Special Episode #1: The Moment I Started Saying “I’m Sorry.”

Ever found yourself tongue-tied when it's time to say "I'm sorry? " You're not alone. My wife Nicole and I, peel back the curtain on our marriage to explore the healing power of a heartfelt apology in a heart-to-heart conversation that's as real as it gets. 

Join us as we reminisce about a critical turning point in our relationship, where Nicole's resolve pushed us toward a deeper understanding and better communication. We'll share the laughter and the learning that has shaped us, offering up our experiences as a mirror for your personal growth. 

Whether you're single, dating, or have been hitched for years, this episode will inspire you to drop your guard and embrace the vulnerability that comes with a sincere "I'm sorry."

Transcript

Mario P. Fields: 0:00

Welcome back to unarmored talk podcast. Thank you so much for listening and watching each episode and continue pleased to share with your friends and family members and colleagues, and don't forget to leave a rating or review if you feel this is a awesome show. And you can connect to all of my social media on the parade deck just looking at show notes, or you can put in the search engine Mario P Fields parade deck and get all access to my social media. Well, let's get ready to interview another guest who is willing to remove their armor to help other people. Welcome back everybody to unarmored talk podcast, this special episode that kick off 2024. I want to say thank you to the unarmored talk enthusiast who requested for Nicole and I to come on and do like a special episode once a month. So here's the first one.

Mario P. Fields: 0:55

I'm your host, mario P Fields and I'm the cofields the video editor and the behind the scenes heroes, everyone heroes. I said heroes, hero. But yeah, we got to cut no, no wrong, unarmored talk, raw. So the theme we're gonna jump right into the topic, because I'm sorry. I am sorry. I'm sorry for messing up the theme. The topic for this special episode is the power of. I'm sorry and meaning it, but I wasn't always like that. When we first got married, what was it like when I could not?

Nicole Marie Fields: 1:33

say I'm sorry he couldn't. Mario love to debate and he still does not gonna lie debate, still loves to debate debate yes and not, not.

Mario P. Fields: 1:44

How about discuss?

Nicole Marie Fields: 1:45

well, you can call it discuss now but yes, he always love to me.

Mario P. Fields: 1:50

Look at the definition debate, keep going, keep telling me however, it when we first met.

Nicole Marie Fields: 1:58

We would always get into a debate an argument because of his debates or discussions here we go for a discussion yeah, discussions where you know of course he'd love to discuss anyways he would never say I am sorry. I was always the one that was like you know what? This is ridiculous. Let me just go ahead and apologize and I would tell him babe, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry. To one day I finally had enough. I was like no, I'm done.

Mario P. Fields: 2:39

Yeah, sir done so y'all know how I found out he was done. Yeah, yeah, let me tell you unarmored talk special episode removing our armor. She didn't tell me she was done. You know. Y'all know what she did. Nicole was in the Navy and she worked at a squadron VT86, pence, colorado. Favourhawks and we had one vehicle because we were poor E3 and E2.

Nicole Marie Fields: 3:04

Yeah, I was at E3, you were E3.

Mario P. Fields: 3:05

E4 at that time.

Nicole Marie Fields: 3:07

Well, yeah, at that time you had C4 and E4.

Mario P. Fields: 3:09

Yeah, and for you, for those who haven't served in the military, we were entry-level employees. We just got hired at the bottom. You know what I'm saying, and so so. So I called her work. You know it's time to go to lunch. Back then it's called child. You know child time when you don't act in duty. But I called and her colleagues. They answered the phone and they was like Nicole does not want to talk to you, and I was like what? And I can hear her in the background. They were like it's Mario, it's you know it's, and she's like I don't want to talk to him. Tell them why, though. Tell them, tell them where you told your colleagues, fellow sailors.

Nicole Marie Fields: 3:55

I told them to tell him to relay the message that if he wanted to speak with me he would have to say he was sorry, because I was tired of being the first one to apologize when it wasn't even my fault. So they did. They relayed him the message and said she said she don't want to talk to you until you say sorry.

