Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment
Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment is the podcast for people who are still struggling with overthinking, anxious attachment patterns, or chasing unavailable partners...even though you understand the theory.
With a lifetime of personal experience and over 15 years of professional experience, I (Carly Ann) am here to help you move beyond just knowing the logic of attachment and actually start applying it to create real change.
You should know, my podcast isn’t about getting your ex back or making your partner fix your anxiety. Lessons in Attachment is about empowering you to become your own coach - using attachment theory, third-wave CBT techniques, and practical tools to transform your daily life.
We dive deep into life-changing topics, so be sure to take care of yourself along the way. This is the podcast that helps you finally shift your attachment style and stop letting worry control your life
Come and get to know me more on Instagram @carly.ann_ or head to www.carly-ann.co.uk for freebies and community!
Episodes
213 episodes
Always Worrying, Catastrophising, & Expecting the worst? Let's Turn Down the Volume on Negative Thinking
Do you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re always coming up short?In today’s episode, we’re diving into a sneaky but powerful...
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You Get It Logically... So Why Do You Still Feel Stuck & Keep Repeating Patterns?
You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head?In this episode, Carly Ann ...
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Anxious Attachment: Why You Keep Asking the Same Questions & Seeking Reassurance (+ Why it Doesn't Work)
Struggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you’re not leaving?” even when you know the answer won’t help for long? In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constan...
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The Anxious / Disorganised Attachment Trap: Stuck, Lost & Unsure How to Change
WATCH THE FREE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1STEverything seems fine… but you still feel stu...
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10:35
When You Think You're Being Abandoned & You Become Someone You Don’t Even Recognise | ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT
WATCH THE FREE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1STStruggling with feeling panicky or desperate whe...
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Struggling with Self-Worth and Relationship Anxiety? These Two Behaviours Only Make it Worse!
WATCH THE FREE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECURE BEFORE JUNE 1STStruggling with relationship anxiety/anxious att...
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Anxious Attachment? Then This One Question Matters Most (Especially if You're Healing)
FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPIf you have an anxious attachment style and you’re doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop...
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When You're Scared You've Messed Up & Anxious Attachment Has Ruined Everything
FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPIf you’re feeling like you’ve messed it all up… again, like you’re back at square one, stuck in the same old ...
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Common Anxious Attachment Triggers that Set You Off into Worry, Overthinking, & Acting Out
FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPFeeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This ep...
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When Healing You Anxious Attachment Feels Like It's Not Working (You're Stuck in a Cycle & at Rock Bottom)
Register for the free workshop: Breaking the Cycle of Anxious AttachmentYou've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just fe...
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Motivation for Anxious Attachment. Listen When You're Triggered, Overthinking, & Feeling Like You're Not Enough
Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth..If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you.In thi...
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Ghosting! This is Why People Ghost Instead of Speaking with You
Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one.In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different peop...
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What Is Self-Soothing? A Must-Listen for the Anxiously Attached
If you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoid...
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13:24
TWO CBT Tools to Help with Worry & Uncertainty Around Your Relationships (For Anxiously Attached)
If you find yourself constantly worrying...Why haven’t they texted back? Did I say something wrong? Are they losing interest? this episode of Lessons in Attachment is for you. When you have an anxious attachment st...
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13:45
This is How They Really Feel About Ghosting You
Have you been ghosted? Ghosting is one of the most painful and confusing ways to be left behind, but do ghosters actually feel anything?In this episode, Carly Ann dive into a fascinating study by Freedman et al (2022) to uncover what’s r...
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9:32
Obsessed and Overthinking? Here are 3 Signs of Limerence You Need to Know
Do you ever feel crazy? like your thoughts are spinning out of control over someone? That intense, obsessive longing where every little thing they do feels like a sign? You might be experiencing limerence. It’s more than just a crus...
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9:15
The Real Reason Your Breakup Feels Worse, Your Heartbreak Is Intense, and You Feel Stuck Compared to Others
If you’re going through a breakup right now, you already know how painful it is. But have you ever wondered why some breakups feel so much worse than others? Why, for some people, the pain feels overwhelming, like it's impossible to move on?
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Going Through a Break-Up? Want Your Ex Back? or Struggling to Feel OK? - Listen to this Advice from a Break-Up Coach
In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, we’re joined once again by breakup coach Holly from Break Ups and Love to dive even deeper into the challenges of heartbreak and...
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Inner Child Work for Healing Childhood Trauma & Attachment Wounds (3 Keys)
Healing your attachment wounds and childhood trauma starts with reconnecting with a very important part of you - your inner child. In this powerful episode, we dive into why inner child work is the key to true healing.Our brilliant guest...
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17:19
Breaking Free from Jealousy: Healing Your Wounds & Inner Child
Do you have an anxious or disorganised attachment style? If you've ever felt that gut-wrenching fear that your partner might leave, that sinking feeling when someone else gets too close, or the endless overthinking that keeps you up at night......
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20:18
Motivation for When You're Feeling Stuck in Victim Mentality & Getting Triggered by the Small Things in Life
If you feel like life is against you, like nothing ever goes right and you’re stuck in a cycle of frustration...this 7-minute episode is exactly what you need. When big/small, daily challenges pile up, it’s easy to slip into ...
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6:59
The Art of Letting Go: How to Detach, Accept, and Stop Obsessive Overthinking
Struggling to let go? Whether you're anxiously attached to a person, an outcome, or the way you thought life should be by now - this episode is for you.When you're constantly waiting for reassurance, obsessing over what might happen, or ...
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30:47
Anxious Attachers - Change Your Type! Stop Chasing Avoidants & Start Attracting Secure Love!
This podcast is for anyone stuck in a cycle of being attracted to unavailable partners and ready to make a change. If you want to start attracting secure, available types then you need to hear this!Join Carly Ann for practical steps, min...
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12:35
Key Psychology Techniques for Healing Anxious Attachment (Becoming Secure)
Do you have an anxious attachment style? Are you doing the work to heal attachment wounds but keep repeating patterns?In this episode, Carly Ann dives into key psychological techniques that can help break free from the anxious attachment...
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