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All About Tech - Raising Kids in a Digital Age

Care to Change Counseling Season 9 Episode 10

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In this episode Jared Jones and Mac Zambrano continue the conversation about technology and mental health by focusing specifically on parenting. Together, they explore how to raise kids in a digital world without leading with shame, fear, or control.

The heart of the episode centers on one key shift: moving from policing behavior to developing character. Instead of raising rule followers, the goal is to raise wise decision makers who can navigate technology well when parents are not present.

In This Episode We Discuss

  • Ten common tech mishaps families face
  • Why secrecy often grows when parenting becomes overly controlling
  • The balance between structure and connection
  • Character development versus behavior management
  • Why connection creates influence
  • Monitoring technology with relationship instead of fear
  • Talking with curiosity instead of criticism
  • Practical ways to create tech-free connection at home

Key Takeaways

  • When technology issues arise, connection comes before correction
  • Strict control without relationship can create secrecy
  • Too few boundaries can also lead to shame and hidden behavior
  • The goal is not zero access to technology but supported access
  • Small, consistent moments of connection matter
  • Parents do not have to navigate this alone

The CARE Framework for Parents

  • C – Calm yourself first - Regulate before you respond.
  • A – Ask with curiosity - Seek to understand before correcting.
  • R – Reflect values, not just rules - Anchor conversations in what your family stands for.
  • E – Engage in repair - Collaborate on what needs to change moving forward.

Resources discussed:

  • The Digital Parenting Guidebook by David Tucker (link)
  • Screens and Teens (Moody Publishers) (link)
  • Competing Spectacles / Digital discipleship themes (from Desiring God) (link and link)

Thank you for spending this time with us. We invite you to pause and reflect on one small step you can take toward greater health this week. Growth rarely happens all at once. It unfolds in steady, intentional choices.

If you would like support in your own journey, our team at Care to Change is here to walk alongside you.