Car Chronicles EP 24: You Always Have A Choice In How You Respond Part 1

Caffeine culture is everywhere, but the real question isn’t what you take to push through a long day. The real question is why you’re running on empty to begin with. We start with a simple TikTok comment and end up in a much deeper place: sleep deprivation, trauma, addiction, and the stories we tell ourselves when we don’t want to face our own agency.

I get into why I don’t buy emotional arguments that dodge the core issue. Toxic leadership, brutal shifts, and painful experiences can be true at the same time as this truth: you still choose your response. We talk through the difference between empathy and enabling, why revenge doesn’t heal anything, and how self-reflection and emotional regulation can stop the spiral into caffeine dependence, nicotine, alcohol, or other coping behaviors. I also break down the nuance people miss about “addiction,” including where fitness can cross the line and what loss of control actually looks like.

We close by grounding it back in health basics that matter: circadian rhythm (especially for night shift), cortisol patterns, sleep quality, anxiety, stress, and fixing root causes instead of stacking stimulants. If you want a practical mindset for getting your energy back and taking ownership of your life, hit play, then subscribe, share the show with someone who needs it, and leave a five-star review.

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Transcript

Summer Camp Security And Life Update

SPEAKER_00 0:04

Yes, sir. Back on the road again. Headed to the kids' summer camp. So the church is holding the summer camp. And they needed security, so I'm on my way. It's actually been the last two days. So three days total. And this is the last day. And it's been interesting to say the least. Far more kids than what I'm normally working. And a bunch of adults, too. It's like 65 staff members there. So but the church is decently sized, and everything ran so smooth, which is nice. The first day was kind of hectic, you know, because everybody's just trying to figure everything out. The second day, flawless execution. Like the first day, checkout didn't get done until like 12.33. Yesterday, checkout got done at 1215. So that's pretty good. So yeah, that's um pretty much has changed. I mean, she's still in Puerto Rico, and I haven't been able to do the yard work. I want it clearly because I've been working. And so tomorrow, so today's the last day. And then tomorrow, I don't work until I think 4.30. So I'll be able to get some of the stuff I want done. Done. And then I gotta I work Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. She gets in Sunday, but she doesn't get until 12. I get off at 10:30, 11. So I gotta try to find time to clean the whole house up before work. Well, I'm not gonna find time. I am gonna clean the whole house up before work, but unfortunately, I don't think I'm gonna be able to get everything done that I wanted to get done. One, because it was raining like a mother freaker. So that prevented me from doing the yard work I wanted. And two, I've been working all week. So I've been working, I would get off at 12.30. And by the time I actually got to my car, you know, it's like 12.40. Drive home, hour and 10 minutes. So now it's 3 o'clock, go to the gym, 5 o'clock, take care of the dogs, and then get ready for tomorrow and go to bed because I had to go to bed early because I got to bed at freaking 4. But yeah, so I'm not making excuses. I'm just going over time my day to day. And I was waiting till after the summer camp to actually start doing the things I need to do. So yeah.

