Car Chronicles EP 15: Flowers, Drones, And Therapy Through Cheesecake

A late-night drive after a long security shift turns into a surprising window into two worlds most people never see: the behind-the-scenes build of a luxury wedding and the behind-the-scenes work it takes to rebuild a life. We talk about watching a venue transform in real time, with crews assembling flooring, flowers, lighting, sound, and even drone-show rigs. It’s the kind of event production that feels closer to a concert tour than a ceremony, and it highlights a simple truth: the biggest moments are carried by invisible labor.

From there, we zoom out into military life and mindset. I share how security forces can warp your worldview toward the worst in people, and how perspective changes when you understand the macro mission and the real stakes. That leads into mentorship, the importance of building skills for a military transition, and what it was like getting kicked out for refusing the COVID vaccine. We also reflect on connecting with other veterans on the job and why purposeful teamwork is so hard to replace.

Then it gets personal and practical: baking as therapy, creativity as a way to heal cynicism, and a simple “belief audit” that keeps you from living in constant reaction, especially online. We close with relationship framework and loyalty, including how trust is built through boundaries, transparency, and daily choices that make doubt unnecessary. If you want a grounded mix of self-mastery, veteran perspective, mental resilience, and real-life relationship tools, hit play, then subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave a five-star review.

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Transcript

Late Night Drive Setup

SPEAKER_01 0:02

Yes, sir. We're gonna call this the late night drive. Just got done. When day two, working at this wedding venue. And man, let me tell you. It's been chill, bro. Like this is being behind the scenes and seeing the venue and the production brought to life. They're literally building things, man. Putting things together. They're putting up all the all the flowers. They're putting up all the the foreign. They built the light systems and the rigs to do a drone show. Like, bro, they're putting everything together. We're getting to hear the sound production, how they're you know putting the sound together, doing the light shows, and just all the crews running around, getting everything together. And it's just normal, everyday people don't get to see all the hard work that goes into an event. And when I tell you, it is a lot of hard work. And them boys out here sweating, moving, building, working. I mean, 12-hour days, man, they and they and they're getting it done, and just and it's just cool because you know I did it in the military for three years when I was PSD, talking to, you know, the top dogs of you know, whoever I needed to set up a meeting for. So, you know, when we went to embassies, we would speak to the Chiefs of Calphone disease, set up security meetings, and you know, then there's one day where you know I'm talking to a two-star general, making sure everything's squared away, and then there's another day where I talk to the Secretary of Defense, and it's just like being able to talk to the top dogs of whatever role they're in is just it's a different thing because like even though you're security, you're you're in the loop of what's going on, and you know, you feel like a team and you feel like you're part of the production. And just me being me by nature, I I love helping people, so I'm always down to help. And it's my willingness to help out that gets praised, and you know, they send messages back to my boss at the company I work for, and they're like, yo, Leo and Guy, they out here killing it. Nothing but compliments from them guys. And it's like that's the stuff that you want to do, and I don't because that's gonna help. I I just help because I enjoy helping people. Like when I stand, I don't like standing around and what and watching people work, bro. I get antsy and it's like, bro, I just I need to do something. Like, I know I'm here for security, but you know, you do a vibe check, and bro, ain't nobody here trying to trying to mess up their career to do something stupid. And so I help out when I can. And, you know, just meeting some bro, the people here, we we're talking to them, like just assuming they're just normal wedding coordinating and wedding planners. Hey, these people, a lot of these people are have flown in from Las Vegas. The whole sound production crew is from Las Vegas, and then you know, the floral company, the people with the chandeliers, and some of the other people are like the artists and stuff from Los Angeles, then the site manager who's in charge of the site is from San Diego, and then you got the people who built the structures and built the actual like