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Saying it outloud!
Saying it outloud!
Car Chronicles EP 4:Soul-Searching and Time-Wasting: What Could You Be?
Have you ever wondered where you'd be if you'd fully committed to your potential? That question haunts me daily as I reflect on the years that seem to have slipped through my fingers. While my military career gave me purpose for 13 years, these past four civilian years have left me questioning whether I'm truly making the impact I'm capable of.
This reflection was triggered by our neighbor's heartbreaking situation. This man—generous enough to give us a shotgun for protection without hesitation—had devoted years to caring for his mother with dementia. When she passed away, he instantly lost his purpose, and the world didn't stop to let him process it. That's the brutal reality we all face: time marches forward regardless of our losses or confusion.
Many of us exist rather than live, going through motions without purpose or joy. We take vacations not to enjoy new experiences but to escape the lives we've built. We pick up interests only to abandon them weeks later, never discovering our true capabilities. I've coached enough men to recognize this pattern, but breaking through requires someone willing to tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. Give us six months, and we can help transform how you view yourself and your potential. The question is: are you ready to stop wasting time and start building an unbreakable version of yourself? Connect with us to discover what's possible when you commit to change.
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Yes, sir, you know what that means. Back on the road again. Got another wedding. Hopefully, this one is just to chill us. The last one I worked. The last one was kind of crazy because not a lot of people spoke English, so it's just interesting being in that situation and the language barrier. But you know, I know a little bit from Duolingo, but not near enough to carry on a full conversation with somebody like I. Can pick out words and piece together what you're talking about for the most part, for some things, and then it depends on the speed that they speak at. It becomes a mess. But other than that it was a good wedding, real chill. They weren't really drinking crazy, which was good, so it made my job easier.
Speaker 1:Anyways, this episode is going to be a little bit more personable and depressing. So we have a neighbor in our community. He's a real good man, probably one of the best men best men I know and he does so much for everybody. He will quite literally give you the shirt off his back if you need it. We went over to his house and we were talking to him and he's like yeah, you know there's a lot of crime going on in the area and he's like you know what? Here, let me give you this he literally gave us a semi-automatic shotgun so we could defend ourselves from if anybody breaks in. Like, who does that? Like, that's the definition of someone who's actually trying to help, and he's just known as a beacon of hope in the neighborhood.
Speaker 1:Well, he was watching his mother. She lived with him and she had dementia, so he was taking care of her and he's been looking after her for a couple years now and this morning she unfortunately passed away. She unfortunately passed away and I know, I know he's devastated because he devoted so much time to making sure that she was comfortable and she was taken care of. He didn't want to put her in a home because he didn't want nobody to abuse her or, you know, treat her, treat her poorly. So he took on the responsibility and I you man, it wore him out and it just sucked because we couldn't do enough for him. And where we could help him, we helped him, but he didn't get to sleep much because she was always waking up at random times of the day and he didn't get to do much of anything he wanted to because he had to be home. Just in case, you know, she did get up because she didn't really move around much, so she was really extremely atrophied and she needed distance to do literally anything. So he was, you know, taking care of his mom, which is what you would expect a son to do literally anything. So he was, you know, taking care of his mom, which is what you would expect a son to do.
Speaker 1:And it just it's crazy to think, because when somebody passes away, like the world just keeps moving, like there's the time doesn't freeze, you don't get that opportunity to actually like sit there and take in what just happened, like you have to continue on with your life. And that was his purpose and I'm quite confident he'll figure out something to do. But it's one of those things that I've been talking about a lot lately. It's like what's your purpose in life? So we all have different purposes in life. His was for a while there taking care of his mom, and now he's doesn't have one. So now he's going to have to search for that and it just sucks because one moment you're, you know you're doing something, and then the next moment it's just gone.