A TikTok Comment Ignites Debate

SPEAKER_00 3:57

Let's hop into this video today. Brought to you by a TikTok comment on one of my videos. So if you didn't know, I made a video about how military members shouldn't have to rely on caffeine. And if you are going to drink caffeine, you need to do it responsibly so it doesn't f you up and cause more problems, right? That was a demand. This guy comments on my video talking about how bad his squadron was, and how there was three suicides, six D Wise. One of the airmen was always in the mental health clinic getting help. Basically airing out his grievances, right? Which is fine. If you want to do that, then do that. But just be aware, if you're gonna come into my comment section and do that, I don't really do the whole emotional argument thing. I look at things from a logical standpoint. And oh, I forgot the other piece of my video. And I said, why not just fix the root cause of what's causing you to be tired? Then you won't have to rely upon caffeine. So that was the ending of my video. And that's when he, you know, he said all the things about his squadron and stuff. And I was like, I basically told, I was like, regardless of what's happening, you're still responsible for the choices you make. And you choose your path. So we got into a whole argument. And I asked him, I was like, Did you even seek out help? He's like, Yeah, I did seek out help. And I made another comment. And then he's he made another comment saying how, you know, they've they fall into alcohol. This is what why they're relying upon caffeine is because of trauma that they're they're dealing with, and then you know, they fall into alcohol, nicotine, addiction, and other things along that line. And I was like, I just want to say this and I want to I want to clear this up. I don't care what you're going through, and I don't care about what you've been through, because none of it matters. Out of every one of those situations, you have a choice in the matter. Regardless of how grim it may seem, you still have a choice. And you choose how you react to these situations. And when you let the situation dictate your response, that's when you get the emotional grievances in the comic session from people airing out their feelings. Now, in reality, do I care about what people are going through? To some extent, I want to help people. I don't like seeing people suffer. But I also don't like when people don't take accountability for their part in their own suffering. You can sit here and continue to blame your squadron for the rest of your life for what it put you through and everything that you've been through. You can do that. And you're gonna continue to be disgruntled and miserable because you're holding on to that stored trauma from your old unit. I am grateful for the Air Force because the Air Force has made me into the man that I am today and has given me everything I could ever ask for. If I had not joined the Air Force, I would not be the same person I am today, and I would not be in the same position I am today. And I would definitely not be here on this microphone talking to y'all today.

Gratitude For Service And Real Anger

SPEAKER_00 8:40

But the Air Force also took a lot of me away. I lost a lot of myself during my journey in the Air Force. I went through a lot of pain and I went through a lot of mental health issues. And then at the 13 years of my career, when they kicked me out for denying the COVID vaccine, it was like I gave everything to the Air Force and they just discarded me. And we all know now that the order that they had put out was illegal, which is why they're now allowing people to rejoin. So I I served honorably in the Air Force for 13 years, broken body, mind, broken spirit, picking myself up along the way, getting back up because a job needs to be done just to be discarded in the end.

SPEAKER_02 9:58

It it didn't it it helped it didn't help that I was already angry.

SPEAKER_00 10:10

All it did was add more fuel to the fire, all it did was push me further into my cynicism. All it did is make me not want to trust any organization because at the end of the day, we're all disposable, we can all be replaced, and then when you start sliding down that mindset, you don't want to put any effort into anything because you know, like at the end of the day, what is it worth when I can just be discarded? Why did I do everything I did in the Air Force? What was the whole point of it? Why was I helping airmen further their careers? Why was I writing them award packages? Why was I boosting everybody up? Why was I helping everybody? Why was I training people? Why was I trying to ensure people could pass their PT tests? Why was I trying to make the Air Force and the immediate vicinity of the people that I could actually help? Why was I trying to make that impact? If they could just discard me. So it gets deeper than what most people realize when you look at the grand scheme of things. Everybody in the Air Force right now is gonna be replaced. And if you F up, they'll just get rid of you. And everything you've done you raced. I'm out now. Nothing I did in my military career matters. Now obviously that's not a hundred percent true. And um Wow. I'm exaggerating, that's the word I was looking for. I'm exaggerating the extent. But you get the point. So I'm saying all that because you guys know, and if you've been listening to me for any amount of time now, that I've been through things. We've all been through things, and we're all going through things. But if I were to let what the Air Force did to me continually hold me back from getting better, I wouldn't be the man I am today. If I didn't fight through my trauma, if I didn't do the work, I would not be with Stephanie. And who knows where my anger and my rage, my wrath, where it would be right now, if I wasn't actively working through it and not holding on to everything that everybody has done to me. Because you have every reason to probably be mad or upset with what has happened to you. There's a lot of things that have happened to people, and you have every reason to be mad or upset. But what you don't understand is being mad or upset doesn't do anything for anyone or to anyone. If you go and kill that person, whatever happened to you still happened to you. It doesn't erase that. Now it's gonna weigh even heavier on your moral conscience because you took a life. So there's no route of vengeance or revenge that you can go down where it's gonna be beneficial to you. Because it already happened, the damage has already been done. That's why you do healing and you come to terms with what happened to you, and then you move on because you understand that you can't change the past, and there's nothing that you can do that will erase what happened to you unless you get amnesia.

