The Courage to Feel: How Vulnerability Unlocks Authentic Freedom

In this soul-stirring and heart-centered episode, April Bordeau sits down with therapist and clinical supervisor Teresa Land to explore the deep connection between vulnerability, authenticity, and emotional freedom. Together, they unpack what it truly means to be known, loved, and emotionally present in relationships—and how embracing vulnerability can lead us to the kind of freedom we were created for.

💬 Key Topics Covered

• The difference between authenticity and vulnerability
• How hiding parts of ourselves prevents deep connection
• The lie of performance and the fear of rejection
• Why vulnerability is not weakness—but rather a courageous act of connection
• How shame, trauma, and scarcity mindset keep us isolated
• Practical steps to build emotional awareness and practice vulnerability
• Using Brene Brown’s “marble jar” analogy to measure emotional safety
• The healing power of authentic relationships—and the importance of seasonal boundaries

🛠️ Practical Takeaways

• Check in with yourself regularly: Use tools like the How We Feel app or journaling to identify and name emotions.
• Practice self-acceptance: Vulnerability starts with being honest with yourself.
• Choose safe people wisely: Use the “marble jar” metaphor to gauge who is emotionally safe to trust.
• Don’t confuse vulnerability with oversharing: Emotional honesty is powerful when rooted in discernment and self-worth.
• Surround yourself with people who welcome the real you: Safe people challenge and support you—not just agree with you.

🧠 Resources Mentioned

• Daring Greatly by Brené Brown
• Try Softer by Aundi Kolber
• Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud (mentioned in context of trust and safe relationships)
• Psalm 139 and John 10:10 as spiritual foundations for authenticity

💡 Reflective Questions

• Where in your life are you performing instead of accepting yourself?
• What emotions have you been avoiding or suppressing?
• Who are your “marble jar” people—those safe enough to hold your heart?
• Are you protecting yourself from rejection at the cost of meaningful connection?

📞 Need Help Taking the First Step?

If you find yourself feeling disconnected, longing for meaningful relationships, or unsure how to begin your healing journey, the team at Care to Change is here for you. You don’t have to walk this journey alone.

📲 Visit caretochange.org or call us to connect with one of our trusted therapists.