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Ep. 171 Why Knowing Your Patterns Isn't Enough to Change Them

Jessica Smarro Episode 171

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You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You can name your patterns, trace them back to childhood, and explain exactly why you do what you do.

And you're still doing it.

If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

Today I'm answering five listener questions. What I didn't realize until I recorded is that all of them are really asking the same thing: why doesn't knowing something actually change it?

Turns out, the gap between knowing and doing isn't an information problem. It's a thought problem, and that changes everything about how you approach it.

Questions answered in this episode:

  • I've been in therapy for years and I know all my patterns. But knowing them doesn't seem to change them. What am I missing?
  • How do I rebuild trust with myself after I've broken a promise to myself so many times that I've stopped believing I'll follow through?
  • I'm successful by every external measure but I feel like a fraud. I keep waiting for someone to figure out that I don't actually know what I'm doing. Is this ever going to go away?
  • How do you actually rest without feeling lazy? I can't seem to turn off the part of my brain that thinks I should be doing something.
  • I know what I want. I even know what I need to do. But I just...don't do it. Whyyyyyy?

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