venue itself, they're from New York, so like these are these are people who are from you know the top of the class in the industry, as they should be, because the person paying for this wedding, apparently it was 20 million, he got a little money to blow, and so you know he got the top of the line. And I was talking to the the uh wedding coordinator, the or I guess manager, she oversees everything, she's right under the owner of the company, and she was telling me what she does like full-time, like this is our part-time job, and she just does this on the side basically, but she develops apps for the NFL. I was like, yo, what the yo, y'all some y'all some y'all some big time people, huh? And then the people who are putting in the flooring and the carpet, they put in, they put in the turf, they they and they install carpet and stuff in the VIP rooms for the Super Bowl and for the NFL, for anything that goes on the stadiums. They they install that stuff. And it's just crazy. I'm like, right, I would have never expected. Like, that's the people, the caliber of people that were here. And they were telling me about the last job, the site manager, he was telling me about the last job that the wedding coordinator did, and it was out there in Puerto Rico, and they had talent out there, but they had big names. They had Enrique Iglesias, Ricky Martin out there, and they put on a whole entire thing out there in Puerto Rico. So I was like, oh shoot. Like, I'm just thinking, like I said, just normal everyday, you know, they got somebody from out here to this corner, but I guess it would make sense that they wouldn't do that because a high-profile client. But it's just crazy, man, to see it. And the reason why I decided to get on the mic right now is because the episode I made on the way here this morning, I was talking about how when I was security forces in the Air Force, all I saw was the evil in people. Just the nature of security forces, the nature of being the cop. You know, the only time we're really getting called on is when somebody needs help. Yeah, most of the time when somebody needs help is because somebody is doing something they shouldn't be doing to another person. And that really, you know, twisted the twisted my world view, and I just saw more negative, and even inside the squadron, and even on the flights, like down to the most basic level of the Air Force. Because, like I said, when I was PSD working for NCIS, like I saw the real, excuse me, I saw the real Air Force. I was no longer just you know a low-level gate guard checking IDs and just being disgruntled because I think my job is meaningless because I'm just checking IDs. Like, that doesn't seem like a very valuable job. And that's like the microcosm. But when you when you when you blow it up and look at the macro, which is what I got to do when I was NCIS, you see just how important base security is, making sure that the right people get on base, because you know, it could just be anybody with a fake ID. And they just drive on base and they can go straight to, you know, they could have went straight to Syncom, maybe had a fake badge, gotten to SICCOM, you know, assassinated somebody. So that's like, I mean, obviously that's like the worst case scenario, but in the grand scheme of things, we're the first line defense. And when you're working it, it doesn't seem like that. But when you look out and you branch out and you see it, and just because I like every time we would travel somewhere with general with general with General Votel, and you know, because we were his personal security, you just understand how important it is to have, you know, security forces or MPs or the Marine MPs or MSC police, which is the Marines, and then you know, Capitol Police, how important it was to have their support in a role in case something did happen because you know there's only so many of us, so we would have to rely on them to make sure that we have full coverage. And it became blatantly obvious how important our role as security forces was, but we just couldn't see it as such a you know, when you're an A1C or an airman, which is E1 or E2, you're not thinking about poor controllers. You're just miserable that you gotta check IDs. And so that really helped me see, you know, the value. And that and that's really what started to change my mind about how I felt about the military in general. And I was like, man, I think I can see myself doing 20 just because I understand how important it is, and you know, I wanted to take up a mentorship role to help the younger airmen also understand just how important it was. And oh shoot, guys, it's in the wrong way. Sorry, I tootha. I'm driving against traffic. I can't see at night. Sorry about that. Anyways, so I wanted to be like uh in a mentorship role to show the younger airmen like your job more important than this. And it's like, you know, you're