Legal Grounds | Rod Jeter on Deconstructing Our Disagreements, Solving for the Problem Behind ‘The Problem’, & Letting the Relationship Win

When you make your living settling other people’s disagreements, it can be easy to fall back on the skills and tools gained in that Professional environment when trying to resolve an argument that is Personal in nature. 

And like an almost comical right-of-passage, it’s a mistake that EVERY lawyer makes at some point, typically early on in their career. 

The type of detached logic we use to navigate a problem is great for guaranteeing Justice, but it’s also what makes it terrible for acknowledging (much less validating) the role emotions play in interpersonal relationships. And when your spouse, colleague, or friend suddenly feels like they’re being cross-examined, it doesn’t end well.

Trust me. 

But as my guest this week discovered through his own journey, oftentimes the logic of relationships only breaks down because we’re trying to solve for the wrong variables. 

And sometimes we’re not even working on the same equation. 

Rod Jeter is a Navy veteran who found success in multiple careers including Real Estate and Software Engineering, but as he writes in his latest book, his personal life was on a downward slope. 

Not one to give up easily, Rod began working backwards to figure out why it seemed like even though two people had the exact same information AND knew each other well, they could come to such vastly different conclusions about something. 

This question would lead him to develop the YBAngry relationship tool with the goal of creating happier homes and helping as many people as possible solve conflicts and disagreements with less chaos and more fun.  

On this week’s episode of Legal Grounds, Rod shares his journey, insights learned from working with hundreds of couples, and a couple of laughs along the way. 

Enjoy the show.