Healing Trauma Without Chasing Revenge

SPEAKER_00 14:24

So if you want to go seek out a TBI and get amnesia, then that's probably your best bet if you want to forget. No amount of alcohol, no amount of drugs, no amount of anything is gonna erase what happened to you. You have to learn how to overcome the pain and live with it. And you live with it by under by not giving power to it, by understanding that whatever happened to you, I'm in whatever situation, for example, if you were raped, you didn't have control of the situation. Replaying the scenario over and over and over again in your head to try to figure out what you could have done differently is pointless because it already happened. There's no reason to continue to beat yourself up about something that you can't change. It doesn't, it doesn't, it doesn't, you can't define your value. It doesn't change who you are as a person. Nobody's gonna, well, I can't say nobody because there are people out there, but for for and genuinely speaking, most people aren't gonna think differently of you.

Can Working Out Be Addiction

SPEAKER_00 15:56

So I'm saying all of that to get to his argument because then he tried to bring up that you shouldn't think. Oh, he said, don't go around thinking that you're better than people because your addiction is socially acceptable. And he was talking about working out, and he and he brings up an interesting point. Because to some extent, I do believe that there are some people who are addicted to working out, and obviously you can be addicted to literally anything. And if you if we live by that logic, then if you drive a car every day, you're addicted to it. So, I mean, obviously, there's nuance to any argument that's gonna be had, but you got to be careful with saying stuff like that because you can literally turn anything into an addiction. I'm talking, I'm probably gonna talk for another 20, 30 minutes, and I talk every day. Am I addicted to talking? So there's just things that don't make sense, but in but it does make sense because there are people who don't take days off. There are people who, when they are on a rest day, they start fiending for working out, and then you know, the sound gets so loud that they have to go work out, or if you miss a day, you mentally break down. These are signs of addiction. So, to some extent, I do believe that people can be addicted to working out. Now, do I think it's generally accepted by society? No, because I think that the majority of people, if they knew somebody like this, would warn them against the danger and would confront them and say, hey man, you're you're doing too much, you need to take a day off for real, you need to chill. I think most people would do that, so I don't think it's acceptable, and I don't think society accepts any addiction as you shouldn't, because it's not good, period. But to get to the heart of the matter, instead of taking accountability for his own emotions, he's using his situation as an excuse as to why he got into his addiction and to why he is where he is today. Because, brother, I was security forces. You ain't gonna try to sit here and tell me about toxic leadership. You're not gonna sit here and try to tell me, oh, I worked XYZ shift. Because he's like, oh, I was on the flight line, and maintenance people on the flight line, they work hella hours just like we do. So you're not gonna try to convince me. You better go talk to somebody who hasn't worked 18-hour shifts, 16-hour shifts, no days off for two weeks out of every month for six and a half months. You're not gonna sit here and tell me, bro. You're not gonna get any symptom meaning. Because I, as a kid who was bullied in school, who joined the Air Force as a freaking mother freaking mosquito wing, a mother freaking E1, a mother freaking E2. Well, I started out as an E1, no stripes when I got to my first base. I got bullied at my first base every day for having no stripes. Then I put on my little mosquito wing and still got bullied. I got bullied through my throughout my whole entire career, bro. I've had toxic leadership throughout my whole entire career. And bullied in the sense that people who are higher ranking than me can literally just do whatever they want to me, tell me whatever they want to do want me to do, and if it's in a lawful order, I have to do it. So there's there's no there's no sympathy, bro. There's none. Because through through all of it, through all of it, my only addiction, and it started before I even joined the Air Force at 14, 13, 14, when I was addicted to porn. I started before I even got into the Air Force. Through all of my entire military career, all of the freaking bull crap that I dealt with, not once did I ever pick up a bottle or pick up any drugs. Not once did I go to mental health because I because of all of the crap I was dealing with. Not once.