in the Air Force, whether you do a four-year or six-year contract, you know, your job should be to acquire as many skills as possible. You know, they're gonna pay for your college, you know, you get your tuition, so go to school if that's the route you want to take, or you know, they'll pay for vocational training so you can get trade school. You know, but if you want to do 20, that's fine. But also plan for maybe something's gonna happen. You know, like when COVID kicked off, and you know, the people in the military, if you didn't want to get the COVID vaccine, then they kicked you out. That's what happened to me. I didn't want to get it, I got kicked out. And thankfully I had a plan, so I was already set. But a lot of people don't have this plan in place because they plan on doing 20, and that was their plan. Excuse me. And they didn't plan on doing anything else, and that can really set you up for failure and make the transition period hard because TAPS doesn't really give you, they give you information on a transition, but it doesn't show you how to integrate back into civilian society, and that's really the the gap that the military has not been able to close when it comes to veterans. And this segues into why tonight was such a great night is because I'm an Air Force vet. There was a the other security guard there, it was a Marine Corps vet, and then the other security guard there was an army vet. So there were three of us, and man, we were able to talk about you know our stories across different branches, and then we were able to talk about you know our security stories because we're all three in security now, and just the different things that we've done. And it's just crazy to see because one of the guys was like, Yeah, man, I've never done I've never done weddings before. Like this was his first wedding venue. And I was like, Oh man, that's crazy. I've done 30, 40, 50 weddings. But obviously, I've done one other, I wouldn't even call it a high profile as this one, but he still is a CEO, so I guess it still counts. I did another CEO's wedding. And so, like I've done it, but I've never seen, I don't think any of us had ever seen the you know, to watch the production be put together. And it was just like that's the part that is missing. Is man, dude, it was just it made me miss being in the military because you know, you feel like when you finally reach that point, like I I reached, like I felt like I was part of something great, and I was actually doing something purposeful with my life by you know defending the country. And it's like this fee, this feels more meaningful now that I actually found my purpose and my role in the Air Force, and like I said, that was to mentor the younger generation to help them get ahead. Because, you know, when I came up, I didn't really have good mentors like that. But then, like I said, COVID happened, I got kicked out, and you know, now I'm doing that just through the fitness aspect side of things. And excuse me, watching them because somebody, somebody, all these people had these individual plans, and they planning out this wedding, and everybody had a role in what they wanted to do with these weddings, or with this wedding, and now watching all of their plans just come to life, man, just creating this crazy wedding experience, man. It's just and I I I don't remember if I put this episode out when I was talking about why I I love baking and why you know it just I guess soothes soothes me. I'm literally creating. Like I know it's not like on a such a grand scale that's creating life, because I mean there's nothing I mean, what a well what's greater than that, you know, what's cooler than that, and like bringing life into the world is just a marvel in itself. That should be the eighth wonder right there. But it's like I'm taking my ideas and I'm I'm bringing them to life. Like, I I think people underestimate how much power is in that, and it may sound so simple as bro, you're just mixed cake, but I'm but I'm not though. Like I got all the ingredients together, I put it in a mixer, and I put it in the oven, I bake it at whatever temperature I bake it at, take it out, and then I get the the buttercream, I pipe it on there, and the decoration I want, the design I want, however I want it to look, and I go for the taste that I want, and it's like I'm bringing my creation to life. And I look at something so uh insignificant, and I'm always just in awe of some of the things that I make, and I'm like, man, I really did this. Like, this is I made this. And then when people taste it, and they say, Man, this tail of cheesecake factories, or they say this is the best cheesecake I ever had. Or they try my cookies and they say, Oh man, chroma could never be chewed. Or the the story I told about one of one of our friends that tried one of my cookies and she literally shed a tear. Like you you cannot