Healing For Love
Healing for Love
A podcast for anyone who wants to stop shrinking, start healing, and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life.
Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone — relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and expert in schema healing — this podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds, and gently rewrite your relationship template.
Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice, and build relationships that support who you truly are.
This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole, and more herself — in love and in life.
Healing For Love
60: When Good Enough Is Never Enough: The Unrelenting Standards Schema. Part 1
Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!
We are talking about the unrelenting standards schema in this episode.
The unrelenting standards schema is closely related to perfectionism. People with an unrelenting standards schema tend to have very high expectations of themselves that do not change, regardless of the situation they are in. They are constantly striving for standards, and when they don't meet them, it can be very distressing. Some people become so good at meeting high standards that their lives become extremely stressful.
Recovery from most schemas can be an ongoing process because the brain will always respond when triggered and return to a place it has been many times before. With therapy or coaching, the strength of the signal will weaken, the pain of your experience will lessen, and you will be quick to observe your schema and deal with it.
In this episode, Gemma and Justine explain what an unrelenting standards schema is, what lies underneath it, and where it originates. They also get into how it feels, how different people cope with it, and ways to normalize it. Stay tuned for more!
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