08: Six Tell-Tale Signs of a Big Self-Sacrifice Schema (ie, People Pleaser) - Dr. Gemma Gladstone

Welcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!

Are you a People Pleaser?  If so this episode is for you.

The Self-Sacrifice schema falls into the "other-directed" domain in schema therapy.  With this schema you are inclined to attend to the needs of others over and above your own needs.  Failure to do so often results in you feeling guilty about having let people down.   Self-sacrifice can be a form of severe self-suppression and left unchecked it can dominate your life and result in depression down the track.
 
Gemma discusses 6 key signs that suggests you have a major self-sacrifice schema; she discusses the typical family of origin circumstances which produce the schema and also gives advice about how to begin to change and confront this schema.  

The 6 tell-tale signs discussed are:
1. You can't say No.
2. You often feel Guilty.
3. You get validation needs met from being a self-sacrificer.
4. You attract and stay with Narcissists in relationships.
5. You carry a lot of resentment.
6. You are burnt out, feel exhausted and have various health complaints.