Sex, Relationships and Covid19

We are spending alot more time inside than we normally do

How is this affecting our lives, are you single?
If so this podcast is for you! We are talking about how being single is hard during this pandemic.

Social distancing makes it hard to go on dates, and interact with other single human beings

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Transcript

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Hi, I'm Carleen and this is SRN1. Thanks so much for tuning into the show. It's always exciting to have a conversation with you about things in life and the things that are happening in life. I feel like for me, myself, as an individual who's always thinking, I think we're always thinking because we have so much more time to think about life that we're just unsure. So going back to what we normally talk about, our main focus is always relationships, the relationships you have with yourself, with your friends and your family. And I think we have to go back to the whole ideology is that it's so nice now that we are able to engage in conversation over the phone and this new technology. Um, it's not new technology, but um being able to use a new application as Zoom. And for me, I'm using it with that awareness that this is not as secure as something like Microsoft Office or even Skype. I mean, Skype was something that came out years ago, but now it's not as popular. I have it on my phone, but I don't use it a lot, and so it's one of those things because we are social distancing, and some people are in quarantine, others are in self-isolation, and we are able to connect with each other via WhatsApp um or Zoom. And so um, the age of technology is this is feels like this is the future, like this is how things are actually going to be. We are going to be using more um video applications to have meetings and like ways to speak to one another, one another, whether it be your family member or your business associate. This is the way of technology, but our main focus today is relationships, and the reason why I bring this up is because we are not able to have the relationships that we normally have, and I think that's something that's very important because social distancing does not allow us to have sexual intercourse and to be intimate with other people, and so now we are forced to do other things. And I I was reading this article in Now magazine, and it made me think about what we should be talking about because it's not a normal time. We can't go out to dinner, we can't go out on dates if you're single. I mean, forget about it, right? And so now I'm at home. What am I gonna do? You know what I mean? You can do phone sex, right? That's another thing on the sexting, right? Sexting. I'm I don't even know if I'm saying it right, and another thing, watching porn. I mean, porn hub is free. Who are we kidding ourselves? You know, they want us to stay inside, and so they've offered a free service. I mean, Pornhub is already free, anyways, but now you can watch Pornhub for an hour. Not that you're gonna be watching it for an hour. Most people watch it for five or ten minutes, but at the end of the day, this is a time now where you're just like if you're not in a relationship and you're not um living with someone that you're intimate with, you have to find other ways. And I feel like the tension is mounting because um you're missing that physical touch. So it's like, what do we do now? We have to find other ways to be sexual, but kind of asexual. It's like, well, I'm gonna have to just please myself, right? And so that's just a natural order of things. Some people could care less about being intimate with someone else or that kind of thing. And I think um, just depending on your personality and how you are as a person, you may not um it may not be important to you, or you can go a while without being sexually invested, but some people are get sexually frustrated, right? And so um over the years I've studied um a few things, and um sex is a way to release stress, and I feel like during this time, not only are we dealing with the stress of life itself, the stress of like, okay, well, I have to make sure that I pay all my bills, and I pay my rent or my mortgage and my cell phone bill, and that I have enough money to buy groceries, you know. And so if you have, if you're able to be intimate with someone, that is another thing that's important to just take away your mind for like a half an hour an hour, however long, to take away your mind from that. And because we don't have that right now, we have to find alternatives, and so we are going to the masses, which is the internet, and the internet has always been that place where it's full of information, and there's websites, and you know, now you can have like a video chat and that kind of thing, and so I think people who before were able to go and you know have sex with a prostitute are now doing other things as you know, sexting and phone sex because at the end of the day, you need some kind of stimulation, no matter how you put it, um, ways to relieve stress, you know. If it's not sex, then it's going for a walk, it's exercising, cardio. Um, if you have anxiety, like there's so many things that are integrated in that. But I think um the reason why I it's important to bring up sex is because it's on people's minds all the time, more so men than women, but I think men and women both think about it. It just depends on the person themselves, you know what I mean? Like whether or not you think intimacy is important is important, and I think in every relationship it's important, no matter how you put it, whether it's 50% or 30% of the relationship, I mean it's always good to get to know the person before you have sex with them. I remember watching this one reality TV show, um, The Millionaires Club, and Patty had this rule of like the rule of no intimacy unless there's monogamy. And she always said it, and I think there's some truth to it because um, unless this is a fling or a friend with benefits, if you want to have something in the long run, it's good to wait, hold off before being intimate. That way you know for sure. But, anyways, during this pandemic, just remember that there are other ways to get rid of stress, and we have to find multiple ways to help during this pandemic, and hopefully it will get back to normal soon. I'm Carleen, and this is SRN1.