Speaker 1:I've been thinking a lot about my life lately and, to be honest with you, I've been probably disappointed in myself, because I've been looking back at all the time I wasted and, man, the years just add up Now, granted, yes, I was in the military and obviously I had a career and I was doing things in my career, so it's not technically time wasted. But lately I felt like I could have been doing so much more and I've wasted so much of my potential, because in one of the episodes I talked about how I would pick something up and then I would just put it down after a couple of weeks and I wouldn't stick it out. And that's honestly been one of the downfalls of my life is not being able to stick out something for long enough to truly tap into my potential and see how far I can take it. And now that I'm older and looking back, I'm not saying I regret my life by any means, but what I'm saying is I wonder where I could be right now if I would have took things more serious. That's what I'm wondering, because I didn't take a lot of things serious in life and I would make up a lot of excuses to not take things serious, and it really has played a huge role in just slowing down my progress. I'm not going to say that it's prevented me from doing anything, but it slowed me down to the point to where it makes me wonder where I would be right now if I would have just you know, for example took the saxophone serious, if I would have practiced you know the four to five hours a day, or if I would have took football serious. It's things like that and it's like, man, where could I be right now? God bro, it freaking bugs me, not knowing. And I know I sit here and I preach to other people. You know I can help you unleash your full potential. And that is true because, like I have lived experience and one of the things that I have thankfully taking serious is my coaching and just helping people become better, because that's something I truly believe in. So, on that, I can guarantee that I will be able to help you with that. I could see like an alternate version of me if they took it serious and where they're at right now, just to see what my this stuff.
Speaker 1:Because you count up the years, I'm 35. I joined the military in 2009. I turned in basic training, so I joined at 18. 17 years, almost 17 years of my life devoted to the military. 13 years and after those 13 years, four years now that I've been out of the military, and I just feel like I haven't done enough. I just feel like I could do so much more. Just feel like I could do so much more.
Speaker 1:And it sucks not being able to get to reach people with my message, because I feel like I'm letting her down. I just feel like I'm letting myself down because, being an online fitness coach, you know people think you know it's easy, but in reality it's not, because we are fighting against all the other coaches and we had to make sure our message is resonating with people. And then people have to actually, you know, get on the call and sign up and unfortunately, men aren't the type of people who sign up willingly for fitness coaching. Now there are some, yes, but that's the issue that I've I've been running into and it's unfortunate because I feel like I feel like I'm a good person and I feel like I could be a very good mentor to men giving the opportunity, but my content I don't know. I don't. I don't know why it doesn't resonate with people or why people don't see it as something impactful in their life, because I I really don't like Instagram reels.
Speaker 1:I prefer to talk because I can talk and I'm a far better talker than I am a real maker, and I wish our podcast had more reach. Now I mean, we got almost 4000 downloads, which is good for just her and I on a little podcast that we do in our spare bedroom, so it's nothing to scoff at. But I just wish that when we put our stuff out there, like if somebody really resonated with it, and you listen to the podcast, you know actually like share it, because we rely on you guys to get our message out to other people and we can only put the content out there and then, once you guys see it, you are the ones that ultimately feed us, because you guys bring in clients for us by sharing our message, saying man, these people are really good people. I want more people to hear about them or I want more people to coach with them. That's on y'all. I want more people to hear about them or I want more people to coach with them. That's on y'all. We the odds. We've had more referrals for our coaching than anything else. So that's thanks to y'all that we have been able to sustain our coaching and maintain our coaching business Because you guys are sharing, but we wish that you would, you know, share more, help us, help us more.
Speaker 1:Just, it's something that I've been doing a lot lately Trying to, you know, comment more on people's posts or share people's posts that that resonate with me. I'm not saying all the way to share everybody's stuff, but if it resonates with you know, share it with somebody else, because somebody out there probably needs to hear the message and they may not follow this person or know anything about this person, and then you share it and they see it on your story and they're like oh man, who is this? Let me follow them. And that's how the ball gets rolling. And also, I would like to just say give us a chance. Just give us the opportunity to show you that we are different.
Speaker 1:I mean, you think about a six month contract. Where could you be in six months? How much could your life change in six months? Like I just told you, I've wasted. Ok, I'm not going to say I've wasted, but the last four years, man, dude, I could have done so much more. That's so much time. I just felt like I just it just disappeared into nothing, and I know if it sucks for me. I know that. If you're wondering like am I doing the right thing? Am I am I? Am I working at the right job? Is this the place for me? Is this the relationship for me? Should I be doing more in my life like what's my purpose? I know there's other people out there who are, who are thinking that like me right now, and thankfully I know what my purpose is, because I've been down that road, lost too, man, and it's not, it's, it's not fun.
