Getting R.A.W. with Denise
Welcome to Getting R.A.W. with Denise, the podcast that's all about saying goodbye to claiming self-doubt and self-shaming, and saying hello to owning your self-worth and self-satisfaction in order to live a life you're in love with! Basically, we are Redesigning and Aligning from Within, A.K.A. Getting R.A.W.!
On this life shifting journey, we'll dive deep into the realms of self-love, self-worth, and other "selfies", as well as the power of setting healthy boundaries.
But hold on, this isn't your typical run-of-the-mill empowerment and self-help podcast. We take it up a notch and then some! Together, we'll embark on a transformative experience, breaking down barriers, and shattering limiting beliefs that have held you back from living your most authentic life.
In each episode, we'll tackle the tough stuff, those subjects that you might have hesitated to confront. Why? Because we believe that genuine happiness and crushing those major life goals are well within your grasp, and you deserve every ounce of success and fulfillment.
Are you ready to get R.A.W. with yourself? It's time to prioritize your needs and desires without an ounce of guilt. We'll provide you with the tools, insights, and encouragement to create the life you've always yearned for but maybe never dared to pursue.
Your host, Denise Marsh, brings a high-energy and no-nonsense approach to the mic, appealing directly to that part of you that's bursting to break free from the constraints of self-doubt. We're here to challenge and uplift, to support and guide, and to celebrate every step you take towards embracing your unique journey.
So, join us on Getting R.A.W. with Denise, where we'll delve into the core of your being, uncovering the power that resides within. It's time to face those fears, doubts, and insecurities. Together, we'll create a community that celebrates growth, authenticity, and a life truly worth living. Tune in, subscribe, share with other fellow humans, and let's set your soul on fire!
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The Bitterness Breakthrough: Turning Pain into Personal Power
Hey there! Ever catch yourself wondering why it feels like some of your deepest desires just never seem to come true, no matter how hard you try? Well, I've got something to spill about that. Join me, Denise Marsh, for a chat where I'm dishing out the real deal on how sneaky feelings of resentment and bitterness might be messing with your game plan without you even realizing it.
In this episode, it's just you and me, getting down to the nitty-gritty of human emotions. I'm sharing a story about one of my clients who struggled to find happiness and success because of baggage from past relationships. We're diving deep into those feelings, like how even those "let's just be friends" arrangements after a breakup can secretly mess with our future dreams.
This episode isn't about quick fixes or magic potions. It's about facing the stuff we often sweep under the rug—the emotions that tie us to our past. Together, we'll tackle how these feelings affect our relationships and life goals. I'll walk you through steps to embrace your best self, ditch the toxic vibes, and sail towards a life filled with health, happiness, and freedom from past drama. It's all about taking charge of your own story and becoming the hero you're meant to be. So, grab your coffee or tea, and let's dive into some real talk about breaking free and owning your life's journey.
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All right, let's talk today about why you may not be receiving some of the things that you've been asking for. We all have desires in our heart. We all have dreams that we want to see fulfilled. We all have those deep aches that we want to become our reality. There's so many things that we hope for, wish for, dream about, and yet sometimes we find ourselves not receiving the things that we ask for, the things that we dream about, and I want to put it out there today.
Speaker 1:That may be one of the reasons why you're not receiving some or all of the things that you desire is because you're still holding on to some resentment. Now, resentment is a sneaky little trickster. Sometimes we think that we are over something, that something that happened in the past is no longer a big deal. You know what I healed from it, I got therapy, I moved past it, I don't even think about it, I'm over it, right. That may have happened to you quite a few times, where you truly believed that you were over something and then you realize that it may still be a little nuisance. That resentment that you had about that situation or that person may still be causing some issues in your present day life.
Speaker 1:Let's take an example here. I was working with a client who had a few cross relationships. They weren't the best. I mean, she actually had one that was really seemed like it was a good fit for both of them and they loved each other. They were actually really good friends before they decided to take it to the next level of being intimate. And also, just FYI, my client was more than happy with me sharing this story because she said that maybe by me sharing this story it will help someone else. I will not say her name, because that is not what we do here, unless my client is on here and tells me to tell her say her name. But for confidentiality her name doesn't need to be stated, but the story can still be shared. So thank you, ms Client.
