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The Mike Muldoon Podcast: Bite-Sized Coaching Sessions Empowering Transformation in Small Doses
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The Mike Muldoon Podcast: Bite-Sized Coaching Sessions Empowering Transformation in Small Doses
When Everyone Has an Opinion, Nobody Has the Answer
Ever notice how the more people you ask for advice, the more confused you become? That's exactly what we're diving into this week as we explore the paradox of decision-making in a world full of opinions.
"If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone." This powerful quote forms the foundation of our conversation about why seeking too many perspectives often leads us astray rather than providing clarity. When standing at life's crossroads, our natural instinct is to gather input from others. But as each person offers their unique viewpoint—one advocating risk, another preaching caution—we quickly find ourselves overwhelmed and paralyzed. This hesitation creates the perfect breeding ground for doubt and fear, often causing us to abandon ideas we were initially passionate about.
What's truly fascinating is how this pattern erodes our self-trust over time. Each instance of deferring to outside opinions weakens our decision-making muscles, creating a dependency cycle that's hard to break. Instead of this scattered approach, I suggest being intentional about whose advice you seek. Look for experienced voices who'll provide constructive challenges rather than just affirmation. Remember that most people advise from their comfort level—cautious people will always tell you to play it safe, while risk-takers push for bold moves.
Do you find yourself repeatedly seeking advice on a decision you've already made in your heart? Perhaps it's time to ask whether you're looking for guidance or simply afraid to take the leap. Trust your instincts—they might be smarter than the crowd. I'd love to hear about a time when you followed your gut despite conflicting advice. Share your story or leave a review to keep this important conversation going!
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Hey everyone and welcome to this week's episode of the Michael Noon Podcast. Hope you're doing well, hope you're having a great week. Wow, another week goes by. Every day I turn around and go oh, I've got to get another podcast out. The weeks just keep flying, flying by.
Speaker 1:But you know what's getting really good? The weather. The weather is getting good and that's really important. It's a different energy, right? I don't know, maybe some of you live in sunnier places all year round. I remember living in Southern California. You just took for granted how great that weather is all the time. But when you live in England, where a lot of it's overcast and it can get cold for a while, when that sun comes out it just feels lovely. The energy changes. Everything's amazing. People are on the high streets sitting outside. It's lovely. It's a great, great, great feeling. I mean, spring is here. Summer's right around the corner, so it's exciting.
Speaker 1:So you might be making plans, you might be deciding to try something new. I know I am. I've got some stuff going on right now. I'm pretty excited about what we'll talk about as the upcoming weeks come by, but right now I want to just talk about something. I talked about this a little bit a few weeks ago, why you never really want to tell people your stuff.
Speaker 1:But I also want to just talk about here, about why it's really important that you shouldn't be seeking everyone's advice when you do choose to do something, because a lot of times, if you want to get the wrong decision, what you do is you get everybody's advice. It's not my saying I forgot who it was, but it's a great. You know, if you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone. That's the quote. If you want to make the wrong decision, ask everyone. And again, I forgot who it was and I feel bad about that, but it's not mine. It's not mine. But you know, the wisdom in it is undeniable. It just highlights a common trap many of us fall into, you know seeking too many opinions and in the process we tend to lose clarity. Whatever that decision, that thing we were thinking about doing, we sometimes even cost us our confidence and even cost us our direction. And today that's what I want to talk about We'll be right back.
Speaker 1:Look, we've all been there. You know, standing at this crossroads, some decision we need to make, unsure what to do. So what do we do? We turn to others, right. We turn to others' advice. You know, at first it seems like a logical approach, right? After all, getting different perspectives should help us make a better choice, right? Not always, see.