Accountability Means Choosing Your Response

SPEAKER_00 21:14

An internal monologue and the ability to do something called self-reflecting. And when you can do these things, when you can self-reflect, then it helps regulate your emotions. And then when you can regulate your emotions, situations that happen, you can prevent the most extreme outcomes. So I told him I was like, bro, none of the stuff you matters, none of the stuff you're saying matters. I asked him wondering. Question. I said, do you or do you not choose how you respond to a situation? That is my that that is at the end of the day, that's my ultimate argument. Do you or do you not choose how you respond to a situation? I don't care about any outside factors. I don't want to hear nothing about anything else going on. Yes or no question. Because even when somebody has a gun to your head and is going to kill you, you still have a choice. You always do. Regardless of how that choice turns out, you still have it. So when you're going through everything that you were going through in your squadron, and you were getting beat down into the beat down into the dirt, what choices were you making to help you overcome those obstacles? And then this is why people get emotional and get triggered because they realize that there are people similar to them who have been through hard times that didn't fall into addiction like they did. So I believe that is envy and jealousy, which is why he tried to shame my addiction working out, which is I'm not addicted to. Right? And I'm not fiending for it. Oh, I gotta work out. He's like, well, what's the longest you've taken off for the taken off from the gym? Like he's gonna give me an agent like I've never taken off from the gym. The longest I've taken off from the gym is three months. Oh yeah, I guess I'm I guess I'm super addicted. If I can miss three months of the gym, oh you got me. You better ask my wife. You better ask my wife how not addicted to the gym I am. She will let you know. Because you guys, you you don't understand the difference here. Why you're not addicted to the gym is because you're willingly working out. Okay? I'm willingly going to the gym. There's no there's no loss of control when it comes to me going to the gym. And by loss of control, I mean like I'm fiending for it. Like I can't control the craving. Like the impulse. When you start having like biological influences over what you're doing, that's when it starts to become an issue. Which is why caffeine, straight out, straight out the gate in the morning, is not good for you because it starts to influence you biologically, starts to influence your cortisol, starts to influence your dopamine, starts to influence your nervous system, starts to influence your blood sugar.

SPEAKER_02 26:11

This is why it's not good. And then you try to get me again on the gotcha.

SPEAKER_00 26:18

It's like, oh, do you work out around injuries? Yes. You know why I work out around injuries? Because I've been training for 13 years and I know how to strategically go through the ranges of motion to make sure that I'm not injuring myself further and to still get a workout in. In News Flash, I don't know if you know this, buddy, but what do you think physical training is when you get injured?

SPEAKER_02 26:52

Physical training. Wow, physical therapy. What do you think physical therapy is when you get injured? Oh wait. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 27:03

How do you think you rehab injuries by strengthening those areas, by mobilizing the joints, strengthening the tendons, slowly working through those ranges of multiple regain function? Like it's just it's just insane to even try to compare working out as an addiction to something like alcohol or drugs. It's insane, bro, to the level of delusion that he is sunk because he can't let go of the trauma of what his squadron did to him. And this is why a lot of people get in their feelings, and this is why a lot of people think that they're special. Like, bro, I gotta keep telling you, motherfreakers, y'all ain't special. You're not special, bro. And I guarantee you, what you would do isn't even as bad as what you're saying. Because most of the time, people will exaggerate their pain so people take more sympathy on them. Like, bro, I get it. I got cheated on. You know who else has been cheated on? Probably 90% of the military, mother freaking. I got freaking beat down into the dirt and had toxic leadership. You know who else got beat down into the dirt and has toxic leadership? Literally every single other branch. Oh, you had to work 16-hour shifts. You know how to work 16-hour shifts? A lot of other people in the freaking military. Don't even get started on special forces.

SPEAKER_02 28:43

These motherfuckers sleep deprived every goddamn day, it seemed like they're out here killing people, dealing with those nightmares.

SPEAKER_00 28:53

And you're talking about, oh, I had freaking Tech Sergeant Johnny freaking call me a name. Like, bro, and I don't mean to make light of somebody else's situation, but what I'm saying is that we've all been through it. What separates us is some of us are healing and moving past it. You're still holding on to it and using it.