like those moments cannot be replicated because it's just true in the moment emotion, a split time, a split second of seeing humanity at its purest. The light in somebody's eyes, the joy, the emotions that surge through their body when they just when they when they when they take a bite of something that they really love or it just tastes so good. They just I don't know how to describe it. And it's something that I created. You you can't you can't get that feeling, like you can't just replicate that on command. And that's what I was talking about in the episode earlier. I was like, that's why I love the beach, and I need the beach, because when you go to the beach, that is humanity in its purest form. Everybody's out there having a good time, playing in the water, out with their family, happy, joy, the people are talking to each other, enjoying one another's company. Like, that's humanity and it's in its purest form, man. Like, that's what we're supposed to be doing. And in that moment in time, you cut through all the noise, you cut all the negativity, you cut through all the barriers, the stereotypes, and it's just people enjoying people, people enjoying mother nature at her finest. And this is how I look at life, and this is why I'm always so optimistic, man. Because it's something so insignificant that may seem insignificant to you and tiny. It's like, bro, you just bake. Like, it's really not that big of a deal. Yeah, but it is to me, because of the way my worldview was warped and twisted, and I became a cynic baking and seeing people in the purest form where they bite into something that's so amazing, and you see that light in their eyes, and they're just in that moment, they're just happy, man, and they're just joyful, and they're just hopeful that they were able to have what they just had. That helps that helps heal my cynicism. That's why I love that's why I loved working weddings. Because like I said at the beach, it's the purest form of humanity. People are flying, bro. People are flying in, driving in from all over the world to spend a moment to share somebody else's big moment to enjoy each other's company, to have a good time, joy, happiness, excitement, energy. Everybody's talking to each other, everybody's in a good time. Like, where else do you where else can you replicate these moments? Like in our everyday busy lives, man. We're all go, go, go, and we all working to the bone trying to get that money. Cause I mean, right now, times are rough. So, you know, you might be working two jobs to get by, and all you're thinking about is how you're gonna, you know, pay your next bill or you live in paycheck to paycheck. And I understand that because even with us making what we make, we still got debt. All our all our money goes to our debt. We're trying to pay off our debt, so we still live in paycheck to paycheck. But that's because of mistakes that we made with our money when we were younger, and we're paying for it now, but we're at least in a position to where we can actually pay off debt and still do some of the things that we want to do. And I get I understand that not everybody's in that position. But what you gotta understand is it's your mentality that's gonna make or break you. And this is why, and this is why I say something as simple as baking to me is so significant to me because it helps heal the damage that being a cynic for so long and just having so much distrust for other human beings to the point to where it was literally like poison. Like I when I when I met I when I met new people, the first thing that would come to my mind is what do they want to use me for? That's the first thing I thought when I met new people. Okay, what are they gonna use me for? Isn't that crazy? Like that's how much of a cynic I was. Now, I'm not gonna sit here and tell you that I still don't think that sometimes, but when I meet people now, I at least, you know, try to not instantly think of okay, what are they gonna use me for? You know, I try to get to know them and fill them out before I just automatically assume that they're gonna use me and I'm not gonna sit here and lie to you. You know, it is hard to overcome something that's been so deeply rooted in me. And I'm not gonna blame my mother, but I probably blame my mother. And it's probably stemmed from back when she attempted suicide. And I didn't realize how much it actually did to me because you know it's my freaking mother. And she tried to take herself out of this world. And how am I supposed to trust other people if I can't even trust my own mother? You know, you said you were gonna be there for me, and then you tried to take yourself out because of a failed relationship you had with somebody else. So what you're saying is that, and this is you know, this is just what what I was saying in my head as I said, what you're saying is that you don't love us anymore, and you