Where Do We Grow from Here?
Where Do We Grow from Here? is a podcast about marriage, relationships, and mental health, hosted by Chris "Bucky" Bateman, LMFT in San Diego. Each episode brings honest conversation and practical tools for couples, men, and individuals working through communication problems, broken trust, grief, anxiety, and questions of faith. Whether your marriage is struggling or you're trying to grow, you'll get real clinical insight in plain language.
Episodes
17 episodes
When Sex Isn't Really About Sex an interview with Jeff Allen on Shame, Attachment & Healing
In this episode of Where Do We Grow From Here?, I sit down with therapist Jeff Allen, LMFT, for a thoughtful conversation about sex, shame, attachment, compulsive sexual behavior, and our deep need for connection.Jeff works with...
What to Say (and Not Say) When Someone You Love Is Grieving
This episode is the practical guide. Bucky walks through what to actually say (and the well-meaning phrases to drop), why saying the person's name is a gift instead of a wound, what to do with silence, and why "let me know if you need anything"...
Can I Still Count on You? Rebuilding Trust When Your Partner Keeps Letting You Down
Trust rarely breaks in one dramatic moment. More often it erodes quietly through missed bids for connection, promises that don't match actions, and emotional absence during the seasons that needed presence most. If you and your partner have dri...
Why Couples Stop Talking About Sex (And How to Start Again)
Sex is everywhere in our culture, and almost nowhere in our actual conversations in relationships. In this episode, couples therapist Bucky Bateman explores why so many partners never talk openly about sex, where sexual shame comes from, and wh...
The Small Daily Habits That Hold a Marriage Together
The biggest threat to most marriages isn't a dramatic blow-up or a single betrayal, it's the slow accumulation of small moments that go unnoticed and unappreciated. In this episode, Bucky Bateman explores the invisible work of relationships: th...
How to Fight Fair in Marriage: Arguing Without Destroying Your Connection
All couples argue. The question isn't whether you'll have conflict it's whether your conflict will bring you closer or drive you further apart. In this episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman unpacks why conflict is not only ine...
Why Waiting to Feel "Emotionally Safe" Is Keeping Your Relationship Stuck
Emotional safety has become one of the most talked-about concepts in modern relationships but what if the way we're using it is actually making things worse? In this episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman challenges the popular...
Why Couples Feel Emotionally Distant (Even When They Love Each Other)
You can love someone deeply and still feel like strangers. Emotional distance in marriage is one of the most common and most misunderstood relationship problems couples face. In this first episode of the Couples Connection Series, Bucky Bateman...
Surviving Divorce You Didn't Choose: Recovery, Faith & Starting Over
Divorce is hard for everyone, but there's a particular kind of pain that comes when you didn't want it and couldn't stop it. In this episode, Bucky sits down with India Kern, a divorce recovery coach and author who knows that pain firsthand and...
Faith, Resilience & Rebuilding: One Man's Journey Through Hardship
What does it look like for a man to face serious hardship and come out the other side with his faith and identity intact, maybe even stronger? In this episode, Bucky sits down with Boogie Rose for a wide-ranging conversation about resilience, f...
5 Signs It's Time to Go to Couples Therapy (From a Marriage Therapist)
Most couples wait too long before seeking help an average of six years after problems begin, according to research. In this episode, Bucky Bateman draws on his clinical experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist to break down the ke...
Living with Adult ADHD: Relationships, Motherhood & Managing the Chaos
Adult ADHD is one of the most underdiagnosed and misunderstood conditions in women and it affects far more than just focus. In this episode, Bucky sits down with Renee Herman, who shares what it's been like to navigate life as a mother, student...
Widowed Young with Three Kids: Grief, Faith & Learning to Start Over
Few experiences reshape a life the way sudden loss does, especially when you're left to raise children alone. In this deeply moving episode, Bucky talks with his wife Keri, who was widowed young with three small children and had to find a way t...
From Chef to Church Planter: Faith, Calling & Reinventing Your Life
What does it look like to completely reinvent your life in pursuit of something you believe you were made for? Gordon Wong has done it more than once moving from Oahu to the mainland, building a career as a chef, planting a church, and now serv...
Understanding Anxiety: One Woman's Journey and What She Learned
Anxiety can feel isolating, like something is wrong with you that isn't wrong with everyone else. In this episode, Bucky sits down with mcKensey McGill, who shares her honest, unfiltered journey with anxiety: what it felt like, what made it wor...
Mental Health Tools That Actually Work: A Therapist's Personal Story
It's one thing to recommend mental health tools to clients. It's another to have used them yourself in the middle of a genuinely hard season. In this episode, Bucky Bateman gets personal sharing the specific coping strategies, mindset shifts, a...
Why a Marriage Therapist Started a Podcast About Resilience & Growth
What does it take to move through life's hardest seasons and come out stronger? In this first episode, Bucky Bateman; Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of Renewal Counseling Centers in San Diego shares the personal story behind...