SPEAKER_02 29:20

Take accountability for your actions.

SPEAKER_00 29:25

Those situations, how they turned out, may or may not have been influenced differently had you chosen different actions. Like, bro, you can't fix the good old boy's system. But there are tools and stuff in place. Okay, he didn't answer this question, he just completely ignored it. EO, equal opportunity, the IG, the chaplain. There's tools in place to deal with things like that. Did you go to these people? Did you talk to these people? And if you didn't, then you didn't do everything in your power to make sure you got out of that situation. And then to try to say that, oh, you know, I was you're here until the jet retires, okay? I knew a guy that was at Maxwell, Air Force Base, for nine years. You think you're the only person that has been stuck at a base for a long period of time? Do you guys get what I'm trying to say? Is that there's somebody else who has been through your situation? And your situation isn't as special as you think it is. And it doesn't make it any more special when you get in somebody else's comment section and start airing at your feelings. Oh, this is what I went through. Okay, and are we gonna compare traumas? Like, what do you what is the point of this? I don't care that you went through all of this because my argument is that no matter what you go through, you have a choice. So it doesn't matter what you tell me, I care about your actions you chose during the situation. Because that can change the outcome of that situation.

Two Stories Where Choices Had Consequences

SPEAKER_00 31:43

There is many a time in my career where I've chosen five things. I chose the route, I chose the wrong route. When I was in tech school, we had homework that was due. I didn't do the homework. We get there the next morning, show up, everybody's in line. The training leaders are asking, hey, send your homework up front. I send up half of it. I only had half of it. And then they came out and said, Who didn't do their homework? I'm not raising my hand. And then they said who didn't finish their homework. So I raised my hand. What happened? LOC. Letter of counseling. Now what if I didn't raise my hand? What would have happened? Who knows? We'll never know. But that's one that's one example of an outcome that I chose and it led to something negative.

SPEAKER_02 32:57

You want another example? I'll give you another example. This is at Maxwell, Alabama.

SPEAKER_00 33:08

I just got back from Afghanistan, so I still take a pain medication. So I wasn't wearing a a gun. Or I wasn't wearing my vest. And wow, I just forgot his name. Higher up leadership, the colonel. There we go. The colonel, civilian clothes, peeked his head into the gate while I was in there. And I was on my phone, and I thought it was just some random old man. I didn't know who this was. He's like, oh yeah, by the way, so-and-so doesn't have his doesn't have a gun. I was like, yeah, I know. Thanks. I know who this was. There's no there's no pictures, there's no nothing. Turns out it was the MSG commander. So what happened? I got in trouble. We had a remount. During this remount, our flight chief is going in on us. She's yelling. And then after she's done yelling, she asked, Does anybody have any questions? I was I'm A1C, bro. I need to understand that. E3. It's tech sergeant. So I raised my hand. I said, Uh, why do I have to wear blues again? And then she starts going in on me. So guess what I do? I start going in on her. And now we're both in a shouting match in front of the whole flight. Once again, I chose that. Guess what happened?

SPEAKER_02 34:59

I got two LORs. More paperwork for me.

