Triggered and True
Triggered and True is a Compassion Method™️ podcast with Laura Duncan. The Compassion Method™️ is a proven process that teaches you how to comfort emotional pain and to discover your “true” self. This process can be best explained using three words: Awareness. Comfort. Discovery. Feel your pain. Get Comfort. Go play. Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask
Triggered and True
(Ep. 72) Why You Can't Force Emotional Growth: Shame, Self-Control & the Performance Trap
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Triggered and True is an emotional health podcast where Laura Duncan teaches The Compassion Method — a process for understanding emotional triggers, healing from shame, and reconnecting with your true self. In this special series episode, Laura and client-turned-co-host Brian Freise unpack the performance trap: the exhausting belief that acceptance has to be earned through behavior — and why the missing link for so many devoted believers isn't more devotion, but the unhealed wiring beneath their shame, anger, and unforgiveness.
In this episode, you'll learn:
🔹 Why devoted believers still battle shame, anger, and unforgiveness — and why the problem isn't your devotion
🔹 What the "performance trap" is — and how trying to earn acceptance through behavior keeps you stuck
🔹 The Compassion Method's three steps — Awareness, Comfort, Discovery — and why you "can't tell an orange to grow"
🔹 Why superficial forgiveness fails — and what it actually needs to hold: comfort for the wound underneath
🔹 Why the offense we feel toward others is usually protecting a tender place inside us
🔹 How the Compassion Method re-codes the "childhood glitch" running beneath your "adult website"
🔹 The difference between true selflessness and the hidden selfishness of needy survival
📩 Get Laura's free Weekly Dose of Compassion — Two short notes. Delivered to your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura. — triggeredandtrue.com/weeklydose
🔗 Resources & links
Triggered and True website: https://triggeredandtrue.com
Laura Duncan: https://lauraduncan.com
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