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Healing For Love
Healing for Love
A podcast for anyone who wants to stop shrinking, start healing, and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life.
Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone — relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and expert in schema healing — this podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds, and gently rewrite your relationship template.
Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice, and build relationships that support who you truly are.
This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole, and more herself — in love and in life.
Episodes
135 episodes
131. No Matches, No Dates - Is Something Wrong With Me?
In today’s episode, I answer a short but powerful question that came in anonymously:“Hi Gemma, I cannot even get a match, let alone a date. What the hell is wrong with me?”If you’ve ever stared at a dati...
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130. What Emotionally Available Partners Actually Do
We hear the term “emotionally unavailable” all the time, yet many women are not sure what the opposite actually looks like in real life. In this episode, Gemma breaks down emotional availability in clear, practical terms, so you can recognise i...
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129: The Real Dating Mindset: 10 Shifts That Protect You From Old Patterns
Dating can stir up every schema you have. If you have a history of emotionally unavailable partners, narcissistic relationships or spending years in situationships that never really went anywhere, getting back out there can feel both hopeful an...
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55:36
128. The Sorry Reflex - Why You Apologise (When You Don’t Need To)
In this episode, Gemma unpacks The Sorry Reflex - the automatic urge to apologise, even when we’ve done nothing wrong. Rooted in the subjugation schema, this coping behaviour often begins in childhood, where expressing needs or ...
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127. Can they change? Two Essential Qualities That Make It Possible
If you are asking can this improve, this episode gives you a simple lens. Gemma unpacks two essential capacities that predict whether change is possible in a relationship. You will hear why the brain repeats what is familiar, how schemas drive ...
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126. Inside Limerence (Part 2): From fantasy to freedom
What limerence really is, why it hooks into our deepest unmet needs and how to gently unhook using a schema-therapy lens.In Part 2, Gemma explores limerence as a preoccupying, often intoxicating state that’s fueled by unmet ne...
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125. Inside Limerence (Part 1): The psychology of the crush that won’t quit
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124. Narcissism Explained: What to Watch For in Relationships
A listener asks: “What exactly is narcissism and how can I tell if I’m dating someone with narcissistic traits?” In this episode, Gemma breaks narcissism down into plain English. You’ll learn why it’s best understood as a ...
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Inside Love Wisely: A Heart-Centred Journey to Rewrite Your Love Template
Enrollments are Open, Doors Close Wednesday 17th 11:59PM (AEST)In this short bonus episode, I’m giving you a clear picture of what’s inside my 12-week group coaching program, Love Wisely, which begins Wednesday, September...
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123. The Fears That Hold You Back: 5 Limiting Beliefs Keeping You From Healthy Love
Gemma answers the most common questions she’s received about Love Wisely and widens the lens to address the deeper fears and limiting beliefs that stop women from changing their relationship patterns. You’ll learn how schemas (lik...
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122. The Catch-22 of Attraction: Why We Want Love but End Up with Distance
When your heart wants closeness but your “old map” keeps pulling you toward distance, you’re stuck in the Catch-22 of attraction. In this episode, Gemma explains how early schemas quietly shape who you’re drawn to, why “chemistry” so often poin...
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121. When “Staying Friends” Costs Your Self-Respect: Trauma Bonds, Avoidant Partners & Letting Go
In this episode I answer a listener Q from “Maddie,” who’s in post-breakup limbo with an avoidant ex. I unpack blurred boundaries after a breakup, why “staying friends” can quietly erode self-respect, how trauma bonds differ from sch...
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120. The Rescuer Complex: Why Saving Them Won't Heal You
Why do caring, empathic women end up doing the heavy lifting in love, staying out of guilt and “rescuing” partners at the expense of their own needs? In this episode, Gemma unpacks the unconscious pull to fix others, how childhood patterns (sel...
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119. Your Past Relationships Are Trying to Tell You Something… Are You Listening?
Every past relationship leaves clues. Patterns you’ve fallen into. The kinds of people you’re drawn to. The roles you find yourself playing without even realising it.In this episode of Healing for Lov...
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117. How She Stopped Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Men — A Real Case Journey
Meet Sophie, a 37-year-old woman who spent years feeling stuck in painful relationship cycles. Like many women I work with, she kept attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic men — despite knowing, deep down, that something wasn’t righ...
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116: Why Do We Minimize Harm in Relationships? Understanding the Psychology Behind Tolerating Abuse
In this important solo episode, Gemma reflects on a disturbing real-life conversation overheard between two teenage girls — one of whom casually describes being physically assaulted by her boyfriend. What follows is a powerful deep dive into wh...
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115 – Healing for Love: Why Reparenting Your Abandoned Inner Child is the First Step to Secure Relationships
In this solo episode, Gemma explores one of the most foundational concepts when it comes to healing relationship patterns—the abandonment schema.Whether you're currently dating or in a long-term relationship, understanding your own aband...
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44:56
114. Are You Dating As Your True Self — Or a Coping Mode?
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113. The Mailbox – Healing from the Mother Wound: Letting Go of the Hope That Keeps You Stuck
In this mailbox episode, we dive into a listener question from Amy (name changed for privacy), who is struggling with the trauma bond with her narcissistic and emotionally neglectful mother. Amy shares her experience of <...
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26:39
112. Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: Six Questions to Help You Reconnect with Yourself
In this episode, Dr Gemma takes a deep dive into one of the most common and persistent life patterns—people-pleasing. If you've ever found yourself constantly prioritizing others' needs over your own, struggling to say no, or feeling exh...
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111. Seven Deadly Sins of the Narcissistic Dater: Red Flags You Can’t Ignore
Episode Description:Are you dating someone new and wondering if they’re truly a good match? Or do you have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners? In this episode, Gemma breaks down The 7 Deadly ...
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109. When Family Ties Hurt: Navigating Estrangement and Difficult Relationships
Episode Overview:In this deeply personal and insightful episode, Dr. Justine Corry shares her experience of family estrangement, reflecting on her relationship with a narcissistic mother and the impact on her life. Dr. Gemma Gladston...
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108. Which Life Script Do You Want to Let Go of This Year?
Happy New Year! In this first episode of 2025, Gemma invites you to reflect on the life scripts and recurring patterns that no longer serve you and take intentional steps toward rewriting them. Life scripts are the unconscious stories and patte...
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