Welcome to Disrupting Burnout - a podcast where we beat burnout so that you can love your career again! What's in your backpack, friend? What's in your experience and what have you learned that leads you to burnout?
Many people believe their job is the source of their burnout and although it can create an environment for your burnout to flourish, I know for sure that your job is not the source of your burnout.
In this week’s episode of Disrupting Burnout, I’m revealing the real source of burnout and how you can identify it in your life.
It’s Time To Disrupt Burnout:
1:30 - The Real Source Of Burnout
4:45 - Defining Hard Work
10:10 -How To Honor Your Work & Live In Alignment
The Source of Burnout Takeaways
● “Your job is not the source of your burnout.” - Dr. PBJ
● “You have the power to disrupt burnout for yourself.” - Dr. PBJ
● “Survival work was hard work.” - Dr. PBJ
● “I grew up in Crocketville, but I wasn't called to work in Crocketville.” - Dr. PBJ
● “The definition of work that I forced to fit into the university setting led me directly to burnout.” - Dr. PBJ
● “I’ve learned how to honor the work of my people by living in alignment with who I am today.” - Dr. PBJ
● “I can do well at work without paying the ultimate consequences of my health and my mental state and my relationships.” - Dr. PBJ
● “Honor the people that you are created to serve without paying the ultimate sacrifice.” - Dr. PBJ
● “Your burnout is not that you're doing too many things, it’s that you're doing the wrong things.” - Dr. PBJ
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So I've learned how to honor the work of my people by living in alignment with who I am today. Hey, friends, welcome to the disrupting burnout podcast. I am your host, Dr. Patrice Buckner Jackson. But you can call me PBJ. Free, you are in the right place here at disrupting burnout, we are giving you the tools to disrupt and beat burnout. So you can love your career and your work. Again, friend, we get it, you're in the right place at the right time we speak your language, we know what it feels like. We know that caring and serving in a compassionate way can cost you in your body in your mind and your spirit and your relationships. And this is your place to come to be refreshed. This is where you get refilled. This is the place to be revived. This is the place to fill your cup so that you can serve from your overflow friend. I'm so glad you're here and I'm ready to get started. How about you? Let's get into it. Hey, hey, hey, friends, it's Dr. Patrice Buckner Jackson, but you can call me PB day. And I'm here again to share with you concerning disrupting burnout. And today I want to talk to you about the real source of your burnout. I cannot tell you how many people I meet with that coach I talked to, and they truly believe that their job is the source of their burnout. Now friends, you know that I believe that your job can create the environment for your burnout to flourish. So there are responsibilities that supervisors and managers and institutions and organizations, we have some responsibility to take care of our people. Absolutely. But your job is not the source of your burnout. Friend, I know don't leave me stay with me. Stay with me, just hear me out. Your job is not the source of your burnout. I want to get down to the source you understand that one of the strategies that I teach to disrupt burnout is checking your backpack, what's in your backpack? What's in your experience? What have you learned, that leads you to burnout? Now, let me prove to you first that your job is not the source of your burnout. And then we're going to talk about how to dig deeply into it. First of all, if you have changed jobs, or if you have changed careers, if you look back over your your life or your experiences, this is not the first time you've been overwhelmed, not the first time and you've been burnt out. Maybe with different people with different organizations, you found yourself overwhelmed before. So it's not the job, it is not the job if you are the common denominator friend. So first of all, if you've been in this place before, with different people, a different environment, then there's something in you, right that we need to talk to, you're not broken, you're not wrong, but there's something that we need to address. But also if you look around you, and they're in the same environment as you but other folks are not burned out, they are in the same environment, then that means the job is not necessarily the source, right. So like I said, your job can promote an environment that allows your burnout to flourish. And that's not a good thing. Jobs do have responsibility to take care of their people. But regardless of if the job changes or not. If the environment at work changes or not, you have the power to disrupt burnout for yourself. You don't have to wait for an organization to change, you don't have to give that power away. There are some things that you can do for you to help you. And that's what I want to talk about. So in checking our backpack, there's a question that I want to explore with you today. For you to determine the source of your burnout, you're overwhelmed. And you might be saying PBJ I'm not burnt out good. I celebrate that. I don't want you to get there. I want you to disrupt it before it gets there. So here's my question for you today. Where did you learn the definition of work? Who taught you what hard work looks like? Right? So I want you to open up your backpack and I want you to dig deeply I want you to really think about where you learned what hard work is. I'll give you my example. So I am from Crockett Ville, South Carolina. Don't worry friends if you heard a crappy beer with cousins. Okay. Clearly it's a very small community, a very small farming community. And in Crockett Ville hard work or work, there's, there's no work is hard work period. And it is back breaking sweat inducing all day work. In Crockett Ville, my people woke up before the sun, and they were out working and they didn't come back in until the sun was going down. And Crockett via my folks have full time jobs. And then they also work the farm on the weekends. And in the evenings. I remember my brother and my cousins going out into the watermelon fields with my grandfather. And they would pick