SPEAKER_00 35:06

And they were talking about revoking my orders to Korea. For something I chose. I didn't have to open my mouth and say anything, but I chose it. This is what I'm talking about. Everybody wants to cry and complain about the situation that they're in. How did you get into this situation? We're all a sum of our choices. So crying and complaining about your situation that you got yourself into is pointless. So when he's coming at me, bro, I don't care what you have to say. You're sad, mopey, and disgruntled because you're choosing to be. This is why I don't care what anybody says, bro. At the end of the day, I say this all the time. I don't care. If they wanted to, they would. There's people out there that argue against that and they want to go into the whole biochemistry of how your brain is rewired. And I have done that too, and I've talked about that. But ultimately, at the end of the day, if you wanted to, you would, because I don't care. Even people who are addicted make the choice to take the first step into ending their addiction. So that whole brain wire chemistry stuff doesn't matter. If they choose, if they want to, they will choose to do better. Point blank period. Just like I chose to end watching porn. People out there can choose to end their addiction. My old client chose to end his meth addiction. He chose to go to court to get his felony charge sealed. He chose to have a bad wife. If you wanted to, you would. You have a choice. So I'm tired of people yapping away about how bad their situation is or what whoever did to them did to them. I don't care, bro, because you're not choosing to be any better. And all you're doing is dragging society down because you're disgruntled and you're taking out your emotions on everybody else. That's the problem with reactive people. You just react to any and everything that slightly brings up a hint of your trauma. It can be a little, a little, you sniff it out a little bit and you're freaking spazzing. Nigga, I made a video about caffeine and how you take it. Listen to me, take it responsibly. I'm trying to help people get off of caffeine addiction, and these mother freakers are coming for me. How delusional do you have to be to attack somebody who's trying to help people undo their caffeine addiction? And I don't care how I came across on the video how I portrayed what I was saying. It could be cold, callous, logical, emotional. It doesn't matter because you're not hearing the message. You should be responding to the message, not how I'm saying it. And the fact that you can't comprehend or use some type of critical thinking to say, hey, wow, this guy, you know, he's coming off as a dick, but what he's saying is true. The fact that you can't do that tells me that you haven't worked through any trauma. And that you're just reacting because it evokes something in you that has happened to you that's making you react emotionally to the video instead of logically to the actual argument.

Trauma Triggers And Emotional Comment Culture

SPEAKER_00 39:22

This is why you this is why when these type of people are around, they just bring down the mood. Stephanie had a friend that one day Stephanie, her friend, and another chick, and they were out at a restaurant, and Stephanie saw some chick walk into the restaurant, and she's like, Wow, that dress does not look good on her. And her friend felt some type of way about it, like, oh, why you gotta put her down? And it's like, bro, shut the freak up. Stating something is not putting anybody down. I can have an opinion about how a dress looks on somebody, but the fact that it triggered something in you is a problem. There's that's something wrong with you. Because if you're telling me that if I look at somebody and I state my opinion about this person, doesn't who knows if it's true or not?

SPEAKER_02 40:38

You don't have to think it's true, but it's my opinion.

SPEAKER_00 40:44

And who said anything about it's not even judgment. It's just saying, I don't think that dress looks good on her. And you feel some type of way about that, that's that's a you problem, bro. What like how much trauma is running rampant in you that is literally bringing up repressed emotions, probably from a time that somebody said that about you. And if you dig deeper into the matter, she had this freaking boyfriend that she's been with for X amount of years that doesn't pay her really any attention. So she probably felt some type of way about it. And this is what I'm saying. It's always deeper. If somebody is responding to something that you say, it is deeper because nobody just responds emotionally for the sake of responding emotionally, unless they feel some type of way about what you just said. A true sign of a person who has a lot of trauma is how they react. That's a true sign. And if you run into that, don't even try to have a conversation with this person because they cannot think rationally. It's gonna all be irrational, emotional, regurgitation of whatever happened to them. And these people are just not fun to be around. And so ultimately, that's what I told the guys. Like, bro, you need to focus more on healing than reacting to random videos you see on TikTok. Because the fact that you're in a random guy's comment section on TikTok, airing out your feelings is a problem, dude. If you there's a there's a difference between commenting something about the video and having a discussion and then airing out your feelings. If you comment and saying and said something like, Well, I disagree because I think caffeine is necessary to get some people through the day because they work overnight shifts. And then, hey, I would agree. To some extent, I do believe that people who work overnight suffer far more than people who work during the day. Obviously, your circadian rhythm is thrown way off. So you're prone to be far more tired than you normally would because you're not working during the day. And so caffeine can't be a tool to help them stay awake. Sure. I agree to some extent with that. Do you necessarily need caffeine? No, because there's other ways and methods you can use to stay awake. But that would have been a discussion we could have had.

