The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 168: "I HATE YOU! And Other Big Feelings

Robyn Gobbel Episode 168

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Kids with vulnerable nervous systems often say BIG, hurtful, and scary words. They say things like “I hate you!” or “You hate me!” They sometimes threaten to hurt themselves- or you! Verbal aggression almost always pulls us right onto the watchdog pathway ourselves- which is understandable. Let’s talk about how you might respond if you’re able to hang onto your owl brain.

In this episode, you’ll learn

  • To stay focused on the level of activation, not the words being said
  • What to say (if anything) back to statements like “I hate you,” “I wish you’d never adopted me,” or “I’m going to hurt you.” 
  • How to start listening for what’s really being expressed


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