watermelons but toss them from one person to the to another until they got all the watermelons up on a truck that my grandfather could drive to the farmers market on Saturday mornings. I remember walking through the cornfields and peas and beans and okra with my grandmother and my sister picking bushel baskets, so that the family could sell where it was survival. work was hard work and you didn't complain. You didn't complain because you did your part to support the family. That's my definition of work. That's how I learned what work is. So when I showed up in the university environment in the college environment, I didn't know how to work differently. So I translated it to I have to be the first one at work every day. And I have to be the last one to leave because I wouldn't dare let anybody think that I'm not working harder than them. I had to attend every program. I had to be on every committee I had to take on every project because who am I to complain? My people are in the fields, hot sweat and Crockett Ville, I'm sitting in this cushy office with air conditioning, who am I to complain? So I always had to say yes, I had to give my very last my energy, my time my money. I had to give my very last because that's what I learned. I took Crockett Ville with me to the university setting and hear me clearly. There's nothing wrong with Crawfordville. I'm grateful for how I grew up. I'm grateful for those lessons. But I had to realize that Crockett Ville didn't fit at the university. Let me tell you what I mean, I grew up in Crockett Ville, but I wasn't called to work in Crockett Ville, I wasn't created to stay in Crockett Ville. So that definition of work that I forced to fit into the university setting setting led me directly to burnout. I didn't feel like I had permission to rest. I didn't feel like I had permission to say no, because I watched my people work so hard and sacrifice themselves so that we can be okay. Hey, Fred, I'm just popping in to let you know that I have just a handful of openings on my calendar over the next three months for one on one coaching clients. If you are an accomplished woman who has found that you've lost your fire over time, if you have been successful doing all the things, but you just want to love your work. Again, if you're really good at what you do, but you know that there is more than you need to reach out. Go to connect with pbj.com Sign up for a connect call. We'll jump on real quick. I just need to make sure you're a good candidate for my coaching program. And if so we'll dig in together and I'll walk this journey with you. All right, y'all reach out connect with Pb de.com. I look forward to speaking with. Hello, my name is Patrice Cole. And I just want to say Dr. PBJ has truly impacted my life in a great one. I thank you for all the ideas and the inspiration and just the teaching and knowledge that you bring with you. She has a tremendous way of just speaking from her heart to your heart. I think she has disrupted some dysfunction in my life for lack of a better word. So if you are in need of the disruption, go see Dr. P region. I'm so grateful that our lives and our paths have crossed. You have truly had an amazing impact on me and my mindset, and I'm forever grateful. Thank you And now I've learned that more than one thing can be true, that I can honor and respect what my folks did for me as a child and how hard they work, and how they had to work to take care of us. And I can adjust my definition of work to fit who I am today, and what I need, and the calling upon my life. So I've learned how to honor the work of my people, by living in alignment with who I am today. I've learned how to put boundaries up, and how to say no, when I need to say no, I've learned that work, I can do well at work without paying ultimate consequences of my health, and my mental state, and my relationships. And that's how I'm honoring my Crockett Ville foundation. Today, I was giving a keynote speech and a woman in the audience told of how her her father growing up was a town physician. And he responded to every call, anytime somebody needed a physician, he was there. And he showed up, and he served them well. And he sacrificed his time with his own family, he sacrificed his rest, because he had to take care of the people. And she told how she took that definition of work into education, she was a teacher, and how she would neglect her own family to take care of her students. Even after hours, she would go to an after school program. Now, they have people in after school who take care of students there. But if her students were there, she felt like she had to be there, because her father taught her was work was responding to every call. What is your definition of work? Who taught you what it means to do a good job? Who taught you what it means to work hard? And does that definition still align with who you are today? How can you be your best at work? How do you need to? How do you need to redefine work? How do you need to reimagine what it means to do a good job, so that you can do what you were created to do. And do it well. Honor the people that you are created to serve without paying the ultimate sacrifice. So far, and I'm here to tell you that your job is not the source of your burnout. It may there may be work to do in your organization to support your wellness. And I understand that and I believe that. But when you think about the source of your burnout, I want you to dig deeply into your backpack. And think about how do you define work? Where did you learn that definition? And is it in alignment with who you are today? Your burnout is not that you're doing too many things, that you're doing the wrong thing. And it's time for you to live in alignment. All right. That's all I got for you today. I hope that this helps you and encourages you. I hope that it frees your heart so that you can do the work that you were created to do without paying ultimate sacrifices. all right for now. See you next time. Have a good day. Bye bye. Now hold on friend before you go. I want you to share this episode with somebody in your life who you know needs it. Uh, you know, we can't leave without this. I always have to remind you I need to remind you, you are powerful. You are significant. And you are loved. Love always PBJ