Circadian Rhythm Myths And Shift Work Reality

SPEAKER_00 44:00

But instead, you're in my comment section talking about your feelings. I don't care. And then people will be like, Aren't you out? And what does me not being in the military have to do with helping people get off their caffeine addiction? You see how these thoughts are they're not rational and how they make literally no sense and don't contribute to anything that's going on. This is an issue I run into on TikTok and Instagram, but mainly TikTok. There needs to be some type of IQ test in order for you to download a social media app. And then there's another chick who commented a whole long paragraph trying to intertwine her emotions and why she needed caffeine. I don't care. I don't care. And then she tried to say that you're sounding like a civilian. You must be a civilian. Maybe you should serve first, and then you would know why they need caffeine and nicotine. And then she tried to explain to me that they need caffeine because of the circadian rhythm. Bro, listen. Here's my issue. One, it takes two seconds to read my military, my military bio. It takes two seconds to read my TikTok bio, and it says right there in my bio, United States Air Force vet 13 years. Right there in my bio. Would have cleared that up real quick. But they can't make rational decisions. They can't do any complex thinking. They can't do any critical thinking. Their frontal lobe is so degradated from being on TikTok and just scrolling for so long, they can't do anything that actually takes some thought. And then I said, with no offense, please don't try to explain to me about the circadian rhythm because I help people get healthy for a living. And I went to her page. Clearly, she doesn't know anything about healthy living. And this is my issue when people try to tell me about health when you yourself don't even live the lifestyle you're trying to preach to me. And a circadian rhythm, like I said, really only matters to people who work overnight. Most people should have a normal circadian rhythm. I mean, obviously, I guess most people don't. But if you're waking up in the morning and going to sleep at night, nine times out of ten, your circadian rhythm is gonna be fine. I guess there's a lot of probably influence that. Okay, that doesn't address the argument. I'm saying you don't need to rely on it. You don't need caffeine to work a 12-hour shift. You don't need it. Hello, are we missing the whole argument here? Yes, we are, because they just want to interject their feelings into it because they feel attacked that they had to use caffeine instead of not using caffeine. That they had to use nicotine instead of not using nicotine. There's literally no reason to even do nicotine. There's none, there's none, there's zero reason.

SPEAKER_02 48:28

Zero. You don't need it. You don't need caffeine.

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But they want to cry in my comment section instead of addressing the point, instead of addressing the argument. Imagine coming at somebody trying to help people get off caffeine addiction, and you're attacking them. Isn't that crazy? It's a little delusional. Anyways, I've been rambling now. That's been my TikTok experience. That people in general can't take self-accountability for their actions and the choices that led to why they're in the situation that they're in to begin with. There was literally a time in my life for two years where all I drank was water. That's it. Just mother freaking water. And guess what? I was in the military during this time. No caffeine. Crazy. Who would have thought? Who would have thought that was possible?

Fix The Root Cause Of Fatigue

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And to end it right here, and to cap off my argument, if you address the root cause of why you need caffeine, and you fix the root cause of why you need caffeine, guess what you no longer are dependent on? Oh wait. Caffeine. Who would have thought? Now if you now, if you're like me, I don't care if you drink caffeine, but I drink caffeine. Do I need a C4 right now? No. Clearly, I'm alert. Clearly, I'm awake. I've been talking for the last 45 minutes. I have no issues getting up in the morning and being functional. Zero. Why? Because I have a normal cortisol awakening pattern and I get quality sleep because I don't have anxiety. Oh look from how stressful I think my life is thinking about outside sources that I can't change and dealing with trauma. I don't have any of that going on. All I have going on right now is a stretch from what I want to do with my bakery and missing my wife.

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That's it.

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But yeah.

Final Takeaways And Listener Support

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Let me get off of here. So hopefully you guys understand what I'm saying. And if you do, I'm glad you understand. If you don't, just ask for clarification. Okay, take accountability for your actions. You make the choices. You choose the outcome of your life. And if your life is miserable, you're choosing to be miserable because you're not making choices to get you out of that misery. So if you like this episode, don't forget to like, comment, share, and leave that five star review. And until next time.