In-Bodied
Welcome to In-Bodied with Tracy Kerkhoff, the podcast for women in their 40s who are done shrinking, done people-pleasing, and so ready to reclaim their glow.
If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought “Who even is she?” … this is your space. We’re talking perimenopause hormones (and all the messy feels that come with them), mom-life meltdowns, marriages that need more spark, and yes sex, self-worth, and finding yourself again in the middle of it all.
This isn’t about chasing your 20s. It’s about owning your 40s stronger, wiser, sexier, and more in-bodied than ever.
Expect raw, real talk with zero filters. Some days it’ll feel like a pep talk from your life coach, and some days like a wine-night vent session with your girlfriends. Either way, you’ll leave remembering this: your spark isn’t gone it’s just waiting for you to claim it back.
In-Bodied
Ep16 Anxious Attachment and Codependency
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In this powerful episode, Tracy breaks down what anxious attachment really is, why so many midlife women struggle with it, and how it turns into codependency, over-functioning, people-pleasing, emotional spirals, and relationship confusion.
You’ll learn WHY your nervous system keeps looping old patterns, why perimenopause intensifies attachment wounds, and how this season of life is actually the invitation to become the most powerful, self-led version of yourself.
This is your permission slip to stop shrinking, stop performing for love, stop over-reading every tone and text…
and finally become emotionally safe within yourself.
Inside This Episode:
• What anxious attachment actually is (not what culture says)
• How childhood wounds create adult relationship patterns
• Why we confuse anxious attachment for “he doesn’t love me”
• How codependency forms & why it quietly destroys connection
• The danger of attaching to someone’s potential instead of reality
• Hyper-independence vs healthy interdependence
• Why perimenopause wakes up every emotional wound you haven’t healed
• How to regulate your nervous system & stop spiraling
• How to communicate needs without collapsing or clinging
• The midlife identity reawakening and the rise of the secure woman
This episode feels like therapy, a hug, and a reality check —all in one.
Free Resources Mentioned
✨ Reclaim Her Journal Healing tools for attachment wounds, identity shifts, nervous system regulation & stepping into your queen era.
Order here: Link in bio
✨ Queen Codes PDF Learn the energetics of secure attachment, receiving, and emotional sovereignty.
Download in bio
✨ IN-BODIED Podcast Archive More episodes on attachment, hormones, feminine embodiment, and emotional healing.
Work With Tracy
If you’re ready to heal anxious attachment, stop abandoning yourself, and step into secure, grounded, feminine leadership:
➡️ Join the Reclaim Your Glow Program
Personalized coaching + emotional, biological & spiritual transformation for midlife women.
➡️ 1:1 Support + Custom Plans
Hormones, diet, nervous system, identity work and the emotional blueprint for becoming your next-level self.
Connect with Tracy
Instagram: @tracykerkhoff
Podcast: IN-BODIED
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