How to Fight with Your Spouse: 10 Proven Tips for Fighting Fair - 2025 Update

Unlock the secrets to fighting fairly in your marriage and learn how to communicate effectively with your partner. Join me, John Thurman, as I share ten proven tips to help you and your spouse handle conflicts constructively. Drawing from over five decades of marriage and insights from Dr. John Gottman's research, we tackle the common pitfalls in relationships where conflicts are recurrent and often unsolvable. Learn how to keep disputes private, prioritize solvable issues, and protect your children from emotional harm while building a more resilient and loving partnership.

Ever wonder why specific phrases can escalate an argument faster than a wildfire? Discover why words like "you never" or "you always" are best left unsaid and how staying on point can transform your disagreements into productive conversations. With actionable strategies, we'll explore how active listening and maintaining respect can bridge the gap between misunderstanding and connection. Plus, find out why taking a break during heated moments isn't just okay—it's necessary for conflict resolution. Equip yourself with the tools to differentiate between solvable and unsolvable issues, ensuring your energy is directed towards building a stronger, more resilient relationship.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Fighting Fair in Marriage
• 5:24 Keep it Between the Two of You
• 6:36 Effective Communication in Relationships
• 7:19 Stick to the Topic
• 7:52 Stay Grounded
• 9:00 Avoid "You Never", "You Always"
• 9:25 Avoid Character Assasination
• 10:15 Listen
• 11:02 Stay on Task
• 11:36 Keep Your Actions Proportional
• 12:00 Be Open and Honest
• 12:59 Allow for a Dignified Retreat
• 13:59 Ancient Wisdom