Speaker 1:But anyhow, her and one of her past relationships. They were really good friends and they decided to take it to the next level and started to date as two people wanting to be intimate with each other. And then eventually the dating led to more serious relationship between the two of them, which led to an engagement, and then it led to marriage and the marriage started off really wonderful. I mean, they had such great chemistry together and they knew that they would get along well because they had been friends for quite some time already. So the fact that they now had romantic feelings for each other and wanted to share their lives with each other, it just felt like a bonus.
Speaker 1:And then they started to see little rips here and there in their relationship and at first it was just a little disagreement here, a little disagreement there, which, okay, all relationships have disagreements and you're not always going to see eye to eye on things in a relationship. However, they started to notice that these disagreements became more of not feeling good about each other, you know, saying things to each other that were not very kind, and yet they would go back to one another and apologize and say, let's move forward, let's not do that again. And then something else would happen and they're arguing again, and it was this repeated cycle, but every time it would escalate a little bit more, a little bit more. It never got to the point of physical abuse. It never got to the point of where they were saying unforgivable things. However, they were saying things that, you know, kind of hit below the bell a little bit at times.
Speaker 1:Now they eventually decided to divorce, and it was a really sad decision for them, because they did not want their friendship to end. You know, they said, if nothing else, if the marriage didn't work, okay, could they at least still keep their friendship going. And after the divorce they actually did. They gave each other a little break at first, and then they decided to continue on being friends and they started doing things together again, going out and actually went on a couple of trips together, you know, staying in separate hotel rooms, but doing things together like they did before the marriage and everything seemed fine. However, let's fast forward a few years.
Speaker 1:That client of mine. She wanted to get back in the dating world and she would meet guys and the first day would go well and then she would find something that she didn't like about them. Now, this could very well be true. Okay, she has standards, she knows what she wants and she knows what she does not want. But she was really getting down on herself about this. She was starting to take it personally that maybe she would never get into another relationship and maybe something was wrong with her. And you know, even though she was the one that was in most of those relationships, sometimes it was the other way around, where the person would not call her back or wouldn't ask for a second or third date. And so she started to wonder if it was her, if she was the issue.
Speaker 1:And when we really got down to it, we realized that she wasn't over some of the things that happened in the marriage with her friend, and this really baffled her for a while, because it had been a few years since the divorce. They were getting along very well, they were still hanging out, doing things together, and so she felt that she was really over what happened during the marriage. But she wasn't. She kind of just skidded over it, right? She just said you know what? We're good, we're friends, we love each other, we care about each other. So, whatever happened during the marriage it didn't work out, it's fine, let's move on.
Speaker 1:But she really did not fully move on. She took the end of their marriage as a personal failure. She took the end of their marriage as a personal failure, convinced herself that she was the cause of their relationship not ending. But also she convinced herself that she just could not have the right type of man. And she even got to the point of thinking to herself well, the relationships before that marriage didn't work out. And then I actually married someone I considered one of my closest friends and that didn't even work out. What's wrong with me? And it actually created a bitterness inside of her. She was carrying around so much resentment from herself and from the marriage and even from her friend who was also her ex-husband. She was carrying around this and letting it fester into bitterness and she didn't even recognize it. She just thought that was just a normal reaction to things. But she was constantly being triggered, and and she was being triggered by things that weren't even directly connected to her. So I bring this story up Because now I will say, first of all, my client we did a lot of good work together and she was able to work through those blocks, she was able to heal those traumatic wounds, she was able to get over it for real, she was able to really close the chapter on that and she is now in a healthy Relationship. It is still kind of new, but they have had several dates and she's feeling very good about it. Most importantly, she's feeling good about herself. And so I bring all of that up because Sometimes we are carrying around past resentment and making it part of how we operate today.
Speaker 1:And so if you are in a relationship that May, you know, may have had some challenges in the past, and yet you've decided to stick it out, but Yet you find yourself still pondering why are, why am I in this relationship? Why are we together? What am I doing? How is this my life? Oh, I guess it's not that bad. I mean, it could be worse. I Mean, is there actually any type of perfect relationship? Everyone has issues. So if these are my issues, like fine, whatever, I'll just deal with it. At least my partner, does x, y and z, even if they don't do a, b and c.