don't care about how we feel, so you're just gonna do this regardless. And I tell you, man, when I held my mom's, she wrote out suicide notes to all three of my brothers, and like I actually held a suicide note written out to me. I was only 18 at the time, and I'm not typically an emotional person, bro, but it's my freaking mother, and I'm like, bro, like what the freak is wrong with you? Like, why didn't you even try to come to anybody? You know, you just go into this whole thing, and excuse me. Like I was saying at the time, I didn't realize how much damage that actually did to me subconsciously, and then that just festered, and then in Afghanistan, it didn't help that my ex-wife cheated on me. Okay, that didn't help. And then when I got back from Afghanistan, you know, I said, okay, I'm gonna give you another. You cheated on me again, and it's like it just slowly, slowly built into something, and I started to build up subconsciously a defense system to prevent myself from being hurt, and I no longer let people get close to me, so I didn't tell people anything that was of any deep meaningful anything about myself, and I just started to be closed off, and I started to you know, not when I first meet people, I was like real quiet, I wouldn't talk to you because like I started to like feel you out and analyze of like are you gonna be a threat to me or are you chill and so I started to do all these things, and as a result of that, like it's ingrained in me now, and I still I still have I still do a bunch of those things and I manage it I manage it as well as I can but unfortunately you know it still it still weighs on me heavily and like I said I'm working on it and you know doing these these these podcast episodes talking to you guys and you know telling my story about everything that I've been through and things like that it really does help because like I said these are my true feelings about how I feel about the world. So you're literally seeing the world through my eyes. This is not filtered, and I don't try to center myself, and I don't do the I don't do edits. The only time that you'll you'll hear edits is if there's like I don't I don't even know what it would take, but like sometimes like I'll have the radio on when I start the podcast and it'll be too loud, so I'll try to like quiet it down or cut it out. But outside of that, there's no there's no editing, bro. Like this is me. This is me, 100% me. And that's another thing that a lot of people can't do, and that goes along the same path of expressing who you really are, getting down in the in the in the nooks and crannies of who you are as a person and your view of the world because people are afraid that they're gonna be judged. But it's like, bro, it don't matter if you judge or not, it's who you are. It's who you are, and that's when I made that whole couple episodes about the belief system. I was like, man, it really doesn't take much for you to you know just follow what I talked about and update your beliefs if there's evidence that comes out to prove otherwise, and just you know flow with flow with the times, and you know, stand on your principles that you believe in, you know, stand with your values, make sure your compass, your moral compass is pointing in the right direction, and just be aware that you know anytime you're able to change any of those aspects about yourself, you just have to be able to self-analyze those change changes and make sure you know the changes are in good favor of who you are as a person. And that's what I've been doing over the years, as you know, I interact with different people and do different things and just get more worldly experience, more worldly knowledge, and just see more of the world and just see everything that's going on. And you know, I I do I sit with myself and I ask myself, I was like, you know, how does, for example, how does what's going on in Iran, how does that affect me? How does that make me feel? Like, like, okay, well, it makes me feel like this. And I'd be like, why does it make why does it make me feel like this? Well, because I don't agree with what they did. And I'll be okay, why don't I agree with what they did? What what why did what they did go against my morals, my values, my beliefs? Because that's what you're gonna be judging the world on. And so that's what I do with things that are going on in the world, so I can self-regulate my emotions and I don't just get overly emotional and you know start going on a negative comment spree on social media. This is why I'm capable of seeing a video I don't agree with on social media and just scrolling past it instead of thinking that it has to leave a negative review. Because I go through the same system, like I see a video that I don't agree with, and I'll just say how I feel out loud and scroll because I think of okay, if I leave this comment, what is the outcome