The Psych with a Mic Podcast

24. Slot Machine Parenting

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Are you reinforcing your child's bad behavior without realizing it? In this episode, we're diving deep into the psychology of reinforcement and how inconsistent parenting can actually strengthen unwanted behaviors. Discover the powerful, yet problematic, "intermittent variable" reinforcement schedule and why it's the secret behind the addictive nature of slot machines – and your child's persistent requests.

We'll break down real-life scenarios, from grocery store meltdowns to inconsistent rule enforcement, revealing how "sometimes you give in" creates a gambling mindset in your kids. Learn why specifying "just this once" means nothing to a child who's learned that persistence pays off.

But don't worry, we're not just highlighting the problem. We'll also provide the antidote: consistency. Discover how swiftly and consistently applying consequences can dramatically reduce unwanted behaviors and bring peace back to your household.

If you've ever felt like your kids are constantly testing your limit or if you're ready to break the cycle of inconsistent parenting, this episode is for you. Learn how to create a predictable and effective reinforcement schedule and reclaim your sanity!

Jennifer Paweleck-Bellingrodt, Psy.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist

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