Mario P. Fields: 4:18

They did and I was like dang. So I had a choice Either I could have reacted, which I was, you know I was what I was 13 at the time, you know. But I was a rigid person. I was very emotional, you know. I reacted. I didn't think too much back then. I mean, I thought a lot but didn't think through things. So I thought through it and I said, man, you know what? She's not even right, she's accurate, like she's right. I need to. Just I need to stop being stubborn, boyheaded and, like Nicole said, and like like to debate to this day I guess I still love debating.

Nicole Marie Fields: 4:53

No, he does not.

Mario P. Fields: 4:55

Y'all know I'm joking, but I did so. I said tell her, tell, tell Seaman, seaman, right, e3 Seaman in the Navy. Yeah, I had to get it right. I said tell her, I'm sorry. This Marine is saying he is he's sorry. As soon as they told her that, she jumped on the phone and she was like oh my God, I love you so much. I did Nice, I did.

Nicole Marie Fields: 5:26

I was like we're going to, we're going to, we're going to.

Mario P. Fields: 5:28

She did. She was like, oh my God, oh Semper Fi.

Nicole Marie Fields: 5:30

It's like why she's never said that before. No Growth yeah.

Mario P. Fields: 5:37

So the key thing about saying I'm sorry is one, you got to mean it. And two, it's not just for relationships.

Nicole Marie Fields: 5:43

No, it could be for anything. Yeah, not personal relationships. It could be for work, it could be, you know, any type of relationship, friendship relationships, children, your own children. It's okay to say sorry to your own kids, yeah.

Mario P. Fields: 5:58

Yeah.

Nicole Marie Fields: 5:59

Anybody. If I did wrong and I know I did wrong I'm going to tell you I'm sorry and I will apologize.

Mario P. Fields: 6:09

Yeah, and and it's, and the thing about it is it doesn't, it doesn't remove you know what you've done. I mean, it didn't erase Mario debating the hell out of his new young wife of you know a six months, no, just okay, but but it made me change. Like I said, I'm not just gonna say I'm sorry, but I had to reflect and think about some of the behaviors that I was doing and why, and I started to change them.

Nicole Marie Fields: 6:38

Mm-hmm and.

Mario P. Fields: 6:39

I did, I did and I, and I think that's what got us over the eight-month mark of our marriage. So If there's someone, something whatever, that you do some reflection and you know, maybe you were not as professional, maybe little rigid, maybe you liked it debate.

Nicole Marie Fields: 7:01

It's never too late to say too late to say I'm sorry.

Mario P. Fields: 7:05

So, baby, I'm sorry for messing up.

Nicole Marie Fields: 7:07

So at the beginning, of this episode even when they do apologize or you. A polish apologize Doesn't mean you will be forgiven, but just as long as you know you did the right thing and you apologized because you did something wrong.

Mario P. Fields: 7:22

And with that, the next month special episode. We will talk about forgiveness and how to do that, because we've been married once. This episode Let me see who. This episode today January 4th, so we'll publish this tonight. So within 15 days, plus 10 on top of that 25 days, we will celebrate 24 days. On January 28th we will celebrate 29 years of matrimony and Nicole turns 37. Plus some fabulous 50 babies you don't care about, she looks great, fabulous 50 fabulous 50.

Mario P. Fields: 8:00

Yeah, yeah. So next month we'll talk about forgiveness, because, after 29 years, none, we are not perfect.

Nicole Marie Fields: 8:08

We had.

Mario P. Fields: 8:08

We had a forgive, nicole, for being short. You know, you say I'm.

Nicole Marie Fields: 8:13

I've had to ask for forgiveness myself.

Mario P. Fields: 8:17

Until next time. We'll see you guys next month for another special episode of Mario and Nicole remove their armor to help other people. Nah, we love you guys. Be safe, god bless and thank you for listening to this most recent episode and remember you can listen and Watch all of the previous episodes on my youtube channel. The best way to connect to me and all of my social media is follow me on the parade deck that is Parade, that calm. Or you can click on the link in the show notes. I'll see you guys soon.