Speaker 1:The thing is, the more people you ask, the more varied responses you get. And one person tells you to take the risk, another person says play it safe, someone else brings up a concern you never even considered and before you know it, you're not just unsure, you're completely overwhelmed, taking all in on, and too much can really cause decision paralysis. See, instead of moving forward, you get stuck and you start weighing every possible scenario, trying to make everyone happy, and this hesitation can cost you valuable time and, of course, opportunities. Because once that doubt creeps in, it allows that fear in your life to creep back in, and the reason a lot of us don't move forward is because of fear. And again, the more people you talked about, it really dilutes that confidence in your own judgment. You came to this decision based on something that had been probably been boiling in you for a long time. So when you go to too many people, it just dilutes that confidence, like trust your own judgment. See, the thing is, when you start seeking validation from others, you risk losing trust in your own instincts, and the more you rely on outside opinions, the less confidence you develop in making tough calls on your own or maybe even moving forward on this thing that you've been probably thinking about for a while, you've been so sure about, but now all of a sudden, you don't want to do it.
Speaker 1:And the thing is, decisions made by committees right, when you start talking to everybody, they rarely lead to any type of action. If you look at really successful leaders in the world, entrepreneurs, all these creatives they don't ask an entire room what to do. They seek out trusted voices, they weigh their input carefully and then they make a call. If every decision was made by a committee, innovation would grind to a halt. So you might be saying, oh well, I got to talk to somebody. Who should I talk to?
Speaker 1:Well, again, instead of talking to everyone, be intentional about whose advice you seek. You know, filter out that noise, seek out experience over opinions. You know I've been like working on something I'm actually pretty excited about and again, we'll talk about it a little bit more, we'll talk about it. But anyway, you know it was something that if I just put out to everybody, I would get a million different, varied opinions. And what I started doing is like a couple of people I went to kind of, you know that I trusted their valuable feedback, but I also have been seeking out experienced opinion, just calling on people I don't even know to sort of talk them through. You know, asking people who have real world expertise in the area and an area that, for me, I'd be struggling with because it's a completely new area to me. You know, again, not just seeking out people who have an opinion.
Speaker 1:So for you it's look for people who challenge, not just affirm. It's tempting to ask people who will validate your feelings. But that real growth and that real knowledge and information you're looking for really comes from those who challenge you with constructive insight. And that's what you're really looking for. Maybe those blind sides, not people telling you again from their opinion. See, the thing is most people are going to tell you from their comfort level, people who tell you to take risk.
Speaker 1:Go for it, take the risk. Or probably people have taken risks. People say no, no, no, got to play it safe. That's too big of a risk. It's probably because all they do is they just play it safe in their lives what you'll come to realize with most people. They live in a world of playing it safe. They like to exist in that comfort zone. Any thought of going outside that comfort zone usually sets off a bell that says ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, no, no, no, don't do that. Don't do that and it shrinks them right back into their world.
Speaker 1:But if you gotta get out there and you gotta talk to people, just limit your circle of advisors. Just a small group of trusted people, whoever it is, who understand your goals, and they'll provide more value than a crowd of conflicting voices. Right, just trust yourself more because, again, at the end of the day, decisions carry risk. There's no perfect answer. The best choice is often one made with clarity and conviction on your part, not just one watered down by too many voices. All right, seeking advice is valuable, but trusting yourself is essential. So next time you're facing a big decision, just ask yourself am I looking for guidance or am I just too afraid to make that decision? See, that might be the answer that you're looking for, and that's what I got for you today. All right, listen, I wish you guys the best.
Speaker 1:I hope you have a great week, and I know this one's short to the point, got busy this week um, coaching american football, uh, for those uh who follow yeah, here in england and uh, it's kind of taking up some time on top of every other thing I got going on in my life. And, as always, the mike muldoon podcast. It's about keeping it short, keeping it quick, keeping it to the point so that you're just with you for a few minutes on your commute, your walk, wherever you're heading, and I appreciate you listening, I appreciate you sharing with your friends. Make sure, if you're on Apple Spotify, hit that like button Again. Been with you here every week for the last two and a half years or more, so, and I'm not going anywhere. Have a great rest of your week, have a great weekend, Be safe and, as always, I got nothing but love for you.
