Healing For Love
Healing for Love
A podcast for anyone who wants to stop shrinking, start healing, and grow into their most grounded, authentic self in love & life.
Hosted by Dr Gemma Gladstone — relationship coach, former clinical psychologist (25+ years), and expert in schema healing — this podcast offers thoughtful, insight-rich episodes to help you understand your patterns, heal from past emotional wounds, and gently rewrite your relationship template.
Here, you’ll learn how to reconnect with your worth, trust your inner voice, and build relationships that support who you truly are.
This is for the woman who’s ready to feel more secure, more whole, and more herself — in love and in life.
Healing For Love
63: The Mailbox: My Inner Critic Is Called Dick
Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!
Join us as we discuss a listener's email about her inner critic to whom she has given the name 'Dick'. A listener, whom we refer to as 'Mia' has sent us a detailed email about her inner critic. 'Dick' the critic, says all sorts of nasty and punitive things to Mia, but sometimes Mia feels that he actually protects her. How can this be? Does her critic actually protect her from something? Could it have a protective role and if so does that make it something else?
In this episode, Gemma and Justine take a very deep dive into the concept of the inner critic and related modes in schema therapy.
- How can we define the inner critic
- Where does the inner critic come from
- What are modes in schema therapy
- Could 'Dick' actually be a coping mode instead of a critic?
- Why is it useful to pull apart the messages a critic says to us
- What had Ronald Fairbairn's "Moral Defense" have to do with it all?
- What is the Flagellating Over-Controller Mode in schema therapy & what is its function?
- We mention that this defence mechanism is also relevant for schema chemistry and why some people tend to blame themselves for bad treatment.
- We hope we have given Mia a few potential hypotheses to think about with her own therapist.
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