Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment
Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment is the podcast for people who are still struggling with overthinking, anxious attachment patterns, or chasing unavailable partners...even though you understand the theory.
With a lifetime of personal experience and over 15 years of professional experience, I (Carly Ann) am here to help you move beyond just knowing the logic of attachment and actually start applying it to create real change.
You should know, my podcast isn’t about getting your ex back or making your partner fix your anxiety. Lessons in Attachment is about empowering you to become your own coach - using attachment theory, third-wave CBT techniques, and practical tools to transform your daily life.
We dive deep into life-changing topics, so be sure to take care of yourself along the way. This is the podcast that helps you finally shift your attachment style and stop letting worry control your life
Come and get to know me more on Instagram @carly.ann_ or head to www.carly-ann.co.uk for freebies and community!
Episodes
202 episodes
Motivation for Anxious Attachment. Listen When You're Triggered, Overthinking, & Feeling Like You're Not Enough
Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth..If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you.In thi...
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Ghosting! This is Why People Ghost Instead of Speaking with You
Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one.In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different peop...
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9:44
What Is Self-Soothing? A Must-Listen for the Anxiously Attached
If you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoid...
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TWO CBT Tools to Help with Worry & Uncertainty Around Your Relationships (For Anxiously Attached)
If you find yourself constantly worrying...Why haven’t they texted back? Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? this episode of Lessons in Attachment is for you. When you have an anxious attachment st...
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13:45
This is How They Really Feel About Ghosting You
Have you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything?In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what’s r...
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9:32
Obsessed and Overthinking? Here are 3 Signs of Limerence You Need to Know
Do you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign? You might be experiencing limerence. It’s more than just a crus...
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9:15
The Real Reason Your Breakup Feels Worse, Your Heartbreak Is Intense, and You Feel Stuck Compared to Others
If you’re going through a breakup right now, you already know how painful it is. But have you ever wondered why some breakups feel so much worse than others? Why, for some people, the pain feels overwhelming, like it's impossible to move on?
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Going Through a Break-Up? Want Your Ex Back? or Struggling to Feel OK? - Listen to this Advice from a Break-Up Coach
In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, we’re joined once again by breakup coach Holly from Break Ups and Love to dive even deeper into the challenges of heartbreak and...
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Inner Child Work for Healing Childhood Trauma & Attachment Wounds (3 Keys)
Healing your attachment wounds and childhood trauma starts with reconnecting with a very important part of you - your inner child. In this powerful episode, we dive into why inner child work is the key to true healing.Our brilliant guest...
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Breaking Free from Jealousy: Healing Your Wounds & Inner Child
Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? If you've ever felt that gut-wrenching fear that your partner might leave, that sinking feeling when someone else gets too close, or the endless overthinking that keeps you up at night......
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Motivation for When You're Feeling Stuck in Victim Mentality & Getting Triggered by the Small Things in Life
If you feel like life is against you, like nothing ever goes right and you’re stuck in a cycle of frustration...this 7-minute episode is exactly what you need. When big/small, daily challenges pile up, it’s easy to slip into ...
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The Art of Letting Go: How to Detach, Accept, and Stop Obsessive Overthinking
Struggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you.When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or ...
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Anxious Attachers - Change Your Type! Stop Chasing Avoidants & Start Attracting Secure Love!
This podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this!Join Carly Ann for practical steps, min...
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Key Psychology Techniques for Healing Anxious Attachment (Becoming Secure)
Do you have an anxious attachment style? Are you doing the work to heal attachment wounds but keep repeating patterns?In this episode, Carly Ann dives into key psychological techniques that can help break free from the anxious attachment...
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42:15
Break Free from Your Inner Critic: Two Powerful Steps to Reparent the Voice That Holds You Back & Finally Claim the Self-Love You Deserve
Is your inner critic running your mood? Be honest, has it been running the show for too long? Usually the inner critic is loud, especially if you have an anxious attachment style. In this episode, Carly Ann explores how this harsh i...
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The Anxious Attachment Drama Cycle - This is the Classic Pattern that QUICKLY Ruins Relationships & Dating
Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style?So, you know that moment when your stomach drops because they took too long to text back? Or when you convince yourself they’re losing interest, even if nothing has actually happene...
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Living with Anxious Attachment: Needs, Triggers, & The Best Techniques (with Francesca Olivia)
In this episode, I’m joined by Frankie Olivia (@Frankiestherapy), a trauma-responsive creative psychotherapist and EMDR psychotherapist, to discuss living with an...
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STOP Losing Yourself in Relationships Using This One Principle
If you always lose yourself in love, put everyone else first, and feel like your happiness depends on someone else...this one is definitely for you today. Carly Ann gives you a key principle from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (A...
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The Real Journey from Self-Criticism to Self-Love - Where are You?!
Have an anxious attachment?If you’re stuck in patterns of overthinking, self-doubt, and craving reassurance in love, relationships & dating... your inner critic might be running the show. That harsh voice keeping you sm...
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Break Free from the Cycle of Worry and "What Ifs" - Use These Practical Techniques Today!
DOWNLOAD YOUR ACCMPANYING PDF (DOC 12)Do you feel trapped in endless “what if” thoughts, especially in relationships? For anxious attachers, uncertainty can feel unbearable, f...
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24:41
Trying to Go No Contact? Answer These 3 Questions When it's Hard & You Want to Give In
Going no contact? Are you feeling torn, uncertain, or even panicky about breaking no contact? As an anxious attacher, it’s easy to feel consumed by the urge to reach out, even when part of you isn’t sure it’s the right thing to do. In this epis...
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Obsessing & Overthinking? This Mindset Shift Helps People Take Back Control of Their Own Thoughts
DOWNLOAD YOUR ACCMPANYING PDF (DOC 11)Anxious attachment can keep you stuck in obssessing, overthinking and self-doubt. In this episode Carly Ann shares how to shift ...
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How Journaling and Tapping Help You Process Emotions, Navigate Triggers, & Heal
In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, I’m sharing a sneak peek from the Attachment Recovery Gym with guest expert Holly, also known as Breakups and Love. Holly, an accredited EFT International practitioner combining...
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18:59
3 Things You Do That Makes Anxiety Worse When You Think They’re Pulling Away...& Techniques to Soothe in the Moment
Download PDF for Accompanying this Ep (10)Do you have an anxious attachment style? Do you feel panicked when it seems like someone you care about is pulling away? Maybe you st...
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Lost Motivation and Hope in Your Healing? This Exercise Will Help You Believe in Change Again
Have you ever felt like change is impossible? Like no matter how hard you try, you keep slipping back into the same patterns? If you’re on a healing journey with anxious attachment, you’ve likely experienced moments of doubt, frustration, and e...
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