Supporting a Struggling Husband with Guest Heather Vinson

In this moving and deeply personal episode, April Bordeau speaks with Heather Vinson, wife of frequent podcast guest, pastor and community leader, Larry Vinson, about the complexities of supporting a husband struggling with mental health issues, including PTSD. Heather shares candidly about their journey through breakdowns, healing, and the power of boundaries, community, and faith. Her vulnerability sheds light on the often-hidden struggles of ministry families, and provides real, actionable insights for wives, mothers, and anyone walking beside a loved one in crisis.

Key Topics Discussed

·       The silent struggles of men in ministry with mental health challenges

·       The emotional weight of being a supportive spouse

·       Minimization, overcompensation, and the cost of emotional labor

·       Identifying PTSD and the importance of early intervention

·       The value of a safety plan and trusted support network

·       Setting boundaries and choosing safety for the whole family

·       The emotional aftermath and rebuilding trust after crisis

·       Why community support and therapy are vital—for both partners

·       Encouragement for wives and families: you are not alone

·       Resources and spiritual anchors that helped Heather cope

Memorable Quote

"He had to hit rock bottom before real change could happen. That boundary, while really hard, was crucial." — Heather Vinson

Resources Mentioned

·       Book: *It's Not Supposed to Be This Way* by Lysa TerKeurst

·       Scripture: Book of Job

·       Support groups for spouses of veterans

·       Therapy and trauma-informed support (e.g., VA services, Care to Change)

Call to Action

If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health, know that help is available. Reach out to your community, your church, or a professional counselor at Care to Change. If you don’t know where to begin, contact Care to Change—we are here to walk this journey with you and offer practical solutions for the change you want.