SelfKind: Conversations in self-care, kindness and compassion for highly sensitive people
Hi and welcome to SelfKind with me, Erica Webb. This is a podcast for Highly Sensitive People (HSP) who want to navigate the tricky bits of their sensitivity with more ease, while finding their sensitivity super powers. Here, we're all about being, living and moving through a lens of self compassion and kindness.
As your host, I meet you as a fellow HSP. I know what it's like to feel like things are too loud, too bright and just ... too much. In my work as a registered counsellor and mindful movement coach, I've supported myself and my clients to find ways to embrace their sensitivity that centre on self-compassion, nervous system regulation, self-awareness and, ultimately, self-love.
From mindfulness, mindful movement, joy seeking and a zillion and one practices in between, here you'll find space to be fully you - fully human - and the tools to navigate the tricky bits of having a highly sensitive nervous system.
I’m thrilled you’re here.
SelfKind: Conversations in self-care, kindness and compassion for highly sensitive people
Ep 244: Stop shrinking to avoid judgment
Fear the judgment of others? That's understandable - it's deeply uncomfortable to be openly or quietly judged. But we potentially do ourselves a disservice if our strategy for remedying that is to shrink or alter ourselves to avoid others' judgments and make them like us.
This is what we're exploring today on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!).
In this episode you will hear:
- Why it can help to acknowledge that people are judging rather than trying to convince yourself they're not
- The impact that others' judgments (or the fear of that) can have on our behaviour and internal dialogue
- Clues that might show you where you're shrinking or altering yourself out of fear of judgment
- Why the short-term relief of discomfort that comes with shrinking and people-pleasing is potentially short-lived
- Why acknowledge discomfort as human is important
- The role of acknowledging your fear
- Whether it's worth trying to 'convince' yourself that you don't care about others' judgments
- Whether people pleasing can ever truly be eliminated
- Tips for navigating time with family when you find yourself falling into practiced patterns of relating
- The role of acknowledging your own judgments of others.
Mentioned in this episode:
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Episode 162 of SelfKind with Erica Webb: On guilt, values and joy https://www.ericawebbyoga.com.au/podcast/episode/7cd27919/ep-162-on-guilt-values-and-joy
Episode 95 of SelfKind with Erica Webb: Living a Values-Based life with Laura Jean https://www.ericawebbyoga.com.au/podcast/episode/4e6b530b/ep-95-living-a-values-based-life-with-laura-jean
The content I share on this platform is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While I am a qualified counsellor, yoga teacher, and somatic coach, the information provided here does not constitute personal counselling, therapy, or a therapeutic relationship.
If you're struggling with your mental health or need personalised support, I encourage you to reach out to a registered professional in your area.
Always take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and prioritise your wellbeing.