gonna be? Am I leaving this comment because I need to feel better about myself and need to justify something that I believe in, and I'm hoping other people in the comments agree with me and justify my belief, or am I just leaving this comment because this is how I feel, and it's an actual like criticism that can be collaborated with fact, and it's not just emotion. Because if you're just leaving negative comments out of emotion, those types of comments don't lead to anything. Like you're not gonna change somebody's mind if you're just strictly leaving an argument, leaving comments, or arguing out of emotion. And that's why I say if you know new things pop up about your belief system and new science or new evidence pops up to disprove it, then you need to have an open mind and willingness to change and realize, okay, holding on to this is not actually serving me. And then you need to you need you need to ask yourself, okay, but why am I hanging on to this so strongly? Like what about this belief that's making me not want to change it, even though I've been confronted with conflicting information? And a lot of people, unfortunately, don't do that. And I and that's what causes a lot of divide in the country currently. Because you have one side that believes one thing, and then you have another side that believes another thing. And then when either side is confronted, they don't want to swap. And I don't like picking sides. I like to try to see both perspectives and try to understand where each side is coming from. And that that's what allows you to make the most rational choice. Because you're gonna see where the right comes from, and you're gonna see where the left comes from, and then you're gonna weigh those against your own morals, your own values, and your own beliefs. And then that's how you're gonna end up choosing a side. A lot of people just click up and they choose a side solely on emotion and not what they actually believe in. Because a lot of people don't have they don't have their own belief system. A lot of people don't stand for anything. And when you don't stand for anything, you're easily swayed to side with people that accept you. And then once you get that acceptance, in order to keep that acceptance, you basically have to swear allegiance, and then you become the mob mentality. So they all vote the same, they all talk the same, they all act the same, they all wear the same thing. And that's how you get that, because they have no, they don't have their own identity, and their identity becomes uh whatever it is that they're you know believing in the moment. Instead of actually themselves, and like I said, once you know who you are, then you're able to take back control of your life. Excuse me, and you'll actually have your own morals, your own beliefs, and your own value system, and that allows you to make rational decisions instead of just solely basing your decisions on what everybody else in the pack is doing. Like I said, that's not a jab at anybody. That's just how I that's just how I see most of these things play at play out, or that's just my opinion on how I see most of the things play out. And that's why we just have such a huge divide in the country. And it really, and like I said earlier, it really does come from an identity crisis. A lot of these issues could be solved if people weren't going through identity crisis. Crisises. Is that a word? I think that's a word. Because I know I said I I don't remember what episode it was, but I know I talked about it back when I didn't really know who I was, and I didn't really figure out what I wanted to do or who I wanted to be until like halfway through my military career. It was actually when I got back from Saudi Arabia deployment in 2015. And I I'm I'm remembering it right now. I was sitting in the medical office, and I just got called back, so I was waiting for the doctor to come in. And there was a bunch of pamphlets on the back of his door about different like um how to how to deal with this symptom or how to help this or how to do this. And I was taking all the pamphlets. And I had a handful of pamphlets. He's like, All right, I see you got some reading material there. I was like, Yeah, you know, I actually just figured out what I wanted to do in my life. He's like, Oh, really? What did you want to do? I was like, Man, I would love to be able to cross-train over in the medical because I want to help people. He's like, Oh man, that's awesome! He's like, I hope you're able to do that. So I remember that I just had an bro, I just had in the PIF, and he's sitting right there in the office. I was like, man, I want to help people. I was in 2015, and then I got into PSD, and I realized that I went, like I said, I wanted to be a mentor, and which is along the lines of helping people, and then I got out in 2022, and then became an online fitness coach, and then 