psychology of control. Episode 5.Guilt As Control
If you’ve ever set a simple boundary and suddenly found yourself defending whether you’re a good person, you already know how powerful guilt can be. We talk about guilt-based control, the quiet kind of emotional manipulation that doesn’t need t...
The Psychology of Control. Withdrawal
Silence can feel like a door slamming, even when nobody raises their voice. We’re digging into emotional withdrawal: that unmistakable shift where someone is still in the room, still talking, still functioning, but the connection is suddenly go...
The Psychology of Control. The Child Is Not The Problem
A teen is getting worse fast: school is collapsing, anger is escalating, and violence is starting to show up at home. It’s tempting to aim every intervention at the child. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I slow this dow...
The Psychology of Control. Ambiguity
Clarity is not a luxury in a relationship. When someone keeps you guessing on purpose, the uncertainty becomes the leash. We dig into ambiguity as a psychological control mechanism and why it can feel so hard to name while you’re living inside ...
The Psychology Of Control. Introduction.
Control isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s a gentle tone, a missing text, a “helpful” correction of what you remember, or a quiet pressure to keep the peace. We kick off a new series on the psychology of control by naming what so many people fee...
Why it feels like it's happening again. The Story We Tell Ourselves
Silence can be loud. A delayed text, a cooler tone, a missing reply and suddenly your mind is writing a whole script about what it means and what it says about you. We talk about how that script forms, why it lands with so much weight, and how ...
Episode 3: When Small Changes Feel Like Big Threats. When Silence Hits
A delayed text can feel like rejection. A quieter voice can feel like abandonment. When the rhythm of a relationship shifts by just a fraction, the reaction in our body can be immediate and extreme, and it can leave us thinking, “Why does this ...
Why It Feels Like It’s Happening Again. Episode 2.When The Past Feels Present
A delayed text. A different tone. A silence that lasts a beat too long. Sometimes the smallest shift lands like a warning siren, and we can’t explain why, except for the awful certainty of “I know where this goes.” We talk through that experien...
Podcast Series: Why It Feels Like It’s Happening Again. Episode 1: The Moment Something Shifts
A read receipt, a delayed reply, a slightly different tone, and suddenly your body acts like it already knows how the story ends. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I’m starting a series on emotional resonance and transfer...
Hidden Harm And Emotional Neglect
The harm that changes a child most isn’t always loud or dramatic, it can be the quiet absence that nobody knows how to name. We close the Hidden Harm series by looking at emotional neglect as a hidden safeguarding concern: not what is done to a...
Hidden Harm. "Good Behaviour" - Or Is it....?
A child who never breaks the rules can look like a parenting success story. But what if that calm, compliant, high-achieving “good behavior” is actually a shield against anxiety, fear, and the feeling that something might go wrong at any moment...
Hidden Harm. The Too-Grown-Up Child
The child who “never causes trouble” can be the one carrying the most. I’m talking about the kid adults love to praise as thoughtful, sensible, and wise beyond their years and why that praise can hide a deeper story.We unpack what early...
Hidden Harm, After-School Meltdowns
A teacher says your child is settled, engaged, and doing well. Then you get home and it’s tears, anger, shutdowns, or nonstop conflict. That sharp contrast can feel like you’re living in a different reality than the school is describing, and it...
Hidden Harm. The Overcompliant Child
The child who never argues can look like a parenting win, but what if that “good behavior” is actually a safety strategy? We dig into hidden harm and the overcompliant child, exploring how a kid can become organized around keeping connection st...
Hidden Harm. The Child Who Never Complains
The child who never complains can look like a dream: easygoing, mature, no drama, no demands. But that quiet can also be a survival strategy, and it can hide harm that caring adults simply miss. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapi...
A Practical Guide To Recognizing Child Safeguarding Risks
A child can look “fine” right up until the moment everything becomes undeniable, and that gap is where safeguarding lives. I walk through what we mean by safeguarding risk, why risk is not the same as proof, and why most of us should focus on n...
What Child Safeguarding Really Means And Why It Matters
Safeguarding can sound like a threat, but it was built to solve a different problem: adults seeing harm and not acting in time. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I’m starting a series on safeguarding children because the ...
Children Absorb What We Don’t Process
A child’s biggest struggle might not start with the child at all. When stress, fear, grief, or anger can’t be carried by the adults in a home, it doesn’t disappear. It often shows up in the child’s body and behavior, quietly and persistently, a...
Overwhelm Isn’t Failure, It’s Capacity Being Exceeded
Parenting overwhelm rarely looks like the movie version of a breakdown. Sometimes it’s quiet. You still get everyone fed, you still answer the school emails, you still show up for work but inside you feel flat, flooded, and one small request aw...
Parental Anger Unpacked
If you’ve ever heard yourself shout and then wondered, “Where did that come from?” you’re not alone and you’re not broken. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I want to slow down what we usually rush past: the inner life of...
The Avoidant. Reality Confrontation After An Avoidant Relationship
You can feel the pull to confront them, to make them admit what they did, to finally give you the closure you were denied. I’m talking about why that moment almost never arrives with an avoidant partner and how chasing it can keep you tied to t...
The Avoidant Partner. Episode 2. If It Felt Like Love Yet Broke You......
Someone can swear they love you, vanish without warning, come back warm for a moment, then disappear again and still have you blaming yourself. We walk through a real account of that slow unraveling: the late-night calls, the constant emotional...