The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
Formerly the Parenting after Trauma podcast, internationally recognized children's mental health expert Robyn Gobbel decodes the most baffling behaviors for parents of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. If you're parenting a child who has experienced trauma or toxic stress or a child with a neuroimmune disorder, sensory processing, or other nervous system vulnerability, this show will let you know you are not alone. You can stop playing behavior whack-a-mole because Robyn offers you tools that actually work.
You can become your child's expert, feel more confident as a parent, and bring more connection and clarity into your family.
Educators, therapists, coaches and consultants- you too can learn all about what behavior really is and become more effective at helping the families you support. You can love your work again!
The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}
EP 243: Cool, Calculated- But Still in Protection Mode
Sometimes our kids look completely calm- even smug — while doing something that definitely isn’t a behavior of connection.
But…they’re not melting down. They’re not screaming. They seem totally in control.
Seems kinda like owl brain, yeah?
But- it’s not. It’s protection mode, even if the behavior seems calm.
In this episode, we’ll talk about how kids can use their thinking brain in the service of their protective brain. They might plan, plot, and problem-solve… but they aren’t integrating. They aren’t considering other people, or long-term consequences. They’re thinking, but they’re not connected.
In this Episode You’ll Learn
- Why calm doesn’t always mean regulated (and what’s really going on in those moments).
- How “clever” misbehavior can actually be protection mode — even when it looks smart or controlled.
- How a child can plan into the future- and still be in protection mode.
- What to do after the Owl Brain returns — how to hold accountability, repair, and make success inevitable next time.
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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/calculated
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