2025 is when I decided to change it just from you know functional medicine, nutrition, fitness, and to incorporate the self-mastery aspect because I just believe a lot of a lot more people need to understand more about themselves in order to actually function properly in life. So that's when uh that's the timeline of how everything changed. And I just wish that social media wasn't an algorithm or a numbers game. I just wish people could see the value of my content and you know, take the time to read the captions so they can fully understand how much value is there and how much I could actually help. Like, I'm not trying to sit here and say that I'm some psychologist that knows all this stuff and I'll be able to freaking, you know, do whatever magic, you know. But I do believe that, you know, like Jordan Peterson and those type of guys, um, what's that motherfaker's name? I can't remember. There's another guy that does this, he's real famous. But am I saying that I am them? No. But what I'm saying is I'm them, but as a regular everyday person, so I don't have the fame, I don't have all the glam, all the lights, the paparazzi chasing me around. Because I'm not a day person telling you guys that this is possible. So it really is coming in from another angle of okay, well, this guy's literally working in a nine to five when I'm doing my security gigs, and then he's an entrepreneur, so you know he's got his own business that he's running, he loves to bake, plays the saxophone games, is learning Spanish on Duolingo. I'm own my own yard, I do my own freaking pest control. I got two dogs. I like to travel. I have a beautiful wife, an amazing wife, who takes very good care of me and puts up with all my my bull crap. And we go out in the public, you know, we act like adults, we're not on our phone screen, enjoying each other's company, we don't argue, we don't fight, we have a good sex life. Like, I'm doing and like I like I tell you guys, I I don't even be trying to gas myself up, okay? But what I'm saying is, and telling you guys, is I'm doing the things that most people want to do. I have the relationship that most people want to have. I have the life that most people want to live. I'm talking about, you know, everyday normal people. They want a good job that pays well, they want a relationship that they don't feel like that to walk on eggshells and each other are treating each other respectively. We're both healthy. Blood work is the proof. We have amazing bodies, we look good. We both go to the beach, no problems, two-piece, no shirt on for me. We have confidence. We're being, you know, we're going out to health conferences, we're talking to people. I'm doing gigs here at the security, you know, getting handpicked for gigs like this, high-value clients, the charisma, the looks. And it's like we we I I'm telling you guys, I'm living the life that you want to live. The framework of my life, okay, not my exact life, obviously, but the framework of my life is the life that most people want to live. So, what I'm telling you guys, I'm like Jordan Peterson and all these other guys. I'm like them, but I'm giving you the same information, just a normal person. Like, I'm y'all. I got debt, I'm still paying on debt, but I'm still living the life that you guys want to live. Like, I have the same problems. I just had I just had to, we just had to change two tires in one day in a Walmart parking lot. Because we had a flat. And we needed to get the flat off, obviously. But because the spare was a continental, we had to take off the back Michelin, put the Michelin up front, and then put the Continental in the trunk, and then put the spare on. Like I'm still dealing with everyday normal problems. Like you guys. I'm like I said, I mow my own yard, I do my own pest control, I do all the handiwork in the house I can. The only thing I don't really like messing with is electricity. And I mean that's because when I was a kid, I put a little uh paper clip inside the socket and shock the hell out of myself. So I don't like doing nothing with electricity. But even then, I changed the compressor or the condenser on the AC unit. I I install all smart lights. Like I, bro, like I'm telling you guys, I'm literally, I'm just I'm I'm a regular guy who's living an extraordinary life because I figured out who I was and who I wanted to be and where I wanted to go in life. We have our vision board, we have our dream place that we want to live. We have our dream that we want to achieve what works. And I'm telling you, we're going to Colorado in May for an event. I'm keeping hush hush right now. And it's something that we never thought that we would ever be doing, but we're doing it because we got invited. We got invited to this event. Why? Because of how we act in our online presence, how we talk to people, how we carry ourselves, and what our business actually stands for.