Speaker 1:Not having a, a purpose in life is a very devastating thing and it can drain you physically, mentally and spiritually. Searching for it. People understand their place in life to give them the foundation to create the time to think about that kind of stuff, because our lives are just go, go, go. Like I said, unfortunately his mom passed away and time does not stop for him to think about what's next. It just doesn't. It doesn't stop for any of us.
Speaker 1:When I got out of the military and I drove out that gate for the last time, time didn't stop for me. I had to figure out what was next and, thanks to my beautiful wife, she had already established her business and I just said you know, I want to help people and I've wanted to help people, so I became a coach. But not everybody is afforded the opportunity to have a wife that already has an established business or have a husband that has an established business. You got to figure out the next steps on your own, and it shouldn't be like that. Be like that. You should be able to have somebody who you can spitball and somebody who's going to give you an unbiased critique of what you're telling them, because some people have grand ideas but maybe they're not the best ideas and if you don't have anybody to talk to about it, you might pursue one of those ideas and then, next thing you know, you wasted 10 years of your life pursuing something that would have never worked in the first place had you had somebody to talk to about it. So that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I promise you, if you give us a chance, we can help you change your entire life internally and, like I said, once you fix your internal, it will reflect externally. It will give you the ability to create the time and space you need in order to figure out what you really want in life, because a lot of us aren't doing what we want really want in life, because a lot of us Aren't doing what we want to do in life. A lot of us are just existing in life, and just existing is very draining. I made a. I made a I talked about when I went to Puerto Rico While she was drilling, and I was like Rico while she was drilling and I was like there's a difference between going on vacation and escaping your reality.
Speaker 1:You should be able to go on vacation and enjoy it, not run away from what's going on in your life, because that it bleeds over into the vacation, because you know you're dreading coming back home, because you're coming back home to a life that you're tired of living. You're tired of just the same old, exhausting things that you have to wake up and deal with every single day. Aren't you just ready to be done with that, that way of living? Don't you just want to do something more? Don't you crave more? Don't you think you're supposed to be doing more, something better, something impactful? Like man, I just I don't know.
Speaker 1:That's just how I feel and it burns in my soul, bro. It really does, and it just it's under my skin, knowing that I'm not doing, I'm not operating at my full potential, because I haven't been able to help as many people as I would like to, and that really bothers me because I don't know why I feel like I have an amazing message. I feel like I'm an amazing person. I feel like I have an amazing message. I feel like I'm an amazing person, I feel like I'm a great coach, and I don't know why I haven't been able to get clients or inspire clients or have people take interest in my messaging to want to sign up. And this is me being 100% transparent, because, at the end of the day, that's what's important, and not a lot of people are going to give you a view inside their mind or what's going on in their heart.
Speaker 1:But, like I told you guys, her and I we're the same people online that we are offline, and I'll keep it a buck with you because I ain't got nothing to hide, and the more honesty that I can show you guys, the more you can realize that, ok, he's a normal person just like me. He's going through hardships just like me, and I've already posted 20-minute videos about five of them on my Instagram about my past life and things that I've effed up in my life before. So, like there's nothing out here I'm trying to hide from you guys. I just want to understand if you if you do listen to this and you are willing to give me some type of feedback. You know, have you thought about signing up with our coaching? And you have. Why haven't you? Do you think our messaging is good? When you hear us talk about anything, do you think that we sound like the type of people that you would share to your friends or talk about?
Speaker 1:But yeah, I think I'm going to leave that right there and at the end of the day, like I said, we're all going through something, but I promise you right now, it's better to have somebody to go through something with Than to go through something by yourself. And maybe you have somebody that you're going through something with. That isn't telling you what you need to hear. They're telling you what you need to hear. They're telling you what you want to hear. That can be more dangerous than going through it by yourself.
Speaker 1:At least know that if you do decide to give our coaching a chance, we're going to tell you what you need to hear, because what you need to hear is what's going to help you in the long run. What you need to hear is going to challenge you and push you and change the way you see life and it's going to make you stronger, because the more you can overcome, the stronger you get. The stronger you get, the less you have to worry about stress breaking you down. And, like I keep saying, at the end of the day we want to make you unbreakable, because unbreakable is what's going to keep you going and provide that longevity. So, if you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to like, comment and share and leave that five-star review and until next time, see ya.