Self-blaming is a mechanical reflex that we are powerless to stop. It isn't really us blaming ourselves however, it's the thinking mind. The thinking mind is a mechanical reflex that controls us rather than vice versa.  

Self-blaming is a mechanical reflex that we are powerless to stop. It isn't really us blaming ourselves however, it's the thinking mind. The thinking mind is a mechanical reflex that controls us rather than vice versa. 

To belong to a group we must conform to its rules, but this means we are 'putting the rules above ourselves', and doing this leaves us 'wide open to being abused and exploited by the system'... 

Mental health and 'autonomy' are one and the same thing. Power compromises autonomy - it eventually destroys it entirely - and because we live in a world that is BASED on control, that is ALL ABOUT control, we completely disregard the whole top...

To paraphrase Alan watts: We try to instruct ourselves to change (so that we can be a way that is more to our liking) but the one who needs to be changed is the one doing the instructing.