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Freedom Through Boundaries: Reclaiming Your Voice & Breaking Codependency

• Season 8 • Episode 30

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In this powerful episode, April Bordeau continues the July series on "Freedom" by exploring how setting boundaries can bring true emotional and spiritual liberation. Guest therapist Jean Crane unpacks the roots of codependency, the signals that healthy boundaries are missing, and how embracing your God-given identity is foundational to reclaiming your voice.

Together, they discuss:

  • The emotional toll of people-pleasing and over-functioning
  • How childhood experiences can shape codependent patterns
  • Faith’s role in supporting healthy relationships
  • Why setting boundaries is an act of love—not selfishness
  • Practical steps to speak up, say no, and walk in God’s design for freedom

🧠 Key Takeaways

  • Codependency defined: Putting others’ needs above your own to feel secure or avoid conflict
  • Warning signs: Chronic exhaustion, resentment, conflict avoidance, or emotional caretaking
  • Healing begins with identity in Christ: Knowing you're fully loved and designed with purpose
  • Use your voice: Say what you feel and need with assertiveness and compassion
  • Jesus modeled boundaries: He honored His humanity, said no, and prioritized God’s will over people’s demands
  • Boundaries ≠ rejection: They protect what matters and create room for healthier, more loving connections

📚 Resources Mentioned

  • Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
  • Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst
  • Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter Scazzero
  • The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

🛠️ Practical Tools

  • The Four Gauges Exercise: Assess your emotional, spiritual, social, and physical health by drawing gauges (0–100%). Jean explains how this visual tool can highlight imbalance and guide self-care.
  • Journal prompts:
    1. Where am I drained in my relationships?
    2. Where am I energized?
    3. Am I saying yes where I really want to say no?

📩 Connect With Us

Need support in setting boundaries or navigating codependency? Email us at help@caretochange.org to request the Gauge Visual Tool or schedule a time to meet with one of our therapists.