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So we got invited to this event.

Marriage Without Intimacy And Drift

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So it's like, guys, I'm like I said, I'm not even trying to be arrogant or gas myself up or gas us up. I'm just literally telling you guys my everyday life is literally the framework of what most people want to achieve in life. If you listen to these Car Chronicle episodes, I promise you, you can get there as well. And I and I already said, if you guys ever need to just reach out to the DMs and just talk, bro, I will talk to you. I am not a mother freaking one of these influencers that are gonna make you pay money or do whatever. Like I said before, and I'll say it again: the only reason why I charge for fitness coaching is because every time I did it for free, people wouldn't stick to it. So they needed to have some skin in the game in order to stick to it. And if they didn't, and if they would stick to it, I'd be free for bro. Because I want everybody to experience life the way I see life through baking. Just the excitement, the light in your eyes, man. Just being happy, just being happy to wake up. And you know, you look at your wife, you're like, man, I got an amazing woman. She takes care of me. She does everything for me. And I'm about to go out here and get this bag so I can take care of her. I'm gonna provide for her. I'm gonna protect her. I'm gonna treat her right. I man, she just told me the other day that somebody she knows, married couple, they haven't had sex in four years.

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Four years, man.

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And I'm just thinking, like, golly, bro. Whenever I want it, whenever I want it, I get it. She will give it to me whenever I want it. And this is what I'm talking about, man. These these marriages, these these relationships, void of intimacy, decaying, crumbling. Because they don't have any type of framework, any type of structure. They have no guidance. They don't stand for anything. They don't know how to fight. They don't know how to compromise. They have no direction. They're just too busy digging through each other's baggage, and they just keep pulling out more and more and more and more. I'm like, what are we doing? Like, why why are we why are we going down this route? Like you make you make a commitment to somebody. You say, I'm gonna be with you. You guys know if you if you listen to the past episodes, then you already know my story and the lesson I learned. But it's like you you make a commitment to somebody. You say that you're gonna be with this person. You know, you're you need after that, there's no there's no playing B, C, D, E, E, F, man. Cut them off. Invest 100% of your energy into this person and make it make it work.

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And like I said, man, you find you a woman who is willing to be a wife before she's married, she will make you a better man.

Loyalty Built Through Clear Boundaries

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Because in turn, for taking care of you, you're gonna want to take care of her. And that's gonna push you past your limits. That's gonna push you past what you thought you believe you were capable of doing, just just solely based on that alone. And it and it really comes down to, like I said, the way I see life is gonna be completely different from how you see life. And how I got to how I see life, it's because she showed me, and you know, through what I said to the military, she showed me serenity.

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She showed me what peace looks like. She made me want to change because I didn't want to lose what she was giving me.

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I was like, I have the opportunity to be at peace to have a wife that doesn't nag. A wife who doesn't pester me when I don't do something. A wife that doesn't have to freaking give me a curfew. A wife that doesn't tell me who I can and can't go hang out with a wife that that trusts me and so in turn I return the favor. Like it's such a simple thing, man. And like she has all my passwords, all my usernames. Whenever she wants my phone to like, because I don't I don't know if I told you guys about the signal chat, but I'm in a signal chat for people that got kicked out of the Air Force, and you know they do updates, and they send about two, three hundred messages a day. And I forget to check it, I don't be checking it like that. And she reads a lot faster than me. So she's like, hey, let me go through the signal chats, and she'll just go through it and see if there's anything important in there. Excuse me. And or when we're doing like nightlies, we use my phone for TikTok and Instagram. And it's like, bro, like I have no stress, no worries, because I don't have anything in there to hide from her. And it's such a weight off my shoulders, it's a weight off her shoulders, because we don't keep secrets from each other.

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Everything is out in the open, and we talk about it. And it it really helps the relationship just run so much more smooth.

Quick Wrap And Listener Request

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Yeah, I I also have access to her social medias. I'm actually logged into her. Like I can just hit switch user on for her Instagram, and she gives me her phone whenever. But I trust my wife with the utmost. I have no doubts when it comes to her. I don't worry about it at all. But that's the type but that's the level that I'm talking about that people want to get to, that they're searching for, this type of loyalty. They always say they want a man or a woman as loyal. Well, loyalty doesn't just come naturally like that. It's built upon a foundation, and part of that foundation is doing things that help instill that loyalty into a person. Like, for example, when she told me that she didn't like my porn use, and we we had that whole discussion. You can listen to the episodes, I already talked about that. And I cut off porn, you know, and now I've been porn, porn free for six years. What did that do? Help build that loyalty. She has my passwords and my usernames. What does that do? Helps build loyalty. Now she trusts me with the utmost because she has no reason. What what reason would she have not to? Because I haven't shown any reason that she shouldn't trust me, and vice versa. So it don't just come natural like that because it's something that you need to build upon. But holy crap, I've been talking for a minute. Um my bad. So yeah, I'm gonna leave this episode right there. And like I said, I'm probably gonna end up in these all these episodes back to back to back, so it's in a chronological order. Uh this was just uh a spur in the moment one. So I might move this one to the end of all of them. I don't know. We'll see, because you know I'm about to go home and get like four hours of sleep, and so uh I'm not gonna be in the right state of mind, regardless. So, anyways, if you like this episode, don't forget to like, comment, and share. And then that's five star review. Until next time.