Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Ellecia Paine is a non-monogamy relationship coach who helps people navigate ENM (Enthusiastic non-monogamy), polyamory, open relating, swinging, kink, tantra and life in general. Listen in to the candid conversations that give you a peek into the inner lives of other non-monogamous folks. Hear how they've overcome challenges like jealousy, insecurity, and social scrutiny. And celebrate with them as they share all the reasons it's worth it to have relationships that don't fit in the box.

Contributors

Host

Ellecia Paine

Relationship Coach Ellecia Paine helps adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationship styles such as ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory and swinging. She helps them move through the challenges like jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens their relationships, deepens trust and communication, and leaves them feeling confident.
Ellecia believes in courageously challenging the status quo and empowering people to create relationships that work for the real people in those relationships. Throughout the past 8 years living in an ethically non-monogamous relationship while working as a sex, love, and relationship coach, Ellecia has acquired valuable insight and a unique ability to share this information with her clients and audience in a way that hits home while leaving them feeling validated and whole.

https://www.elleciapaine.com/

Guests

Guest

Ali Hendry

Guest

Ally Iseman

Passport 2 Pleasure is an online relationship resource platform that provides resources for curious couples and individuals looking to explore consensual non-monogamy. Learn the tools and skills you need to build the relationships you want and deserve through inclusive relationship design. Whether you want to open up your relationship to include other people or you just want to open up more authentically to each other, the resources available through Passport 2 Pleasure will help you open up without breaking up!

https://www.passport2pleasure.com/

Guest

Carla Wainwright

Carla Wainwright is a Holistic Wellness Coach, Sexual Awakening Facilitator, and Midlife Alchemist. She supports women 40+ to reclaim vitality, balance their hormones, and reconnect with their pleasure and power through a blend of metabolic health, nervous system healing, and sensual embodiment. With a background in biology, homeopathy, and over two decades of experience in the healing arts, Carla bridges the science of the body with the sacredness of lived experience. Her work helps women shift from surviving to thriving - by listening to the body’s signals, reawakening desire, and embracing midlife as a powerful rite of passage. Carla leads retreats, group programs, and 1:1 coaching that integrate lifestyle medicine, deep emotional inquiry, and somatic practices to guide women back to their radiance.

https://www.carlawainwright.com

Guest appearance on:

Midlife, Menopause & Non-Monogamy: Reclaiming Pleasure, Power & Desire with Carla Wainwright EP. 126

Guest

Dr. Emma Smith

Dr. Emma J. Smith is a licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist specializing in areas such as sex therapy, relationship issues, LGBTQIA+ concerns, sexual trauma, and religious trauma. Her practice is known for being sex-positive, LGBTQIA-affirming, and supportive of diverse relationship structures, including non-monogamous and kink communities. Apple Podcasts+1Threads+1 Monarch For more insights and updates, you can follow her on Instagram at @emmasmithphd, where she shares content related to rebuilding trust and intimacy, as well as information about her podcast and practice.

Guest

Dr. Tammy Nelson

Tammy Nelson, PhD is a Board Certified Sexologist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Imago Relationship therapist, and a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Abuse Counselor with over 30 years of experience working with couples and individuals and flexible monogamy relationships. She is a TEDx speaker and hosts The Trouble With Sex podcast. She speaks worldwide and consults with Institutes, think tanks, and corporations on communication, integrity, and relationships.

https://www.drtammynelson.com/

Guest

Leah Carey

Leah Carey is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach and host of the podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex, which ran from 2019-2024. In a world full of confusing and contradictory messages about intimacy and relationships, Leah helps sex make sense. Drawing on her own healing journey from fear and repression, she specializes in working with people from High-Control childhoods like Purity Culture, narcissistic abuse, cults, and other religious abuse. Regardless of your background, she works with clients to unlearn stigmas and unhealthy patterns around intimacy and communication. Her work has been featured by Buzzfeed, Yahoo, NBCThink, The Journal of Cancer Education, and more.

Guest

Paul Keable

Chief Strategy Officer, Ashley Madison

https://www.ashleymadison.com/en-us/