Speaker 1:Sometimes we may find ourselves negotiating with ourselves. But here's the deal if you know that there are certain things that you want in your life whether it's with a relationship with a friend, an intimate partner, a Family member, or if there are things that you want regarding your business or your career, or there are things that you know you want for your overall health, whether that be your mental health, emotional health, financial health, physical health, spiritual health if you know that there are things that you want and these are non-negotiables, then there is no negotiating it, not even with yourself. But when you find yourself negotiating things, trying to appease things, trying to make things not that big of a deal, even though you know that they're bothering, you, find out what this is really about. Is there something you still are carrying from the past that is affecting you today? Are you carrying around some bitterness and resentment that is Allowing you to make decisions for your life that you wouldn't normally make? If you were in a much better headspace, if you were free from the bitterness and the resentment and the fear, if you had a meeting with your bestest self, alright, the most wisest version of you. Would that version of you make some of the decisions that you're making today? Think about that. Think about that If the part of you or the future part of you that is the wisest, the most sound of mind and who is feeling good in all areas of their life, would they make the same decisions that you currently make? And if the answer is no, then why are you making those decisions?
Speaker 1:You have to ask yourself what am I sacrificing here? What is a non-negotiable in my life? What is it that I truly want when it comes to relationships? And I'm not talking about having that checklist where you're checking off boxes of things that may or may not really matter, and most of them may not matter. Some, I'm sure, really do matter. But I'm not talking about having this checklist of things and this is going to mean I have the perfect person if I have this checklist of all the boxes checked off. No, because it doesn't matter what relationship you get in, even if it's with the most incredible person that was designed for you.
Speaker 1:If you are still carrying around resentment, bitterness, it's going to poison whatever you have going on. It's going to start to affect whatever you have going on in not good ways and that poison starts off slow at times, that bitterness, that resentment, it is causing cracks galore, and this episode is not meant to scare you. It is meant to wake you up. Let me ask again if you were to have a meeting, a heart-to-heart, with a version of yourself that is the wisest and the bestest version of you, would that version of you make the same decisions that you are making? And now you may actually say that there are many decisions that you too would agree on Wonderful, beautiful, that is absolutely loving. However, if you can say with certainty that there are some decisions that your bestest self would not be making, but you are making, it's time for a change and you are the one responsible for making that change.
Speaker 1:If you are carrying around some past resentment or some bitterness and you still want to blame someone else for it, you understand that bitterness and resentment is just going to deepen. The blame game has to stop, even if you're blaming yourself or you're blaming someone else. It has to stop. It's not helping you, it is hindering you, and you are worth a loving and beautiful and peaceful life. Resentment and bitterness does not need to be part of it.
Speaker 1:I'm here to encourage you to take a small step of releasing that bitterness, releasing that resentment, finding out what it's really about, finding out where it's stemming from and also finding out what is it affecting in your life currently, because if you don't figure that out, it can continue to cause challenges for you and you don't want that. Listen, there are enough challenges out there in the world. We don't need to create our own. Being our own champion, being our own cheerleader, being our own friend that's what we can do for ourselves, and when we do that for ourselves, it helps us to be able to do that for other people. It helps us to have these healthier relationships. It helps us to have clarity in the things that we want to do and the things we want to pursue and how to do that. It helps us to trust ourselves so much more. It helps us to be able to see that life is meant to be sweet. Even when some parts are sour, it is still meant to be sweet.
Speaker 1:But the bitterness doesn't have to be there. The resentment doesn't have to be part of your story. You can let that go, but you have to be willing to do so. Start small, get support, find ways that you can let go of what is not for you and embrace what is going to help you. You got this. You can do this. I am cheering you on. This is your life. Go out there and make it amazing.
Speaker 1:Thank you for being part of this exhilarating journey through Getting Raw with Denise. Your commitment to self-discovery and growth is truly inspiring. If you have found value in this discussion, I would be so incredibly grateful if you could take a moment to share this podcast, or you could even leave a review on Google or Apple podcast. Your feedback helps others on a similar journey discover this complementary resource and embark on their own transformative path. For more resources and support, please visit DeniseMarshnet. Let's stay connected and continue uplifting one another. Remember you hold the power to redesign and align your life from within. Embrace your uniqueness, cherish your self-worth and set those healthy boundaries with confidence. Keep diving deep into your true self, unleashing the potential that resides within you. Are capable of greatness and the world needs your authentic brilliance. Thank you once again for being a part of this incredible community. Until next time, stay true to yourself, keep shining and let's keep getting raw together.